Romantic situations were less complicated back in the days when texting wasn’t a thing.
Nowadays you have to read between the lines, between the time you get the texts, read their body language, and whatever it takes, just to have a glimpse of how they’re feeling about you.
Men are generally straightforward, and when interested they text every day.
They also know how to stop for a bit, let’s say after a fight, and wait for you to text, reconcile, and bring joy to their day.
Here are 11 things that show he’s waiting for you to text him:
1. He made it clear he likes you.
He makes it clear he likes you if he shows he’s interested, considerate, and caring towards you.
Through such an approach, he shows you he likes you through text as well by texting you frequently, asking you questions, and being caring in general.
Now, of course, when a person likes another, they expect reciprocation.
In the modern dating scene, reciprocal liking is frequently shown through patterns of communication through texting.
He is waiting for you to text him and show reciprocation so that he can know whether you’re standing on the same page.
In a way, this is him getting a confirmation from you that you like him back.
2. He replies right away when you text him.
Another one of the telltale signs that he’s waiting for you to text him is when he replies right away the moment you text him.
If not right away, he might not take too long to respond to your texts.
You also want to check for other signs such as:
- Enthusiasm when he hears from you;
- Engagement in the text conversation (e.g. he asks questions about you);
- He doesn’t try to avoid texting you, on the contrary, his attempts to prolong a text conversation with you are obvious;
There’s a reason he’s not texting you: he’s waiting for your texts.
3. He already pointed out that you don’t text him as much.
When a man likes a woman, he puts effort into the text conversation.
However, if he senses that the effort he’s putting into the text conversation isn’t reciprocal, he’ll point it out.
If he mentioned that you don’t text him as much before, then wants you to text him.
This is strongly correlated with reciprocal liking. Nobody wants unrequited love, and he’s no exception.
So, if he pointed out that it bugs him that you don’t text him as often as he texts you, take the hint! He wants you to text him as well!
In a lot of cases, in modern dating, the texting patterns between two people are settled without being verbally discussed.
There’s no “I’ll text you on Mondays, and you text me on Wednesdays” conversation. The texting patterns simply settle as you go.
However, when he’s the one initiating every day, he’ll want a sign from you as well.
Waiting for your text and seeing your reaction to his silence can seem like a logical thing to know if you care how his day went or how he’s doing today.
He’s waiting for a sign of affection from you. He is waiting for you to contact him.
5. He’s not often online, except for the times you text him.
You know he’s waiting for your texts if the only time you see him online is when you text him.
He receives notifications but nothing much piques his interest hence you don’t see him online as much. Though this narrative takes a shift once you text him.
If he’s the type to not ever use his phone unless there’s something exciting waiting for him, then he might just be waiting for your text to brighten up his day!
6. He seems to be unsure of your interest in him.
We, women, love giving hints, but men… Well, let’s just say they don’t get them all the time.
If you happened to notice him to be unaware of your affection or interest towards him, then he might just be waiting for you to text him to give him a sign.
This is especially likely to happen after a first date!
If he’s unsure of your interest, he’ll wait for you to break the silence after the first date.
Him not knowing how you feel about him can make him step back and wait for you to make a move so that he knows where you’re standing.
7. He often likes your posts right away when you post them on your socials.
He likes seeing what you’re up to, seeing your pictures, seeing you doing things or the things that you’re doing.
Let’s say you had a fight, whatever fight it might have been, and he was guilty of it, but has a big ego and can’t come up to you directly to talk about it.
He takes the “hinter” title, gives you hints, and waits for you to get them.
If he likes and/or comments on your posts soon after posting them, there are a lot of chances that he’s waiting for a text from you.
8. He’s not the type that makes the first move.
Some people are the type to not bother as much as the rest of us do.
Don’t get this wrong, they do have enthusiasm, but they’re a bit lazy when it comes to earning the pleasure of that enthusiasm.
If you know him to be lazy and then he could be the type that just doesn’t make the first move.
Or if, somehow, you found out he didn’t make the first move with other girls either then it’s just the way he does things, the way he’s built.
With a little communication, this can be easily fixed. Wanna know how? There’s someone you can reach out to!
9. He’s a bad texter.
“I suck at this, I’m sorry for being such a bad texter.”
A lot of men don’t speak much of the instinctive language through which we women say a lot.
That’s why most men don’t get the hints and get lost in those attempts to read between the lines.
Him being bad at texting could mean he doesn’t know what to text you, what topic to start, or how to even start texting with you.
Hence he’ll be waiting for your generous, smart, and intelligent side to make the move and start conversations.
10. He’s generally a shy or insecure person.
“She’s out of my league” is a frequent thought among insecure men.
Whether he told you, or you realized it through his behavior that he’s intimidated by you, this can mean he’s waiting for a move of yours.
When he feels intimidated, chances are, he won’t even try because “he knows” he won’t get a response.
He won’t text you because he doesn’t want to interrupt/bother/annoy you, hence he sits and waits for your text.
Nervousness happens to a lot of us when we’re around someone we like, it’s just some of us are better at hiding it.
In this case, he’s shy or nervous around you in real life, perhaps he gets nervous and shy when it comes to texting you.
He might not know what to say or how to start a conversation, so he just waits around for you to text him first.
Him being afraid to make the first move could be considered as some sort of fear of rejection, so if you feel like taking the lead, go girl!
11. He’s an overthinker.
Back in the day, I dated this amazing man with amazing qualities. He just happened to be an overthinker.
We’d text frequently but then I’d be faced with a “You said you were busy in a type of way, and I wanted to wait for you to text me when you’re ready.”
I hadn’t realized how much a simple word could affect him until I got one of those “I thought” lines from him.
If you know your man to be a man mastering overthinking, then chances are, he is indeed waiting for you to text him.
Why does he always wait for me to text him first? – 7 reasons why he’d wait for you to text him!
It’s already known that men wait for women to text them first. But, why? Why does he wait for you to text first?
Here are 7 reasons why he’s waiting for you to text him first:
– He’s scared or intimidated.
Fear that is built in him from past experiences, or intimidation can cause him to take space and wait for your move.
– He’s confused about how you could be feeling about him: He wants you to make a move.
This is one of the reasons why men stop texting for a while and then start again.
He doesn’t know how you feel about him, he could fear he’ll irritate you if he texts you, so he waits for your sign to let him know that you’re interested.
– He’s got other options.
When he’s got other options, he can spend effort and time elsewhere.
In this case, he waits for you to text him and make the effort, and if you don’t he’d be fine with it because he’s got other people to deal with.
This does not make you worth any less or more, it’s just the way some men go for it.
– It’s just his way of doing things.
He isn’t the one texting women or pursuing women.
He’s that relaxed guy in the corner that’s fine if you approach him, but won’t really get out of the comfortable couch to come and talk to you.
– He overthinks it and just decides to drop it.
There’s the lazy type, and then there’s this guy. The type that overthinks it, will do his best to find topics that interest you, and to get your attention.
The problem is, he’ll think of it so much, that at some point everything will seem stupid and pointless. So he’ll just give up, and wait for you to text him.
– He’s read/heard some advice to wait to make you wait, to get you interested.
Ah, yes! The “Make her chase you by doing this trick!” and the “She will fall for you instantly if you do this!”
Now, he’s waiting for you to text him and prove to himself that the advice he followed is valuable.
– He wants to see if you’re interested or not.
He stops texting and now waits for you to make the move.
It is usually in the cases where he’s always the one texting first, and perhaps is getting the feeling that you’re not very into him, or that you’re not interested.
Since he’s waiting… Should I text him first?
When you’re not sure if he’s waiting for your text or not, you can text him and practice open and healthy communication.
If your and his intentions are genuine, and no games are being played in your relationship, then there’s no reason not to text him.
Initiate a conversation by sending him a text such as,
- “Hey there stranger!”
- “Hey there! How have you been?”
- “Were you just waiting for me to text you? 😛”
If the idea of texting him first is coming from a place of neediness for validation, attention, or anything else that’s not genuine, then texting him is not the best idea.
At the end of the day we all have our reasons, for whatever action, and everything we say – at times sincere, at times not very much.
Don’t try to force or push things in a certain direction. Let it flow, and keep it genuine.