The first reaction is to look for a mistake you made and imagine the worst-case scenario.
You sensed something was different & changed, and got exhausted by trying to figure out the reason as to why he is ignoring you sometimes there is no reason for being ignored.
Let’s get into the most common reasons and more about what impacted him to ignore you:
1. He doesn’t feel the need to chase you anymore
Sometimes a guy likes a good chase to know that a girl is worth it.
And if along the way of chasing, he does not like some habits of that girl, he backs off.
You indicated that you like him back too soon before he even got to enjoy the thrill of the chase.
When you should have backed off and let your feminine side take control.
And now that he’s snagged you easily, he doesn’t find wooing you or impressing you much of a challenge.
According to Damon L jacobs, they only want attention, affection, and validation from the person and not the person.
Therefore he steps back, rethinks the whole situation, and weighs his pros and cons.
2. He wasn’t interested in a serious relationship
He might be an explorer, jumping from one dating app to another one until he finds the perfect match for a relationship
He indicated late-night booty calls and when you were dismissive of going, he didn’t want anything to do with you.
All he wanted was to get some fun nights out of you, so he considers keeping you around till he enters a serious relationship.
But in reality, he is ignorant of your feelings and will avoid you till he needs you.
3. He feels inferior in your presence
He thinks you are ignoring him so he plays the card back.
Usually, he is the emotionally unavailable one so he does everything in his power to avoid commitment.
So, he started ignoring you and pretending he doesn’t like you, somehow he has to “win the power back”.
It is also a need to feed his ego when he feels unable to dominate and manipulate you his way.
And when you don’t offer that ego boost he feels inferior about his abilities as a man.
4. Your masculine side prevented him from getting close to you
He found out more about your personality boundaries and type.
You were chasing him and it scared him off, you were putting yourself at a disadvantage.
When instead he should have been the one with the masculine energy and you the feminine energy.
You complimented him all the time, dropped everything for him, and brought him gifts.
Rather than behaving attractively and compellingly, you looked desperate, clingy, and needy.
According to dating coach Jessica Warren, if you are taking up the masculine or feminine side, your partner will usually show up in the opposite one.
In my experience, the people I chased never really gave me the time of day and the ones who chased me rarely got my attention.
5. He is negging you as a backup
This one is a pickup strategy where a person shows interest in you and then suddenly rejects you.
He plays tricks so you get dependent on their attention, just keeping you around for the thrill.
A 1965 study says that women lower their self-esteem during a flirting stage, when self-esteem is low their dependency gets higher.
First, he makes you feel good about their attention then he withdraws it.
It’s very flattering to have someone pursue you but in the long run, it is no good.
6. He found out you dated his friend
Often guys want only what is one of a kind.
And although this flirtatious situation took place years ago.
He is ignoring you because the fact that you talked with one of his friends bugs him.
You might have texted a few weeks and gone on a date with him, but nothing romantic of the sort.
He is possessive and doesn’t want something other people have had, especially when we are talking about his friends.
He sensed that as something “wrong” in you he can’t accept in a relationship.
7. He was moving into a relationship at a fast pace
He has different priorities in life now, and you’ve just been dropped down a notch or two.
He is just playing both sides until he finally lands the one best suited for him.
Completely normal for a guy to have boundaries and respect them, but he should consider yours also.
When I was texting this guy, I found myself comparing how he acted in the first week of talking, thinking about what I did wrong.
And I tried to chase him for an answer.
He never considered telling me straightforwardly, so why would you go after him?
8. He finds it hard to manage a long-distance relationship
He just acts in that manner because he knows he can not do long-distance dating.
He doesn’t want to pursue the relationship further so he blows it off and ignores you.
Whether he is insecure or attached too easily, it won’t work out in his favor.
He needs to see you more than once a month to build a relationship of trust and love, and he won’t be able to do that.
Long distance will make him get too jealous, controlling, and possessive of what you are doing at all times.
However, It is very childish and immature, to just ignore you and go silent without an explanation!
9. He may put up a shield as a defense mechanism
Most of the time guys ignore you as a result of their past and habit.
Because his heart has been broken before, he doesn’t want that to happen again, he will be extra conscious.
Unsure of how you will respond if he likes you he may not want to let you know yet.
Until he finds out your feelings towards him he does so he tries to act distant.
According to Fredric Neuman, His insecurities will get in the way so he acts suspicious, antagonistic—or just plain unpleasant.
To save himself from the future pain of heartbreak, he thinks it is best not to build any new relationship.
10. He is ashamed of his income
He senses that you were raised by different social classes, one rich and one middle class.
His job and yours will play a huge role and he will treat it as such.
You are a high-maintenance woman, you like to be spoiled and feel feminine.
And with an underpaid job, he feels insecure around you, as if he isn’t enough to keep you pleased.
He knows he won’t be able to spoil you the way you wanna be, he knows living together is a hard task.
It’s important to talk to him about this matter, he will feel more secure once you tell him where you stand in case he has got the wrong idea from you.
11. He tried to heal from previous heartbreak but you were dismissive
He just recently went through a relationship breakup and still feels heartbroken.
You completely shut him down whenever he tried to open up his heart again.
Now anytime he tried to show his care or attention, you ignored it acting like he said nothing.
It takes a lot for a man to open up after a breakup, and your not cooperating and understanding made him feel neglected.
He made an effort to get to know about you, your past, family but each time you gave half answers or changed the topic.
Thus, thinking that he is unnecessarily wasting his feeling and time with you.
What to do when he is ignoring you?
When he is ignoring you, the most essential thing that you can do is not panic and make immediate action.
There are different approaches and ways to get more clarity and sensibility to the situation, regarding each effect.
Before panicking and getting all up in your head you should consider these points:
1. Should you ignore him back?
You should ignore him back, only if you sense that is the right thing to do.
If he found you nondeserving of a simple explanation then he should not be worthy of your time either.
It only takes 40 seconds to send a “Hi, I don’t think this is gonna work. I’m sorry” and he didn’t even consider that.
2. Focus on taking your power back.
If you find yourself being ignored by him, the best thing to do is take your power back.
You can do that by stepping back and focusing on yourself and your goals and ambitions.
It is very important not to force things that are not in our control.
Not being needy and desperate and trying No Contact can help you in healing yourself.
3. Try talking to a therapist.
Talking to a therapist can help you gain the strength you need to move on.
If this situation hurts your feelings and negatively impacts your confidence, it is better to heal first.
A therapist can direct you to the right path of self-love and accepting reality for what it is.
But if you are still desperate to know why he did such a thing, then you should communicate with him.
4. Get your answer, and talk to him.
If you have a good reason to text him then you might do so.
Just make sure you are not doing this to fill a void or because you are scared of losing him and being all alone.
Try to find the reason why this happened by talking to his entourage.
Text him once just to see his response, the answer should be an indicator of what he is thinking.
It should be a well-thought message and not impulsive, according to Dr.Lesliebeth Wish, it helps if you write a draft first.
Don’t be hitting their phone up all obsessed
- Where are you?
- What’s wrong? Did I say something to piss you off?
- I want to meet up and have a talk.
You are going to send only one message that says:
- “ I don’t know what’s going on, but I have noticed the disconnect. If you wish to have a relationship with me, I am open to talking. If not, I wish you the best of luck. “
Now he will either tell you exactly what is going on or you will get no response at all.
Either way one thing is clear: you will have clarity in the relationship.
The end: Why does a guy ignore you?
A guy ignores you because he sensed things he doesn’t like about you, he is playing a game or he just lost interest.
He will withdraw to preserve his core, to reassess to make decisions he sees necessary according to his liking.
And if he doesn’t like the way this is heading, naturally he checks out.
We women also, but often for different reasons, and naturally we speak up about that reason.
Simply reciprocate his actions, and ignore the one ignoring you.
Show him that you will not stand for a no-show of interest, and don’t get clingy, suspicious, and needy.