How a man acts when he doesn’t want anyone else to have you depends on his aim.
When he doesn’t want anyone else to have you because he has feelings for you and is ready to commit, he’ll try to connect with you more.
But, when he doesn’t want anyone else to have you because he can’t stand the fact of seeing you with someone else, he’ll be very possessive.
To cut down your frustration and clear the smoke, here are 11 fundamental signs he doesn’t want anyone else to have you:
According to Steve Harvey when a man lets you in his inner circle, he’s ready to commit and doesn’t want anyone else to have you.
So, when he likes you and doesn’t want anyone else to have you but him, he tries to keep you close to him.
Technically, when he aims to date you exclusively, he makes you a part of his life. He makes you his priority.
But, if he’s trying to keep you around him just to keep you under his control then he’ll try to impact what you think and how you behave.
◾In this case, it’s better to set your boundaries and explain to him what you’re looking for in a partner. You can even cut contact with him.
2. He’s not interested in dating other women
One of the most fundamental signs he doesn’t want anyone else to have you is when he sacrifices his dating life.
Indeed, when he focuses only on you and doesn’t look for any other partner, this means that he doesn’t want you to be with someone else.
A man that wants to form a healthy relationship, will cut everything out and be sincere with you.
On the other hand, if he is doing this because he’s obsessed with you, then he’ll mingle in your personal life too.
◾If you don’t feel comfortable having him around and controlling your dating life then be straightforward with him.
You should tell him: “Hey, I’m aware of your feelings for me but I don’t think that we’re on the same page.”
3. He’s interested a lot in your personal life
When a man wants commitment from a woman, he starts to become jealous.
But, he might also do it if he has low self-esteem or is afraid of commitment.
“A good friend of mine told someone that he had feelings for me but didn’t say it to my face, ever.
He constantly asked others about my other male friends and what I was doing on weekends.
The solution to this situation was to be upfront with him. I asked if he felt more for more than just being mere friends.
He said yes but we were starting college then and he wasn’t ready to commit. Was jealous but never took any action.”
4. He’s caring and tries to be understanding
Long-term relationships also have their ups and downs.
Every day isn’t going to be all about love.
Arguing is quite normal and if he doesn’t want anyone else to have you, he’ll try to reflect more on the situation.
He’ll avoid pointing fingers and will try to find a proper or mutual solution by apologizing and starting fresh.
Shortly, he wants to step up from the crowd. Not every man does this only the one who tries to manage his emotional intelligence.
5. He gives you special attention
When he doesn’t want anyone else to have you, he tries to treat you differently from others.
He goes beyond his capacity. This means that he tries everything he has on his hands to make you feel like you’re the only girl in the world.
He might do this out of love or because he’s insecure and doesn’t want you to like anyone else other than him.
- He initiates a lot of dates and wants to spend 90% of his time with you;
- He buys you expensive gifts;
- He compliments you a lot and all the time;
This can be taken as love bombing and it is better to take a step back and develop this “relationship” step by step.
When a guy wants you to not be close to any other guy, he tries to be more vulnerable with you.
Yet, it’s important to know that not all men can open up to someone easily.
So, when even if he struggles to open up, he’ll find a way to connect with you emotionally.
- He might share what he likes and dislikes;
- He might tell you a story about his childhood;
- You talk about different topics including love, your future, and everything that concerns any of you.
But when a guy doesn’t want anyone else to have you because he doesn’t have any other emotional support, he will cross your boundaries.
In this case, it’s important to be compassionate. Hence, you should help but let him grow on his own because that’ll only drain you.
7. He tries to excessively impress you
Sometimes, when a guy wants to have you just to himself, he’ll try to get out of his comfort zone to impress you.
He is trying constantly to be funny around you and make you feel good about yourself.
He tries to please you sexually if you already have an intimate relationship with him.
Achieving that by making sure your satisfaction is his top priority.
- He wants to put the work in, treats you softly, and listens to your needs, not only his.
- He tries to show off and inform you about his achievements.
To break down his behavior, one should be subjective. And doing that is much easier with the help of a relationship coach.
8. He’s affectionate with you even in public
He wants to make sure that everyone sees that you’re together.
He might do it out of love or just to feel empowered.
In every way possible, he will let you know he admires you, compliments your beauty, and tells you he appreciates you.
Ways he shows this is through the:
- Spoiling you with gifts;
- Telling you he is proud of you;
- Liking your photos and showing you off on their socials;
- Offers his help;
- Make sure you are okay emotionally and financially;
To not waste your time and know if his feelings are genuine, try to have “the talk” with him. Ask what you are and whether he pictures you in his future.
9. He pushes you away and pulls you back
He constantly gives you mixed signals. He doesn’t ask you on the proper date but get’s jealous and interferes in your dating life.
This is called situationship. You hang out with one another, are cozy, and maybe way too intimate.
Hence, the other day he doesn’t text or call and rarely cares about your feelings.
This means that maybe right now, he doesn’t want a relationship with you but can’t let you go.
For every woman and even person, this situation is draining. So, to cut it off, define what you want and set some boundaries.
If he rejects you completely then that’s better than dealing with breadcrumbing.
10. He rarely cancels plans
If he doesn’t cancel plans, initiates a few dates, and wants to spend more time with you, that means that he enjoys hanging out with you.
But, when he doesn’t want anyone else to have you, he will be constantly up on your face.
Yet, he won’t take the risk of asking you out and starting a relationship with you.
Usually, a narcissistic man will act all lovey-dovey with you and manipulate your feelings and thoughts.
Yet, he won’t put himself “down” and ask you to be his wife or girlfriend. He thinks that this will make him look weaker in your eyes.
11. You don’t have to fight for his attention
A guy will pursue you as long as you fall into his trap.
The moment that he knows that he got you, he will keep you stringing along forever. Of course, if you don’t stand up for yourself.
It feels that he gives you love, attention, and everything in between, but you two aren’t still an official item.
Kimberly Moffit, a dating coach, and therapist advises you to have the “commitment” conversations as soon as possible.
Because then you’ll be more comfortable continuing the relationship without having to worry about the label.
The difference between Romantic and Controlling behavior
There is a very fine line between being romantic and becoming possessive and can be hard to distinguish.
While being romantic comes from a place of love and care, being possessive and controlling, comes from a place of insecurity and resentment.
1. If he doesn’t want anyone else to have you because he loves you, you won’t be impacted negatively.
He won’t try to brainwash you or control your dating life. He will refine himself and try to convince you indirectly that he’s the one.
- He will be very supportive and respect you;
- He will never try to hurt your feelings or belittle you to achieve his aim;
2. If he doesn’t want anyone else to have you because he won’t let you have anyone else in your life, he’ll become toxic.
He will try to have access to your life. Starting from checking with who you’re hanging out with to having access to your social media.
His insecurities will come out when you’re an extraordinary woman that everyone else might want you.
He will start to disrespect you and doesn’t care about you as a person. He might try to use you now just to benefit from you and feed his ego.
~He might accuse you of cheating or disrespecting him just to lift himself.
In the end, men like competition and be the best in everything.
Sometimes, if he doesn’t want anyone else to have you doesn’t mean he has strong feelings for you.
It means that he just doesn’t want another man to have something he doesn’t have.
The final statement!
When a guy says that he doesn’t want anyone else to have you this can mean two things:
He is either in love with you and can’t commit or he’s a narcissist type that can’t accept the fact that you’re not on the same page.
But, when he doesn’t want anyone else to have you, he doesn’t always come up with straightforward signs or reasons.
What you need to do is to take a step back and have a talk about your label as soon as possible.