Text communication is highly prevalent in modern relationships.
As much as it is convenient for us considering the fast-paced dynamic of life, texting has its drawbacks as well.
Through text, you don’t get to see the facial expressions and body language, nor hear the tone of voice of this guy to know if he likes you.
But, with a little attention to detail, such as consistency in texting, tone, and consistency of the messages, this can easily be solved!
You no longer need to let your mind wander! Here are 20 way too-obvious signs he likes you over text:
1. He texts in a flirty way.
We use flirting as a way to bond with one another, create a sense of playfulness, and in turn, win each other’s attention and admiration.
You can tell your guy is flirting with you over text when he teases you a little by sending you flirty phrases like “You’re too good to be true, what’s the catch?”, or when he uses flirty emoji.
If he’s flirting, he’s fishing for your attention, attraction, and your time.
2. His texting is consistent: he initiates text conversations with you frequently.
Consistent contact helps in building an emotional connection through sharing stories and building a sense of care for one another.
When a guy likes you, he’ll text you and his texting will be consistent. It’s about consistency that shows commitment and care to the connection you two share.
He might not text you every single day, but he’s consistent. Though if he texts you every day it is quite an indicator that he does indeed like you.
He doesn’t wait for you to text him first, he goes for it because he’s eager to be in your presence, even through text!
3. You get “Good night” and “Good morning” texts.
A “Good Morning” text translates to “First thing that popped into my head this morning” and a “Good Night” text translates to “Last thing I’ll think of before bed.”
When a guy likes you, good night and good morning become part of your texting routine as a way to keep in touch with one another.
He wants to start and finish the day with you. He wouldn’t want that with a random person, and neither would you.
4. He makes texting fun by trying to make you laugh.
He includes jokes as a way to make you laugh. He sends you gifs, memes, or funny songs.
If a guy likes you he’ll put the effort into his texting skills, he can’t afford to mess up, he’ll make texting with you fun, or at least he’ll try.
This often represents his attempts to make a text conversation fun and engaging so that you don’t get bored or lose interest in him.
5. He replies quickly.
A guy who I thought liked me made the feeling I had more unshakable when I wouldn’t catch myself waiting hours for his texts. He’d reply very quickly.
There are busy people, busy women, and busy men. However, when it comes to a person we like, we manage to find those seconds so that we don’t let them wait.
A man does the same when he likes you. Despite his busy days or hours, he’s excited to hear from you, and he’ll text back as soon as he gets the chance!
The attraction he feels makes him eager to hear from you and increases the fear of losing your interest if he doesn’t respond soon, hence the quick replies.
6. He takes his time to craft a decent reply.
You can tell a guy likes you through text by the amount of effort he puts into his texts as well.
His texts might not be long, but they’re well thought and well-written texts. Nevertheless, not every grammar error is an indication he’s not interested!
When a guy likes you, he’ll do his best in his responses.
A “k” or “cool” doesn’t count unless he ran out of ideas and is ready to give it all up because “I’ll never get a chance with her” started to kick in.
7. He asks you thoughtful questions and notices when something’s off.
Because of his attraction, a guy that likes you will ask you questions related to your personal life, emotions, feelings, and so on.
This is a sign that he cares about you, and what you think, because he values your opinions and what you have to say.
When a guy likes you, he’ll pay attention to details. Considering the amount of attention he gives you, he will notice when you’re not feeling at your best.
He wants to know how your day went, how you’re doing emotionally, and how you’re feeling.
8. He engages in your text conversations.
Another way to know if a guy likes you through text is by taking a look at how much he engages in the text conversation.
When he likes you he shares things like details from his days, personal things, problems, or stories of his own.
He tries making your conversations worthwhile, he engages in the conversation, and he reciprocates.
9. He remembers the things you tell him.
When a guy likes you, he pays attention to what you tell him; the things you like, the things you don’t like, and a lot of other details.
That’s because of the curiosity he feels when he’s around someone he likes so much.
He will remember the things and details you’ve shared with him and mention or respect them, and that will show through text as well.
10. He wants more than texting with you.
When he likes you, he’ll show it through text by telling you he wishes he was near you at this moment, or even ask you out for an in-person conversation.
He won’t get enough just from texting with you. He’ll want to hear your voice, see you, and hang out with you.
He will not want to be a pen pal for long. He likes you, of course, and he’ll want to be in your presence.
11. You have long text conversations.
Long text conversations take time and effort. Two things we’re not willing to give unless we feel like the other person is worth it, right?
When he likes you, it’ll reflect in the way he texts you too.
You’re not the only one trying to keep the text conversation going, because he as well puts time and effort into your text conversations.
He puts thought into what he says rather than using short, dull texts that make conversations short-lasting.
12. He apologizes when he takes too long to reply.
What he’s feeling for you makes him explain himself a bit more than he would explain himself to random people.
He apologizes when he takes too long to reply, or even tells you the reasons why he couldn’t reply earlier.
He lets you know when he’s busy and can’t talk because he doesn’t want to seem uninterested in you.
That’s because he doesn’t want to give you the impression that he doesn’t care about you and push you away, hence he feels the need to explain.
13. “I saw this, and it reminded me of you.” & “I wish I was there with you”
Your gay best friend won’t tell you how badly he wants to be close to you.
A guy that likes you, will make an effort to give you hints and see your reaction so that he knows if the feeling he’s got for you is requited.
You’re in his mind, and of course, things remind him of you, he’ll text you to let you know about it with hopes of hinting that he likes you or igniting a spark.
14. He drops his ego and Double Texts you.
There you have another easy-to-spot sign he likes you over text! When a man likes a woman, he will often not mind his ego and will double-text her.
Double texting isn’t necessarily bad or wrong. If he wants to know if things are cool between you two, then it’s okay.
Jennifer Mann, a psychotherapist, says double-texting is okay, and it isn’t necessarily a sign of desperation.
He’s just eager to get your opinion and your texts back and isn’t hiding it. This, obviously, represents a sign of affection and attraction to you!
15. He lets you know when he won’t be able to reply.
You can tell a guy really likes you when he reflects his consideration of your presence through his texting habits.
When he lets you know he has to go, it means he’s interested in continuing the conversation further, and he wants to let you know he’s not ignoring you.
He doesn’t want to risk seeming uninterested, so he takes the effort to explain when he won’t be able to reply to your texts.
16. He gave you nicknames.
Studies show that nicknames are a great sign of affection toward another person.
When he likes you that much, at some point, he will call you a sweet nickname that represents part of how he sees you.
“Sweetie” “Darling” and “Beautiful” are just a few of the many examples to mention.
He might also find a nickname to tease you a little (e.g. “Señorita”), which is a great sign.
Being playful is an absolutely positive sign in a relationship. It is a way of flirting. A playful and lovely way of mingling.
17. He uses emojis.
Studies show that part of a display of desire and/or flirty behavior through text is a specific use of emojis.
When he likes you, he won’t use just any emoji. He will use hearts, kisses, winky faces, and other flirty ones that indicate playfulness and attraction.
Pay attention, an emoji can say a lot about his message and his attraction to you!
18. He mirrors your texting.
We unconsciously mirror people we like and the ones we want to create a bond with. We do that through body language, verbal communication, or… text.
It’s one of the obvious psychological signs that he likes you through text.
- He uses the type of slang you used, even though he didn’t use that before;
- He writes similar expressions or phrases as you;
- You notice him using YOUR words, the ones only you use!
19. He texts you compliments.
He’ll find ways to let you know how good you look in that picture, how funny you are, or how smart you are. Of course, he will, he likes you!
Part of giving compliments is that he can’t contain the admiration and attraction he has toward you.
He wants to get your attention and tell you what he appreciates about you. At some point, he can’t help but let you know.
20. He smashes the sign on your face: He’s blunt about his attraction toward you!
He shows how much he likes you through text when he sends you texts to tell you how much he misses you or how much he likes your attributes.
You might receive texts such as
- “I missed you!”
- “I like how you articulate your thoughts.”
- “I like how you look in that picture.”
If he’s not interested through text, he won’t bother to comment on your positive attributes!
The clever way to find out if he likes you are through text!
The easiest way to get a guy to admit he likes you over text is by telling him you like him.
If you like him, tell him. If he likes you back, he will tell you too.
Though if you’re not feeling so bold today, here are a few more ways through which you can text him out to find out if he likes you over text:
– Send him a lovely message and see his response. You can start with texts similar to these:
- “Good morning handsome! Did you sleep well?”
- “I’m wishing you a beautiful, and interesting day today!”
- “I wish you a day just as beautiful as your energy!”
Pay attention to his response.
These are some lovely texts to receive, and if the attraction is or isn’t reciprocated there will be a blunt response for you to find out what’s in his mind.
If he’s happy and thankful about it, and also reciprocates it, then he likes you.
– Let him know of a problem you’re trying to solve. Don’t make a problem up.
Simply, let him know of a problem you’re dealing with.
If he offers to help you, if he seems to be supportive beyond his ways, then there’s something more than friendship there.
If he likes you he’ll give off signs over text and you’ll eventually find out!
The signs listed are not absolute indicators of the romantic attraction of every single guy out there.
There are other factors that come into play as well.
When looking at the signs it is very important to consider the tone and the context when interpreting his text messages.
Remember, you can always take the first step and directly discuss your feelings with him.
Everyone expresses things differently. He might not fit into every frame or standard of “he does this, he likes you”, or “he does this, he’s not interested”.
Knowing more about him will make it easier for you to connect the dots on whether he likes you.
You can tell a guy likes you through text when he’s thoughtful (e.g. makes sure you arrived safely if you made it to work in time); consistent in initiating; contributes to meaningful text conversations.
Take things slow and one at a time. If he likes you, you’ll eventually find out!
How to Tell if a Guy Likes You Over Text? – 22 Signs He Likes You Through Text