There are two ways to know when a man likes you. They’re easier said than done, but once you get it right, you’ll be having some happy-happy news!
a) Picking up the right signs he gives, and b) Him fessing up to you that he likes you.
The good and handy thing in our situation with our man is that we[humans] communicate with behavior, eyes, looks, bodies, smiles, texts, and whatnot. Meaning the signs will be there. You just don’t want to misinterpret the signs of attraction.
You will be able to tell the difference between a man who doesn’t see you as more than a friend and a man that wants more but is shy about it.
His behavior will let us know what’s going through his mind. The train of the signs is on our way, so, hop in sista!
A few scenarios that might just differ from one another
1. You just began dating – dating someone & sharing physical intimacy with them doesn’t necessarily require to like-LIKE the person. So yes, we do need that ‘one more confirmation’ which we swear to ourselves is going to be the last one we google this month.
2. You see one another often (at work, at school, coffee shop, etc) – this is one of the cases in which you see him (maybe very often), and you exchange some dangerously hot looks at one another, or perhaps a conversation (with dangerously large potential to turn awkward at times).
3. You’re friends – It gets confusing at times because you can’t seem to tell if what he’s doing is coming from his friendly kindness, or that ‘more than friends’ kindness.
Whatever your situation is, he’s not going to be able to hide it for long. Trust me!
Note: Depending on your situation some of the signs will not resonate with you, however, take what’s most accurate for your connection with him at the moment.
Now, answering the question “How to tell he likes you?”, the 12 obvious signs he likes you:
1. You can sense it, you’re picking up the signs unconsciously
It’s the vibe and the energy in the room, you can just sense it. It’s so obvious: he likes you!
I gathered the ladies AND the gentlemen at the office once again and asked them about this particular ‘sense’. Honestly, I wasn’t very surprised to find out that it is a thing, and they’re aware of it too.
You sense it from the guy’s behavior, his eyes, the way he talks to you, or when he’s around you; you sense, you can genuinely tell he likes you. Your instinct tells you.
– He takes his time when looking at you
You catch him staring, or just looking at you way too many times. And boy, does he take his time!!
He likes you, of course, he’s going to look at you like he’s never seen anything more beautiful before!
– He talks you out of other guys.
If you’re friends and you tell him about potential ‘threats’ for him, he’ll find a way to say something that isn’t very convenient for the other guys you’re mentioning;
He might say something like “Oh, he seems like a good guy, but not your type.”, or something around there. The thought of you with someone else isn’t pleasant to a guy that likes you.
2. He’s attentive & present: He’s there, really
One of the signs that he’s interested in you is when he’s in the room with you, he’s the room with you: He listens, he pays attention, he’s present.
You know a guy likes you when he notices when you cut your bangs slightly shorter, he notices your mood changes or that thing you do with your nose when you laugh. He notices because every time he’s there with you, he’s there.
– He asks questions about you – he wants to know you
Not the flat questions, it’s been about the emotional ones for a while now.
He asks you how you are, he asks you about your favorite memory of your childhood, or what makes you happy or sad; You know, things that tell more about you and your personality.
– He initiates conversations
You’re dating, you’re friends, you’re not friends but just seeing each other now and then, doesn’t matter. When he likes you he will find a way to initiate conversations.
He does it when you meet, or even when you text which is one of the signs he likes you through text. He’ll want to hear your opinions, and share opinions with you.
– He’s going to make/find/spend time for & with you
He’s going to call you on dates or call you to ‘just hang out’. Most importantly he DOES NOT cancel.
He tries to spend more time with you and see you more often. Notice: if you aren’t dating, he’ll try to find ways to spend time alone with you (without David, or Monica interrupting you all the time).
If you’re dating, he’ll invite you to do things that he enjoys doing (at times alone). He’ll feel like sharing things with you, a few of them being time and things he’s passionate about.
3. He’s consistent with his contact and effort
When it comes to contacting you through phone or text; or to see you; he will be consistent. It’s one of the most obvious signs a guy likes you.
For example, he texts you every day (or somewhere around there), calls you often or wants to see you at least once every week.
Especially if you’re dating, he’ll plan dates and/or outings in a consistent manner.
He will check in to see how you’re doing, or whenever you bump into each other accidentally he’ll attempt to stay a little longer.
– He makes effort into making things better
He puts effort, and it is noticeable. He puts effort into picking a nice place for a date, picks a nice topic to talk about, or even puts effort into making the conversation more engaging.
He’ll go out of his way to show you how joyful he can make you. He will even make changes if needed, whether his appearance or something of his behavior that you let him know isn’t the best thing to contribute to your joy.
– He follows you on your socials.
Perhaps all your socials, and he likes your posts, or sees what you’re posting. He’s being up to date when it comes to your posting.
4. He’s playful with you: teasing and smiling
A little teasing, little smiling, little mingling, all mixed up so that you can or can’t notice and tell that he likes you.
He teases you and tries to make you laugh but he’s careful not to cross the boundaries. It’s sort of his way to show you how he can be fun to be around, and fun to hang out with.
– His friends act a type of way when you’re around
If they’re his close friends, they’ll try to leave you two alone, because he most probably told them about you.
There’s a chance he doesn’t shut up talking about you, and at some point, it’s getting annoying for his poor friends, but that’s none of our business. The point is, you notice that his friends act a little differently when you’re around.
They give him a type of look, or talk to him immediately when they see you entering the room, or just change behavior and make things either comfortable to let you two alone or uncomfortable for him because they make it so obvious.
– You’ve got something in common? Prepare for THE REACTION.
Not the girly screaming that you get from your best friend. No. A reaction that shows that it is a big deal to him. Similar to you telling him you don’t like sugar in your coffee, his eyes glowing a little while he says ‘me neither, that’s crazy haha’.
This is one of those things he does without him even knowing about it. Things like mirroring you, touching your hand lightly, positioning his body towards you, and so on are gestures of a guy liking you.
It’s his body leaning towards you, facing towards you, or mirroring you. It’s the way of connecting in a non-physical, non-verbal way. Connecting through signals that your bodies are giving from a distance.
– He’s touchy-touchy
Not the creepy touch, the light touch that even you barely notice. He does it without knowing he’s doing it at times.
He’ll reach out for your hand, or lightly touch your arm, or your hair (if you’re dating), he’ll hug you as often as he gets the chance to.
He might also use touch as a way of flirting with you. It gets better as time goes on.
6. When in a group of people, he’s only got eyes and ears for you
You can tell by his body language, the way he looks at you, the way he pays attention when you speak, the way he looks at you to see if you’re laughing when he tells a joke: that he likes you.
Other people are engaging in the conversation, but, to this man, your opinions matter the most, and your laughter matters the most.
You notice he has a different approach to you when you compare it to the approach he has with other people: He does really like you.
– He’s interested in knowing whether you’re involved with someone or not
If not directly, he will find ways to ask the question “Are you romantically involved with someone or not?”. Indirect ways could be questions that go around this question.
7. He tries to get your attention
You can notice this on even the smallest things, like when he says or does something he looks at you. Yeah, that’s no coincidence, that’s him making sure you saw/heard the amazing thing he did/said.
He’ll want to stand out, and get your attention; He wants you to see him, to see what he’s capable of, and just how awesome he is!
On the other hand, there are cases where he might just pretend to not like you, but it’s obvious. So he tries to sort of ignore you but still pays attention if you’re paying attention and then looks away. That can be another way of him getting your attention. That’s enough ‘attention’ for today, thank you.
– He tries to impress you too
When he likes you he’s impressed by you and what you do or say. He also tries to impress you back. He does that, at times unconsciously, at times consciously.
He’ll do his best on his hair, on his appearance; he’ll wear the best shirts he owns (yes, all 3 of them); he’ll make the best jokes he knows; he’ll do things to impress you.
– You find him making an effort to fix his appearance whenever he sees you
He sees you looking at him, he knows your attention is on him, the first thoughts in his head? “There could be something wrong with how I look! Gotta fix it quickly!!”
I believe you experienced it before: you see someone and you’re automatically ‘fixing’ something you know could look somewhat wrong. It’s because they pay attention to you, and you care about how they perceive you and your looks.
– He tells you about himself
He tells you about things he likes, things he’s passionate about, personal things. He’s genuine and honest.
Now, I’m not talking about those girly talks we have with our best friends, let’s not confuse perspectives, let’s not.
Guys have a harder time talking and expressing themselves due to societal norms. He’s talking about himself, and his vulnerable parts are a pretty good sign – a solid one if you ask me.
8. He’s not in just for the cookie: He’s emotionally attracted to you
With someone that doesn’t like you, it’s the other way around: they stick around until it gets to the sexy times.
When he likes you, it’s going to be dinner before you get physically intimate together, and after that, it is going to be with movies, picnics, or anything else romantic.
In other words, he’s staying after getting the cookie.
– He’s not afraid to “put a label on it”
You know, he calls you girlfriend or isn’t afraid to say the R-word. He’s going to say that what you have is a relationship, what you have is not something that can’t be labeled as a relationship.
– He introduces you to his friends
When he likes you, he’ll introduce you to his friends, or other people close to his heart.
– He doesn’t care about the outside judgments
Let’s say you’re dating, or about to start dating and people around you two don’t see you as a good match, or even throw judgemental opinions at you on how you carry yourself, well he won’t care about that when he genuinely likes you.
It’s in our genes to care about what the others of our species are saying, however, when we’re experiencing something like attraction we tend to not take it very close to heart, or at least neglect it no matter how much it matters to us.
9. He’s caring & respectful towards you and your needs
You can tell a man likes you when he shows acts of thoughtfulness like getting you little gifts, helping you out on something, or sharing things with you.
He’s respectful towards you and your boundaries, and he doesn’t cross your limits. Oh, and one of my favorites of this sign: he doesn’t rush things.
He’s pursuing you, and he doesn’t rush things because he respects you, he cares about you, and whatever you two are building (or trying to build) together.
– He’s supporting
When you’re in doubt about whether you can do something or not when in doubt about whether you can achieve something or not, he’ll be supporting and giving you the courage to do so.
– Compliments, compliments, compliments…
This is the part where he notices the little changes and compliments you. If he’s lazy at most things, he’s not lazy at paying you compliments now and then.
He’ll tell you how your eyes look pretty with that green scarf you wore today, or how interesting he finds your point of view on healthy friendships.
On the other hand, some types don’t pay many compliments, but that doesn’t mean they don’t like you. Some people feel freer to express themselves, and some decide to keep a few things to themselves.
10. He gets joyful when you enter the room
You know he likes you when he’s just so happy to see you. It’s quite logical to be frankly honest. You like someone, they show up, you get all happy, you can’t help the good mood surrounding you, happy, happy, happy!
You do notice it, almost every time.
– He laughs at your jokes
When you like someone things get a little dramatic, right? I’m saying that from experience. You just can’t help but see things bigger, funnier, than they are.
Men do this too, it’s yet another one of the most obvious signs that a guy likes you. They laugh more at jokes of someone they like or someone that they’re attracted to rather than someone’s jokes they don’t care much about.
– His communication is genuine and honest
Genuine and honest communication is communication which isn’t involved mind games, lies, or anything that’s not genuine.
He will be honest, he won’t play games with someone he likes. He will be genuine, and won’t pretend, because his intention is not ‘getting it’ from you.
In other straightforward, yet vulgarly put words, he’s not going only after the cookie.
11. Your presence affects him: He gets nervous
This is one of the early dating signs he likes you: he gets nervous in your presence.
He stutters, blushes, “it’s very hot in here, don’t you feel it guys?”, looks at you quickly then looks the other way, you know the moves, the nervous moves.
Some guys pull it off pretty well, and some get nervous and shy. Both types have their charm, don’t you think?
– You can tell he’s impressed by you/something you do
When a guy is into you, you can either tell yourself by the facial expressions and moves he does, or he tells you himself. He’s in awe of things you do, say, things present (including yourself).
He can’t hide much through his facial expressions and body language. If he finds you impressive, he’ll show it somehow whether he wants to or not.
12. He slams the sign and almost breaks your nose with it: “I like you”
He tells you that he likes you. If he did tell you, and you didn’t believe him, then you probably don’t trust him enough or have low self-esteem, or both. Each is solvable, and I’m saying it because I’ve been there.
When you don’t value yourself enough, you find it surprising when someone else does, and because you don’t see the amazing qualities you have a sense that the person is pretending to like something in you that doesn’t exist. It’s hard to believe it.
When you don’t trust someone it’s either because they’ve shown you before that they can’t be trusted as much, or because you’re projecting past hurtful experiences into this relationship.
Again, figure it out, and start working on it, as it truly is solvable. All it takes is to take the first step: acknowledge it.
So, does he like you?
I find this very very beautiful. We humans can’t hide sh*t from each other, because we give and get signals all the time, whether we want to or not. We give and get those vibes, especially the sexy ones. Yes, you know the ones.
To conclude all the signs more simply and understandably – 12 signs he likes you:
You can tell he likes you when you sense it when he’s present and attentive towards you when he’s consistent in his effort and communication when his body language is open and pointing toward you when he’s caring and respectful towards you and your needs.
If he likes you, you’ll find out. Trust. Me.
… And if you like him back, tell him for god’s sake!
20+ undeniable signs he likes you