Modern dating requires modern solutions.
To decipher if he’s slowly falling for you through text, you should keep track of his texting pattern/habits, his effort, and his interaction with you.
In this article, we’ll provide you with 11 signs he’s falling for you and practical tips on how to define it!
How do you know that a guy is falling for you through text? Here’s a quick guide!
To know if a guy is falling for you through text requires two crucial things: Two be vigilant and enjoy the ride.
You shouldn’t force yourself to constantly try and read through his texts.
Instead, use your authenticity to craft these texts and enjoy them.
- In other words, if you’re initiating texts these past few days, just reflect on where was the last time he did it.
- If you always create time and space to answer his texts, reflect from time to time, on how he interacts with you in this aspect.
- What type of questions and conversations he initiates, when you ask him about his day or how was his weekend?
Without further ado, here are 11 signs he’s falling for you through text:
1. His texts are longer and more meaningful
One of the most fundamental signs that he’s slowly falling for you through text is expressing excitement to text you.
If he wasn’t interested in you then he would constantly avoid making deep conversations such as about life and your plans.
When he starts to develop feelings for you, his texts will have a kind tone, he’ll make sure to use details and not give short answers.
He wants you to notice him. How he expresses his feelings depends on his personality, but if he’s slowly falling for you, he’ll avoid dry texting.
🔘How to decipher this sign?
You can notice that he’s more enthusiastic if you pay attention to the way he uses exclamation marks, capital letters, and emojis.
If he uses these to express how thrilled he’s to talk to or meet you then he’s slowly developing stronger feelings for you.
2. He initiates the conversations most of the time
Love is a complex notion and it includes caring sharing, and understanding.
Yet, if he initiates the conversation to check up on you or keep you updated about his life, it means he likes you and is interested in you.
But, if he’s slowly falling for you, he’ll make sure to include details from your life that’ll make you happy.
🔘How to decipher this sign?
Well, try to reflect on how many times he initiates conversation and what type of conversation you make.
He might initiate a conversation to ask you to do things for him and that’s not a sign that he’s slowly falling for you.
If he’s really into you, he’ll try to keep the conversation going. So, consider checking the context of your conversation whether in person or over text.
3. He prioritizes communication with you
He communicates with you differently: He Takes Care of Everything!
This means he tries to get out of his comfort zone and gets creative when it comes to texting you.
I did this with my partner, knowing priorly that he was shy, he tried to send me many jokes that I liked.
Back in our time, there were no memes, but he used to crack some dad jokes.
He did that just to make my day better even though he was super busy with college and everything.
One text that has sent to me one fine morning (that we still laugh about it) was:
“Do you know how is possible to make a tissue dance? You just slightly put some BOOGIE over there and party along.”
🔘How to decipher this sign?
Just simply ask yourself how communicating with him feels and how much effort he puts into it.
4. He uses more flirty and explicit language
When a guy wants to get your attention and make you his, he’s all playful and uses much sharper words to get your heart.
Yet, flirting through text can be a form of infatuation and lust too. To flirt, he’ll use compliments and use explicit emojis to express his intentions.
🔘How to decipher this sign?
Yet, what draws the difference and to know how to read his messages in text, is to look up to the tone of the conversation and his aim.
What was his aim for flirting with you or what was his way?
If he was flirting with you to get your attention and make you feel good, he’ll use compliments that aren’t necessarily about your appearance.
If you need more than just your opinion, to decipher these texts then the help of a relationship coach would make a difference.
5. He sends reassuring texts
One of the most fundamental signs that he’s falling slowly for you is sending thoughtful texts.
Especially, if you have an anxious attachment style and he has noticed it, he uses this text to show that he’s by your side.
When a person develops stronger feelings for you, he’ll try to show compassion and connect with you emotionally.
His texts might sound something like this:
- “Just so you know, I’m always here for you.”
- “If you need someone to talk to today. I’ll be that person.”
- “Have I told you lately how much you mean to me?”
🔘How to decipher this sign?
If you struggle with anxious attachment then you won’t feel the need to text him like crazy when he’s slowly falling for you because he’ll do it.
6. He tries to make you feel good and make you laugh
Whether you’re having a good or bad day, he’ll be the person that will send you a text to make you smile like crazy.
He’ll casually check on you in his free time and give you attention.
He will tease you and send you a text like this:
“Life was beautiful, before U. I meant before Uni.”
🔘How to decipher this sign?
Check out if, through these funny jokes, he’s trying to be vulnerable and connect with you on a deeper level.
7. He’s not shy to express his feelings or needs
One of the most obvious signs that he is slowly falling for you is communicating his feelings for you openly.
He’ll text randomly to tell you how much he’s missing you or how he wishes you were there with him.
If he’s comfortable with opening up then it means that he’s good at being truthful and setting boundaries.
🔘How to decipher this sign?
You should check if he tells you how much you mean to him or how you impact him.
Yet, be prepared to know that not every guy feels comfortable expressing his feelings over text or even in person.
So, most important than just appreciating his words, try to check his actions.
8. He brings up small details about you
If he remembers every detail of you then it means that you’re his priority and he’s a good listener.
A player can fall in love but he would never focus on details. Even the way a player falls in love is erratic.
Thus, a guy that is slowly falling for you through text will mention things like:
- Your favorite coffee flavor;
- A childhood memory that you thought wasn’t that important;
- A memory that will make you feel good and empowered;
🔘How to decipher this sign?
Check how and when he mentions these types of things. Does he say those casually or if he has been making a conversation to just mention that detail?
Distinguishing this makes a difference because if he has been forcing it then he might do it for another reason not out of love.
9. He texts you to ask for your opinion/advice
He puts you on the pedestal. This is a good sign.
If he respects you for who you are and asks for your advice or opinion on something meaningful then he’s slowly falling for you.
Because he values your opinion and if he’s that type of person that doesn’t take the opinion of others but only yours this might mean a thing.
🔘How to decipher this sign?
It doesn’t mean that every guy that asks for your opinion is in love with you.
Yet, if he steps out of his comfort zone to get your opinion because he values you then it might mean that he’s developing feelings.
10. He uses nicknames or phrases to show his affection
If he uses nicknames and other sweet words to express his love for you then it means that he’s slowly falling for you.
Using a nickname only for you and connecting that to his feelings for you, it’s a sign of exclusivity.
He might use words like sweetheart, darling, sweetie, babygirl, angel, and so on.
“Hey angel, I meant Marissa, what’s up?”
🔘How to decipher this sign?
He giggles when he calls you by this nickname and tries to show it through voice messages or photos.
Yet, a guy can be interested and call you a nickname but leave it at that.
That doesn’t mean that he isn’t interested in you but he cannot express himself in any other way.
Furthermore, check if he connects this nickname with his feelings or any future plan or date with you.
11. He asks to face time more frequently
A dating coach Meredith Golden says that someone can catch feelings while doing a face time.
So, when a guy is slowly falling for you through text, he wants to step up the game.
Other than a voice mail and voice messages, he might ask you casually if you want to face time.
Rather than just staring at your words, he wants to get the full view.
🔘How to decipher this sign?
Before approving to face time, check how he feels about you by asking direct and flirty questions.
When you make sure that he likes you then you might agree to face time and see what’s next.
Can a guy fall in love through texting?
Yes, a guy can fall in love through texting. To be more specific, it’s possible to develop strong feelings for someone through text.
But how long it takes for him to fall in love through texting depends on his personality, attachment style, and situation.
“If you haven’t seen the movie “You’ve got mail”, I recommend you do it.
Because you’ll get the idea of how someone can develop easier feelings for someone over text rather than in person.
Joe and Kathleen know one another before starting to communicate anonymously through emails.
In reality and person, they hate one another. Yet, they start to catch feelings communicating in written form.”
Eventually, reality might be different from the image you create for him or vice versa.
But, as long as he puts effort into getting to know the real you and being vulnerable with you, falling in love through text is possible.
If both of you develop sincere feelings then when you’ll meet in person, these feelings will grow stronger.
Especially, if he doesn’t base his feelings only on your photos and not on the way you think or on your priorities and preferences.
Yet, before jumping to any conclusion, try to be open with him and communicate your feelings.
If you haven’t met with one another yet, it’s better to meet sooner, so you’ll get a grip on the situation and avoid any type of misunderstanding.
How many texts does it take to fall in love?
There’s not a set number of texts when it comes to making someone fall in love with you or vice versa.
According to scientific studies, women tend to fall in love first and quicker than men.
This happens because it’s proved that women are more skeptical when it comes to relationships.
So, how many texts it takes to fall in love, depends on the context, mutual effort, and on attraction.
Not everyone can engage in texting easily.
If for someone it takes to talk every day and send for a month more than 50 texts to someone else it might take more and longer.
And a study made by Novak (2015) shows that for couples, people who are dating or just talking, texting helps them to express feelings easier.
If both of you are emotionally intelligent then you might open up with one another earlier on and you’ll tend to make deeper conversations.
Wrapping it up: Which signs define that he’s falling for you through text?
Some clear signs that he’s falling for you through the text are using playful and supportive language, checking up on you, and making you feel good.
It’s important to remember that not all guys express their feelings in the same way.
And if your guy isn’t flirty through text that doesn’t mean that he isn’t falling for you.
Just try to check if he prioritizes you and if he’s trying to connect with you emotionally by trying to get to know you better.
Still, don’t try to only about proving his love to you through text. Only time, consistency, and constant communication will tell it.
Sincerely,
Callisto Adams
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