Haven’t Heard From Him in a Week: Should You Text Him?

A week of silence can mess with your head. You start replaying messages, checking timestamps, and wondering if you should reach out first.

Before you text anything, step back and look at the situation clearly.

1. What a Week of Silence Usually Means

A full week without contact isn’t normal if someone is genuinely interested. It can signal:

• He’s unsure or losing interest

When interest drops, effort follows. A full week without a message often shows you’re not a priority right now. If you want more clarity on this behavior, look at the signs he’s not interested through text.

• He’s distracted or overwhelmed

Life gets busy, and some people shut down instead of communicating. Still, a full week without a quick “hey, crazy week” message shows limited capacity for effort. If he can’t handle basic communication now, it won’t improve later.

• He’s waiting for you to text first

Some guys don’t want to seem too eager. If he thinks you’ll reach out, he’ll stay silent until you make the move. If this sounds familiar, read more about whether you should text him first or what it means when he’s waiting for you to text him first.

• He’s keeping things casual

If he sees the connection as light or non-committal, he won’t feel pressure to stay in touch. Long gaps between messages are normal for someone who doesn’t view it as serious. The problem is that it leaves you feeling uncertain.

• He’s talking to someone else

Silence can happen when someone’s attention shifts. It doesn’t automatically mean cheating — just that you’re not his only focus. If he comes back only when convenient, that’s your sign.

• He assumes the connection fizzled out

Sometimes, both sides slow down, and he might think the energy died. Instead of checking in, he lets distance do the talking. Not ideal, but common.

2. Should You Text Him If He Doesn’t Text You In a Week?

Texting him isn’t “wrong.” It simply depends on what you want and what you can handle emotionally.

Text him if:

• You want clarity instead of guessing. A simple message can provide an answer instead of leaving you in uncertainty.
• You prefer direct communication. If you value straightforwardness, reaching out is a consistent part of your style.
• You can handle any outcome. Whether he replies warmly, vaguely, or not at all, you’re prepared for it.
• You’re okay making the first move. If initiating doesn’t bother you, there’s no harm in sending one message.

Don’t text him if:

• You’re chasing effort he’s not giving. If you’re doing all the work, texting won’t fix the imbalance.
• You’ll spiral if he ignores you again. Protect your peace if silence triggers more overthinking.
• The silence already feels disrespectful. If the gap hurts you, reaching out may only reinforce that feeling.
• You want someone who shows initiative. If effort matters to you, his week of silence already answered that.

If you’re still unsure, this guide can help you decide: Should I text him first?

If You Decide to Text Him, Keep It Simple

Send one calm, neutral message — nothing emotional, nothing heavy.

Examples:

• Hey, haven’t heard from you. Everything good?
• How’s your week going?
• Haven’t seen you around lately — what’s up?

Your goal isn’t to chase him. It’s to check in once and see his response.

How to Handle His Response After Texting

Once you’ve sent the message, your job is done. What happens next depends on his effort, not yours. Here’s how to handle whatever comes your way without overthinking or chasing.

Let Him Have His Space

If his behavior feels off or inconsistent, the strongest move is stepping back. Silence speaks when someone is already pulling away.

Ask yourself why you want him to text you — from a genuine connection or from ego?

Since he chose the distance, let him sit with it. Don’t push or try to control the outcome. If he wants to come back, he will.

Let him know what your boundaries are

If he reaches out after disappearing, tell him this style of communication doesn’t work for you. If ending things feels like the right choice, say it clearly.

Being direct protects your standards and shows you’re willing to choose yourself first.

Let Him Go If You Need To

If he never comes back, your strength is in moving on and letting the connection end. There’s no value in chasing someone who’s already checked out or searching for the “perfect text” to pull him back in.

Some situations simply aren’t worth holding onto.