The tricky questions to catch him cheating shouldn’t be manipulative.
Because when you try to manipulate someone, especially a cheater, you open the road for him to manipulate you.
The trick questions should be upfront but not so upfront so you can scare him or push him to lie to you.
So, to find the perfect balance of how to do it, here are 30 trick questions to catch a cheater:
1. “Have you ever said something that wasn’t true and looked me straight in the eyes?”
When he is cheating on you there is no way that you will make him talk.
The therapist Brannon Patrick claims that is important to know why you want to get him to admit it and how you’ll do it.
This depends on the person but if you go way too straightforward with him, he will back it up with another lie.
You need to gather evidence first and then you might choose a game to play and ask him this question.
2. “Would you like to have a Finsta one day?”
One of the trick questions is to ask him about the activities that a cheater might make.
It doesn’t mean that he might tell you immediately about his secrets or secretive meetings and activities.
Yet, you’ll recognize how his body language changes when you ask him this question.
You might add also your opinion and why you would think having a Finsta would be cool or bad.
3. “People right now claim that monogamy is lame. What do you think about it?”
This is more kind of a straightforward trick question.
It might give him a signal that you are suspecting something but yet try to make it look like a simple question asked in a conversation.
Add your opinion and mention a few of your friends and what they think about it.
Make it look like a debate. I’ve been there. I’ve asked my ex-boyfriend and his opinion disgusted me and led me to the right answer.
4. “Am I so splendidly good at sex that we stopped doing it?”
Try to use sarcasm because it might not make it look too awkward and it might push some of his buttons.
It will catch your partner off guard maybe they haven’t even noticed any change in sexual relations between you and them.
But, if he has been delaying sexual activity with you because he is interested in someone else sexually, he might give mere answers and deny it.
5. “Are you excited to try these new sex positions with me tonight?”
Make him a surprise. Plan a hot night for him and then you might catch him off guard as you try to be more intimate with him.
If he is cheating on you then he might not feel comfortable trying something new with you.
Or he will offer to teach you new moves that he might have learned while cheating.
6. “Hey, are we lovers or strangers?”
If you feel that lately, he has been pulling away and spending less time with you, use humor to your benefit.
You might trigger his consciousness by asking what are you now to him. Are you his lover or just somebody that he used to know?
A cheater will either love bomb you immediately or say that you’re exaggerating or overreacting.
7. “Would you mind if I wear this sweatshirt of yours?”
If you notice that he has a new clothing piece or something else, try to make it known to him that you notice it.
If you think that a woman gave that to him then you can give your positive opinion about it and ask if you can wear it.
The reaction that you get there is your answer. If it’s something that she gave him, he would not give it to you and will make a fuss out of it.
8.“You didn’t think I’d realize what you were up to, huh? Lol, I was Jk.”
If your partner is not guilty, they will calmly ask what are you referring to and reassure you there is no cheating happening.
But on the contrary, if they are cheating you won’t even have to say the word.
They will immediately assume you are talking about cheating.
9. “Did you call me Mary or I just heard it wrong?”
This question might be a dangerous game but it will be enough to get a reaction from him.
You might not use the name of the woman that you think he’s cheating but you can use another woman’s name just to see how he’ll react.
If he’s cheating then he might turn it into a joke or will try to give another direction to the conversation.
10. “Do you know that this envelope contains all your darkest secrets?”
If you want to catch a cheater then just ask a random question and have a simple envelope.
He might think that you might have gotten some photos of him cheating or something else in that envelope.
If he isn’t cheating then he will not overreact or try to grab that envelope.
11. “You’re thinking of me. You’ve dreamt of kissing someone else. You were in Orange County on Monday.”
Investigate and have some proof first. Play two truths and a lie. You will have the time of your life while interrogating him indirectly.
You will notice how he might defend himself and not know which one to choose as a lie and which one is the truth.
12. “What makes you trust me?”
You can play the reversed Uno Card on him.
Don’t make it all about him. Try to talk a bit about yourself and how will he react to it.
If you’re a loyal partner then he might start to reflect on the attributes that he doesn’t have and you’ll get a reaction there.
13. “Perhaps we can go together to Balthazar next time?”
If you think that he constantly goes to some place with his friends or with another woman, try to slightly insist on going there together.
You might say something like: “I’ve seen that you had a good time and liked Balthazar. Can we go together next time?”
If he goes there with his mistress then he would convince you that the place isn’t nice and there’s nothing to see.
Because he might be afraid that the staff of that place might talk and you might learn the truth.
14. “I’ve been thinking lately, do you see a future with me?”
This might look like a question that has nothing to do with cheating but well it has to do a lot with it.
This trick question catches a cheater because he’ll let you know what he thinks and how he reacts to this matter.
You’re not accusing him of cheating. Yet, by having his opinion on this, you might check whether he is cheating on you or not.
15. “Was Leila and the other girls on that work trip with you? Sheila said so.”
Ask him just a random and made-up question, it might not be necessarily true.
You might mention some of his other friends or coworkers that you might think that he is cheating you with.
A cheater will react normally to this and say something like I would tell you with whom I go.
On the other hand, if he doesn’t cheat you, he would follow you up with every detail to not leave space for misunderstanding.
16. “Last night you were screaming Joanna, Joanna in your sleep. Have seen any new movie with that name?”
If you caught him calling a woman’s name while sleeping, you might use it as evidence.
Ask him if he has been watching a lot of movies, documentaries, or books and maybe that might have impacted him.
And just wait for what type of answer he’ll give you.
17. “A new study claims that men cheat more than women. No way… What do you think?”
Even when you ask him a question about cheating don’t make it all personal immediately.
Give him some evidence from other sources and check what he thinks or what he will say.
18. “Would you like to go to couple therapy together?”
If he isn’t cheating on you then he will seek ways to save your relationship.
Yet, if he’s cheating and is puzzled he might try to convince you that you don’t need therapy or that this thing is bullsh*t.
19. “If you got caught doing something wrong would you be upfront about it?”
You might be this straightforward with him but add a little flavor to the questions.
Such as, I think when you were a child and you got caught doing something wrong what did you do?
20. “Would It bother you if someone else flirted with me?”
You might have noticed that your boyfriend/girlfriend gets extremely jealous.
If he knows he cheats he will suspect you do the same.
If your partner has been unfaithful, he may be more likely to lash out aggressively.
21. “Sarah thinks that sneaky links are a way to spice up things in your life. What do you think?”
You can ask him what he thinks about sneaky links and compare your thoughts and what your friends think.
To catch a cheater with this trick question, you need to add your opinion too.
If you agree he might become all defense and go against you.
22. “Could I use your phone to take some pictures?”
Phones these days may hold clues to who they talk to regularly and what type of messages they send through.
So when your partner is hiding something most likely won’t lend you his phone.
23. “Have you ever thought of yourself ending up with another woman?”
If he is currently cheating on you then he might act all casual but you’ll notice that his body language will change when you ask him this question.
Also, the behavioral investigator Vanessa Van Edwards claims that when a person lies his head will make a half nod, between yes and no.
His facial color might change or he might try to change the subject by making a joke.
24. “If I give you permission to pursue another relationship, would you consider it?”
So if you’re asking about cheating and your partner brings up the fact that they might think it’s normal or it’s just a question.
It might be because they’ve done it before, and on some level think it’s totally OK.
25. “I like your smell. Have you been using a new fragrance recently?”
You know that scent is not your usual perfume, you wear musk but you smell patchouli.
If they come back at you “Obviously it is yours”. Point out that you do not wear perfume of that kind.
26. “Do you think that a one-time mistake is forgivable in a relationship?”
If you want to discuss cheating indirectly, you can ask your partner about his take on forgiving a cheater.
If he’s cheating most definitely he will think it is okay to forgive a cheater, as they are the ones doing it.
27. “I need your help. How do you define if someone is telling the truth.”
See? Here’s the catch. You don’t mention the word lie.
You will go into his mind with this trick question. You will catch him when he will answer from his own experience.
He might tell what he would do if he would tell the truth and you might compare them with how he is acting lately.
28. “I have a secret to tell you…but do you have something to tell me?”
Try to flirt and tease him. Act like you have to tell him a secret and how he will react to it.
If he is cheating then he’ll start to act awkwardly and start to touch or kiss you uncontrollably.
29. “Do you think that we should do more dates?”
A trick question to catch a cheater is to ask what he thinks he should do about your relationship.
If he’s clueless and gives a vague answer or tries to convince you that you’re asking too much then you got him there.
If he can’t do the bare minimum for a few months then his head might be focused somewhere else.
30. “If you would choose someone to have a one-night-stand, who would it be?”
You know this is just for fun. But who would you smash, die, or marry from these three?
Give him three names and see how he will react and what he will say.
How do you trick a cheater into confessing?
If a straightforward method is not working, you can trick a cheater into confessing by asking open-ended questions.
If you ask a Yes or No question then he might just try his luck and get away with a simple answer.
1. To some extent, you need to push his buttons by appearing clueless to some extent.
Because if you immediately try to accuse him or be upfront with him, he will try to deny it, even if there is proof.
It’s very important to make sure he’s cheating you by gathering evidence by asking his friends, and coworkers, and checking his interactions.
Because if you just jump immediately into asking a trick question, he might get defensive and you’ll not know what to reply.
Also, you might know better what type of question to formulate when you know what he might have done or who is that woman.
3. Yet, to catch a cheater, you need to ask random questions about intimacy, his sexual activity, or his friends or coworkers and make it fun.
Use humor and reverse psychology to get him to confess to some degree whether he has been cheating or not.
🔴But, remember that not all guys react the same to these questions. He might overreact and start to call you names or even physically hurt you.
Thus, if your partner is a narcissist then try to talk with a relationship coach before asking him to trick questions about cheating.
4. In the end, know that you can’t control his thoughts, answers, or actions.
Even if you trick him into cheating, he might still lie and continue to cheat.
It’s up to you to define it so you can set your boundaries and end the relationship.
Conclusion: What questions should you ask a cheater?
The best trick question to catch a cheater is a question that doesn’t include blaming or accusing language.
Because a cheater usually gaslights and follows up a lie with a lie when he senses that you’re suspecting him.
So, first, try to get some evidence and check all signs that he might be cheating you.
Then try to make indirect and subtly straightforward questions. Use humor and creativity to make the situation less tense.