Players are known for their thick skins and manipulative behaviors. But they’re not ‘undefeatable’ nor ‘untamable’.
There are people who manage to pierce through that thick skin and soften those players’ fearful hearts.
In other words, there are women that players fall for. However, the question remains! What type of woman does a player fall in love with?
Well, the answer to that is, players can fall in love with just any woman really! This depends a lot on the player.
Here are the 5 most known types of women players fall for:
1. The confident and sharp woman who doesn’t fall for his games.
Depending on the character of the player, they have the potential to be drawn to a confident and sharp woman who knows and respects her boundaries.
She’ll take no bs from him and he’ll love her wittiness.
A player is usually used to his game being ‘top notch’ and working on most people he dates.
However, this is the woman that challenges his plans and ideas of dating while she fiercely points out his toxic moves.
A player is used to getting it his way, and the woman that doesn’t fall for his games will shake his reality.
She’ll represent a challenge, and he’ll manage to see strength and truth in her character while he tries to decipher what exactly is about this woman!
- She respects her boundaries and makes them clear to him;
- She’s smart and sharp when expressing her opinions;
- She tends to be bossy;
- She takes very good care of herself;
2. The sweet, innocent, and pure-hearted woman who has no clue he could hurt her.
This one is a classic. The reckless, soulless guy stumbles upon a pure-hearted woman that reminds him of the love he’s got within!
Well, at least this is the representation Hollywood movies have made over the decades. However, this is a little off from the real picture.
Not all players fall for this type of woman, and not all players see the innocence and pure-heartedness in this woman.
Players tend to continuously be on guard and defensive. They’re busy questioning the realness of their partner(s), and at times they’re blind to genuine kindness.
Nevertheless, when a player manages to see this woman deeply, then he’ll crash and fall for her like he never did before.
This tends to be due to the contrast that the two characters represent: on one hand it’s the manipulative, insensitive facade, and on the other is the innocent.
She doesn’t have much idea of his manipulations, so she blindly gives him love and affection believing he’s got good intentions.
This can, sometimes, be a reminder to the player of his ‘old self’ before he got hurt and turned into a player.
- She grounds him with her kindness and unconditional love;
- She doesn’t represent a threat to his ego or to his heart;
- He feels he can trust her because he sees her innocence;
- He starts getting protective and it can be fulfilling to his ego;
As romantic as this can sound, it can have an ugly turn, unfortunately. Such a relationship risks getting highly toxic, especially for the woman.
He could either take advantage or be reminded of the delicate self he used to be before he was a player and decide to leave the manipulations aside.
3. His best friend.
From a heteronormative point of view, a player is very likely to fall in love with his woman best friend.
His best friend is someone who knows him well, someone he feels free opening up to, and someone he trusts.
She’s likely to represent a safe space for his emotional vulnerabilities and fears. Which is something he misses in his romantic or sexual connections.
Now, this is yet another stereotype influenced by Hollywood movies, however, it is a bit less romantic when it comes to a real-life scenario.
A player is likely to fall for a woman who is his best friend due to
- The time he spends with her;
- The emotional security he feels with her;
- A sense of closeness, comfort, and sense of care that the friendship comes with;
- Fun times they have together contributed to further emotional bonding;
There could be no romantic objectives intended at the beginning of the friendship, however, he’s likely to grow fond of her as he spends time with her.
The issue with the player is that he doesn’t want to re-experience the hurt that he experienced in previous romantic relationships.
While he has his defenses up with the people he’s dating or sleeping with, he’ll let down those defenses when he’s with his best friend.
Eventually, he’ll start connecting emotionally with her, and eventually, he’ll fall for her personality and will want more than a friendship with her.
4. The woman who won’t bother giving him a chance.
Meet the woman who knows exactly how to deal with a player—she doesn’t deal with him at all!
Players manipulate situations and people for their own favors. They’re quite used to getting things their way.
They do what they do until the woman who doesn’t bother giving him a chance comes along.
She represents a challenge to a player. “I’m wanted by women, why doesn’t she want me?” he says while he accepts the challenge.
He starts the chase because he’s in for a trophy that’ll grant him the status of invincible (at least that’s what he thinks).
What he doesn’t know is that while he’s chasing her, wanting her, and contacting her, he’ll start getting to know her better.
The more he gets to know her, the more fond he grows of her and her strong character.
The tricky part in this is that this type of woman will stick around only until she finds out he’s a player.
She’s confident and respects her boundaries, but she isn’t willing to waste time on him.
Most times, the moment she finds out he’s a player—ultimately, the moment she decides she doesn’t want to deal with him—is the moment the player falls for her.
He got a glimpse of the gorgeous woman who’d be loyal, trustworthy, and everything he wanted. But that’s all he got, a glimpse.
She’d be loyal and trustworthy, and she expects the same from her partner. Now, she won’t settle for less, and she’ll walk away the moment she knows he’s a player.
He won’t stop thinking about her, but in a lot of cases, he won’t get a chance with her. He’s now helplessly in love with someone he can never have.
5. A female player.
There she goes stealing a player’s heart the exact same way he stole others’. Meet the female player!
Just like him, she’s been hurt before too. And just like him, she avoids hurt at all costs.
She finds comfort in playing men, getting things her way, and satisfying her needs through manipulative behaviors, just like him.
These are two very fragile and vulnerable people who use their steel shields to not let anyone in like they once did.
When they initially meet, there are sparks, flirty behavior, and fireworks.
As the connection continues, the trajectory of their connection takes a very toxic and chaotic dynamics.
They’re both aware of mind games, and they’re both aware of what they’re doing to one another.
The back-and-forth manipulation is likely to keep them spending more and more time with one another.
Studies, too, show that the more personal things two people get to know about one another, the more likely they are to fall in love with one another.
Now, these two will spend a lot of time, and eventually, they’ll loosen up and give up information about themselves.
- They’ll become vulnerable with one another as the time goes by, hence growing fond of one another, and eventually, falling in love;
- He’ll start falling for her games and vice versa;
- She knows how and she’s capable of making him hers;
This is not as romantic as it sounds on paper, such a relationship can be very toxic and it can have negative effects on both partners.
However, it creates room for love despite its toxicity.
Are you the woman a player would fall for and does it matter?
A player can fall for any woman! If you try, you can make him fall for you, but at the end of the day, the feeling of love is not something to be imposed.
Again, a player can fall for any woman. It all depends on his personality, character, and background.
That being said, are you the woman a player would fall for?
Well, technically, yes.
Players can fall in love, but they resist it, and they defend themselves from the feeling.
That’s what makes this a very dangerous game to play. And the best option is to avoid getting involved with a player.
You cannot know the odds, and you cannot predict his behavior. This is a dangerous game to play.
Even though you are, at the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if you’re the woman a player would fall for. Why you might ask! Well, here,
- You’re deserving of a healthy relationship where you find fulfillment;
- Your self-care is important: go to therapy, exercise, do things you love, and hang out with people that respect you and your boundaries;
- Despite the charm, a player can have a tremendously negative effect on your well-being;
- There are people out there who will see you for what you are and won’t do to hurt you in any way;
- The process of a player falling in love with someone can be hectic and it can take too long. It can be extremely unhealthy;
Instead of being stuck in a relationship with a toxic dynamic you can make a healthy choice for yourself and walk away.
It’s slightly ironic since that can automatically make you “The woman who won’t bother to give him a chance” whom he’s highly likely to fall for.
A player is an indistinct choice.
He’s vulnerable and he’s in pain. But you must resist the urge to want to heal him. That’s a choice he has to make.
Choose yourself, and choose healthy ways of nourishing your needs.