The last thing you’d ever want is to call it quits with your beloved. Sometimes, two people move on happily after their breakup; however, it’s the opposite in some cases.
That breakup isn’t letting you stay in peace, I know.
If you feel the idea of getting back with your ex is impossible, it’s actually not.
Studies indicate 40-50% of individuals reunited with their ex to give a fresh start to their relationship.
Well, if they miss you, they will try their best to get your attention. And there are signs that give this off!
Here are 16 signs your ex is trying to get your attention!
1. Their friends Get in Touch With You.
After all your quarrels, you might not want to talk to them again. But they can’t sit quietly without contacting you, either.
That’s when they might employ their friends to get in touch with you.
If you suddenly find their pals contacting you, asking how you are doing, and initiating little conversations, it could be a prominent hint that their friend (your ex) has asked them to do so.
Your ex might want to understand how things are on your end if you’re seeing someone new, and whether you inquire about them to their friends.
This is an excellent hack to have your attention and among the possible signs that your ex wants you back!
2. They Don’t Take Care of Their Appearance.
Trying to look ‘messy’ is one of the ways to actually seek attention. But why?
One sign your ex is trying to get your attention might be when they hardly take care of their appearance.
All the glamor and self-love have been replaced by shabbiness and indifference.
They pick outfits that don’t match their body shapes, have unshaped hair, don’t groom, and have a very let-go look.
You can’t help but wonder why they are letting themselves go this way. Well, maybe because they want you to notice them!
They want you to realize they hardly care about themselves and are miserable since parting ways with you.
Deep inside, they’re hurting and might expect you to check on them!
3. They ‘Flaunt’ on Social Media.
Rather than playing it calm, your ex might take the ‘showoff’ route to grab your attention. Now, what’s that?
Well, if you find them posting too many quotes or pictures on their socials than usual, it could be among the signs your ex is trying to get a reaction from you.
I have always believed people try to show off either when they feel insecure about themselves or when they want to get noticed.
Now, you might ask why they do that. Why will they bombard their social media walls with too many pictures if they’re hurt?
Because they want you to think they’re doing great. It might piss you off enough to get in touch with them. That’s when their goal is achieved.
They want to get you jealous.
Did you notice any such activity recently with your ex?
You can’t stop thinking how they could move on so fast! It might be a cheesy trick to trigger your emotions; who knows?
4. They Claim to Be Very Sick.
Another big “I want your attention” sign from your ex is when they claim to be very sick.
We all have tendencies to get worried about someone we love and care about when they get sick. It’s like a reminder to not take them for granted.
Your ex is very well aware of this.
Now they’re likely to use it to get your attention. It is very common in the ex-relationship realm.
They want a chain reaction in your thought process. Something along the lines of: I might lose them, I’ve got to reach back out!
In that case, it’ll be a win for them because they’ve gained your attention.
5. They Try to Drag a Conversation.
If you’re missing them, you are likely to think, will they text you?
Every individual is built differently. While it can be expected to employ friends to ask for your updates, some people are courageous enough to come straight to the point.
Your ex might be one such person.
They might directly message you if they are trying to get your attention. Moreover, they’ll try to keep the conversation going to understand what’s going on in your mind:
- What are you doing this weekend?
- How are things at your work?
- No, but wait! Are you still hitting the gym?
Their approach might leave you confused and you can’t help but think should I text my ex?
Are they trying to drag the conversation even if you’re playing it cold? If yes, there is a high chance they’re keen on having your attention and might be expecting a reconciliation.
6. They Post Things That Resemble Your Relationship.
They want you back, or simply your attention.
Nothing works better than reminding you of the good moments.
It’s a lure to get you into the memory lane just enough to get convinced your relationship wasn’t worth ending.
One post that sparks a good memory will be just enough to get your attention hence accomplishing their goal.
7. They Went Radio Silence.
This is not your ‘no-brainer’ sign!
It’s not mentioned enough.
In some cases, this radio silence is simply them taking your no for an answer.
BUT, their radio silence can also be translated into a cry for attention. It’s a sort of a test.
Normally, you’d expect your ex to miss you and not resist the temptation to text you once they’d had a flashback of your sweet memories.
Well, once this expectation isn’t met, it’ll spark something within you. And just like that, they’ve got your attention.
… Or at the very least, they’ve got you thinking, “How could they move on so fast!”
8. You Bump Into Them in Random Places.
You went to a party last evening and ran into your ex. You hit the cafe after work last week, and your ex was already there. The list continues.
Lately, you’re running into them a lot. You might dismiss any thoughts, thinking it to be a coincidence, but is it really so?
How can accidental meets be repeated again and again? When they purposefully want to meet you.
Maybe your ex already knew you’d be going to that particular place, so they planned to be present there. Why?
The answer is simple: They want to have your attention and speak to you.
9. “Sorry, I sent this to you by mistake, I didn’t even realize.”
Your ex contacts you when they want your attention. However, sometimes they pull a different trick up their sleeve so that they don’t seem desperate.
They text you, they send you what they want to send you, but with a twist.
“Oopsie! Sorry, wrong person!”
Now they’ll have you thinking either “It’s so obvious what they’re doing,” or “Who the hell would they be sending this to?!”
10. They Made Dramatic Shifts in Their Life.
Since you still care about your ex, they’ll find a way to use it to their advantage.
Making dramatic shifts in their life is one of the ways they can get you thinking “Are they okay?”
Getting your attention doesn’t necessarily mean getting you to text them.
They got your attention the moment you started wondering about them or an action of them caught your eye.
Are they doing all the things you hate? Or perhaps the things you loved?
It might as well be their desperate attempt to get you thinking about them again.
11. They Bring up the Good Moments You Spend Together.
When to be super sure they are committed to having your attention? They bring up the good moments you had during your relationship while texting.
- Do you remember how we used to eat ice cream from that shop?
- Remember what happened on today’s date? We went to the theaters for the first time together!
You will find them texting this way to make you remember the good old times you had together.
They’re trying hard to understand whether you feel the same warmth remembering those special times.
12. They Start Oversharing The First Chance They Get to Talk to You.
Another sign they want your attention is when they start oversharing.
What I mean here is they might begin to share stuff that happened in their life after you parted ways.
Usually, even if two former partners start talking after a long break, there’s a fine line between them. They try hiding emotions and speak briefly.
If you find your ex doing the exact opposite, something must be going on in their mind.
So, what’s the scenario at your end? Does it feel your ex is sharing ‘too much’ information with you while texting?
If yes, it’s time for you to take a note. Maybe they’re desperate to seek your attention and are hoping for a patch-up!
13. They Talk a lot With Other People in Front of You.
Okay, this is weird but not impossible. The human mind works in strange ways, and this is one of them.
Your ex talking too much with other people in front of you might leave you thinking, what’s so important? Well, it’s nothing but a trick to make you feel jealous.
Studies show jealousy to be manipulative yet a very positive side of love.
If you’re feeling jealous of your ex-partner’s actions, you might still be in love with them.
You heard it right. If you still feel for them, seeing them behave this way will hurt you.
You might wonder if they want to make you feel jealous. Why are they doing so?
It may implore you to get in touch with them, and that’s precisely what they want! They want your attention, to force you to speak with them.
So, my friend, if you relate this with your ex’s recent behavior, there’s a high chance all of it is a plan to get your attention and reshape the bond like old times!
14. They are Inquiring About Your ‘New Partner’.
Here’s another sign that your ex is trying to get your attention.
You might start talking after a long time, and they ask, ” How’s your new relationship going? “
They don’t even know for sure if you’re in a relationship or seeing someone. So why would they ask this?
To find out whether you’re single right now or with someone.
And why would they bother asking their ex this question? Maybe because they still feel for their ex and want the attention!
We know that if someone is really over their ex, they’d have zero interest to know about their ex’s present relationship status.
If you have recently started talking to your ex and find them asking you about the updates on your ‘new relationship,’ count it as a sign they are trying to understand what’s happening in your life and if you’re still into them!
15. They Call You By a Different Name.
Partners give each other different nicknames while in a relationship. If not, they usually call each other by their name.
So if your ex is calling you by a different name and trying to create a distance, it could be another sign that they’re actually trying to get some attention from you.
Let me give you a little example. Consider a hypothetical situation:
Niki Taylor & Max Miller ex-partners. They used to call each other ‘honey’ and ‘Sweety’.
They have broken up and while having short conversations these days Niki is very cold and calls Max by the name “Mr. Miller.”
I’m good, thanks for asking Mr. Miller.
With this formal behavior, Niki is trying to push her ex away but deep inside craving his attention.
Got my point? So, if you find some similar gesture from your ex, there’s a chance they are trying to have your attention.
16. They Ask You To Meet.
As I have already mentioned, some people are too direct with their approach.
They wouldn’t be interested to take any other way but to directly ask you for a meet-up!
Can we meet and talk?
Is it possible to make a place next week?
These are some probable texts that you might expect from them. If you ask in response what it’s for, they won’t give a proper reply.
Let’s discuss that face-to-face.
How about we talk it out in person?
So my dear, why would your ex be interested in meeting you and having a discussion?
Well, maybe because they want you to think about them and keep pestering them with the question. That’s having attention from you!
And when you meet, they might bring up a patch-up discussion!
We end our discussion with the prominent as your ex wants to patch up. Love is beautiful, and having someone to deliver justice to the world is even better.
Ultimately, you must decide whether to respond to or ignore your ex’s hints. If you’re happy with how things ended, great! There is no need to reply to those texts.
But if you still regret how things went downhill between you, maybe give your relationship a second chance. Listen to your heart, my friend!