Reviving a dead conversation isn’t an easy task to do especially when you have just started to talk or date.
Hence, what can give a boost to it is getting this conversation from a negative spectrum to a positive one.
He might have pulled away and lost interest because the conversation wasn’t interesting or he might be still healing.
Nevertheless, reviving a dead conversation means that you need to put it in a neutral realm.
It doesn’t mean that you’re going to change his mind by all means, you’re just giving this conversation one last try.
To get you out of this pit, here are 12 specific things to text when the conversation dies:
1. Be more clear with your intentions or demands
The moment you sense that the conversation is dying, the main thing that you can do is to be straightforward.
If both of you haven’t specified what you feel or think for one other but have been talking for months then the conversation gets dull.
Even if he likes you but you haven’t stated the same thing then this might have impacted his withdrawal.
Both of you will feel like you’re stuck and you’re reliving the same thing once again.
Thus, once you’re upfront, he will either engage in the conversation or continue to be silent.
2. Avoid making obvious or generic questions
Before asking open-ended questions or any type of question to revive a dead-text conversation, reflect on your last conversation.
Even if you ask something that will trigger him, if he is hurt or not interested, he still won’t reply back.
More specifically, you need to reflect on the last conversation to know what to ask and how to do it efficiently.
Many other sources will advise you to ask open-ended questions.
Yet, open-ended questions do not have the same impact on a dead conversation as on initiating a conversation.
- When the conversation is dead even open-ended questions might sound generic.
- That’s why I advise you to open a conversation with something that happened to you recently that might be important to him.
- Then you can follow it up with some open-ended questions regarding the experience that you’re talking about.
3. Start a whole new conversation
Nowadays, life is so busy that makes it is impossible to constantly text someone.
Due to this, he might think that you’re not interested or has a great ego and refuses to initiate conversations multiple times.
So, to shape the dead conversation into something new, you need to shift it from a negative spectrum to a positive one.
Let’s take an example, if you have been a slow replier lately and he started to match your energy, you need to make a move.
1. Do not just apologize because now saying sorry won’t get him back on the hook.
2. You can change the dynamic by not chasing him but by texting him some exciting news or something fun to talk about. You should consider writing a logical statement that would help him go with your frame.
“Guess What…?”
“You won’t believe what I have seen today.”
4. Show genuine interest and try to listen to what he’s saying
A good healthy conversation is one when both of you engage simultaneously and in the same manner.
Otherwise, if you constantly talk about yourself and never allow him to ask questions or initiate, the conversation will end soon.
Now that the conversation is dull you need to start it with a question regarding him.
Allow him to express himself and talk about himself too.
“Hey Joe, I remembered that tomorrow you have to go for that job interview. Have you done all the preparations?”
“Two weeks ago how you were trying to buy tickets for Met’s game, have you found them yet?”
If you have issues regarding opening up and getting close to someone, then try to work with a personal coach.
They will help you to detect the problem and learn how to connect with him more.
5. Find common ground and communality
One thing to do when the text conversation is dead, you need to find common ground and commonality.
I am assuming that you started doing it earlier on but the process was hindered along the way.
Now, what you need to do is find a common thing and use it to open the conversation.
- Start by being honest and straightforward. If you have been putting away your feelings about him now is the time to let him know.
- Try to be more understanding about his hobbies, interests, or views on life.
- Finding things that you have in common with him takes time.
- The most important thing is to tolerate one another’s ideas and preferences until it doesn’t cross your boundaries.
6. Be careful what type of emojis you’re going to use
Emojis play a big part in changing the texting game.
If you want to keep a dead conversation going, you need to change the way you text.
You should catch him off guard with something new for him too.
- Pick a few emojis that will show exactly what you want to say and make him guess.
- You can pick three to four emojis to show how you’re feeling, if you’re apologizing, or if you want to tell him your favorite song.
Be careful and use emojis that he will understand and will not look boring to him.
Hence, this game is fun for those who like to text and use emojis, otherwise, it won’t look interesting.
7. Upgrade the conversation: Use another way to communicate
Texting is a useful tool of communication but if it is overdone then the conversation can become dull.
That’s the right moment when you can switch up the conversation to something more exciting.
In this case, you need to change your pattern and jump into using other media.
- This media can be a voice message, a short video, or a meme.
Many sources claim that voice is quite important when it comes to texting because it helps you to evoke feelings easier.
Using other media rather than just mere words will help you to build a deeper connection with him.
8. Reminisce on a positive or hilarious moment
Nostalgia is the key to rekindling a dead conversation with a lover or a friend.
That’s because the moment that you send a word, location, or a pick that you can reminisce his feelings will be triggered.
As claimed in this research paper people arrange their life according to their attachment style.
So, whether he will answer back depends on his personality and on his attachment style.
Hence, in most cases, as we worked with a few female clients, for a man is hard to resist reminiscing on good memories.
Especially, if he is healed or is still in the process of learning to love and be loved.
9. Try to reflect and adjust to his texting habits
Putting too much pressure on him and double-texting won’t revive a dead conversation.
Instead, you should mirror his texting habits because you will give him some time to enjoy this interaction
Mirroring his texting habits and trying to learn his texting pattern will help you save a dead conversation.
The reason that a conversation will end suddenly is that he might be bored and you might be texting more than him.
- So if the conversation is dead and he texted twice a week, try to do it with him.
- Look closely at his texting patterns. If he texted “Hi” or “What’s up”, try to use it because he will notice changes and this will grasp his attention.
10. Let him acknowledge another side of you
One of the things that you should text when a conversation dies is something flirtatious and adventurous.
Let’s say that earlier on, you didn’t text anything flirtatious or you never challenged him.
Now, you should consider doing it subtly so you can grasp his attention.
Yet, you should be careful to not do it extensively because it will make him feel uncomfortable since you didn’t offer him this type of attention.
“I was at the beach today and that deep blue color reminded me of your eyes.”
“Thinking of you makes my heart beat faster. Not faster than a G6 tho.”
Nonetheless, do not miss the chance to go through 128 flirty texts written by our staff!
11. Let him know about an upcoming event and ask his opinion
Let’s bomb him with a few exciting news and look at how he will react.
If the conversation ended normally but he didn’t text for a few days or weeks, get him updated.
I am talking to update him about any type of movie, song, or concert that will happen near you.
“Have you heard that Frank Ocean is going on tour near our neighborhood? Wanna go?”
“You won’t believe this…..I have some great news.”
“I have a serious issue….seriously…contact me.”
You need to create some type of suspense. Yet, if you have texted more than two times then it is time to let him process those texts and let him initiate.
12. Respect his boundaries and know when is the right time to let go
If you have already tried multiple times to save the conversation but he isn’t cooperating then it’s better to take a step back.
I can understand you fully if you think that it is easier said than done.
Yes, that’s true because you want this relationship to work and now you don’t have any type of communication with him.
Yet, try to count this as an experience and now you know what to do and not do while texting.
From experience, I am letting you know that you cannot revive a dead conversation when they don’t reciprocate.
- If you have tried these tips and he didn’t answer for more than a week then don’t blame yourself.
- Try to work on your thoughts and feelings by meditating and socializing with other people.
- When you find your authentic self, you won’t settle for less than what you deserve.
What are some common mistakes people make when trying to keep a conversation going?
Mistakes are quite common when you are trying to keep the conversation going and you develop feelings for this person.
Many mistakes are done unconsciously and are done more from the desire to get this guy.
Trust me, I have been there and I haven’t been aware that I am putting too much pressure on him or I am not respecting him.
To avoid going through the same experience, here are some common mistakes and their possible solutions.
| Mistake | A brief explanation | Solution |
| Asking common or repetitive questions | If you constantly are fixated on one thing to know about him, the conversation will become stale. | If you are interested in knowing about his past relationships then try to bring out the topic while mentioning a bit of your past. Try to open up before asking him straightforwardly about his past relationships. If he doesn’t want to talk about the past over text then try to respect his wishes. You can go on the first date and then create a tighter bond. |
| Always initiating first | Men like when women initiate but not all the time. If you are constantly leading conversations then you will give him more masculine energy which will pull him away from you. | To prevent this from happening then you should initiate less than him. Try to show that you like to be chased too because this will trigger his masculine side and will bring out your feminine energy. |
| Being obsessed with just one thing about him. | Sometimes you might not notice, but you might be talking constantly about a certain topic. If you do it all the time then he might start to lose interest and might think that you’re playing with him. | To avoid talking about the same topics, you need to give him some time to process your conversation. Try to talk to him less and let him ask questions and initiate other topics as well. |
| Keeping it all official and not flirting. | If you have kept yourself away from all flirting and being sultry with him, you will bring him unwanted energy.He will think that you’re not interested in him. | Maybe flirting isn’t your thing but try to do it subtly and step by step. Try to read more books or articles about flirting and how to start doing it. The dating expert Mathew Hussey has a book about flirting with men through texting that you can get a very valuable piece of advice. |
| You don’t pay attention to what he is saying or his needs and desires. | If you have been texting something else from what he is saying then you’ll send him the message that you’re not into him and that is disrespectful. | Maybe you’re doing it unconsciously or is just a habit but try to read what he is saying before replying. You can either write your answer somewhere before replying. I am not implying that you should overthink it but be careful. |
Finally: How to revive a dead text conversation?
You can revive a dead text conversation by being honest and gentle with him.
There is nothing guaranteed that anything can revive a dead conversation.
That’s because you can’t make him change his mind if he already didn’t have strong feelings for you.
You can only keep a dying conversation going over the text if you are authentic and bring up changes.
Otherwise, if you constantly go using the same texting pattern, he will continue ignoring your texts.
I know it might seem hard right now but trust me you can change your texting game by the time you’re reading this last sentence.
All love,
Callisto Adams
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