Liking someone is very beautiful to be kept a secret, however, if we get back on Earth and put the pragmatic glasses on: we’re more complicated than that. And that’s okay, really.
We communicate not just verbally, we communicate with actions, bodies, eyes, phones, computers, anything we can honestly. And this will be very handy in our situation.
We’ll find out if he likes us or not, and we don’t care if he doesn’t want to be exposed like that! Hop in, sista!
Whether you’re looking for “Signs he likes me” or “Does he like me?”, then the signs will be the same. His behavior will answer exactly the same to both.
Note: I’m talking about if he likes you-likes you thing; Not the friendly likes you.
Before we get to the signs he likes you, there’s this thing to have in mind:
A few scenarios that might just differ from one another
1. You just began dating – dating someone & sharing physical intimacy with them doesn’t necessarily require to like-LIKE the person. So yes, we do need that ‘one more confirmation’ which we swear to ourselves is going to be the last one we google this month. But are you’re dating the right or the wrong person?
Whether you’re looking for “Signs he likes me” or “Does he like me?”, then the signs will be the same. His behavior will answer exactly the same to both.
2. You see one another often (at work, at school, coffee shop, etc) – this is one of the cases in which you see him (maybe very often), and you exchange some dangerously hot looks at one another, or perhaps a conversation (with dangerously large potential to turn awkward at times).
3. You’re friends – Looks like you’re ready to get out of that one zone. Cool, cool, cool! I understand it gets confusing at times because you can’t seem to tell if what they’re doing is from their friendly kindness, or that ‘more than friends’ kindness.
Whatever your situation is, he’s not going to be able to hide it for long. Trust me!
Note: Depending on your situation some of the signs will not resonate with you, however take what’s most accurate for your connection with him at the moment.
Now, answering the question “Does he like me?”. Here, the obvious signs he likes you:
1. You can sense it
It’s the vibe and the energy in the room, you can just sense it. It’s so obvious: he likes you!
I gathered the ladies AND the gentlemen at the office once again, and asked them about this particular ‘sense’. Honestly, I wasn’t very surprised to find out that it is a thing, and they’re aware of it too.
You know, you sense it in the air, in the guy’s behavior, his eyes, the way he talks, he stands and most things that he likes you. This after some time gets confirmed by something more concrete rather than ‘abstract’ as my friends called it.
In a few words your instinct tells you. You feel the vibe changing when you meet, or look at each other.
2. He’s there, really
When he’s in the room with you, he’s in the room with you! He listens, he pays attention, he’s present. He’s there, really.
He doesn’t grab his phone while you’re talking, hence he remembers even the smallest things that you told him months and months ago.
He noticed when you cut your bangs slightly shorter that time when you weren’t feeling well, he noticed that thing you do with your nose when you laugh, or that little birthmark on your neck.
He asks for your opinions or ideas on things and listens to you. He actually listens, and tries to understand.
He notices because every time he’s there with you, he’s there, really.
3. He initiates conversations
You’re dating, you’re friends, you’re not friends but just see each other every now and then, doesn’t matter. He will find a way to initiate conversations.
He does it when you meet, or even when you text which is one of the signs he likes you through text.
It’s pretty basic, and it makes sense very easily. He’ll want to hear your opinions, and share opinions with you. Or even better if you try to keep the conversation going in person.
4. He’s consistent
Whether it is when it comes to contact you through phone or text, or to see you, he will be consistent. Example: he texts you everyday (or somewhere around there), or calls you often, or wants to see you at least once every week.
Especially if you’re dating, he’ll plan dates and outings in a consistent manner.
If not everyday, at least 3 or 4 times a week, he will check in to see how you’re doing, or whenever you bump into each other accidentally (without plan) he’ll make an attempt to stay a little longer.
5. He makes effort into making things better
He puts effort into things, and it is noticeable. He puts effort into picking a nice place for a date, picks a nice topic to talk about, or even puts effort into making the conversation more engaging.
He’ll go out of his way to show you how joyful he can make you, how important things are to him. He will even make changes if needed, whether his appearance, or something of his behavior that you let him know isn’t the best thing to contribute to your joy.
6. He’s playful with you
Little teasing, little smiling, little mingling, all mixed up so that you can or can’t notice that likes you, and maybe not or maybe he’s been dying to tell you for a while now.
He teases you and tries to make you laugh but he’s careful not to cross the boundaries. Or when he crosses the boundaries, he notices, and you notice his behavior immediately. It affects him darling.
It’s sort of his way to show you how he can be fun to be around, and fun to hang out with.
7. Compliments, compliments, compliments…
This is the part where he notices the little changes, and compliments you. If he’s lazy at most things, he’s not lazy at paying you compliments every now and then.
He’ll tell you how your eyes look pretty with that green scarf you wore today, or how interesting he finds your point of view on healthy friendships.
On the other hand, there are also types that don’t pay many compliments, but that doesn’t mean they don’t like you. Some people feel freer to express themselves, and some decide to keep a few things to themselves.
8. He’s going to make/find/spend time for & with you
He’s going to call you on dates, or call you to ‘just hang out’. Most importantly he DOES NOT cancel.
He tries to spend more time with you, to see you more often. Notice: if you two aren’t dating, he’ll try to find ways to spend time alone with you (without David, or Monica interrupting you all the time).
Or if you’re dating, he’ll invite you to do things that he enjoys doing (at times alone). He’ll feel like sharing things with you, few of them being time and things he’s passionate about.
He likes you, you start mattering to him. Of course he’ll find time for you.
9. His communication is genuine and honest
A genuine and honest communication is one in which aren’t involved mind games, lies, or anything that’s not genuine are involved.
He will be honest, he won’t play games with someone he likes. He will be genuine, and won’t pretend, because his intention is not ‘getting it’ from you. In other straightforward, yet vulgarly put words he’s not going only after the cookie.
10. He tells you about himself
He tells you about things he likes, things he’s passionate about, personal things. He opens up. He’s genuine and honest.
Now, I’m not talking about those girly talks we have with our best friends, let’s not confuse perspectives, let’s not.
Guys have a harder time talking and expressing compared to us women that at times can’t keep our mouths shut for a second (which is adorable, btw). Him talking about himself, and his vulnerable parts, is a pretty good sign – a solid one, if you ask me.
11. He asks questions about you – he wants to know you
Not the flat questions, it’s been about the emotional ones for a while now. He asks you how you are, he asks you about your favorite memory of your childhood, or what makes you happy, or what makes you sad. You know, things that tell more about you and your personality.
He starts to care more, hence he’s also careful when he asks the questions. And he listens because he genuinely cares to hear what you’re about to say.
12. He’s interested in knowing whether you’re involved with someone or not
If not directly, he will find ways to ask the question “Are you romantically involved with someone or not?”. Indirect ways could be questions that go around this question. You can tell when he’s trying to figure this out, trust me!
13. When in a group of people, he’s only got eyes and ears for you
You can tell by his body language, the way he looks at you, the way he pays attention when you speak, the way he looks at you to see if you’re laughing when he tells a joke.
There are other people around talking too, there are other people engaging in the conversation, but apparently, to this man, your opinions matter the most, your laughter matters the most. You notice he has a different approach to you when you compare it to the approach he has with other people.
14. His friends might even act a type of way when you’re around
If they’re his close friends, they’ll try to leave you two alone, because of course he told them about you. There’s a chance he doesn’t shut up talking about you, and at some point it’s getting annoying for his poor friends, but that’s none of our business. That’s not the point I’m trying to make though.
The point is, you notice that his friends act a little differently when you’re around. They give him a type of look, or talk to him immediately when they see you entering the room, or just change behavior and make things either comfortable to let you two alone, or uncomfortable for him because they make it so obvious.
15. He tries to get your attention
You can notice this on even the smallest things, like when he says or does something he looks at you. Yeah, that’s not coincidence, that’s him making sure you saw/heard the amazing thing he did/said.
He’ll want to stand out, and get that attention of yours; He wants you to see him, to see what he’s capable of, and just how awesome he is!
On the other hand, there are cases where he might just pretend to not like you, but it’s obvious. So he tries to sort of ignore you, but still pays attention if you’re paying attention and then looks away. That can be another way of him getting your attention. That’s enough ‘attention’ for today, thank you.
16. He gets nervous around you
He stutters, blushes, “it’s very hot in here, don’t you feel it guys?”, looks at you quickly then looks the other way, you know the moves, the nervous moves.
Some guys pull it off pretty well, and some get nervous and shy. Both types have their own charm, especially when it’s all you can think about (no matter his type).
17. He takes his time when looking at you
You catch him staring, or just looking at you way too many times. And boy, does he take his time!!
He likes you, of course he’s going to look at you like he’s never seen anything more beautiful before!
18. He’s caring & respectful
He shows little acts of thoughtfulness like getting you little gifts, or helping you out on something, or sharing things with you. He will offer help on anything he can.
He’s respectful towards you and your boundaries. He doesn’t cross your limits. Oh and one of my favorites of this sign: he doesn’t rush things.
He doesn’t rush things because he respects you, he cares about you, and whatever you two are building (or trying to build) together.
19. He’s supporting
When you’re in doubt about whether you can do something or not, when in doubt about whether you can achieve something or not, he’ll be supporting and giving you courage to do so.
He’ll support you, and you’ll feel it. He’ll encourage you, and point out the amazing skills he notices you have. We’re not confused, we’re not confused, we are sure he likes us!
20. He gets all happy and joyful when you’re around
He’s just so happy to see you. It’s quite logical to be frankly honest with you. You like someone, they show up, you get all happy and joyful, you can’t help the good mood surrounding you, happy, happy, happy!
You do notice it, almost every time.
21. He laughs at your jokes
When you like someone things get a little dramatic, right? I’m saying that from experience. You just can’t help but see things bigger, funnier, than they actually are.
Men do this too. They laugh more at jokes of someone they like, or someone that they’re attracted to rather than someone’s jokes they don’t care much about. Ha ha ha!
22. You can tell he’s impressed by you/something you do
You can either tell yourself by the face expressions and moves he does, or he tells you himself. He’s in awe of things you do, say, things you present (including yourself).
He can’t hide much through his facial expressions. If he finds you impressive, he’ll show it somehow whether he wants to or not.
23. He tries to impress you too
When he likes you he’s impressed by you and what you do or say(or both). But he also tries to impress you back. He does that, at times unconsciously, at times consciously.
He’ll do his best on his hair, on his appearance; he’ll wear the best shirts he owns (yes, all 3 of them); he’ll make the best jokes he knows; he’ll do things to impress you, and you notice it.
24. His body language is telling you
This is one of those things he does without him even knowing about it. Things like mirroring you, or touching your hand lightly, or positioning his body towards you, and so on.
It’s his body leaning towards you, facing towards you, or mirroring you. It’s the way of connecting in a non-physical, non-verbal way. Connecting through signals that your bodies are giving from a distance.
25. He’s touchy-touchy
Not the creepy touch, the light touch that even you barely notice. He does it without knowing he’s doing it at times.
He’ll reach out for your hand, or lightly touch your arm, your hair (if you’re dating), he’ll hug you as often as he gets the chance to.
He might also use touch as a way of flirting with you. It gets better as time goes on.
26. He doesn’t care about the outside judgements
Let’s say you’re dating, or about to start dating and people around you two don’t see you as a good match, or even throw judgemental opinions at you on how you can’t be together, he won’t care about that when he genuinely likes you.
It’s in our genes to care about what the others of our species are saying, however, when we’re experiencing something like attraction we tend to not take it very close to heart, or at least neglect it no matter how much it matters to us.
27. You find him making an effort to fix his appearance whenever he sees you
He automatically does it. He sees you looking at him, he knows your attention is on him, the first thoughts in his head? “Oh sh*t! Out of all the f*cking days, I picked today to not put effort into my hair, fix them now succer!”
Yeah, maybe a little less dramatic than that, but you get the point. And I believe you experienced it before: you see someone and you’re automatically ‘fixing’ something you know could look somewhat wrong. It’s because they pay attention to you, and you care about how they perceive you and your looks.
28. He sticks around after the sexy times
With someone that doesn’t like you, it’s the other way around: they stick around until it gets to the sexy times. But when he likes you, it’s going to be dinner before you get physically intimate together, and after that, it is going to be with movies, or picnics, or anything else romantic.
In other words, he’s staying after getting the cookie.
29. He’s not afraid to “put a label on it”
You know, he calls you girlfriend, or isn’t afraid to say the R word. He’s going to say that what you have is a relationship, what you have is not something that can’t be labeled.
When he really really likes you, he’ll introduce you to his friends, or other people close to his heart. Of course, he’ll introduce you as his girlfriend, because he likes you too much to hide it!
31. He actually slams the sign and almost breaks your nose with it: “I like you”
He tells you that he likes you. If he did tell you, and you didn’t believe him, then you probably don’t trust him enough or have low self-esteem, or both. Each is solvable, and I’m saying it because I’ve been there.
When you don’t value yourself enough, you find it surprising when someone else does, and because you don’t see your amazing qualities you have a sense that the person is pretending to like something in you that doesn’t exist. It’s hard to believe it.
When you don’t trust someone it’s either because they’ve shown you before that they can’t be trusted as much, or because you’re projecting past hurtful experiences into this relationship.
Again, figure it out, and start working on it, as it truly is solvable. All it takes is to take the first step: acknowledge it.
Bonus signs if the ones above resonated – Signs he likes you
He follows you on your socials.
Perhaps all your socials, and he likes your posts, or sees what you’re posting. He’s being up to date when it comes to your posting. You know…
You’ve got something in common? Prepare for THE REACTION.
Not the girly screaming that you get from your best friend. No. A reaction that shows that it is a big deal. Like you tell him you don’t like sugar in your coffee his eyes glow a little and he says ‘me neither, that’s crazy haha’. You get my point.
He might just talk you out of other guys.
If you’re friends and you tell him about potential ‘threats’ for him, he’ll find a way to say something that isn’t very convenient for the other guys you’re mentioning; He might say something like “Oh, he seems like a good guy, but definitely not your type.”, or something around there. Again, you get my point.
You can see 15 obvious signs he only sees you as a friend if you still are in doubt about it.
Conclusion – He likes you!
I find this very very beautiful. Us humans can’t hide sh*t from each other, because we give and get signals all the time, whether we want to or not. We give and get those vibes, especially the sexy ones. Yes, you know the ones.
If he likes you, you’ll find out. Trust. Me.
And if you like him back, tell him for god’s sake!
20+ undeniable signs he likes you