The relationship between a man and a woman at times feels complicated, like some sort of Big Bang theory that you need to figure out. With a bit of understanding, and a bit of love it can become slightly less complicated.
Post first date: eyes wide open, dreaming of this dreamy guy. That’s good, not-so-complicated news, eh? How about we take it easy, and not rush into that ‘hubby material’ idea yet.
Let’s first see if he’s interested or not first, shall we? Those little gestures after the date, and during the date will give us enough material to know if he’s sharing the same interest as you are.
BUT, before we see if he’s interested after your first date, let’s not jump to conclusions without having a couple of things straight:
The basics of a first date
What is a perfect date?
Oh good lawd, here I go with the bitter news: there does not exist such a thing as ‘A Perfect Date’.
Here’s how you can have a more pragmatic approach to it: If you feel yourself, have a great smile like an idiot while dining, your heart goes Bidi Bidi Bom Bom, you find empathy while being there, you don’t wanna be anywhere else… Jackpot! A good, decent date that you’re having.
This is not called perfection but can be called ‘Two people being interested in each other and having a good decent time’.
You might feel that everything went well, since you laughed and had a good time, had similar goals, same interests, but that doesn’t mean they got the same impression.
Some people are like chameleons, they might change their ideas, themselves, for someone to like them. Meaning, you might’ve had an amazing time, but that doesn’t necessarily mean they did too.
“ Are we humans or are we dancers?”
Yes, we are just a combo of humans and dancers, that we dance through the music of life, just the way it comes. Yes, most of the time we do transmit what we are feeling but yet one’s feelings and opinions for you can not be read in detail.
What I suggest you do is go with the flow and have a peek at the Sure Signs that we offer to tell if he is really interested in you after the first date!
Here you have them, 15 obvious, sure-fire signs that he’s interested in you after the first date:
1. He likes to ‘Carpe Diem’ and Seize the Date with you
He is very spontaneous but in a good way. His actions make you feel interested in him, and you follow one another very easily throughout the conversation.
If one risks being fully vulnerable on the first date, then girl, things are going well. By being his true self, he wants to let you know him better and see this side of him that he wants you to reflect the same.
Why it is a sign of interest: He can not fake himself if he does things abruptly. When he looks to catch and enjoy each moment, be present on the date, chances are he’s being genuine. People cannot ‘fake it’ for a long time, especially emotional presence.
One sign that he likes you and is interested is down!
2. He texts or calls after the first date
If he texts or calls you after the date or even after a couple of days is fine. It is quite alright if he does not call immediately since maybe he needs to process the thoughts and feelings.
Some people have it much easier to take another step into a relationship than others. This does not mean that he is not interested in you, it means that it takes time for some people to express their feelings to you.
You might get a text like “Did you make it home safely?”, or something else that shows care, or attempt for another date.
Why it is a sign of interest: Calling, or texting after the date takes effort and care by the person, those two go hand in hand with interest.
If you had a good time and he calls you the morning after or even in a couple of days, get ready for a second date. What are you gonna wear?
3. He mentions that he wants to see you again
It is very very exciting when he mentions that he wants to hang out with you again (of course if seeing him again is something you’d like too).
If things are going fine and you are having a good time he will ask you in the meantime directly or indirectly to have a second date.
Why is it a sign of interest: By wanting to see you again means he’s willing to know more about you and to spend time with you; and because he feels that way, he asks you if you are down to do the same thing.
4. He is curious about you and your background
He asks questions about you and wants to know more. He is the one that starts with the conversation but without making it uncomfortable and weird.
He just levels up the conversation to a deeper level, he is interested in your childhood, your favorite movie, your life motto, your idol, your first impression of him, or whether you’re into books more than movies, etc.
Why it is a sign of interest: Being willing to ask questions and actually listen to the answers takes interest, takes genuine curiosity to know about the other. Did he seem genuinely interested in what you have to say?
Note: Do not be discouraged if he didn’t/doesn’t ask a lot of questions since it depends on the type of person. In some cases, it can be the other way around, if you initiate the conversation it might make it easier for him to start to know you.
5. WHOOSH from a stranger, to a friend, to a lover
It might seem like you are S-P-E-E-D-I-N-G this time in a relationship but you should consider this: If he did not feel like a stranger when you met him and you two met each other’s expectations you go immediately from talking buddies to friends with deeper feelings from one another.
If two of you are enjoying each other’s conversation and presence and he keeps referring to you as a dear person to him, IT WAS GOOD THAT HE HAS MET YOU.
Why it is a sign of interest: He’s ‘investing’ time and effort into your connection. That takes more than just a physical attraction.
If you’re getting deep into conversations, knowing more of one another, then BOOMSHAKALAKA you are gonna be present on the second, third date, maybe WEEDING? *Wink Wink*
6. He’s got an aura that makes you feel comfortable around him
One thing that I really appreciate about some guys is the feeling of comfort and understanding that they give off.
If during and after the first date he is able to make you feel like you’re home, then it means he cares for you to feel comfortable and not be stressed around him.
He might ask you to make something together but without being controlling or pushing you to do that. If you have talked earlier on that you liked to eat pizza in a certain place, he asks politely to switch the place and make the date go longer.
Why it is a sign of interest: It’s a way of him showing care about your feelings and effort put into the date. Be ready for some surprise baby girl, he might even kiss you at the end of this night in order to tell you that he is interested in you.
7. Eagers to make a good first impression
Everytime that you want to tell him something he is really interested in the topics that you are talking about or even he gives you the shot of discussing it.
Also, his act of being a gentleman is one of the traits that he uses to look good in front of your eyes. If you are the one that said while texting that you like strawberry chocolates but you are allergic to the peanut butter ones, and he remembers this small but important detail of you….Well, Well, Well, here we got the sign that his heart went pitter-patter for you!
Why it is a sign of interest: Someone that cares about you wants to make a good impression on you, to look good in your eyes. And someone who wants to make a good impression on you, is someone that wants your attention, has an interest in you.
8. You immediately click/a shot of innocent comments
As soon as you start the conversation that does not seem all awkward and you are not in pain while being there.
That magic connection happens when each of you sees that you have similar goals or intentions in life. Once a guy you are dating has even a little bit of interest in you he might be open to his opinions about his future and tell you more about his future plans.
Why it is a sign of interest: I am not a Cinderella type but yet compliments reflect a lot of things. First, his percent of interest in you. I am not talking about compliments to make him look better or compliments that make him benefit from you. I am talking about compliments that make him blush from saying it and making you feel some type of way.
Good examples of good compliments:
– “I notice that you like the Beatles, a nice taste of music.”
– “You’re so going to win that History Quiz, we both know this. You’re too smart, it’s unreal!”
9. You get crazy together
The situation that is created enables you too to feel real and vulnerable with one another. If you can be crazy with one another through that first date, then sis embrace this chance.
It is quite unusual in this day and age of dating to meet someone who matches your personality, especially if you’ve got a ‘crazy’ one.
If you are that type of person that wants to do things unexpectedly like, have a drink at midnight at the beach, or have a whole cruise from the south to the north just you and him, or you know something of this type of crazy!
Why it is a sign of interest: If he is interested in doing these things with you and does not seem bored, just pack your bags. INTERESTED GUY, CHECK!
10. “Just a Kiss Goodnight” or a hug maybe?
If he wants to get a hug from you at the end of the night or even that K-I-S-S, then he wants to make sure that you get his ‘I wanna continue this thing with you’.
If a guy is a little bit shy, or confused about his feelings for him it might take a little more time to take this type of action, for him just one date is not enough!
Why it is a sign of interest: Hugging or kissing it’s about sharing personal spaces and being intimate at a certain level. It is very important how the date ends and if he hugs and kisses you in order to express his feelings;
That is a good sign! He will text or call in the following days to discuss the date. Get ready!
11. Body language: a lot of touching
One of the first date signs that he likes you is his body language, but especially he shows that he has a great interest in you when he touches his hair and his face. This means that he is interested in you and has some kind of feelings for you.
Why it is a sign of interest: Body language is the mirror of what one is feeling. When he is touching his face and hair, he is feeling a little bit nervous while being in your presence. If he is a little bit nervous while being with you, it means that he has feelings for you and wants to condemn himself while having that dinner or lunch or whatever.
If you have had a date recently and wanted to check why he was touching his hair and face constantly, HE IS FEELING SOME TYPE OF WAY, GIRLIE GIRL!
12. The date was extended by him
Even after the date is starting to finish he finds ways to keep you longer with him.
Some of the moves that he does to extend the date:
– It takes longer to find the money to pay the bill.
– He keeps asking you if you want something more or orders desserts that he likes in order to find another type of connection and keep you around.
– Asks you to walk you home or give you a ride.
It is nice when he does this because it shows the level of interest that he has in you, if you were wondering if this is a sign that he likes you while having a first date. Here you go!
Why it is a sign of interest: He’d be out earlier if he wouldn’t be interested, let alone find ways to extend the date.
13. He tries to impress you without being cocky
It is very important if during the date he tried to impress you without putting you down and lifting himself up.
I have seen a lot of guys who were being cocky, and arrogant just because they wanted to impress the girl but they chose the wrong method.
If he tells you about his achievements but in a way that informs you about his background, his decisions, his future plans, his mindset, then he likes to do it because it will tell you a lot about him.
Why it is a sign of interest: He wants to share a part of him with you. It’s his polite way of showing off, and letting you know how good of a person he is, and how cool of a boyfriend he’d be if you’d just let him.
14. He slightly flirted with you during the date
If he teased you a little bit and wanted to see your reaction while he was joking then take it as a sign of a flirtatious move.
Did he flirt? Follow these signs to solve that huge jigsaw of yours:
– If he cracks a joke without being cringe;
– Touches you in a form of protection and caring without making it awkward;
– Challenges you in a fun way; without making you feel less important, or a failure;
– While being funny and not pushy, he tries to convince you to try something different, something that you have not done before.
Why it is a sign of interest: Flirting is a way of playfully showing affection and desire. If he did it moderately, then you cannot put it in any other box but the one that’s labeled ‘interested’.
15. You can feel it in your gut
Trust your sixth sense sis! It is like gravity pulls you two to one another. You feel like you two are meant to be and you cannot explain that feeling.
You have had your opinion on him from the talking stage until now and your expectations have met the ‘Real Him’. Finally, pheeewww!
Why it is a sign of interest: We are constantly unconsciously reading one another, picking signs, giving signs. It’s a years and years primal instinct. You’ll feel it.
Keep in your pocket: Advice from my experience (as a relationship expert)
If during the date, he does not feel like sharing too much, it does not mean that he is not entirely interested in you. He might be a person that finds it a little bit difficult to talk about his childhood or anything from his past due to his personal reasons.
He is not a troll if he finds it a little bit difficult to be fully vulnerable and open to you, on the first date. If he was not interested in you, he would not like to share anything with you, he would only listen or try to lie about his past.
If you are a type that speaks more than him, then you should pay attention to this type of detail. Do not be scared from a pause that happens from time to time while talking.
Get to know what he likes and feel comfortable to talk to and if you see that this is the reason that he may feel a little bit distant, you can work it out together.
Questions to ask yourself after the date:
FAQ: How to tell that a first date went well?
1. How do you know if there is chemistry on the first date?
If there is no chemistry during the date then that date will fall apart. You may find it very easy and quick if there is chemistry, because you will feel it.
When there’s chemistry there’s this sense of ease while you’re on the date; you both feel the attraction, you’re both aware of it.
There will be laughter, butterflies in your stomach, two of you will be interested in one another’s looks, words, eyes, and on.
If he is not interested after the first date, he will find a way to not communicate with you and avoid you, while giving you meaningless reasons.
Here are a few of the signs through which you can tell he’s not interested after the first date:
1. He finds ways to avoid you;
2. He doesn’t text or call after the date;
3. Calls the date off before expected;
4. Doesn’t show interest by asking questions, or expressing opinions.
Conclusion – Is he interested or not?
His interest mustn’t be your priority, nor your goal when attending a date. Enjoy the date as much as you can without the thought of ‘Is he going to like me?’.
Take one piece of advice at a time, do not close your eyes on details, pay attention to little things. Just be yourself and if he is interested in you, you will be one of his priorities!
Take care and spread love.