Are you wondering if he is feeling jealous? It’s not always easy to know, but eventually, their behavior will reveal they’re true feelings.
Some guys might be straightforward and tell you directly, while others may try to hide it.
If he is showing signs of jealousy, it could be because they’re worried about appearing weak or afraid of damaging the relationship.
Let’s take a closer look at some signs that your partner might be feeling jealous.
Although, these are 15 signs that don’t just go unnoticed:
1. The way he acts says it all
His body language would be a giveaway, no matter how hard he tries to fight it. He won’t be able to keep a straight face with his jealousy
With men perhaps even with women, slight glances across the room will indicate, that they are keeping their eyes on you.
- He will block the man in front of you, and if you’re talking to some guy he will purposefully get in between with an aggressive stance.
- His voice cripples, and he feels nervous about what might happen.
- He is pointedly putting an arm around you when he sees another man hitting on you.
2. He “jokingly” acts mad when you talk to other men
This sign is one of the easiest ways to spot when other men are around you to try and see his reaction.
Particularly other guys he feels could be a potential romantic interest to you.
So just mentioning it, even if it’s a mutual friend, or your boss, or somebody that was hitting on you in the past, will get an expression from them.
Whereas a woman will absorb and keep it on track because she will sense her intentions.
He might even yell at you and then immediately say “But babe this was a joke, you know.”
3. He becomes prince charming amongst other men
This usually happens when there are other guys he sees as competition and wants to outdo them.
A jealous boyfriend will act immediately when he notices that you’re attracting a male’s attention.
He searches for your validation and attention constantly.
He thinks he needs to stay on top of the game, in case other faster guys get in the picture.
4. He magnifies small issues
You forgot to call him at the exact time you planned or you told him you could not make it to go out that day.
He expects you to drop everything for him and probably doesn’t think you have a social life outside of him.
He doesn’t even consider hearing the reason for your cancellation before gets mad that you didn’t.
Creating his own scenarios in his head to get upset about it and takes that as if you don’t wanna spend time with him.
It kills the mood from out of nowhere and might give you the silent treatment, and hides the reason for a long period.
5. He stalks your social media followers
Social media plays a big role when in a relationship.
When he’s jealous but plays it cool, he might often go through your followers to check if you recently followed a guy or what post you liked.
According to the therapist, Jeanae M. Hopgood, Many people would consider this cheating if it violated their boundaries.
This behavior could be motivated by jealousy, he stalks and keeps track of the following number, till he finds out anything of the sort.
So, to define whether he’s jealous because of him or you, a relationship coach will help you to reflect on the situation differently.
6. He demands you introduce him as your boyfriend
Even if you are not ready to make it exclusive yet, he will find his way through that.
If you’re at a special or simple gathering and you introduce him only as (His Name), he’ll immediately react.
He’ll reintroduce himself as your boyfriend.
You should sit down and talk about where the relationship is heading, and not go on without your approval!
He wants people to know that you’re not available so that any other guy doesn’t try to hit it off.
7. He tests your loyalty and jealousy
One of the fundamental signs that he is jealous but is playing cool is when he tests your loyalty indirectly.
That is why when you give it to someone/something else, he will get insecure, search for your attention and want an ego boost.
So he goes out searching for reasons and scenarios to make you jealous.
It is possibly a tease from him to find out, if he succeeds in making you feel jealous, he sees himself as of value.
It is definitely a manipulation technique, using you to feel better about yourself, a classic toxic move.
8. He gets mad when you point out somebody’s attractiveness
I experienced a burst of jealousy from my boyfriend. We were watching a movie, and I told him that I found the protagonist hot.
I eventually had to convince him that nothing could even happen. It is out of the question.
This is where I made the mistake, you should never apologize for something as small as that, even if it is a compliment.
If he feels insecure around other men, it is not your concern, it should be his case to work for and not project them into you.
9. He doesn’t want you to greet any guy not even his cousins
When you see some acquaintance, typically you greet them as one does.
But this does not seem to be the case for him.
To him, this translates to being disloyal and he expects you to greet other men only in his presence.
He will try to hide this behavior he knows it is crazy possessive and doesn’t make sense, but in his head, he feels is the right thing to do.
10. He shows up unannounced at places
If you and your boyfriend are in a committed relationship, you absolutely should not be okay with him seeking your presence nonstop.
He shows up uninvited at your workplace, so everybody sees him.
He is always trying to make a point and give hints you are in a relationship.
This might seem like a sweet gesture at first but if you say nothing he will continue to do so until your boss gets tired of his presence every day.
11. He requires you to Facetime when he doubts your whereabouts
At first, this can feel like a cute gesture, you know he wants to see your face and hear your voice.
But then it seems as if the only reason is he was feeling sketched and wanted to see what you are up to.
He will try to do this more often keeping all tabs on you, and when you say no he immediately insists on calling.
But don’t let him guilt or shame you for not answering his calls. Setting boundaries now will keep things from getting out of hand in the future.
According to Psychologist Ryan Howes, it’s better to get disappointed now than threaten your relationship later.
12. He prefers the silent treatment over talking
Rather than making himself sound desperate with all the questions regarding his jealousy, he chooses not to speak at all.
You might have done something he thinks is unfaithful, therefore he is now jealous and upset.
So he pulled away, whereas if he would sit down and talk to you, he’d get a more clear understanding of what might have happened.
This behavior is a slight red flag and can cause misunderstandings in the near future.
13. He suddenly goes head over heels for you
Being sweet and loving 24/7 is normal to a degree, but it becomes suspicious when it comes out of the blue.
You start to notice that:
- He compliments you more
- He texts every morning and night
- Plans unexpected dates to see you
- Spoils you with gifts
He is worried about losing you to someone who actually does these gestures with you and therefore he has this change in attitude.
According to Susan Krauss Ph.D., this happens because they fear the love object will slip away if not given all their attention.
14. When your friends tease you, he gets jealous
When a guy is jealous but plays it cool, he might try to find every hint to prove his jealousy.
If your friends are joking about a guy being interested in you, he might eavesdrop or try to ask them questions.
This can happen depending on the type of friendships you have, and actually jealous behavior in situations like these is normal.
To evict the relationship from breaking, you should reassure him with affection and apologies on behalf of your friend
15. He intervenes in your dating life
One of the signs that a guy is jealous but is playing it cool is when he trash-talks about your dates.
He won’t date you exclusively but the idea alone that anyone can have you, drives him crazy and also triggers his insecurities.
So until he figures out whether he wants a relationship or not, he feels the need to eliminate any option that takes you away from him.
He will make sure you are not seeing anyone besides him, even if he doesn’t wanna close the deal with you.
Why is he jealous but playing it cool?
He might be jealous but is playing cool because he either doesn’t want to put his guard down or is still processing and working on his feelings.
1. He wants to act tough in front of you.
To him jealousy implies being weak, and that it is not the image he wants you to have.
So, instead of communicating his feelings, he chooses to build up walls and act weird.
2. He knows he got Competition
He might think that he can’t compete with other males that are interested in you and plays it cool.
He wants to show you the stronger, more confident guy he knows he is.
He knows by acting all jealous and insecure, he would be perceived as a wimp, therefore he won’t win this race.
3. He isn’t comfortable with his insecurity
Of fear of getting rejected or past cheating experiences, he is not okay anymore with showing any emotion directly through words.
- He thinks sounding desperate will make you not want him anymore.
- He thinks you will laugh at his insecurities.
- Will reject him, making his insecurity worse.
So he thinks it’s best to keep emotions to himself and not express them.
What should you do if he hides his emotions?
You should start by trying to understand his emotions and the place they are coming from.
If you suspect your partner, boyfriend, or date is getting jealous but trying to play it cool.
1. Try to show empathy and understand how he feels.
Sit down and communicate, this is the best thing you can do for both of you.
When you create a safe environment, he will feel more comfortable expressing them in the future and won’t create confusion.
2. Tell him your boundaries in time before they get crossed.
Have chats about what you both do and don’t try to sugarcoat it.
Even if it becomes discomforting for the moment, it will be helpful for the future of your relationship.
3. Try to avoid sounding dismissive about his emotions.
If you make the mistake of dismissing their feelings, it will definitely not help your case at all.
He will feel more insecure and think something is wrong on his behalf.
Chose sweet words and help him work on his feelings.
In conclusion: He is jealous but is he calm and distant about it?
Not everybody experiences jealousy the same, it is a complicated emotion that manifests itself in different ways.
It is crucial to acknowledge and express it, but often people tend to keep it secretive.
So if you notice any sign of jealousy at your partner, sit down and have a chat to address the issue together.
Trust is the key to a healthy relationship.
All love to you,