Infidelity has been normalized, therefore a high percentage of relationships don’t survive due to disloyalty and infidelity.
If you think you need to test your boyfriend’s loyalty, here you can find everything you need to know.
Loyalty is a combination of faithfulness and trust toward a partner. It is a priority in a relationship, and what creates commitment. Having a loyal partner means that you always have support, love, and trust in a person.
Philosophers don’t see loyalty only as a feeling, but also as an action. The action of choosing only your partner, and always putting your partner first.
1. Have a friend of yours reach out to him on social media.
If until now he gravitated more toward disloyalty, there are different ways you can test him.
A lot of men and women rely on these practices, and as much as it is toxic, this is quite effective!
The best example is Tiktok’s loyalty test trend where you can ask a girl to text your boyfriend and test his loyalty.
Presenting this as your last resort and the first option on the list, here’s how you can do this:
- Have a trusted friend your boyfriend doesn’t know of, reach out to him on his Instagram or other socials;
- Unfollow one another from social media so that your boyfriend doesn’t get suspicious in the process;
- Ask her to send you screenshots of whether he responds to her or not;
- If he does, she can ask him if he’s single or send him flirty messages;
- You’ll know whether he’s loyal by his response to your friend’s question and approach.
2. Create a fake social media account with followers and posts and text him.
Again, this is very toxic, however, it’s up to you whether you rely on this option or not.
As part of your last resort to test his loyalty over text, you can:
- Create a fake account on social media, and wait for some months so that your account doesn’t look as fake (bonus if you already have one);
- Text him in a way that doesn’t indicate you already know him;
- Approach him like you would approach a guy you’ve just met;
- Evaluate his responses and see whether he qualifies as loyal or not.
3. Ask him if he would mind sharing passwords.
Loyalty doesn’t have to necessarily be proved through sharing passwords.
However, the openness to share passwords is often a positive sign.
If he gets defensive or angry when you propose this idea, he might be hiding something.
On the other hand, if he agrees to it with no hesitation he’s very likely to be a loyal boyfriend.
It’s okay if he refuses to share passwords with you. It’s all in his approach and the way he justifies his opinion regarding this.
Reminder:
If he does all of the things mentioned above to prove his loyalty, it is expected for you to do those as well. A relationship is 50-50 and you need to prove you’re a trustworthy person as well.
4. Pay attention to the way he treats you through text.
It’s time to focus on his behavior and the positive side of him that proves his loyalty
Here are some insightful analyses of a faithful partner’s behaviors that prove his loyalty through texting:
– He texts you often.
Does your day start with a good morning text? If your boyfriend starts his day by sending you a good morning text, you know he is thinking of you the moment he wakes up.
He also texts you often throughout the day. He is keeping you posted on how his day is going.
If he always ends his day with a sweet goodnight message or call, he is more than loyal, he loves you dearly.
– He replies fast.
You never have to wait for hours to get an answer from him, because he always replies fast. That’s another sign that he is loyal.
Whether you ask him a question, send him a meme, or just text him to show him some love, he always is fast with his replies and is never annoyed by your texting.
– He notifies you when he is going out.
He never leaves the house without letting you know about it: He always sends a text before he leaves, or on the way there.
Even if you are too busy to text him back, he makes sure to call to tell you he is out for a few hours.
– He keeps his location on for you.
Another big sign of loyalty is if he shares his live location with you. This indicates that he has nothing to hide from you, and is indeed loyal.
He is open to you about where he is and where it is going. That means that honesty rules your relationship. It’s even a bigger bonus if he turns his location on without you asking him to do so.
– He texts you letting you know who he’s hanging out with.
He never leaves you wondering with whom he is surrounded with. He makes sure to notify you every time he meets someone.
This creates a level of trust that leaves no space for jealousy or to question his loyalty. When you are aware of who he is meeting, and where he is, it creates a sense of security in the relationship.
– The conversations/texts are always fruitful.
He is loyal when you can maintain fun and deep conversations with each other.
Not only does this prove the trust in each other, but it also helps to create a deeper connection.
The conversations are always fruitful, and he never leaves you on read but has something new to add. This indicates how much effort he puts into strengthening your bond.
– He always tells you he loves you when texting.
When a conversation ends, it never ends without him telling you that he loves you.
This not only proves how faithful he is but also is a lovely and thoughtful gesture.
A simple bye isn’t enough for a relationship, he feels safe and always makes sure to express his feelings to you.
– He sends you pictures of any activity he is doing.
This is yet another positive sign of loyalty: He shows that he has nothing to hide and that he wants to share his joy and day with you.
A simple picture means nothing, but the idea of not letting you worry is the greatest indicator of a faithful partner.
Whether he is at a bar, gym, at work, or out with friends, a loyal partner occasionally sends you pictures to let you know what he is doing.
This gives you no reason to suspect him or question his loyalty.
Some extra stealthy ways to test his loyalty through the phone!
Loyalty is really important and, understandably, you want to make sure that your boyfriend is loyal before you put all your energy into commitment.
Robert Weiss, a therapist who has worked for over 30 years with couples who dealt with infidelity, concluded: “Men who cheat often give creative reasons, like denying their cheating or blaming their partner. These excuses often stem from denial and immaturity.”
If you suspect his intentions and question his loyalty, pay attention to how he acts with his phone:
| His phone behavior | Loyal | Disloyal |
| How open is he with his phone? | You know the passcode, you can take it freely. | He keeps it in his pocket and gets defensive if you take it. |
| Following list on social media. | It constantly stays the same, you know most people he follows. | It changes occasionally, and new unknown people appear. |
| How often does he text you? | Multiple times a day, occasionally the conversation doesn’t end until the end of the day. | He rarely texts you and keeps the conversations short. |
| How long does he take to text back? | He texts back very fast, and if he is busy, he spars some time to tell you. | It takes him hours and hours to reply to your texts, sometimes he ‘completely forgets.’ |
| Is he secretive while texting (does he hide his phone)? | He always tells you who he is texting, and if you’re feeling insecure, he allows you to read the conversation to reassure you. | He hides his phone, and when he receives a text, he is quick to delete the notification. |
This is pretty much everything you need to know if you want to know how loyal your boyfriend is through text.
Hoping you found this guide helpful, I’m wishing you good luck, because you will really need it this time.
Love,
Callisto.
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