Men express their needs and feelings differently from women and from one another too.
For example, if he’s an introvert and wants you badly sexually, then he will go out of his comfort zone to spend more time with you.
On the other hand, if he’s an extrovert, you’ll notice that he’s impatient and he’ll give a lot of sexual hints.
To draw that line once and for all, here are 11 accurate signs he wants you sexually:
1. He plays a lot with your hair and touches you
Physical contact is an important factor to define whether he wants you badly sexually or not.
You might notice that he tries to get even the slightest chance to touch you and build sexual tension between you two.
Hence, whether he is touchy and how he approaches you depends on his personality.
If he is introverted or shy, you’ll notice that he suddenly starts to act weird and ask you indirectly to spend time with him.
- One thing that he might do is hang out more with your friends or frequent the same places as him. He might even try to sit next to you.
2. He texts only at night
When he wants you badly sexually he tries to talk to you during the night mostly to quench his sexual desires.
He might ask you to talk on the phone or go to his place, like, VERY OFTEN.
Yet, to make sure that he wants you badly sexually and that he is booty-calling you, you need to make a difference between sexual and emotional attraction.
If he wants to build up an emotional connection first, he won’t only text you at night.
He might send a good morning and good night text or ask deep questions.
Whereas, when he wants you badly sexually, or he wants to talk is sex-related, preferably at midnight.
3. He asks you a lot to send him pictures
One of the signs that he wants you badly sexually through text is when he asks you to send him a lot of selfies or provocative pictures.
If he constantly asks about your pictures because only by contacting you this way he can ignite his sexual fantasies.
Yet, it’s important to be careful and not share pictures with strangers. Because he might use these photos to blackmail you or for other bad reasons.
So, first make sure about his intentions by asking him questions about his preferences, relationships, and the future.
4. He tries to brag about his sexual skills in front of you
Instead of complimenting you about your look or hitting you with sexual innuendos, he chooses to brag about his skills regarding sex.
An alpha man or someone who has a greater ego will use his “sexual superiority” to get your attention.
This isn’t a pleasant way to tell that he wants you badly sexually but he needs this boost to make a move.
If this makes you feel uncomfortable, it’s important to let him know.
If you don’t know how to utter your feelings or handle this situation, a relationship coach will help you to solve it like a pro.
5. Whenever he sees you he starts smiling and touching his hair
I’ve been in love with a guy named Jeff for two years during my early twenties.
But, I never knew that he felt the same and he wanted me badly sexually.
A friend of mine told me that body language says it all. And yes, that was very true.
Every time that he was in the same place as me, he start to smile wildly and touch his hair out of nowhere.
Other than this he might even start to puff his chest or talk softly in your ear.
6. He lets you know about his sexual fantasies
If he isn’t sexually attracted to you, he won’t bother to let you know that he is thinking about you sexually.
Yet, if you’re already dating or in a relationship and he wants you badly sexually, he will share his wildest fantasies with you.
He might communicate this information to you because he wants to make you feel comfortable before engaging in any type of sexual activity together.
If you aren’t interested in participating or hearing these types of stories then you should let him know that you don’t feel the same way.
7. He wants to know what attributes attract you to a guy
When a guy is sexually attracted to you, he will ask you a lot of questions regarding love, lust, and your preferences.
You might notice that every type of conversation is turned into a conversation regarding attraction and sex.
He tries to create “alone time” with you, so he can get your opinion about this matter.
If you give him a certain answer regarding what type of guy you find attractive, you might find him trying to change into that guy.
8. He becomes very energetic when he’s around you
Men’s hormones are wild!
If he indeed wants you badly sexually, he might become very energetic and goofy around you just to get closer to you or get your attention.
He might compliment you a lot on your appearance and make comments about how cute you would look on top of each other.
Thus, he doesn’t want you to chase him because now he’s acting according to his feelings and sexual needs.
If you find this type of behavior offensive, you might take a step back and choose to not comment or let him know your boundaries.
9. He “accidentally” kisses you on the cheek
When a guy wants you badly sexually, he might search for ways to get close to you and touch you.
So, if you have noticed that he has started to get close to you and then has started to causally touch you, he is trying to get close.
If you don’t give him a reason to step back, he will take this to the next level.
He will play the pretending game when he will “accidentally” kiss you on the cheek.
If you’re unsure of his intentions then don’t try to ignore his behavior or reply to him with just “It’s fine”.
Because he might get the wrong message if you don’t state your opinion.
10. He makes jokes about how he’s sexually attracted to you
One of the most fundamental signs that he wants you badly sexually is when he acts like he doesn’t care about you but still comments on it.
He might make sexual jokes and give you hints.
Something that he might say is “Ohh, it will look like I am doing charity work but I would have a one-night stand with (your name).”
Most of the time, these types of comments might be offensive, but he will do it to hide his feelings while underlying what he truly feels.
11. He flirts with you harshly
I don’t want to imply that all men act rudely when they want you badly sexually, but this depends on his love language.
If he is only able to express his needs by somehow being way too straightforward with his words.
For example, if you’re at a coffee shop and meet a guy while waiting in line.
He might try to show how much he is attracted to you by commenting something like:
“You won’t need to order the London Fog to wake up because I’ll wake up with my kisses if you go on a date with me.”
“I know that you aren’t resisting me because I am hotter than that Vanilla Latte.”
What to do if he wants you badly sexually? (How to react)?
After you have confirmed that he wants you sexually, you should define if you’re attracted to him or not.
If he wants you badly sexually but you don’t want him that way then the first thing you should do is communicate your needs, opinion, and feelings.
In general, a man that has low self-esteem won’t welcome your decision even though you’re being kind while stating your boundaries.
But, try to react as you feel in reality.
1. Do not send him mixed signals.
If he is good looking one cannot deny that you might not want him sexually but you still have a slight crush on him.
So, at this moment, you might feel mixed up and you will reflect this type of thinking and energy to him.
You might accept and deny continuously his sexual hints or compliments. And this type of behavior might make him confused too.
So, define if you feel the same way as him and then the rest is easy.
2. Don’t get too sexual with him if you think it’s too early.
Every relationship isn’t the same and how people interact with someone else sexually depends on their priorities.
So, being too early to be sexual with him depends on how close you’re to one another and what you feel.
But, never go out of your way to adjust to his needs. Never lose your personality in this process.
3. Respect his approach but state your boundaries.
It doesn’t mean that you need to agree to his behavior or be ruthless.
You can praise his desire to be with you but if you don’t feel the same then you can let him know subtly that you share another opinion.
Even if you let him know why you’re not badly sexually attracted to him, don’t use a reason to compare him with someone else or put him down.
4. If you want him badly sexually then start making a move.
If you’re sure that you want him badly sexually, you can respond to his needs as long as you feel comfortable and safe.
As the author Emily Nagoski claims that “Love is having. Desire is wanting. And you can want what you don’t already have.”
Once, you know that what you feel is not lust but love, you can even text him sexual innuendos or use suggestive language.
It all depends on how he treats you and what type of intentions he has.
5. If you don’t feel safe then you can seek a therapist’s help.
If you think and feel that he’s doing way too much and putting pressure on you then you can talk to a therapist.
They might help you be subjective and define his behavior from another perspective.
Because if this is your first sexual experience then you might feel overwhelmed and lost.
Even the smallest act of him might look a lot to you.
So, asking a sex therapist or counselor for help won’t do you harm. It will only help you to decide how to react.
Wrapping it all: Defining when he wants you badly sexually!
When he wants you badly sexually, you’ll notice that his actions to touch and know you deeply will be constant.
He attempts to spend more time with you and get’s out of his routine to be alone with you.
Yet, you should never assume that he wants you badly sexually only by analyzing his behavior.
If you want to make sure of it then try to communicate openly with him and draw your boundaries.
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