Many men are known for their fear of commitment and settling down.
They want to enjoy their single life as much as they can and get the most out of it.
Sometimes they even lose a great woman just because they’re not ready to settle down.
Some other men don’t believe in marriage and don’t think of it as a necessary thing.
For them, you could be happy together for life and not be married and it’s not that getting married is going to change anything.
Now you’re asking yourself if that’s the case with your man?
Or you’re sensing that something is up and want to make sure that he wants to marry you.
The best way to go about this situation is to straight up ask him and discuss if he plans to marry you, or if he has other intentions with you.
But, if you don’t want to ask him directly, you can read the signs below and see if they match your partner to decide if he wants to marry you.
1. He’s there for you through ups and downs
If he has seen you at your worst and still wants to be with you, he’s a keeper.
When you think about a relationship, only good things come to your mind at first.
But being able to commit to a relationship goes beyond that.
It’s easy to be with someone at the peak of their life when everything is well and happy.
A lot of people tend to give up when times are tough and can’t handle those harsh times.
But, being with someone through the bad days, and not using their vulnerability against them is a quality of good people.
If your partner has seen you at your best and your worst, and still wants to be with you, he most likely plans to spend the rest of his life with you and eventually marry you.
So, was he there for you on your bad days?
2. He wants to know about your childhood
Does he want to know if you were fighting with your siblings when you were a child?
Or how your childhood experiences made you the person you are today.
You learn a lot of things about a person if they open up to you and tell you about their childhood.
If he wants to marry you, he wants to spend the rest of his life with you and he wants to know the person he is marrying not just on the outside appearance but your real self.
Someone who only wants to be with you for a short period, or who just wants to waste time with you would not care about your childhood.
On the other hand, for men, sharing their childhood memories might be private and something they don’t want to share.
So, if he also tells you about his childhood, he’s moving in the right direction to put a ring on your finger.
3. You can’t stay away from each other
Not being able to stay away from each other is something that mostly applies if you’re living together.
You’re always used to staying together and doing everything together, that the second they leave the house you miss them and don’t know what to do without them.
You can’t even drink your coffee without them, right?
As much as it could be unhealthy to not be able to not stay away from each other if you’re in a healthy relationship, this is as healthy as it gets.
It’s nice to know that they miss you and want to always be with you; it shows how much they love you.
And even if you’re fighting, they’d rather fight with you than be away from you.
And if you’re not living together, it can apply too.
But, when you’re not living together, you’re not used to being with them all the time so it’s a bit easier.
You’re already planning your next date, whenever you get together.
And if he can’t stay away from you, he can’t stay away from marrying you.
4. You’re each other’s diary
Ah, to have someone as your ‘dear diary’!
Nowadays, it’s very rare to find someone to tell everything to.
It’s in our human nature to want to get our thoughts and opinions heard and accepted.
If you tell each other everything that comes to your mind, including the smallest unimportant things, without feeling judged, he definitely sees you as the one.
Having someone to tell everything to just like you tell your diary is the best thing that strengthens your relationship.
- Being a diary to your partner will help you know how their mind works
- You know what they’re going through
- You know what they like and what they don’t
Now the key to being in a healthy relationship is communication.
If you know what he likes and what bothers him, you’ll act according to that to maintain a healthy relationship.
And if the relationship is based on open communication with each other, you have an unbreakable bond together and are heading toward a long road together.
And who wouldn’t like to marry someone they can tell everything to?
5. You bring out the best versions of each other
If he intends to commit to you and marry you someday, he’s always going to try to bring out the best version of you.
And if you try to bring out his best version of himself, you’re being the ideal couple.
We tend to want to spend most of our time with people who bring out the best in us because we feel better about ourselves.
And feeling good about yourself is a starting point to loving other people more and especially your significant other.
Bringing out the best version of each other can mean:
- You don’t judge each other,
- You make them feel loved,
- You empathize with them,
- You accept them as a person,
- You don’t point out their flaws.
When you marry someone, you’re not always going to be the best version of yourself, but having a partner who helps you to do so is a crucial part of building a marriage.
And he’ll never lose interest in you when you’re always trying to lift him up and not bring him down.
So, if you and your partner are always trying to bring out the best in each other, you better believe he wants to marry you.
6. You raise pets together
Raising pets together is a BIG deal.
He’s practically saying he wants to have your babies.
Raising a pet is similar to raising a baby, and it shows he’s eventually going to commit.
And you know that people usually get married first, then have babies,
It also adds more to your responsibilities. You’ll have less:
If you can manage to raise a pet, feed it, play with it, and keep it happy and content, you’re ready to commit to having a baby together.
Babies are not as easy as pets, but the commitment is the same since you also see your pet as your baby and you have to take care of it.
Pets give their owners very special moments and experiences, and if he wants to raise it with you, he sees you as someone very close and someone special.
And call yourself lucky if you’re his special someone!
7. He helps with house chores
If he’s helping with the house chores, he’s husband material.
First of all, it’s important for everyone to do house chores.
It’s not only the woman’s job to do that.
If you’re living in that environment together it’s important that everyone does their part.
Not a lot of men help with the house chores, even though it’s the bare minimum they should do.
But if he does help, everyone wins in this situation.
- They finish the chores faster
- They have more free time to spend together
- None of you gets too tired
That way, you won’t feel like you’re his maid, doing everything for him when he can do them himself.
And, he can clean up after himself and not feel like a burden to you.
Even though you should expect him to do the chores around the house the same as you, men don’t always do that, so if he does he’s planning to stick with you long-term and eventually marry you.
8. You’re two halves of a whole
You complete each other. That’s it.
If he wants to marry you, it means he is okay with himself, he has built his personality, worked on himself, and knows his worth.
When you have both built your personalities, it’s easy to get along with each other.
Now everything that’s left is getting together with your significant other where you complete each other in every possible way.
You take care of one another when one of you is sick.
You support each other’s dreams and ambitions.
You calm down one another when things get heated.
Your personalities align in a way that you feel like you complete each other.
And who would feel those things if they were not planning on marrying you someday?
9. He prioritizes you
He’s a walking green flag if he prioritizes your wants and needs before everything else.
He always puts you first, when it comes to spending time with you or whatever has to do with you.
A man who wants to marry you prioritizes you.
- He changes his plans to fit yours
- He always makes you feel seen
- He takes you out on dates
- He takes your opinion into serious consideration
He would rather spend the evening with you, or go on a date with you than go out with his friends or do something else.
And that’s how you know he’ll always put you first and wants to marry you someday.
10. He never gets tired of listening to your problems
Are you always whining at him about everything that bothers you and he never complains?
If he puts up with even the most minor inconveniences that happen to you, he doesn’t have a problem listening to you all day long.
He can listen to you about the way you confronted your friend, how your sister is always taking your clothes, the rude woman who came into your work today, …pretty much everything.
And that’s the key to a girl’s heart, listening to her.
He must really love you and want to marry you if he never gets tired or bored of listening to your problems.
And he’ll never get tired of helping you solve them.
11. You’ve met each other’s family and friends
Family and friends are a big part of a person’s life, especially when it comes to making such big decisions as marriage.
Meeting his friends and/or family is yet another one of the strong and clear signs that he wants to marry you.
Including you with his family and friends, but also showing the willingness to become part of yours as well, is a way of taking the relationship to a deeper level.
It’s a way of growing the connection stronger and firmer. You’re getting more involved with each other as the commitment keeps getting stronger.
12. He asks you questions about marriage
If you haven’t discussed marriage before, he’ll try to open the way that leads to such discussion once he sets his mind to marriage.
When he wants to marry you he starts getting concerned about whether you’re on the same page or not.
If not directly about marriage, he’ll be asking you questions that correlate with it. Questions about living together, thoughts on having a family, etc.
13. The future plans are long-term
A strong sign of commitment and devotion to the relationship is future plans.
If marriage or at the very least commitment is in mind for the future of this relationship, then the plans with you will be long-term.
You’ll be a part of his plans, a part of his future, and he’ll expect the same from you – to involve him in your future as well.
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14. You’re a big part of his decision-making process
If he’s planning to marry you, you’ll be an important part of his life. This will be very significant when it comes to making decisions.
Be it financial, relationship, or ‘emotional’ decisions, when he plans to have a long-term future with you, you’ll be a big part of the process.
This means he takes and considers your opinions when he’s about to make particular decisions that can affect his life.
He sees you as a long-term partner rather than just someone who’ll eventually fade from his life.
15. He’s into the idea of marriage
A man that’s not into the idea of marriage is not the man who’ll marry you or anyone. At least not in the near future!
Marriage is discussed at some point in a romantic relationship, it might not be a discussion with a “Would you marry me in the future?” nuance to it, but it’s rather something general that can have your intentions put clearer.
If he’s the type to be into the idea of marriage, and he’s been showing most of the signs mentioned above, you’ve got yourself a man thinking, or planning marriage with you.
So, is he ready to pop up the question?
Just because he might not be ready right now doesn’t mean he won’t be in the future.
This also depends if you want to get married now or you can wait for him to be ready.
However, that is, if you want to marry him, there’s nothing wrong with you asking the guy to marry you.
You don’t have to wait for him to ask you if you want to get married now.
You can sit down and have a conversation with him to be completely sure if he’s planning to marry you in the future or not.
This way you clear things up and make it easier to spot each other’s intentions for both of you.