I find men to be lovely, and interesting beings. I love men! That love and curiosity grows when they’re catching feelings. That’s when things get really interesting.
When he’s catching feelings for you, or when he already caught feelings and those are some pretty strong feelings he has for you, he’ll be changing your view on men if you have a negative one. Trust me, you’ll know.
Even in a long-distance, he’ll find his ways to show care and kindness and affection. He’s got strong feelings, you can’t really blame him, darling.
So, does he have feelings for you?
11 Signs a man, a guy, is catching or already caught (strong) feelings for you:
1. He’s willing to do ‘nothingness’ with you
Dolce far niente (italian idiom) – The beauty of doing nothing
If you want to see how he feels about you, check if he’s willing to do ‘nothingness’ with you.
‘Nothingness’ as in to not have a certain purpose to why you’re meeting today. You’re out, or you’re inside, you’re just spending time together, doing nothing.
He’s appreciating and cherishing your presence, without a particular ‘excuse’ to spend time with you. Each other’s presence is a good enough excuse to meet up and do nothing together.
He’s not in a rush for sexy times.
When he catches feelings he’ll be sexually attracted to you, but that won’t be the main thing that attracts him. Hence, he won’t rush anything, he’ll spend time with you and won’t pressure you into sex. [FYI: nobody has the right to pressure you into sex]
Kissing, kissing, kissing.
You’ll be covered by his… mouth fluids if you will. When his feelings are strong, his need to feel you closer to him will be strong too. That’s why he’ll take every chance he gets to feel your lips against his.
He wants to hang out pretty often.
It feels like I’m describing a needy, close to perfect person, but no. I’m describing a man, a guy, that has feelings for you. Hear me out, you’ll know when he’ll respect your space, but he’ll also take every chance he gets to hang out with you.
2. He can’t take his eyes off you – Not just looking, it’s staring
Hey Siri! Play that song by Frankie Valli, you know the one that makes you scream “I love you baby!!”
Well, love takes time, but still, we can play that song, because when he’s got strong feelings for you, indeed, won’t be able to take his eyes off you. He’s catching feelings, strong feelings and they’ll be quite visible when he looks at you.
He’s into his feelings, he’s joyful around you, he’s grateful to be in your presence.
When a guy has feelings for you, strong feelings, it’ll be clear from the glow of his eyes when he looks at you, you’ll know. It’s like he’s already telling you. His entire body is telling you, giving you signs.
When he’s catching feelings you can tell by the way he lights up when you enter the room, by the way that your presence affects him.
He can’t wait to see you again.
He will find a way to tell you that, directly or indirectly. You’ll notice him being super excited to meet you. He might even tell you he missed you.
3. “I called you to hear your voice”
When he catches feelings, he’ll be thinking about you a lot. A LOT! And he’ll be longing for your presence, especially if you’re in a long-distance relationship. He’ll call you because he wants to hear your voice, to hear you smile, hear you talk. Basically, he’s mesmerized.
He’ll feel the need to be in touch with you.
He’s catching feelings for you, you’re on his mind, and he’s going to do something about it. He will call, he will text, he will be caring and kind with his words. If it is obsessive calling and texting, that’s something to worry about; and I’m not joking.
4. He’s providing & protective
Men in their feelings are such lovely beings. A man that has feelings for you is a man that’s supportive, providing, and protective. Almost, almost everything the movies described it’d be.
He worries when you’re not feeling your best.
He’s there when you need someone when you’re sick, or he asks extra questions when you tell him you’re not feeling well, he cares and worries about you. He makes sure you’re ok.
Respect is on the table.
You’ll know he has feelings for you when besides providing, protecting, caring, he will also be respectful towards you. He’ll respect your boundaries, needs, and limits.
He’s by your side.
He is just by your side. You feel like you’ve got someone that’s got your back; when you’re succeeding, when you’re failing, he’s there, right by your side.
He wants to make you happy.
He tries to make you smile, laugh, giggle, that nourishes him when he has feelings for you. You can tell by the way he does little things that cheer you up, every time.
5. Processing his emotions might cause him to glitch a little
Men have a hard time expressing emotions, feelings, and once he does the process and gets that he’s got the feelings, he’ll be a little glitchy.
He gets nervous around you when it’s just the two of you.
He basically won’t know exactly how to function around you, especially if it’s the beginning of the two of you know each other, or the very beginning of your relationship. Shy and blushy, he can’t help it!
He seems a bit confused at times.
He seems confused because he gets confused. Men are usually not used to being in touch with their feelings and emotions. It’s understandable, and it’s normal for this to happen to men when they’re catching feelings.
He’s “just about” to say it, always.
Ah, yes… The old ‘on the tip of the tongue’ type of standing. He always looks like he’s about to say something, but seems to be quitting at the last minute.
6. Future is on the mf table
When men experience strong feelings they’ll be able to see a future with you. You’ll notice this even in a long-distance relationship.
He talks about the future, he makes plans.
You can tell if a man has feelings for you in the way he talks about the future. You don’t even know if you’ll be together until then, yet he’s making plans months from now. He talks about what his goals are, he asks you about what your goals are. It’s the future, it’s you and him.
You’re not a ‘secret’ of his.
At this point, he might even love you. He doesn’t keep you a secret when his feelings for you are strong. He’ll introduce you to his loved ones, he’s going to be proud and happy to have found you. He’ll share that with ‘his’ people.
He’s excited to meet your loved ones.
You know if a guy has feelings for you when he’ll be wanting to meet your loved ones, he’ll be wanting to know the people around you, the people you have close to heart. He’ll be putting in the effort, he might get a little nervous, excited since he’ll want to impress them too.
7. He’s willing to show his vulnerable side
Forget what the wise men say, he can’t help falling in love with you!
And when he has those strong feelings, it’s going to get real. Vulnerability is something we tend to hide and keep to ourselves. You know you’re a big deal to him once he shows you that part of his.
He opens up.
He talks about things that bother him, things that make him sad, happy. He opens up and talks to you, expressing what’s on the inside.
He’s all feely.
Being ‘feely’ is not the typical man’s behavior; That in our society is considered to be ‘weak’, hence it became part of men’s vulnerability. Once he’s feely and emotional around you, he’s also being vulnerable around you. He won’t do that unless he feels safe to ‘surrender’.
8. He hears you
He’s not just there like a wall. He actually listens to what you have to say, he tries to understand what you’re expressing. He hears you, sis. Take the freaking sign.
He motivates you.
You’re tired and ready to give up something important to you, he’ll motivate you because he cares, and heard you about the importance of that thing.
9. He’s ~romantic~
Well, truly the movies have f*cked up our expectations, set them up to an unrealistic bar that men in real life can never reach. Thank god those expectations are starting to get out of the picture and we’re starting to comprehend the fact that a partner cannot be ‘everything’ or ‘perfect’ or both of those.
However, the man in real life will do some ~romantic~ things, when having ~romantic~ feelings, things such as:
Compliments on your out and inner beauty.
I’m talking about the real and felt compliments. You’ll know he’s been admiring you once he says those words.
“I got you a little something”
He’ll be thoughtful, and if not the big bouquet of roses from the movies, he’ll get you your favorite sandwich on his way to see you. He’ll get you “little somethings”.
He doesn’t mind showing his feelings and affection for you in public.
Showing affection in public surely is romantic, it is another thing he’ll do when those feelings are strong and stable.
He texts to make sure you arrived safely after dates.
He’s all nice and gentle, and this… this is thoughtful, this is lovely, this is a man catching feelings. I don’t think I need to say more.
He sees the chance to touch your hand, he’ll take that mf chance! He sees the chance to gently touch your back while you’re walking, he’ll take that mf chance! He won’t be able to keep his hands to himself when he’s feeling the feelings.
When he caught feelings, it’ll reflect through text too. He’ll need to reach out to you almost every day. He’ll text to see how you’re doing, to send you things to make you laugh. You know, the type of texting that you don’t do with a friend.
10. He won’t mind initiating things, in fact he’ll be happy to
Both men and women do this when we’re catching feelings, or we already developed strong feelings: It’s initiating.
He takes care of things: dates, outings…
He’s developing feelings, he’ll want to see you more often so he will initiate dates, he will plan, he will take care because he cares.
He initiates ‘the talk of exclusivity’ or finds ways around it.
You know and you can tell he has feelings for you when besides dates and plans, he might also initiate the talk or conversation about ‘getting exclusive’. He’ll get jealous to know that you’re dating someone else too. He’ll want you to himself, so he’ll find his ways to eventually sort this out.
Exception: open relationships. In open relationships there could be a talk about more feelings involved, or the talk of ‘home base’, however there’s no room for ‘exclusivity’.
11. He asks and respects you opinions and thoughts
I mentioned before that he cares to listen to you. He cares to hear what you have to say. He admires you, he’s got strong feelings, so of course he’ll respect and listen to what you have to say. He’ll even ask for your opinions, he’ll want to hear more.
He talks about ‘big decisions’ with you.
You’re now an important part of his life. He’ll talk to you about ‘big decisions’ he makes in his life. He’s all eyes and ears when you’re expressing your opinion on it; Though, he doesn’t necessarily practice everything you advise him to. You get the idea.
He shares news with you. Like, big news.
You’re the one he goes to when it comes to big news. He got promoted? You’ll be one of the first people to know about it. He got fired? You’ll be one of the first people to know about it.
He’s scared of his feelings, here’s how you’ll know
When it comes to feelings there is so much more than just embracing them and living a flowery life in which there are rose petals flowing all around because ‘you’re catching feelings’.
It is more than that because each of us have baggage, some of us have been damaged at some point, some of us have a hard time processing feelings, each of us have our own things we deal with. Hence, each of us experiences and expresses romantic feelings differently.
In this case when a man is catching feelings but he’s scared, he’s afraid of his feelings for you, he’ll experience and express it in a particular way. A reserved, careful way. Also, keep in mind that if he’s scared of what he feels for you, chances are he’ll try to fight those romantic feelings.
Here are some of the essential signs he is scared of his feelings for you:
# He watches out what he says and what he does around you.
He’s not going to say just anything that crosses his mind, and he won’t be entirely himself when he is scared of his feelings.
This is one of the most obvious signs a guy is scared of his feelings for you. It’s a way for him to manage the situation, not let go too much of himself, to not get carried away. God forbid he loses control of the situation and pays you two compliments that day.
# He gives mixed signals.
When a guy is afraid of his feelings for you, he will give mixed signals. He’s internally torn between two things: his strong feelings for you, and the fear for those feelings. Sometimes one will win over, and at times the other, hence you’ll be getting mixed signals.
Once he finds himself being too carried away, he’ll stop and pull away in order to ‘calm down’.
# He’s there whenever you need him.
This is the part where you can make the distinction whether he is scared of you or not interested. When you call him when you need him, and he shows up, yet he has that distance, that ‘watching out’ I mentioned earlier, he most probably has feelings for you but is scared, is afraid of those feelings.
# He’s tiptoeing, he’s careful.
A man being scared of his feelings will be a man tiptoeing, will be a careful man. Whatever the reasons he has to be afraid of his feelings, the situation will affect him a lot. He’ll feel the need to be careful and not let go too much of himself.
He’s scared of you, your presence, it makes him ‘weak’ because you’re triggering something he’s scared of: romantic feelings. That’s why he’ll do his best to be careful. He’ll tiptoe to not get carried away.
# He’s nervous around you.
Another one of the signs that a guy is scared of his feelings is when he’s nervous around you. Again, you’re triggering him to feel something he’s afraid of. In such situations, men get nervous because in most cases they don’t know how to manage that internal mess they’re experiencing.
He’ll follow your presence, he’ll be where you are, it’s just he’ll be careful, a tad nervous, and a tad lost.
FAQ – Men and their feelings, what about them?
How fast do men catch feelings?
It depends on how mature, how grown, how experienced they are in the dating and relationship realm.
It could vary from a second, to a week, to a year, to a decade. It depends on so many factors, each being manifested differently in different individuals.
How do you know if you have strong feelings for someone? – How to know if you caught feelings for someone?
When the person slowly starts to become one of your priorities, when you care about them, their well being, their happiness.
When you’re willing to do things about them, about their well being, their happiness, because they fundamentally became one of your sources of joy.
How do you know if he’s true feelings?
He’ll show it, and you’ll know it. He’ll be kind, caring, gentle. He’ll be happy when you are, he’ll be sad when you are.
That’ll show on a regular basis, even in the smallest things you do.
How does a man act when he is falling in love?
This entirely depends on the individual. However, I’m assuming that he’s the ‘standard’ guy without much emotional baggage, and with not much childhood trauma.
In that case, he’ll be super caring towards you. You’ll become one of his priorities, you’ll feel loved around him, he’ll do what he can to make you happy, make you feel safe and cared for.
Am I catching feelings? – How to know if you’re catching feelings?
Well, you are if you can’t stop thinking about the person, when you constantly want to see them because you just can’t get enough of their presence, when you get this urge to make them feel good (not just sexually, you).
Do guys get scared of their feelings?
Everyone can get scared of their feelings. Guys are no exception. It depends on the experiences the guy/man has been through, the way he processed those experiences, the way he processes emotions and feelings, the social environment he grew up in, and a lot of other factors.
But, a short simple answer is: yes, guys can get scared of their feelings.
What are the signs he has strong feelings for you but is hiding it?
He could have whatever reason to hide his affection for you, but there are some things that he has no control of. A few of the signs he’s hiding his feelings for you are:
1. His body language shows he’s attracted to you;
2. Your friends, his friends, people have noticed and told you something about it;
3. He gets shy and/or nervous when he’s around you;
4. He’ll be where you are;
5. He’ll act hot and cold because at times he’ll forget the ‘hiding’ part, he’ll get carried away sometimes.
He said he has feelings for me, what does that mean?
When a man says he has feelings for you, or that he has strong feelings for you, trust him. Meaning, believe his word. To have feelings for you means he deeply cares about you, you’re on his mind.
In some cases there are men who can’t just say the ‘L’ word yet, hence they choose softer ways of telling you they have a strong affection for you. It’s good news, in case you still didn’t get it.