Talking to a guy has become strangely difficult. Especially if the connection is based upon texting.
You do not know if his intentions are good or have something else planned for you.
What are the odds that he’s a player? Would he text you every day if he was a player though?
Well, the answer is yes. It’s a sign of a player that would text you every day for a variety of reasons.
Let me help you discover the answers to these difficult questions.
Giving features to pinpoint players is a dangerous game. That’s because many features that make a player are not wholly agreed upon.
However, some main features are as follows:
- Texting and dating multiple people at the same time when promising them exclusivity;
- Lack of emotional depth in your conversations;
- Withholding information about himself as a toxic manipulation tool;
- Exploiting people emotionally to get what he wants from them; etc.
Well, if a player has such characteristics, why would he text you every day?
Here are 10 reasons why a player would text you every day:
1. He needs an ego boost
Players tend to have low self-esteem hidden behind a facade that reflects superiority.
He needs to know that he is wanted in order to feel confident. That’s why he is hitting on you and other women at the same time.
He needs an ego boost. He will brag to his lads about having women waiting for him to make himself feel important and irresistible.
It is important for him to be viewed as a bit superior to the other ‘male species’.
As a result, dating/seeing multiple women will help him to get that ‘superior’ status while also satisfying his needs.
2. He wants to keep you interested in him
He wants to keep you in the loop. Keeping you interested and busy with him is what he wants to do.
That’s because he needs a back burner to go to if there is nothing going on with his life. Thus, the need to have somebody waiting for him is unavoidable.
Manipulating you into his little mind games would be easy. Since there is nothing to lose for him, he wants to gain momentarily.
He saved your number because he is saving you for later, for whatever use you can be of him.
He believes you need to be available when he needs you, that’s why he texts you.
His texts are not consistent and frequent, because he sneaks in just to pique your interest. And when you start losing interest in him, he’ll come back to jog your memory.
3. He is trying to have sex with you
Of course, one of his biggest desires is to have sex with you.
He will be texting you every day to feed you with an idea you’re craving. Though it might not be as obvious, he will be hinting at sex a lot.
That’s why you might find yourself involved in a lot of sexting.
Sex is the subject around which the conversation is revolved around. He wants to satisfy his sexual needs, and that’s why you will find yourself sexting with him.
So, if you are not looking for the same thing, be careful! Try to read between the lines and his intentions.
He wants to get something out of it and he is making sure that he is doing it the right way.
Players mostly look for sexual stratification, but its not limited to playing you for:
- Emotional manipulation
- Passing his free time
- Other personal gains
4. He has nothing else to do
When there is nothing going on in his life to keep him engaged, he’ll be more active with texting to feel like he’s doing something.
A player often sees you as a form of entertainment. When nothing else seems interesting in his life, he will get to you to help him fill that void.
Your conversations will be meaningless, usually, with him as the central focus.
He will find joy in your enthusiasm to text with him and take advantage of that. The second a better option comes along, you’ll be forgotten until the next wave of boredom hits him.
A player would text you every day if you are the next girl on his list after the last girl he used.
It sure doesn’t feel nice to know that you’re nothing more than that to him.
However, if he has mentioned at some point that he has broken up with his girlfriend, don’t let this slide.
A player is likely to use you so that he can keep his mind off his ex.
Not much can be shown via texting, and it is easier to conceal the real you, hence you should be cautious and careful when it comes to such connections.
6. He wants to earn your trust
Texting may hold another agenda for you. Earning your trust is one of a player’s top priorities.
He will try to appeal to you in any form, such as:
- Acting shy;
- Telling things were unfair to him;
- Painting himself in a good light;
- Tells you of his ‘wrongs’;
Anything to get you to sympathize with him. Having your trust means that he can get you to do everything he wants, and you wouldn’t doubt him.
Trust is a valuable thing when you put it in the equations. It means that he can ask favors and you’ll be willing to help him out.
7. He is trying to make his ex jealous
Ah, the immense power of jealousy. It can turn ugly really quickly when one uses it for selfish reasons.
A player is very likely to text you so that he can make his ex jealous.
His ego cannot swallow the idea that he doesn’t have control to keep her with him anymore.
Thus, to paint himself as a desirable man, he will text you, and perhaps a bunch of other people as well.
This is his way of letting her know that he can have anyone he wants. And that there is always someone waiting for him to become valuable.
A player’s ego is so big that it can’t resist such a hit.
8. He’s breadcrumbing you
Not much is revealed by him about his intention and life. He just gives you bits and pieces to keep you around.
By giving such information you will feel like he is actually interested in you. However, he is just dragging you around.
A player knows when to push and pull and when to act hot and cold. That is why texting with him can be confusing.
He texts you every day, but his approach isn’t consistent. That’s a manipulation tactic to keep you hooked and engaged in his game.
9. It is convenient for him to text you
Does it seem that he only talks to you when he wants to? That’s because to him, you are not the first and only option.
Thus when the chase gets boring, he returns to you for a longer period.
He’ll text with you for a bit then bolt for the next target. His texts will show such a pattern if you pay a bit of attention.
One of the main reasons why players keep up with texting is its convenience of it.
To him, it’ll be convenient if you slowly get attached to him because it’ll make it easier for him to attain the goal he’s aiming for.
10. To make his intentions seem more believable
He will try his best to get you on his game. Once he has you where he wants you, it will be hard for you to ignore him.
Because of his enormous experience with women, he will know what to say and do to make you believe you need him to.
So, to make his intentions seem more believable, he’ll continue texting you every day, be it to remind you of his existence, to breadcrumb you, or to make his stories more convincing.
When would a player not text you every day and why?
Some players keep their game intact because they’ve got the time to play.
On the other hand, some players don’t text you every day.
That’s because it’s unlikely for him to maintain consistent communication with you because he prioritizes others and gets bored easily.
Pay attention to the patterns of his texts. If your conversations mostly revolve around sex, that’s what he might be looking for.
A player will text you frequently to plant himself in your life and will try to maintain your interest.
However, if he is yet to get what he wants, await frequent texts since he hasn’t achieved his desired result yet.
He will play hot and cold with his texting. One day you will get full notifications from him and the other he will be gone for the rest of the week.
He is not consistent in keeping conversations going, especially when it comes to building an emotional connection through those conversations.
Take with you: Dealing with a player isn’t easy
Some of them are good at the games they play, while some slip somewhere to make their game obvious enough for you to notice.
Either way, being played isn’t a good feeling and it can surely take a toll on your well-being.
You’re left confused questioning the realness of your feelings and reality.
Here’s what I want you to take with you:
- Look after yourself and your well-being;
- Be cautious and careful while texting with a man you suspect to be a player;
- Be careful with the information you give to people out there;
- Mark your red flags and respect your boundaries, expect him to respect your boundaries too, and if he doesn’t you know what to do!