There are two ways talking to somebody might go: you go on to have a relationship or one of you loses interest in the other.
If you are concerned about the second thing happening, i.e. a man losing interest in your relationship, I’ll show you how to tell!
The signs may be subtle or obvious, but knowing where he stands is essential in the development of your relationship (or if there’s even going to be one).
Why do guys lose interest?
When talking to somebody, we all have our quirks and icks that don’t necessarily reflect the other person’s personality.
When men lose interest, it’s usually because of something they’re feeling; whether it can be reversed or not depends on them.
1. They’re facing difficulties in life.
Stress, financial issues, family matters, etc. may make men less willing to uphold any connections, much less romantic ones.
Whether he’s simply distancing himself from you or this rough patch actually made him lose interest is yet to be realized!
2. There’s another woman.
She’s someone who recently entered his life or someone he hasn’t been able to let go of for years.
3. Some people are not good with relationships.
They have commitment issues and are afraid of how a relationship might impact their life and yours—this immediately makes them pull away.
4. Drifting apart.
Two people who initially started talking to each other with the purpose of getting into a relationship may get busy with life.
They get so occupied with their own professions and fields of study that they eventually drift away and start seeking the company of people whom they share similarities with.
5. They’re not too confident about a relationship.
This usually happens with difficult relationships—relationships in which toxicity and issues are present on the daily.
When a man starts having doubts about the credibility of the relationship he’s a part of, he’ll automatically start shutting down.
6. It’s a result of long-time dissatisfaction.
I believe this applies to most people: they don’t get their needs met in a relationship and, therefore decide to give up entirely.
Not exactly fair to give up without communicating with their partners; though we can’t exactly blame someone who repeatedly makes an effort but gets ignored by their s.o. for giving up!
7. They’ve been chasing for too long.
Many enjoy the feeling of being chased, unaware of the fact that overdoing it actually backfires.
Some guys like it when a person is hard to get, and some not so much; constantly being rejected makes them want to give up due to thinking the person they’re pursuing isn’t interested.
These 18 clear-cut signs will give you your answer:
Finding out whether your partner still has a thing for you is not too tough once you learn how to analyze his behavior.
If you’re reading this, then I’m sure your suspicions have already begun, more or less; however, it’s better not to assume things right off the bat.
These are the first signs a man who’s slowly losing interest will show:
1. He barely texts despite being online.
This is enough to make anybody worry, but did you know that when men stop texting even though they’re free it usually means they’re losing interest?
It has to do with them being available, yet unwilling to include you in their day-to-day life and might even be a sign he’s texting somebody else.
2. Your conversations are very dry.
Ask yourself whether he’s been dry-texting you lately!
Having low-quality conversations, or rather him dropping the quality purposely is a text sign he’s no longer crushing.
Short, dull texts with little to no substance to them are the culprit—let’s be honest, talks about the weather are not the move.
3. He pretends he’s so busy to the point he can’t talk at all.
Men tend to pretend they’re too busy when losing interest until their partners have had enough and decide to break up instead.
If you can feel it in your gut that your boyfriend is lying about being occupied, then he might be intentionally sabotaging your relationship.
4. You find yourself having to double-text him.
You’re often urged to double-text to get his attention because he has stopped texting you first or even responding to your texts for who-knows-how-long.
Both his not texting you first and taking an entirety to reply to your texts are potential signs that his interest is slowly dying out, hence I recommend that you ask him for an explanation.
5. You and him are back in that gray area.
Basically, the guy you’re dating abruptly stops treating you or seeing you as his significant other (without saying a word).
He puts you in the friend zone or starts making you doubt your relationship so that you save him the trouble of breaking up with you.
Also, he suggests breaking each little, trivial argument you have.
6. He’s confrontational all the time.
I’m emphasizing “all the time” because a man who feels as if he’s being forced into a relationship he is no longer interested in will suffer mood swings.
This is why he starts arguments over the most trivial of things, while actively choosing to ghost you instead of solving any relationship issues.
7. You rarely get to see his silly, light-hearted side.
The lighthearted aspect of a relationship is what brings a couple closer and helps loosen up!
This is why his new, serious demeanor is concerning, e.g. him not sending you spontaneous selfies, flirting with you, and cracking jokes to hear your laugh like he once did.
8. Your physical and emotional intimacy is suffering.
Or to paraphrase it, the guy you’re involved with is no longer giving importance to enriching your relationship’s emotional and physical intimacy.
He doesn’t talk about his emotional state, doesn’t ask about yours, and has put an end to your sex life without a word.
9. He doesn’t ask for updates.
It, unfortunately, doesn’t get more obvious that a person is losing interest than witnessing them eventually stop checking up on you.
I want you to ask yourself “How long has it been since he asked me how I was doing?”, and you’ll realize what his feelings truly are.
10. He no longer gets jealous.
I believe that a bit of healthy jealousy does not harm a couple as long as a partner isn’t overdoing it to the point it becomes toxic.
Many also see jealousy as a sign of affection, so if your man no longer feels jealous, that’s some bad news.
11. He doesn’t ask you out on dates.
It’s safe to assume that someone has put an end to their interest in you if they no longer plan dates, or at the very least initiate them.
In case you’re the only one always doing the asking, then this is most likely what’s happening.
12. Look out for non-romanticism!
It’s not atypical for romantic partners to stop acting affectionately once they start losing interest, and this is manifested in different ways:
- By not flirting;
- By being distant and even mean;
- By not using nicknames/pet names;
- By not telling each other “I love you.”, etc.
13. However, he is romantic with other people.
He flirts with other people but not you (his partner)—something definitely isn’t right, and the answer is quite clear.
When a man does this, he is usually cheating or at the very least trying to let you know he no longer wants to continue a relationship.
14. He’s either staying clear of sex or using you just for it.
Depending on your partner’s personality, he’s either not initiating anything because he’s lost interest, or reaching out to you for the sole purpose of sex.
The lack of sexual intimacy is unhealthy for a relationship, especially if the reason is not communicated by both parties.
15. He’s stopped texting you as soon as he wakes up and before he goes to sleep.
There is nothing cuter than receiving good morning and goodnight texts because they prove you’re the first and last thought on a person’s mind!
Interested people do this so as to “incorporate” you into their day, so it is a bit out of character for your boyfriend to stop texting you in the morning and at night.
16. You get the “scraps” of his day.
Do you know that feeling when somebody sends you like, 3-4 messages at the very end of their day, right before they go to sleep?
It’s as if they didn’t feel like doing it throughout the whole time and only decided to reach out to us out of sheer obligation.
17. He doesn’t bring up your changes.
Did your new haircut go unnoticed by him, although he always used to bring significant changes up?
It’s not like he hasn’t noticed (even though it is possible he hasn’t), it’s more about him deciding not to say anything about it.
18. He doesn’t give importance to significant dates.
Celebrating important dates together is where it’s at! Especially birthdays and anniversaries, which commemorate you and your guy being in each other’s lives.
If he doesn’t give such dates the importance they deserve all of a sudden, he might not be interested in pursuing a relationship any further.
6 ways to get him interested in you again — rekindling the spark!
If you really like this guy and wish to give it your all so that you can rekindle that spark between you two, there are some things you can try:
– First, make sure everything’s okay on his end.
He may be going through a tough period which ultimately made him lose interest in all people, you included.
Discuss his behavior with him and ask him if anything is bothering him lately; show him he can trust you and that he has your support no matter what.
– Don’t chase him, give him space.
The more available someone is to you, the less allured you’ll be—this concept applies to a surprisingly large number of people.
So, give chasing him a little break and give him the space he wants; instead of waiting for a reply, focus on your life and friends.
– Live your best life and post about it on social media.
“Dang, she doesn’t need me to have a good time.” is what he’ll think once he sees you living your best life.
The next time you do something fun, post about it on social media as a signal to him that you don’t need a relationship in order to feel fulfilled!
This will impress him while also removing any pressure he might’ve been feeling about behaving a certain way with you.
– Make him jealous.
You hate to admit it but jealousy is essential in all relationships because it puts the fact that other people want your partner into perspective.
This makes him want you all for himself.
You can trigger his jealousy by mentioning a guy every now and then, going out with guy friends, or having a guy friend of yours interact with your posts.
– Integrate fun in your relationship.
Plan outings, make each other laugh, and spice up your intimate life so that he never has enough of the relationship.
– Make him feel needed.
When a man feels appreciated, wanted, and needed by his significant other, he’ll keep coming back for more.
Ask him to help you if you need help and request his opinion when you’re in a bind—you don’t have to let go of your independence, of course, but if you actually need him, there’s nothing wrong in admitting it.
Showing appreciation goes a long way too!
Interest is what glues two people together…
When we think about it, every relationship starts with two people who are interested in each other—friendship and romance alike.
That interest sometimes grows into something much bigger over time for one person and not the other, and this is where the problem begins.
But don’t forget that people have the right to act according to their feelings, and just like us, they don’t like feeling pressured into returning those feelings!
Love,
Callisto
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