Have you encountered a situation when you like this man but you’re not sure if he is sexually attracted to you?
Indeed, this a difficult situation because even the mixed signals can be taken as signs that he’s attracted to you physically.
And emotional attraction or chemistry sometimes might be taken as a sign of sexual chemistry.
More precisely when a man to is attracted to you, no matter if he is an extrovert or introvert, he’ll step out of his way to do things for you.
But, to understand how a man is sexually attracted to you according to his personality and attachment style, here are 14 signs:
1. He’s nervous when around you
Body language is the first indicator that tells a lot about when a man is sexually attracted to you.
You notice that when he talks to you his voice range changes.
He uses a lower pitch when he is talking to you and when he’s talking to others you can notice that he uses his regular voice.
He starts to act somehow uncontrollably to some extent and is nervous around you.
Yet, nervousness can come up also as a sign of being shy.
But, if he acts normally with others and is nervous only when around you then he is sexually attracted to you.
2. He gazes at you
One of the signs that a man is sexually attracted to you is when he looks you up and down and gazes at you all the time.
He will look at you and smile so widely, yet the eye contact will be intense but he tries to not make it all awkward.
While he gazes at you, he’ll puff his chest and stretch his arm or touch his hair.
All of these elements are important to be noticed because only a simple gaze wouldn’t be enough to state whether he’s attracted to you sexually.
Indeed, it’s hard to get a grip on this situation if you don’t know him very well.
- So, the extra help of a relationship coach can help you to define his behavior by being subjective.
3. He gives you compliments that have a sexual undertone
If he gives you compliments that include sexual hints that mean he’s attracted to you.
He might give you straightforward or sometimes hidden compliments that reflect his feelings for you.
~“I’m burning from your sexiness.”
~ “Wow today is very hot but not hotter than you.”
Hence, it’s important to reflect properly on this issue and check out the circumstances and the meaning behind it.
If your boss is flirting with you and you find it inappropriate then it’s better to address this issue.
When it comes to a workplace sometimes it might be hard to set your boundaries since you might feel uncomfortable doing it.
- It’s important to set your boundaries by stating your rights in the workplace and asking for help from the administration.
4. He will act all flamboyant only towards you
A guy who acts flamboyant doesn’t necessarily mean that he’s sexually attracted to you.
Yet, if he acts all cocky and confident only in front of you that means that he’s looking to get your attention.
So, when a man is attracted to you sexually, he’ll do anything to attract you and act differently from other men around you.
5. He tries to take you from the crowd and talk to you alone
When a man is sexually attracted to you, he wants to talk and stay with you alone.
He craves to spend some time alone with you.
Even if he’s shy or has a greater ego, he’ll try to have a one-to-one conversation.
What defines his sexual affinity is the way he behaves when he’s alone with you.
If he is sexually attracted to you then he’ll get closer to you and speak to you softly in the ear.
Also, he’ll try to touch you and kiss you.
6. He breathes heavily and he has dilated eye pupils
When a guy finds you sexually attractive, he will get nervous and because of attractiveness he’ll breathe more heavily or his palms will sweat.
This all depends on his personality but when he is aroused and excited, then he’ll have heart palpations and excessive breathing.
On the other hand, if a woman is attracted to a man, she will express that differently.
She will twirl her hair and even bite her lip. Both genders use different methods to express arousal.
7. He finds it hard to concentrate while talking to you
When a guy is attracted to you, he will zone out and be in his own world.
At that exact moment, you might realize that he’s looking you in the eyes but seem a bit off.
This might also be an indicator that he’s not listening and is not interested in you.
But, when he’s sexually attracted to you and zoning out, you’ll notice that he’ll smile and come back to reality afterward.
Yet, it’s important to know that a man and a woman might experience and show attraction in different forms from one another.
Thus, try to be patient and understand his attachment style, whether he’s secure or anxious. This will help you a lot to define his attraction.
8. He tries to show that he’s better than any other male
He tries to be competitive with others in front of you just to show off and show his masculinity.
To be more specific, this type of behavior belongs to toxic masculinity but he tries to dominate to get your attention.
So, when a man tries to express his sexual attraction to you, he manifests that in different forms:
- He might belittle other men in front of you;
- He might constantly show that he’s more compatible with you than any other men from your entourage;
9. He will find excuses to touch you
Extensive physical touch is one of the signs that he is sexually attracted to you.
He’ll slowly brush your shoulder or he finds a way to subtly touch your hand.
And despite this, he’ll make excuses to just fix your hair, just to find a way to get near you.
Yet, if you feel uncomfortable with him touching you, and he does that without your consent try to communicate it with him.
Remember that if a guy is trying to touch you without your permission that is considered harassment.
If his behavior is disturbing you constantly then try to ask for help from your friends, family, or even professional help.
10. He treats you differently and more special than others
Sexual attraction can be quite complicated because even if you’re in a platonic relationship a guy can treat you differently.
But when he’s sexually attracted to you, he’ll give you specific attention and try to make you feel good about yourself.
Also, he tries to remember a lot of details about you, or he asks deep questions to get to know you better.
He’ll try to create a positive aura and a magnetic field to attract you more.
11. He mirrors your body language
When a guy is sexually attracted to you, he will mirror your gestures or facial expressions and flirt with you.
For example, if you’re frowning or smiling, he’ll do the same and tease you about it.
He might say something like: I love your face when you smile wildly.
When he mirrors your gestures or your posture, he’ll try to keep prolonged eye contact to create a deep connection.
12. He laughs at your jokes even if they aren’t funny
When a guy likes you and wants to build a rapport with you when he’s trying to find your jokes amusing.
In the meantime, he gives you compliments and tries to find a way to boost your ego.
This happens because when he’s sexually attracted to you, he’ll find ways to find you funny and charming.
13. He gets possessive or jealous when you hang out or talk to other men
If a guy is interested in you and finds you sexually attractive, he’ll try to ask many questions regarding your personal life.
If you inform him that you’ll hang out with your friends, he’ll try to ask who you’re going out with specifically.
The dating coach Mark Rosenfeld claimed that a guy that is into you will try to win your trust and be more interested in your life.
Hence, when a guy is constantly asking questions, stalking you, and being overzealous without dating you, he might be obsessive.
14. He invites you to hang out alone at his place
When a guy finds you sexually attractive, he’ll invite you to spend a romantic night at his place.
During this time, before inviting you, he’ll flirt a lot with you and compliment you a lot.
He’ll give you a special look and try to make you feel like the only girl in the world.
He will try to set the base before hanging out alone.
What to do if he’s sexually attracted to you?
The first thing that you should do when you think and feel that he’s sexually attracted to you, you should reflect on how you feel at that moment.
~Try to state your stance and boundaries to him.
If you feel uncomfortable then communicate your feelings. You might say to him something like: “I appreciate your intentions but I don’t share the same interest as you.”
On the other hand, if you find him attractive and you’re sexually attracted try to flirt subtly with him.
Smile at him and try to text him something funny and interesting.
When you make sure of your feelings then you might let him know how you feel.
~Stay calm and relaxed. Even if he reacts negatively to your statement, try to take yourself out of this situation.
You might block him if you don’t hang out with him and if he’s present in your life then try to ask for a restriction order if necessary.
The conclusion: How to spot that a man is sexually attracted to you?
It’s easier to spot if a man is sexually attracted to you by how he interacts with you.
He is stressed and seems to do the opposite of what he would say he would do.
It’s important to know that not all men react the same way when they’re sexually attracted to a woman.
That’s why you should take it one step at a time and set your boundaries.