You’re all excited to talk to a guy or you’re still processing the breakup and he chooses to come back after two weeks.
That out-of-the-blue text will leave you confused and yearning for answers.
You’re wondering what is going through his head and what are his intentions.
To help you clear your head out, here are 10 reasons why he texted you after two weeks:
*Disclaimer: Every relationship is different and every person has different reasons for choosing to ghost you for weeks.
1. He was not sure what he felt about you
If you had a date or a few dates with this guy then he might text you after two weeks for two reasons.
1. He might be reflecting on his feelings for you.
2. Or, he might have been dating someone else and noticed that you’re better for him than anyone else.
I am not implying that ghosting you for two weeks is the right decision. But, some guys cannot confront a woman when it comes to expressing feelings.
Whether he was taking you seriously or not during these dates, you can cooperate with a relationship coach.
They’ll help you to break down this issue, by reflecting on his previous texts to how he acted during and after the dates.
2. He was contemplating life
How a guy communicates with you depends on his personality, his emotional intelligence, and your relationship dynamics.
If he isn’t used to expressing emotions then it will be difficult for him to talk with you about his anxiety or depression.
On the other hand, if you’re just talking or hanging out then he might not feel obligated to let you know.
Even though, I’m aware that this is the worst time to go when you’re left with no answers at all.
Yet, what you can do when he texts you after two weeks is to not accuse him immediately.
Especially, if you’re not dating exclusively, try to play it cool and ask him how he has been doing but draw your boundaries too.
3. He doesn’t consider you a high-value woman
How a guy perceives you depends on how much available you were and how you interacted with him.
If you never informed him about your needs or boundaries then he might mistake you for a low-value woman.
He might think that you’ll always be there for him, whenever he wants.
I’ve been in this position. I thought that if I was always there for him meant that I’m letting him know how much I love him.
On the contrary, I was allowing him to misuse and mistreat me.
Not every guy does this, but if he has a bigger ego, he’ll take your genuine access for weakness.
4. He is bored and craves attention
The desire of knowing they want you is addicting, everybody wants to experience the feeling of being irreplaceable.
He might text you out of nowhere and ask if he left his unicorn socks at your place.
Yes, indeed, these are the simple and non-sense things that an ex might text after two weeks of no contact.
One of the stages of the breakup is when a guy usually starts to feel bored and wants to know to find the spark again.
The easiest thing to do is to go to the past and the person, he is used to.
5. He genuinely misses you
Even if the breakup was a mutual decision to end things, forgetting someone you love is the hardest part.
But, even if he misses you that doesn’t mean that he wants you back or has genuine feelings for you.
He might be miserable and needs something to distract himself or make himself feel powerful.
Whether you’ll give him another shot depends only on you. Don’t let his pressure or your good heart welcome someone who won’t do you good.
6. He wants to apologize
Is it early for him to have the dumpers remorse?
Well, if he had genuine feelings for you, he might immediately regret it but needs time to reflect on all of this mess.
Depending on how he feels and his attachment style, he might immediately apologize or breadcrumb you.
He might ask you to forgive him or he might just text you and check how you feel.
Whether you’ll forgive your ex or not depends on your emotional state right now.
If he is impacting you negatively then it’s better to not answer. Or, you can answer and ask him to give you some space to process everything.
7. He wants to guilt trip you
How someone deals with a breakup depends on his personality and attachment style.
If he has low self-esteem then he needs serotonin to boost his ego.
He starts to breadcrumb you just to test the waters.
He starts to play the pull-and-push game. In the same sentence, he can use words to say how much he misses you but that you’re guilty of this breakup.
- He won’t embrace reality and take responsibility for his mistakes;
- He will constantly love bomb and manipulate your thoughts and emotions;
8. He was testing you out
A guy tests you in multiple ways while dating.
If you’ve been talking for a while and hung out a few times and had a good time, he might be testing you.
When a guy wants to upgrade the relationship, he will take a step back and check if you feel the same as he does.
Indeed, this isn’t always the case. But, if he was taking everything step by step and not love-bombing you, now he wants to check if you feel the same.
9. He might have felt like a burden
This depends on the guy’s personality but if he noticed that he was doing all the work, he might take a step back.
Especially, if he is an avoidant then as soon as he feels safe with you but starts to despise the affinity, that’s the moment he takes a step back.
As the author Mark Manson said, an avoidant is always seeking an exit strategy.
Thus, there are times when he doesn’t reach out to you at all. But, there might be a time that he contacts you after two weeks.
10. He got all sentimental
An ex or even a guy you were dating for a while will text you after two weeks because he came across something that reminded him of you.
1. It could be a song that both of you liked.
2. A book that he read and that story got him to reminisce on good memories with you.
Even a simple interaction with a person that has the same features or acts like you, will make him text you.
You’ll notice that his text will only contain empty words and how you impact him: “I miss you.” or “Hey, I’ve been thinking about you.”
5 main signs to check in the text that will confirm your suspicion
There are a few signs that will help you to define his intent for contacting you after two weeks.
The main 5 signs to check if he texts after two weeks and you want to know the reason behind are:
- The way he crafts the message. He uses a different language than before.
- His tone of the message is different. He might apologize or avoid the issue.
- He tries to justify himself and love bomb you at the same time.
- If he is breadcrumbing you then he’ll use empty words and short text messages.
- The timeframe also is another main sign to check.
When he texts you make a great difference. When he wants to apologize he might not text you at midnight *unless he drunk-texts you*.
If you’re in a relationship and he texted you after two weeks of no contact that means that he has either cheated on you or has lost interest.
If he has cheated on you then his texts will contain weird words that you cannot link with another.
His behavior is different and quite suspicious. For example, “Hey babe, these two weeks have been tough for me. Sorry, for not reaching out earlier.”
His tone is remorseful but he doesn’t give you one reason that you should believe that his words or feelings are genuine.
He doesn’t take responsibility for his actions!
Should I text him after two weeks of silence?
Whether you should respond to his text after two weeks depends on how you’re feeling and how his comeback will impact you.
1. Reflect on the reason why he didn’t text you for two weeks.
The first thing that you should do is check why he ghosted you in the first place.
Whether you hurt him or vice versa. Before sending the text it’s better to reflect on your and his mistakes too.
Then you’ll know exactly why he has been ignoring you for weeks. Try to put yourself in his shoes too.
2. Keep your tone friendly.
Even though you might have misunderstood him or vice versa, it’s important to not accuse him right away.
Get to listen to what he has to say and then you’ll inform him about your decisions.
Especially, if you’re not in a relationship, you cannot ask him to excuse himself to you.
Because you still haven’t accepted the full responsibilities that one has when he or she enters a relationship.
3. Draw your boundaries.
You need to let him know when he needs to respect you and your needs.
It’s understandable and you might want to work it out and be with him once again.
But, it’s important to invest in yourself emotionally before connecting with him.
Even dating coach Greta Bereisaite claims that when he disappears for two weeks and then comes back, you need to be a woman of high value.
Be understanding but still don’t let him manipulate your thoughts and feelings.
Work on yourself and find what would keep you in touch with this guy.
The final verdict: Why would a guy text you after two weeks?
A guy will text you after two weeks depending on his needs and intentions about you.
If you broke up with one another then that means that he’s either missing you or learned that the grass isn’t greener on the other side.
On the other hand, if he’s just a guy that you’ve met or you’re just talking to, he might be dealing with his feelings and searching for an answer.
No matter the situation, you should try to stick to yourself and draw your boundaries.
You got this and you’ll be fine.