His snuggling feels safer, and you find yourself craving his presence. You feel the need to spend more time with him now and it looks like he wants the same.
But you are wondering if he feels the same for you. Does he want to commit to you, or is this just a game?
Survey research done on men shows that men are healthier when they are in a relationship or married, compared to those single or divorced.
If you want to know if he sees you as long-term without asking and making things awkward. You can decode his intentions by the way he acts around you.
1. He is willing to change for you.
A big sign that he wants to get serious with you, is his willingness to change for you.
He wants to allow his love to lead him, and in doing so, change himself.
He makes sure to not push you away with any of his bad habits.
He changes his habits, gets rid of his vices, and puts you at his center of attention.
2. He treats you differently.
He puts you first and makes sure you are comfortable, and having fun. But this is not something he does with everyone.
This often signals a particular importance of your presence in his life.
Whether there’s a difference in the way he treats you and others or in the way he treated you before and now, this difference – if positive, of course – signals a long-term tendency.
3. His affection towards you is undeniable.
There isn’t a day when he doesn’t compliment you. He makes sure that you feel happy, content, and confident.
He buys you gifts and surprises you with date nights and activities you want to do. He tries his best to make you happy and even ‘spoil’ you.
He does so out of care. And this is a great sign of energy investment into this relationship signaling he sees you more than a short-term partner.
4. You became the most important part of his life, and his friends know.
His attention is mostly on you. It is clear from his behavior that he has made you his priority.
This becomes even more apparent when his friends point it out.
He spends all of his free time with you and is always reassuring you that he is there for you.
He wants you to be happy and comfortable and tries to take care of you the best he can.
5. All of his plans, include you too.
It’s beautiful how selfless a man becomes when he falls in love. When he loves you, there is no part of his life that he doesn’t include you.
That’s why he is always planning life and the future, and you always have a place in those plans.
He also makes surprises with planned trips just for the two of you.
6. He trusts you with his vulnerability.
When a relationship is about to flourish, secrets and the past need to be discussed to avoid issues in the future.
It takes a high level of trust to be vulnerable and open up about the past and the secrets.
But a man who is in love and sees you long-term has no issue doing so.
He will open up and talk to you because he trusts you and hopes to build something beautiful together.
7. He pays attention to small details about you.
A great sign that he wants you long-term is how much attention he pays to you, and small details. A man in love is always observant of little things.
He will notice small things about your appearance, and compliment you on.
But what’s even more beautiful is how he notices small changes in your mood and tries to make it better.
If this would be short-term, he would be inattentive and wouldn’t truly try to make things better.
8. He constantly wants to be around you.
He sees you as long-term when you notice that he can’t go a day without calling you or meeting up. He wants to be in your presence.
The time you have together is quality time and isn’t interfered with by excuses to go or leave before planned.
You can also notice his sadness when you say goodbye or goodnight.
9. He comes to you for advice.
For every decision or issue, he finds his way to you. He turns to you for advice and believes in your judgment.
He feels free to ask you about anything and believes you to give the best answer. He relies on you, therefore he wants to be with you.
10. He does his best to handle conflicts well.
Arguments, even though bitter, are a normal part of a relationship. It is okay to disagree on certain topics.
What matters is how he reacts to a fight. Is he prone to start an argument, or does he evade it?
A man who sees you long-term will do his best to handle conflicts better. Even more, he won’t flee once the road gets bumpy!
He always apologizes, makes sure you’re okay, and makes sure you’re on the same page and over the argument.
11. He shows all the qualities of a committed partner.
A man that wants you long-term, will show all the qualities of a committed partner.
With his behavior, he’ll show you that he wants to have a committed relationship with you.
Traits that he will exhibit are:
12. He is attracted to you physically and emotionally.
Attraction and intimacy play a big role in a working relationship. A man who wants to have a serious relationship will show signs of both of them.
He will be highly attracted to you, and constantly drop hints of wanting you. But he will also work hard to build a healthy emotional connection.
A long-term healthy relationship takes both physical intimacy and emotional intimacy to be part of it. And he’s very well aware of it!
13. He helps you solve your problems and invest time in you.
A man who’s in love with you and sees you long-term won’t let you face your problems on your own.
He will always be there for you, in good and bad times. And will always try to help you overcome your problems, just for you to not be stressed.
This way, he tries to protect you, and also invest his time in this relationship. He tries to show how much of a reliable and worthy partner he can be.
14. He shares everything he has with you.
A relationship is considered a responsibility. So a man considers his woman as his responsibility.
Therefore he doesn’t mind sharing everything he has with you. It doesn’t matter if it is food, his phone, his car, or even his living space.
If he sees you long-term, he’ll be happy to share his life with you, and everything in it. That’s a big green flag about how serious he is about you.
15. He has deleted all dating apps, and cut contact with his previous flings.
If you met through dating apps, and you find out that he has deleted them all, that is a sign of how things are going in his eyes.
Another thing that also shows a lot, is if he has cut contact with all of his previous flings. This indicates that his primary focus is you.
He wants to make sure you don’t feel threatened by the presence of past flings in his life, because he’s not in for a short time. He’s in for the long haul.
16. His phone is open to you.
He never hides his phone from you, and you already know his passcode.
You don’t even need to stress out because he already posts you or about you. He shows you off and lets the world know you’re together.
This not only proves that he sees you long-term, but displays sure signs of loyalty, and even better, he is proud of you, and to have you.
17. He doesn’t try to hide what he wants with you.
Whatever he wants from you, he will make it obvious. If he wants a long committed relationship he won’t hide it.
It is good to let your intentions be known from the beginning. By this none of you waste your time, if the other isn’t interested.
But if he displays all of these behaviors, it won’t go long until he talks openly about it. He already doesn’t try to hide it from you.
18. His presence brings you peace.
We all have had people in our lives that were walking chaos. As thrilling as that was, it was a free ticket to pain and hurt.
It is a different story when you are around him and you simply feel at peace.
Your mind doesn’t race with thoughts, you rarely overthink, and also, he doesn’t cause you unnecessary pain.
That’s because his behavior is consistent, and that’s a major hint he sees you long-term.
So, what’s the next step from here?
By now you have learned all the signs that he wants to have a long-term relationship with you. But how should you go about it?
Firstly, try understanding if you have a high level of love and affection for him.
Research shows that love is the most important foundation in a relationship and/or marriage.
Also, know the importance of timing shouldn’t be overlooked. A new study by Kenneth Tan shows that timing for commitment plays an important role in relationship success.
Your way of moving about this depends on if this relationship is what you want or not.
If you are interested.
- Have open and honest communication, where you discuss your relationship status.
- Plan fun activities for couples to grow a stronger connection.
- Show him how appreciative you are of his treatment.
- Give him special treatment as well.
- Set healthy boundaries, and respect each other’s said boundaries.
- Create new hobbies together.
If you are not interested.
- Talk openly to him about how you feel.
- Don’t waste your time or his. Be straightforward about how you feel and think about this connection.
- Don’t stay around to break his heart.
- Don’t give him false hope.
- Speak up before it gets too serious.
You can know what he wants from you all from the way he acts around you.
If he prioritizes you, invests time and energy, surprises you, buys you gifts, etc. shows that he wants a long-term relationship with you.
Take it one step at a time, and eventually, things will fall into their place.
Sincerely,
Callisto.
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