13 signs he wants a relationship: How can you be sure?

When a guy wants a relationship, you will be his main focus. Usually, he will back up his words with actions when he develops strong feelings.

Some men will tell you that they’re ready for a relationship only through actions. 

When his feelings aren’t strong enough or he is afraid of a commitment, he wouldn’t be interested in something serious.

If he aims to be in a relationship with you, he will stick around. This means that if he is ready for the long haul, he will be persistent.

I understand that this situation raises many questions because every person is different.

Hence, the one who is ready to step up will work towards that aim!

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The difference between a Fling and a Relationship

Making the difference between these two is not hard but there are external elements that make it more complex.

1. When he just wants a fling he doesn’t make an effort to get to know more about you. You will feel like something is missing.

2. If he wants a relationship, he will initiate texts and calls. He would even call out of nowhere just to check up on you.

3. When it’s just a fling, he wouldn’t be sure about his feelings about you.

4. When he isn’t seeking a relationship, he will keep his dating options open. In this case, he might keep an online dating profile and keep dating other people.

5. Talking about the future together is one of the elements of starting a relationship.

If he is down only for a short flirty type of relationship, he would avoid the topic of the future.

6. One of the crucial elements of a relationship is being vulnerable and understood by him. When that is just a fling, it will feel like some piece is missing.

Yet, all people tend to perceive these two terms differently. 

For someone, building intimacy will be a sign of privacy, as others will take emotional intimacy as such.

Without further due, here are 13 signs he wants a relationship:

1. He is no longer keeping his dating options open

When he wants a relationship and is ready to commit he will shift his focus.

This means that he is ready to invest his time and feelings only in you.

When he leaves options open then he is searching for a person that he is compatible with.

If he is still not sure about how he feels about you, he wouldn’t take the step to date you exclusively.

This also depends on him, because some people like to keep options open and some don’t.

It depends also on their vision and aims. 

If he is someone that wants to find a long-term partner then he might prefer and not prefer to keep the options open.

That’s all because some people want to focus on one person and find a potential partner. 

Whereas, others might find their potential partner by dating multiple people.

2. He wants to spend more time with you

In this situation, you start to feel a deeper connection with him.

The moment he wants to spend more quality time with you means that he wants to be more serious.

When a man starts to bond with you and is persistent to meet you, that goes beyond a crush/fling/or lust.

What I should point out, in this case, is his approach and how you spend this time.

A guy might want to spend time with you and keep you around just to fulfill his needs. 

If he wants a relationship he will balance his needs, his aim, his feelings, and everything in between.

3. You meet his friends and family more often

When a guy doesn’t want a relationship, he will be pocketing you.

Well, this means that he will avoid meeting your friends and family and vice versa.

On the contrary, when he wants a relationship he will include you in his circle of friends and family.

When a guy introduces you to his friends and family, this means that he is already accepting you in his life.

When you get this opportunity, it always means that you are a step closer to a serious relationship.

To make it more clear, he is not ashamed and does accept you as someone important in his life.

4. He opens up to you

It’s true that for men is hard to be vulnerable in a relationship, especially in the beginning.

Hence, if he starts to be gradually vulnerable with you, this is a good sign.

The communication style can change once he feels safe and appreciated.

When a guy feels that he has found the one, he puts his guard down in a way.

This is one of the sure-fire signs he wants a relationship because being vulnerable isn’t easy.

When he is ready to let you dig deeper into his heart and mind, this means he trusts you. 

This means that he is ready to make you a part of his life.

5. He makes you feel safe and appreciated

When he wants a relationship you will be his priority and you will be yourself.

It won’t be hard to be vulnerable with him. It won’t be hard to be yourself and express what you’re thinking or feeling.

On the contrary, when a guy isn’t interested to have a relationship:

• He would not give you special attention;
• He would make you feel small from time to time;
• He wouldn’t be interested in connecting with you emotionally;

When a man loves you, he will be certain about his feelings and carry you on that journey.

6. He tries to connect emotionally with you

If he is dating you just to pass the time or that’s just a fling he will be emotionally distant.

Mostly, your conversations will be regarding having fun, intimacy, and general things.

A man that is not emotionally attracted to you, wouldn’t bother to get to know more of you.

On the other hand, when he is trying to connect with you emotionally, he will be very attentive.

1. He will notice your mood swings;

2. He tries to work things out;

3. He tries to listen to you;

Overall, when he wants a relationship, his aim will be to enhance communication and build a bond.

7. He embraces your flaws

Being accepted for who you are by a lover is a challenge in a nutshell.

If he wants to be with you and start a relationship then he would try to understand both sides.

I know that everyone is not perfect and life has its ups and downs, but creating a relationship is to overcome it.

This doesn’t mean that he will put on hold that part or delete that part from your lives.

This means that he is willing to accept his and your flaws and try to work on them together.

8. You’re a part of his long-term plans

Talking about the future together is one of the signs that he wants a relationship.

If he wasn’t sure about his feelings and didn’t want a relationship with you,  he wouldn’t include you in his plans.

Instead of doing it, he would suggest you live in the moment or avoid talking about the future.

When he wants a relationship with you, you won’t have to chase him and remind him about your future.

9. He compliments you in a special way

Compliments are a crucial element even when dating or when you’re in a relationship.

Other than this, what makes the difference is the way he delivers compliments.

When a guy wants a relationship with you, he will compliment you differently.

By differently I mean that he will know when to compliment your intelligence, your wit, and your features.

He knows how to combine them and doesn’t give compliments just to fulfill his needs but because he feels like that.

10. He always makes sure to ask you for another date

A guy that is interested to have a relationship with you, will initiate the following date.

In this case, he will make sure that you should be focused on him and that he is prioritizing you.

When he is interested, he wouldn’t end the date by saying:

 “See you” or “I will call you later on during the week”.

He would catch the first opportunity to set the following date.

His words would be something like: “Are you free next Sunday?” Or “What are you doing this week?”

In this aspect, he will be quite straightforward and clear.

11. He checks up on you

When he worries about you and is supportive, he will take this to another level.

A relationship is built on good communication, connection, and effort to understand each other.

You might talk to someone constantly but they won’t bother to ask how you are or how things are going.

In this case, you should pay attention to the way he reaches out to you.

If he offers you help or any type of advice then he loves you and is worried about you.

12. He doesn’t play hot and cold

The moment when a guy doesn’t play hot and cold then he is ready for a relationship.

Now, he isn’t trying to take things slowly and is sure about his feelings.

He won’t show signs of disinterest or be distant from you. 

The moment that he is sure that he is enjoying time with you and you make them better, he won’t back up.

This might also depend on his personality because he might love you but he’s afraid.

In some cases, it might look to him that things are progressing so far and he needs more time.

The main thing is that when he wants a relationship, he would try to overcome these issues just to be with you.

13. He mentions that he is ready for something serious

One of the most definitive signs that he wants a relationship is when he has the “can we talk” conversation.

How he delivers his aim and message all depends on his personality.

Sometimes, he might choose to give you hints from time to time and get closer to you.

On the other hand, he might do all these things and want to have a conversation with you.

This means that he is upfront and honest.

Hence, be careful because these words should be backed by actions, otherwise all would be meaningless.

How long does it take a man to know he wants a relationship?

When it comes to answering this question, you can’t have only one right answer.

The answer to this question depends on his personality and how long it takes him to process his feelings.

~In general, a person will know that he is compatible with someone during the two first months of dating.

Know that men tend to lust quickly, but it takes a longer time for them to love.

On the other hand, women are more sensitive and tend to catch feelings faster than men.

Yet, if you are dating him for six months or a year, that is way too long to not know if he wants a relationship.

~The moment he feels happy and himself while spending time with you, he will know that now he is ready.

In this situation, he will be eager to learn more with you and spend more time with you.

To be more specific, he knows he wants a relationship, the moment he feels something special.

However, feelings are something that can’t be determined in a second. That’s why he needs some time to process and be sure of what he feels.

FAQ: How do I know for sure that he wants a relationship?

1. What makes a man want a relationship?

It depends on a man’s personality what pushes him to go from dating into a relationship. 

It could be the mutual vulnerability when two of you go from the feeling of love to discussing unpleasant things.

Other than this, he could have a deep feeling in his stomach when he sees you making him want to see you more often.

2. What makes a man commit to a woman?

There is no formula since every man has a different personality.

Hence, a man can feel ready to be in a relationship when he feels understood, appreciated, and respect his boundaries.

It’s all about experiencing love, compassion, and overcoming the issues together that make him want to commit.

Conclusion- When a man wants a relationship…

When a man wants a relationship you will feel it in your gut.

This answer might seem cliche to you but you’ll notice it the moment you feel the positive vibes from him.

So, in a few words, you’ll be his main focus. He will initiate everything so he can be present in your life.

Remember, no man shares his deep feelings without wanting a relationship with you.

Hence, be careful, every person has a different opinion about relationships.

Set your boundaries and take things slowly, everything else will fall into place.

Best wishes,

Callisto