Receiving spam has become a modern-day problem. Especially for people who tend to be careless with their information online.
In some cases, it can cause trouble in relationships and even marriages. Seeing your partner receive spam from dating sites can raise a few questions for sure!
One of those questions is also, Why does my husband get spam emails from dating sites?
Well, receiving spam from dating sites but also spam hookup emails can be a result of a few, sometimes irresponsible, actions online.
Here are 5 reasons why your husband is getting spam emails from dating sites:
1. He joined dating sites by email a long ago.
Joining dating sites via email makes it very likely for a person to get notifications or promotional emails from those dating sites.
However, if left unread, or marked as ‘spam’ multiple times by the person, these emails go to the spam inbox.
Your husband perhaps doesn’t know how to unsubscribe from the notifications of such sites, hence he might be getting those spam emails from them.
This, however, doesn’t make room for concern since one doesn’t have to be necessarily active on the dating site for one to receive email from the site.
- He might not know how to unsubscribe from the sites’ emails;
- He didn’t sign out from the dating apps properly. He might’ve just removed the app or closed the tab instead of deactivating his dating profile(s);
As heart-wrenching as it sounds, this possibility isn’t excluded either.
To receive mail from dating sites, at least the widely known ones, you must, at some point, have given the site your email to register.
Hence, unfortunately, receiving emails, spam or not, could signal that your husband could be using dating sites.
A way to know whether he’s actively using those dating sites he’s receiving emails from, you can take a look at the emails themselves.
If there’s something in the nature of “Tina replied to your text messages” then he’s active on the dating site.
On the other hand, if it’s just promotional emails such as “Limited offer!” then, it might not make room for concern.
- Promotional emails could mean he’s not interacting with dating apps or sites, however, it doesn’t exclude the possibility;
- Emails with a notification from the app, e.g. “Look who you matched with!”, meaning he’s active on the app;
Keep in mind that there are illegitimate sites and apps that use a particular email subject as ‘bait’ for the receiver.
As much as it can be a way for you to find out if your partner is on a dating site, take this with a grain of salt, and carefully look at the emails and their content.
Unfortunately, a lot of men that are in relationships use dating sites.
Receiving emails from dating sites could be just one of the early signs your husband is using them too.
3. He’s not careful with his information online.
If your husband is reckless with his information online, you can easily see what he’s up to on the internet.
When a person isn’t careful with their information online, they’re likely to have their information on not secure sites which then can sell their information to other sites.
Affiliated companies own the right to share users’ information with one another.
If he’s not cautious with his personal information online, then his information is likely to be sold or shared from one site to another.
To make this clearer if he’s rash with his information online, then he’s likely to receive spam from dating sites because
- His information was shared from one site to another;
- His information was bought and targeted by spammers;
- User data got leaked from a site he used in the past;
4. His information is visible to search engines.
Search engines such as Google are very easy to access by anyone no matter their age.
As long as you’re connected to the internet you’ll have access to infinite information at your disposal.
If your husband’s information is public on search engines—mind you, there are sites that have their users’ information visible to search engines—he’s likely to receive spam.
He might not only get dating sites spam emails, but he’s also likely to even get inappropriate spam emails.
- If his information is visible on search engines it can be easily accessible by spammers;
- If his email is accessible through a few Google searches, then anyone could send him an email;
Having information visible to search engines such as Google can allow anyone to find that person’s dating profile if they have one.
This can be yet another sign of your husband’s careless behavior regarding his information and privacy online.
5. He purchased something on a site that is affiliated with dating sites.
Companies or sites that are affiliated have legal rights to share user data with one another.
Your husband may have registered on a site or may have purchased something from a specific site, and the dating site affiliated with it collected his information.
Unfortunately, this could also open the possibility of him purchasing or paying for pornographic material, be it in the past or in the present.
If the emails are in the nature of “Single women are waiting for you”, he’s likely to have signed up on pornographic sites.
How to tell he’s active on the dating site he’s receiving emails from? Should you be suspicious?
Some dating sites send fake messages. Usually, those are dating sites that are spammy or even scam sites.
A friend of mine registered on a site not knowing it was a spammy one, next thing she knew, her email was flooded with spam, and not just from that one site!
She was clueless about it. She worked it out with her partner by letting him know about the issue.
You can tell whether those emails truly have nothing to do with infidelity by paying attention to a couple of things first.
There’s room for suspicion when your husband receives emails from dating sites if:
- He regularly deletes his browser and search history;
- He receives messages from dating sites;
- The emails he receives are in the nature of notifications, his username is mentioned, or another person’s name that replied to his message;
- Emails are not only promotional emails about the dating sites, they’re notifying your husband of a particular activity he made on the site;
- He gets very defensive about his phone or computer;
- He started deleting all the emails he receives, spam or not;
- He has dating apps installed on his phone.
Such behavior could indicate he’s active on the dating sites he receives emails from, hence you should proceed with caution and attention.
Some dating sites tend to be careless with their users’ data, however, some take this matter very seriously.
This is why a simple Google search on your husband could and couldn’t help you.
Hence, if you’re still suspecting he’s using those dating sites, do a search on him and see what you can find.
Receiving an email with a spam message is frequent. However, there’s no such thing as spam text on your device from a dating site!
You have to be registered and active on a site to get a message from it on your device.
On the other hand, if he’s not active on those dating sites then there’s no room for concern. Here’s how you can tell:
- The emails sound genuinely spammy such as “Tina wants to meet with you right now” or “Explore your options in your radius”
- The emails are promotional such as “Explore this new feature on the site”
- He’s open to talking about it and reassuring you that he’s not using any dating sites;
- He’s respectful of your needs and understands when you get suspicious;
- His phone doesn’t seem to be his priority, and he’s okay if he leaves it ‘unprotected’ from you or your sight;
- The way he approaches you is respectful, open, and loving;
When a person is engaging in something inappropriate, it can cause them to have a sense of guilt and defense of themselves.
This can lead them to take extreme measures to prevent their partner find out the truth.
So, check his behavior, take a look at the content of the emails, and eventually, the truth will come out.
How to help him not get spam from dating sites?
If it turns out that he’s innocent and that he’s not using dating sites, then it’s time to make those emails stop!
Especially if your husband or you or both are feeling uncomfortable with the emails!
Here’s how you can help your husband not get spam from dating sites:
– Unsubscribe from dating sites’ emails.
Usually, at the bottom of the email, you’ll find an unsubscribe button that allows you to unsubscribe from the site’s newsletter and notifications.
That will make those emails stop if your husband has been registered on dating sites before.
– Report phishing.
You can have the option to report Phishing if you open your email on a computer instead of your mobile.
On the right corner of the email you want to click the three dots placed vertically one after the other,
Once you click on the dots, you’ll have a variety of options displayed, and you want to select ‘Report Phishing’.
This report and email will be reviewed by Gmail’s Abuse Team who will help you stop getting such emails.
– Block the email address.
If your husband keeps receiving emails from those dating sites’ email addresses even after unsubscribing, it’ll be time to block those email addresses.
After blocking the email address, Gmail will address those emails to his Spam Inbox where he won’t get notified of receiving them.
– Create a new email.
If any of the attempts don’t work and if despite your attempts to fix this issue, your husband is still receiving inappropriate spam then create a new email.
Starting fresh is yet another option for getting rid of the spam emails your husband keeps getting from dating sites.
After creating a new email he has to be careful with where he registers and where he puts his email in.
If the same things happen again, then your husband might just be using those dating sites over and over.
Try solving this issue together, and if you’re feeling puzzled by his behavior, reach out to an expert.