When things aren’t straightforwardly communicated, we’re left with a lot of questions in our heads. You know, we’ve been seeing signs, we’ve been amateurly trying to analyze them, and came to a few barely standing conclusions, that are not really satisfying our curiosity.
The questions in our heads currently are: “How to tell if a guy likes you over text?”, “How do you know if he likes you over the phone?”, and a few others, but you get my point.
Now, let’s figure this out together!
Table of Content
Things to Consider Before Jumping to Conclusions
Signs He Likes You Over Texts
How to Get a Guy to Admit He Likes You Over Text
Find Out If He Likes You Through Text – Test Him
One More Thing – Learn The Difference Between Possession and Sympathy
I’ve read a lot of articles online, and they’re kind of confusing to be honest. For instance, some say that he texts a lot when he likes you, some say he holds back a little (i.e waits for your response)… What’s the deal with these love experts? Seriously!
So I thought it’d be a good idea to consider a few things you should know before we get your questions answered together.
Everyone expresses things differently. Especially when it comes to expressing affection, even if it is indirectly. At the end of the day, that’s where the beauty is, diversity. So, your man can be a certain type – It doesn’t necessarily mean that he fits into every frame or standard of “he does this, he likes you”, or “he does this, he’s not interested”.
How well do you know him? As in, do you know how he expresses himself? Let’s say how he acts when he’s happy, when he’s sad, angry, confused etc. Or if he likes texting a lot, or if he’s very talkative. It is important that you know at least a little bit of the mentioned, since it’ll be easier for you to comprehend and connect the signs in order to find an answer.
Have you met him before? It would’ve been easier for you to know more about his way of expressing, his type, and his personality if you’ve met him in person. However, that doesn’t mean that knowing more about his way of expressing and his personality can be done only through meeting. You can do that through other forms of communication (in this case through phone: texting, calling, etc).
How do you feel after texting him? If you’re left with joy, and positive energy, then most probably this is what he’s wanting to reflect on you – Take this as a super good sign. However, if you’re left feeling doubts, or feeling not good, then you might have to consider if you want that type of energy in your days or not.
Now that these are out of the way, we can see what that beautiful human is up to!
1. He Gives You the Vibe
Yes, it’s the reason you’re reading this article. It is the answer to how to tell if a guy likes you more than a friend through text. You feel it, and your gut is telling you he likes you. To know if he’s interested through text, you have to feel the vibe you get after texting with him.
2. He Keeps Consistent Contact
It doesn’t have to be necessarily every single day, though if he texts everyday it is quite of an indicator that he does indeed like you. He’s keeping consistent contact with you, he’s putting effort. Consistent contact helps in building an emotional connection – you hear from one another quite often, eventually you start caring more and more about one another.
3. He’s The One Initiating Texts Most of the Time
He doesn’t wait for you to text him first. He just texts you, starts a conversation of whatever. This one isn’t surprising, I know. It is some sort of a standard for men to text first, however they don’t really have to, nobody forces them to. But if he does it it’s part of the signs that almost yells at you “He likes you! Why can’t you see it?!”
4. It’s Been a While of Consistent Contact
It’s been a while since you’ve been consistently texting. It is obvious that at the beginning of ‘ships’ things are more exciting and so he texts you quite often, and there are times that it just vanishes. If this is not the case for you – he kept the consistent contact going for months, then he likes you baby!
5. He Makes Texting Fun, Fun, Fun!
He makes jokes, he makes you laugh, he starts conversations, on and on. Are you a queen or something? Elizabeth? Lizz?
If he makes jokes, and tries to make you laugh, it means he’s putting effort because he cares. It’d be even more amazing if it’d be reciprocated, a start to something beautiful if you ask me.
6. He Replies Quickly (pretty often)
There are busy people, busy women, busy men. However they started to pretty often find time and reply pretty damn quick to your messages, if not immediately. He’s excited that you’re texting, and he can’t wait to text back. Props to you too for being so irresistible, you!!
7. It’s Obvious He Takes His Time With His Texts – He’s Putting Effort
I mentioned something about this one earlier in this article, this also depends on the type of person he is. They don’t have to be long texts. They’re well thought and well written. Especially if they’re answering any of your questions to them. Please don’t count a “k”, or a “cool” as a well thought and well written answer, it is not.
He also is careful with punctuation and grammar.
8. Asks You Things
He asks questions related to your personal life, emotions, feelings and so on. To begin with, this is a sign he cares, and of course we have healthy brains to understand that caring is a good sign. He wants to know how your day went, how you’re doing emotionally (“How are you?”), how you’re feeling. How could you not notice?!
9. He Shares Personal Things With You
Not things like “I’m going out with this girl tomorrow”, don’t be silly! He shares from the smallest things like details from his days, to the big problems. Things that are personal to him, that are connected to his emotional state. He even might ask an opinion, or advice from you on that certain thing he’s sharing whether it is activity, or story.
10. “I Wish I Was There With You”
He texts you things like this one. He wishes more than just texting. You know this already. Your gay best friend won’t tell you how bad he wants to be close to you. A guy that likes you, will make an effort to give you hints and see your reaction so that he knows if the feeling is both sided.
11. Asks to Hang Out
At times he’ll tell you he wishes he was near, and then there will be times he’ll just go for it. He’ll ask to see you, and make that ‘wish’ come true. He will ask to see you, hang out with you. Of course he will not want to be a penpal for long. He likes you, of course he’ll want to be in your presence.
12. “Is Everything Ok?”
He notices when something’s wrong, he cares, he’s concerned. He pays attention to details, so even through texting, if you’re not in a mood, he will notice and ask you. This is the part that connects to that emotional side. He’s not asking you about the weather, he’s asking you a question that has to do with you and your emotional state.
13. He Apologizes
He apologizes when he takes too long to reply, or even tells you the reasons why he couldn’t reply earlier. He doesn’t want to give you the impression that he doesn’t care about you and push you away, hence he feels the need to explain. He even lets you know when he’s busy and can’t talk, it’s for those reasons – he doesn’t want to seem uninterested in you.
14. “I Saw This, and it Reminded Me of You.”
You’re in his mind, and of course things remind him of you. A song, a movie, a movie trailer, or anything really. He could just not let you know, but he feels like sharing, and he does share. He knows you’ll feel good, and will do what makes you feel good. You can send him this article and tell him “I saw this, and it reminded me of you”.
… I’m joking, don’t do it, unless you want to do it.
15. He Tries Initiating Sexy Conversations
I’m sure both of you have plenty of friends, and you wouldn’t even think of initiating something that would lead to sexting. Of course they’re your friends, and you don’t do that with friends. You do that with someone you’re interested in. Get it?
Note: If he’s only sexually attracted to you, he will only initiate such conversations. He won’t care to ask much about your health, or know more about you. If you’re okay with the idea, go ahead. But if you’re looking for more than just sex, this one might not be the best fit for that.
16. Double text. Double Text.
Not everyone does this, as of course, it depends on the type of person he is. But it happens that when a man likes a woman, he will not mind his ego, and will double text her. He wants to know if things are cool between you two, and it’s okay. He’s just eager to get your opinion, and your texts back. He’s almost needy.
17. He’s thoughtful, and remembers things
How do you know if a guy is not interested in you through text? Well, he’s thoughtful, and he remembers things. He will make sure if you arrived safely, if you made it to work in time, and so on. He remembers when you tell him about the dentist appointment, or that you forgot your toothbrush at your best friend’s. He pays attention, he’s sweet, and thoughtful. He remembers.
18. Cutie, Sweetie, ie?
He will call you nicknames. At some point or another, he will call you something else, a cute nickname. Some men do that when they like someone, when they feel sympathy towards someone. They can’t really help it, they’ll find ways to tell you how sweet/cool/cute/awesome they find you.
They might also find a nickname to tease you, which is a great sign. Being playful is absolutely a positive sign in a relationship. A way towards intimacy, if you ask me.
19. Emoji. He uses them. Not just any emoji though!
This one answers the question how do you know if a guy is flirting with you over text? He uses flirty emoji. Like a winky face emoji, heart emoji, and kiss emoji. You feel that flirty vibe, those butterflies, as it is exactly his intention, and pretty much the point of flirting.
20. He mirrors you (he doesn’t know he does it)
We unconsciously mirror people we like, whether it is through body language, verbal communication, or… text. Let’s say you use some type of slang, you will notice him using that exact word too, even though he didn’t before.
At the very beginning of the relationship, I noticed my boyfriend using words he didn’t before, I noticed him using MY words. I found it super weird, and I didn’t know how to tell him. Turns out he did it unconsciously, what a relief!
21. Compliments – He Can’t Help it!
He’ll find ways to let you know how good you look in that picture, how funny you are, or how smart you are. Maybe even how much he likes reading texts you send him about flowers or something you talk enthusiastically about. He wants to grab your attention, and wants to let you know what he appreciates about you. At some point he can’t help but let you know.
22. He Smashes the Sign on Your Face!
He tells you things like: “I miss you”, or “I like that you do [something]”, and so on. In a few words he smashes the “I like you” sign on your face, and you still don’t get it. I feel you, it is about those little insecurities we feel when we like someone, he’s probably having them too, hence you’re googling in order to connect the dots.
If you’re not sure, and have a feeling he’s not interested, you can check for signs he’s not interested through text.
Find Out If He Likes You Through Text – Test Him
Send him a nice/lovely text like these ones:
1. “Good morning handsome! Did you sleep well?”
2. “I’m wishing you a beautiful, and interesting day today!”
3. “I wish you a day just as beautiful as your energy!”
Pay attention to his response. These are lovely texts to receive, and they make your day especially if you receive them from someone you like. If he’s all happy and thankful about it, and also reciprocates it, then he likes you.
Or just let him know of something you like/admire about him. Something like:
1. “I feel very lucky to have had the chance to know you.”
2. Send him a nice, cheerful song and tell him “I was thinking about you when this came on, and I had to send it to you.”
Remember if he likes you he’ll respond positively, and even reciprocate it.
You can also try good night texts, or simply letting him know that you’re thinking of him. Give him signs you like him, and see how he responds. You already know what response you’re looking for.
How to Get a Guy to Admit He Likes You Over Text?
Oh, well that’s simple! Just ask him.
Other ‘love experts’ would tell you to distance yourself from him for a while, and he’ll miss you, and he’ll feel like losing you, so he’ll feel the urge to let you know how he feels.
But fortunately, I’m not ‘other love experts’. I’m telling you that that is not a healthy way of ‘making’ him admit his feelings for you. I’ll tell you why!
Mind games are not healthy in general. In this case, you distancing yourself from him would make him think he’s done something wrong/ that you’re definitely not interested in him, or make him feel insecure about the connection with you. Plus, it wouldn’t be a healthy beginning at all.
If you like him, tell him. If he likes you back, he will tell you too. And you can start something beautiful and healthy, because you’re starting it well: with clear and honest communication.
One More Thing – Learn the Difference Between Possession and Sympathy
It is good to know when he wants to ‘own’ you, and when he likes you and genuinely cares about you.
He wants to know where you are because he’s ‘scared other men take you’? This is one of the absurd things I’ve heard, and read during my research.
Now I do understand that it is normal for men and women to feel the ‘competition’, it is a biological trait most of us have. However, it is a possessive behavior of him if he starts going on with where you are, and what you’re doing all the time.
Love, sympathy, and such beautiful things should remind you of your freedom, respect it. But also remind you of your partner’s freedom, and respect it.
I know you know the difference between a caring “where are you?” and a possessive “where are you?”. And I know you know what to do in both cases.
Conclusion – So, Good News? Does He Like You?
If you like him back, you can simply tell him. There’s no reason not to tell him. A simple “I like you” won’t hurt anybody. You like him, and sympathy is such a beautiful thing to feel towards someone. Share it, it’s beautiful!
Seriously, what more do you need? Batman to slap your cheek?