Love truly never goes out of style…although knowing if a man is telling the truth can be problematic.
However, there are some very distinct, unmistakable signs that a man loves you more than you might think, which we’ll be expanding further upon in a bit.
Physical, verbal, and behavioral clues—today we’ll break down a loving man’s behavior.
1. He has told you “I love you”.
Seems pretty obvious, right? Well, I’m only mentioning this because of you lot who have a hard time believing people who care for you!
There is a good chance this guy is telling the truth if he has already dropped the L-word, especially if he’s not the type to say it all willy-nilly.
But as we all know, people lie for their own gain—so let’s talk about additional signs that prove his feelings aren’t a scam.
2. His future includes you.
“In the future, we will…” is music to every loving person’s ears.
When a guy’s future has you in it, he’s most definitely overflowing with affection—he wants you to know he’s in it for the long run.
Purchasing a home, getting a pet, having children, etc. are all signs of his commitment to you.
3. He *actually* apologizes.
He’s not an immature, inconsiderate person who’d rather die than say he was wrong; he’s the opposite, meaning someone who actually says “I’m sorry”.
In a world full of gaslighting and manipulative people, a guy who holds himself accountable is a keeper for sure.
4. He does not judge you or try to change you.
One of the strongest indicators of love is a person accepting you for who you are: all the cute quirks and traits you consider to be “flaws”.
He has never, not even once, made you feel bad for something you can’t help or try to pressure you into changing in any way, shape, or form.
5. He sees you as a priority.
He’s more than willing to postpone plans with everyone just so that you and him can spend more time together, regardless of who or what.
He never leaves you hanging, or even worse, decline the opportunity to hang out with you because you’re his priority.
Your happiness and opinion are all that matter to him.
6. His family and friends know all about you.
As opposed to players who tend to hide their partner from their social circle due to not being serious about them, a man who’s in love chooses a different route.
He’ll show you off to his friends and family, and encourage you to do the same to solidify your relationship.
7. He has given up certain aspects of his life for you.
Once you fall in love with someone, you stop behaving in a way that hurts the other person—this may include:
- Flirting with other people;
- Posting explicit content;
- Spending overall more time with others.
He doesn’t want to hurt you and is proving himself by respecting your boundaries.
8. He goes crazy whenever you mention another guy.
Jealously is linked to greater love, proves study, and the math honestly checks out.
When you start feeling something deeper for another person, you don’t want them even as much as looking in another person’s direction out of fear of losing them.
If he gets jealous easily, take it as a positive sign.
9. He talks to you every day—no exceptions!
It takes a lot for a person to maintain consistent contact with another person, and the only exception? People they love.
Yes! If this man has been talking to you every single day, and enjoying every second of it, he’s probably fallen hard.
Forget his talking to you day and night, he also gets sad when you’re too busy to talk to him.
10. He helps and supports you with everything you need.
Ask yourself this: does he always offer to help you with anything, no matter how minuscule it is?
A man who’s in love will never pass up the opportunity to make your life easier while also leaving a good impression!
The same thing applies if he supports your goals and dreams without a smidge of judgment.
11. He shows you a never-seen-before side of his.
That’s his vulnerable side: his opening up about the secrets and feelings that haunt him every day.
When he opens up, it means he feels comfortable welcoming you into his life on a deeper level—something that’s done only when love is present.
12. He’s there for you during the toughest of times.
When you think of love, what do you think of first? Somebody you have sexual relations with? Somebody, you’re willing to go to the end of the world for?
Both are excellent, yet subjective definitions that may be used to learn your guy’s true feelings for you.
If he’s always there for you, comforting and listening to you, it’s about time you come to terms with the possibility he might just be in love.
13. He can’t bring himself to disagree with you.
Whenever a choice needs to be made, he always picks the one that benefits you the most:
- The food you eat;
- The places you visit;
- What movie you’ll be watching, etc.
Because he doesn’t want to upset you, he always goes with what you want even if it ends up being something he dislikes.
14. You don’t have to worry about him and other girls.
He does not entertain other girls, let alone cheat on you with them because he’s proven over and over again he only has eyes for you.
He only follows girls he’s related to or is friends with and is extremely appropriate and distant with other women.
15. He checks in with you before doing anything drastic.
Because he doesn’t want you to have a change of heart, he often feels the need to ask you before doing something, e.g. getting his hair cut.
He respects your opinion, and also, doesn’t want you to stop being attracted to him all because of a haircut!
16. He is willing to try new things for you.
He’s always down to try the things you like just so that he can feel closer to you and have an excuse to spend more time together.
For example, if he hates horror movies but knows you like them, he’ll give watching them together a try.
17. He’s always keen to go on dates.
Never, and I repeat, never does he turn down your date plans without having an incredibly valid reason.
Otherwise, he adores going on dates with you and even cancels any prior plans to make it happen.
18. He wants to talk to you while doing the most mundane of things.
Has it ever happened for him to randomly call you while he’s out, say, doing groceries, simply because he wanted to hear your voice?
This is a bit more subtle, but a sign of affection nonetheless.
The science behind this is quite simple and cute: he wants to spend as much time as possible with you.
19. You have the power to lift his mood.
A man does not let his mood depend on just anybody—when it happens, it’s usually someone they deeply care about.
This is the reason behind him cheering up as soon as you show up, regardless of the way he was feeling before.
So, think to yourself: am I the only one with the power to cheer him up?
20. Abundant physical contact is a sign of love.
For a couple’s sex life to be healthy, both people need to be satisfied.
A man who loves you (and whose love language is physical touch) may express said love through a series of physicality:
- Sexual acts and the list goes on.
How do men in love act? Incorporating the 5 Love Languages theory.
Dr. Gary Chapman broke ground when he proposed the idea that there are 5 main ways people express love:
- Through words of affirmation;
- Through spending quality time with the person they love;
- Through sending gifts;
- Through acts of service, and;
- Through physical touch.
This is a widely accepted theory because, well, it only makes sense that each person has their unique way of showing love, whether it be physical or verbal!
1. Their words are sweeter than honey.
Let’s start with the first theory: Words of Affirmation.
Men turn into huge teddy bears for the woman they love, giving her compliments and having an overall softer way of talking.
They don’t want to appear “vulgar” or “mean” in front of her.
Expect quite a few “I love yous”, praises, and cute love letters from men with this love language.
2. They HAVE TO spend a lot of quality time together.
Or else they can’t function properly.
When a man with this love language starts loving you, he’ll want to spend a huge amount of time together, doing an array of fun things:
- Deep conversations;
- Doing casual things together (shopping, studying, etc.).
Their focus is solely on you and nothing else.
Gift-giving is a pretty popular love language of men—some LOVE spoiling their significant others with meaningful gifts.
They love the idea of gifting their partner a present they’ll love, something that serves as a constant reminder and source of happiness.
Not every gift has to be fancy, though, as guys with this love language frequently prepare something from the heart.
4. They get things done for you.
The Acts of Service love language proposes that when in love, men will try their hardest to be helpful to the women they love.
- Help with work/classes;
- Planning outings, etc. are all examples.
They’re the ones who are willing to do something their partner wants/needs even if it means going against their wishes.
5. They’re constantly hugging, kissing, and being all touchy-touchy with their bae!
Last but not least: Physical Touch.
As the name suggests, men with this love language express their affection through physical touch, such as kissing, hugging, holding hands, and…well, you know!
These types of men love their partners so much that they just have to close their physical distance whenever given the chance.
What is love?
No, I’m not going to say “…baby, don’t hurt me.” no matter how tempting because the question of what love is, is quite complex.
Love is an intense, romantic feeling that singles ONE person from the rest—that’s the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.
Men love intensely, and luckily they show it one way or another…you just have to pay heed to the signs!