If a guy doesn’t text you for a week there’s something up. Seriously. Especially if you have been communicating on a daily basis.
Whether it is normal to not hear from a guy for a week, 2 weeks, or just a few days, depends a lot on your ways of communicating to and with one another, but also on the consistency of your communication.
The reasons for a guy not texting you for a few days or weeks can be various.
Let’s say your boyfriend hasn’t texted you in 2 days, then there could be something big that happened, and if he doesn’t text you on the 3d day, then he either died, his phone is broken, he got abducted by aliens, or something’s preventing/stopping him from texting you. There’s no way that a general ‘busy’ is an acceptable answer to it.
Before we get into the expertise of ‘when he doesn’t talk to you for a week’ or more or less, there’s something else we gotta do first:
Let’s reflect together!
Have you been distant from him before he stopped texting you?
Distant as in, cold and not very reciprocating when it came to enthusiasm, or just asking questions in general. This might just give him the impression that you’re not interested.
Is there only one of you always initiating texts?
If the initiation of texting or conversations was equal then there’s something up with him. However, if he’s always been the one initiating texts, and not getting any text from you, then it could just be that he’s getting that ‘not interested’ impression from you.
Has he been distant to you before he did this, or was he paying a lot of attention to you?
Think of his behavior or his way of texting before he stopped texting you. If he was warm and kind, or if he was getting distant each day.
Where do you think the unpleasantness is coming from?
Take a moment to think about this. How much would you lose if you ‘lost’ a person you didn’t know much about? Depends on how long you’ve known each other, and how deep is the connection between you is, but in general, the unpleasant feelings usually come from a freshly wounded ego.
Has this happened before? (if yes)How often? If this is a repetitive behavior that constantly drives you to an unhealthy place of mind, then I’d suggest you think about this a little longer, and make a decision on whether this is what you want to deal with or not. It is definitely one of the signs of an unhealthy relationship either beginning or an already built one
The most common reasons why you haven’t heard from him in 1 week, 2 weeks, or more
If it’s been a few hours, he could be living, breathing, you know, doing things that need care in his life, besides giving you attention all the time.
On the other hand, if it has been 1 week (or around there, like 5 or 6 days), 2 weeks or more, then he might have other reasons besides just breathing, existing, and living. Here they follow:
1. He’s playing games with you, or keeping you as an option
Games usually come from a place of insecurity in order to satisfy his ego. In this case, he wants you to go back after him, or just be so much into him that you’re helpless.
Let me guess, he paid a lot of attention and made you feel hella good(even when you were acting crazy at times, with things not everyone around you would tolerate) before he made this very particular move.
Take this as his way of getting your attention, and/or making you desperate.
In the other case, he could be keeping you as an option because he just knows you’re very into him, and you’re not going anywhere. Hence, even before, he took days to reply.
Now, hold on. I don’t want you to go all mad and say “This is it!!”. He’ll give you a few clues when this is the case, such as doing this very often. Disappearing and then returning, or he just stops texting and then starts again, at times like nothing ever happened.
Such behavior could mean that he’s either playing games with you in order to keep you hooked, or you’re one of his options. Either way, this is not a healthy place to start on a relationship, nor to build upon it.
2. He’s not interested
It could be that he’s no longer interested. These things happen, especially in the beginning of two people getting to know one another. You’re not exclusive to one another, you didn’t have that ‘exclusivity’ talk, and it’s okay.
This is a very normal scene in the contemporary dating world. There’s not much we can do about it, but move along and adapt, or find the best options that fit our ways and styles of dating.
When he’s not interested he’s comfortable with not responding or texting back for days to even a simple text. It’s one of the signs that he’s not interested through text.
What you can do about it, is move on. Do what you’d normally do. It’s not the end of the world, nor the end of your dating life.
3. He’s taking time and testing you if you’re interested or not
This one could be standing especially if he’d always been the one to initiate texts, contact, calls, or even dates.
Now, the social norms and standards are pro such a move (a man always initiates), but little by little these standards are being shaken a little by the reality of true human bonds and connections.
That means that connecting and bonding require reciprocation too besides chemistry and butterflies.
So, if he did all the work, he could possibly be stepping back a little and see if you’re noticing anything, or if you’d ever make a move to make things work, or simply care how his day is going. I.e. he’s waiting for you to text him first this time.
He cared every day, he asked you every day (I assume). I know you care. What’s your move going to be?
He hasn’t contacted me in a week – The powerful response to him
This is the part of the article where you get to find out what to do when he doesn’t text back. To be more specific this is where I’ll answer the questions similar to “What to do if he hasn’t texted you in a week?”, or “What to do if he hasn’t talked to me in 6 days?”, and so on.
Whether you haven’t heard from him in days, a week, or two, there are different versions to your possible response to his silence:
1. If you seemed not interested in him
If this behavior of his is a product of you seeming to be uninterested or arrogant towards him, then the most powerful response will be to approach him calmly and kindly, and just ask how he’s been lately.
2. If he’s playing games/keeping you as an option
On the other hand, if he’s been caring despite your behavior, and you’ve noticed that there’s something off to his ‘kindness’ (i.e. him playing games), then your powerful response is no response at all.
If he comes back after a while (which I’m sure he will if this is the case), you let him know that this is not the way of communication that suits you, and you’d like to end it here. You’re being honest, straightforward with him, and most importantly respectful towards yourself.
3. If you notice that he ain’t coming back again
If he doesn’t come back again your power stands on moving on and let this connection go. There’s no point in trying to win him over, or looking up for tips and tricks to write a text that’ll make him want to desperately respond. No.
Those ways of ‘solving’ things are not healthy and wear off eventually. You can’t rely on mind games to build genuine and healthy relationships.
4. Lastly, in order for you to have an easier time answer 2 questions to yourself
Do you really want him to text you? Have you ever thought about why you want him to text you?
This is the part where you realize if you’re communicating (or needing communication) from a peaceful place or a troubled ego-conquered place. It is understandable, and human whatever conclusion you come up with. As a matter of fact, it is a beautiful sign that you started improving (or improving more) on whatever ‘the problem’ was/is.
Let’s turn this around a little – It’s not about him, it’s about you
Most advice there is about “you’ll seem desperate to him and you won’t be attractive in his eyes anymore”, well f*ck that!
How about we don’t care about whether we look attractive or desperate to him? How about we start caring about our peace of mind, and moving forward with positivity? How about that?
Move your focus to what helps you improve on becoming a better self for yourself and others around you. Once you start such a journey, your choices will affect not only you but the people surrounding and approaching you, your relation to them.
Once you mind your own business and you focus on helping yourself, you won’t notice when a guy you just met is absent because you’re fulfilled in every single aspect. You lack judgment towards yourself and others, you accept the fact that people come and go, and so do you.
Your joy and self-evaluation can’t just depend on a guy’s text. Can’t they?
“He hasn’t texted me in 3 days. Should I text him?”
Doesn’t matter if it’s been 2 days, 3 days, a week since you haven’t heard from him. It’s been a while, and he’s just not reaching out for whatever his reasons may be. We made a flowchart for such cases. I’ll be more specific this time though…
If you’re the one always initiating texts, then I would honestly, not recommend texting him, especially if he’s left you on read on a question or simply a text that required an answer back.
If he’s always the one initiating texts, and you’re the one that’s cold-ish, then perhaps you should consider texting him.
Not ever initiating conversations, or just not engaging in conversations (which women are very advised to do, in order to be ‘more attractive’), can give off a feeling that you’re not interested which can cause him to pull back a little.
If you were the cause that he’s gone away then consider sending him a warm and kind text. It can be as simple as “Hey there, hope everything’s ok, and your day goes well.”
Let the rest be up to his answer.
Why hasn’t he opened my message?
Because he could be busy, doing activities, and just plainly living. If it has been a while (like days) since he hasn’t opened your message, then read the article above and find out what the deal is. Otherwise, if it is a matter of hours, I’d suggest you stop overthinking it.
What does it mean if a guy doesn’t text you for a month?
It can mean a whole lot of things. Anything but interest towards you. This, especially if you’ve been caring, kind, and welcoming towards him. Move on and let go.
How often will a guy text you if he is interested? If he texts you everyday, it can be considered as a sign that he’s interested. However, don’t take it as solid truth, as it depends on his personality and the level of connection and freedom between you.