I believe that you’re here because you’ve been dealing with dry texting lately.
Yikes. That’s a bitter feeling that might leave you confused, unwanted, and frustrated.
There are two core reasons that he’s dry texting you: He’s either not interested in the relationship or in that particular conversation.
To get a grip on why he’s dry texting you, first check what this notion means!
What does it mean when he texts dry?
When he texts dry it means that he doesn’t involve entirely in the conversation that you’re making. He doesn’t have the energy, time, or will to do it.
He’ll reply with short sentences or with just one word. You can feel the shifting energy and that he’s not mirroring your text patterns.
To decode why he’s dry texting you, here are 11 main reasons:
A lot of guys dry text when dating becomes serious.
Maybe he can’t date you exclusively because he doesn’t share the same feelings with you or can’t commit.
Thus, to push you away from him, he chooses to constantly dry text, contacts you less, and then pulls away.
You can notice that he replies slowly and his answers aren’t any longer like before and he isn’t making any effort to spend time with you.
If you’re frustrated or disappointed then try to set your boundaries and reflect on what your relationship needs are and communicate it to him.
2. He might be a busy bee
If he’s working constantly and has a busy week or day then he might not have time to have a deeper conversation over text.
Yet, what makes the difference between if he is busy, a player or cheating on you is how he engages with you besides texting.
If he’s really busy, he might text with K, Maybe, or Good. But, he’ll also let you know that he’s busy. He might call you shortly or send a quick voice message.
If you’ve noticed that lately, he’s been very busy and constantly dry texting and not meeting you, try to let him know.
Be understanding, let him know that you understand him, and if there’s a middle way to improve your communication.
3. He might not like texting and is a man of few words
It’s hard to distinguish if he likes to express himself over text if you haven’t met him before.
But, if he’s that type of guy who doesn’t like long conversations over text, he will reply or initiate texts shortly.
He might communicate more effectively over the phone or when you meet in person.
Try to shift from texting to facetime or calling. If you don’t feel comfortable doing this, try to send him a voice message and see how he interacts.
If you need extra help to deal with this situation, you can communicate with a relationship coach too.
4. He feels uncomfortable opening up through text
When a guy has anxiety and trauma from past relationships, he’ll be more reserved.
Based on my experience, my partner was very interested in me but his texts contained just words like Cool, Okay, Yup, I agree.
Yet, when we hung out, he liked to talk and get to know me. But, when it came to text, he barely used it.
Once, I gathered all my strength and courage to ask him why he didn’t text much.
Communicate, that’s the key. Try to hang out with him more than just relying upon text to form your relationship.
5. He doesn’t want to appear too thirsty
According to this study, from the very beginning, a man was supposed to hide and not express his feelings because that would be out of his character.
Due to this, he might either keep his emotions under control or he doesn’t recognize the need to be more expressive through text.
Either way, you may notice that he engages with you and talks constantly, but he might change the subject and is less flirty.
If you feel that you have a special connection with him but over text, he doesn’t give too much, try to form your communication differently.
I advise you to learn his love language and give him time to express himself.
6. He might be dating someone else in the meantime
Hmm, dry texting can be sneaky too.
Until now, you were asked and advised to be understanding.
Now, it’s time to reflect on his interaction with you in general.
While you were dating, he might have kept his dating options open and now he’s lost interest.
Now, he barely initiates texts, doesn’t use emojis, or even doesn’t express his feelings.
Try to be open about how you feel and try to remind him why both of you started this relationship.
Hence, know that you can’t control or change his feelings. If he isn’t interested to hang out with you then it’s better to focus on your life and upgrade yourself.
7. He isn’t interested in this particular topic
If he is dry texting you suddenly then this might be a topic that he isn’t interested and he wants to just be done with it.
Especially, if you’re in a relationship already but you’ve been constantly nagging or accusing him, he’ll try to reply shortly.
He won’t include any of his emotions in this text because he just wants to move on to talk about something else.
If you notice this change in his behavior, try to change the conversation.
Talk about something more positive and try to engage him by talking about his preferences too.
8. You must have upset him with something
If you said something during the conversation or argued earlier on then that might indicate a dull conversation.
Being hurt by the person that you love or admire isn’t easy.
So, you’ll notice that he’ll use fewer or no emojis. His replies will be: Ok, As you Wish, Maybe.
Try to reflect on what happened that made you argue. If it’s necessary apologize and ask him to meet in person or call him.
Thus, you’ll discuss and avoid any type of misunderstanding.
The dating expert Greta Bereisaite claims that if a man is a high value, he won’t play hard to get.
He’ll be vulnerable and try to work on building an emotional and physical attraction through communication.
Yet, a man might play hard to get just so he can prove that he means something to you.
Usually, he’ll interact but give minimal answers or take a lot of time to answer.
Remember, that you don’t need to prove to anyone anything.
If you’re looking for something serious then it’s time to let him know what are your expectations regarding dating or this relationship.
10. He’s going through a tough time
If a person has internal conflicts and is dealing with a difficult time then he might not be in the mood to text.
Deep-seated thoughts can make him distance himself from everyone.
If you notice that he’s not interacting with anyone and isn’t active on social media, then he isn’t losing interest, just needs some time alone.
Reach out to him and call him. Ask if he needs anything and that you’re there for him. You might suggest him even a therapist.
Give him some time to reflect on his feelings and try to hang out with him briefly.
11. He doesn’t want to lead you on
When a man isn’t interested in you, he’ll try to be polite and not hurt your feelings, that’s why he dry texts you.
If you’re the one who’s always contacting him and his texts are dry that means he hasn’t the same feelings for you.
You will notice that even when you ask deeper questions, he’ll either avoid them or just reply shortly without giving any clear answer.
If you notice that he’s constantly ignoring you and his texts are dry then take a step back.
Take it as a chance to be born once again. Take it as a lesson and as a form of redirection.
Focus on yourself. Try to journal and go for a walk. Try to change your routine so you won’t have time to think about these texts.
How do you respond to a dry text from a guy?
The first thing that you should do is remain calm, and compassionate, and avoid putting too much pressure on him.
1. Instead of doing it, try to get to know his texting habits and patterns.
If you’ve just started talking with one another then try to mirror his texting habit and respect his schedule.
A guy will appreciate it if you’ll respect his schedule and try to find a common language when it comes to texting.
2. Try to tease him a little bit and use your humor or flirty skills.
Especially, if you’ve been dating for some time, you have enough material to use to tease him.
For example: “Lol, I thought I was short but your replies are shorter😛.”
3. Try to change the subject and ask him what are his plans for later.
This question is a little bit more thoughtful and personal and he’ll have something to tell about.
Also, you’ll let him know that you care about him and want to know more.
4. Reminisce on something that you’ve done recently and plan to do it again.
If you’ve had a great time watching outdoor movies then check if there’s any place doing it and ask him to join you.
5. Don’t initiate conversations for some time and give him some time and space to be alone.
If you’ve been constantly trying to understand his dry texting then it’s time to withdraw a little.
Don’t cut all contact with him or ignore his messages. Just continue with your life until he feels ready to communicate differently.
Is dry texting a red flag?
Dry texting isn’t always a red flag. To find this out, you don’t need only to focus on the fact that he’s replying shortly.
To find out if this is a red flag then you should focus on the reason he’s doing it, the timing, and how he’s interacting with you outside texting.
If he is doing it on purpose, you’ll feel that the vibe is off and he’s distant.
Because he won’t be involved and give the same effort as you in the relationship.
If you’re just started dating and he doesn’t engage in any of the conversations and avoids communicating with you, that’s a red flag.
Because at the beginning of a relationship, one should seek to build attraction.
And if a guy likes you, even if he’s a dry texter, he’ll try to communicate and connect with you differently.
He’ll try to meet or call you more often.
Is he a dry texter or not interested?
Well, these two terms can be interchangeable.
He can be a dry texter and not be interested in you at the same time.
But what makes the difference is consistency. Does he ever initiates texts or if he uses any other platform or form to connect with you?
If he denies any form to prioritize you and get to know you better, then that means that he’s just not interested romantically.
-To recap it-
If a guy is dry texting you that means that he’s really busy, dealing with internal issues, or doesn’t feel like prioritizing you.
To find out the truth, you need to reflect on how he’s been interacting with you from the beginning.
If this is your first interaction then that might be a little bit more complicated. Because he might be shy, not interested or he’s taking his time to know you.
Hence, don’t give up immediately. Try again. If he’s constantly ignoring any type of connection with you, then chin up and look forward.