On the first date, a lot is going on. Assessing how he feels when you open up or if both of you are enjoying each other’s presence.
So, if a date went well, both of you can feel it. You will leave the date while feeling positive and looking forward to meeting one another again.
To know if a first date went well is a two-way street.
Even if you feel positive about these dates there might be hidden/subtle signs that your date didn’t enjoy it as much as you.
Let’s find it out! Here are 14 main signs that the first date went well:
1. The dialogue is fluid
When the conversation flows naturally on the first date, it’s an optimistic sign that the date went well.
A date spent well can be considered when both of you enjoyed it and there is a chance and desire to meet up again.
There are no forced laughs or questions, no small talk and there were no long awkward silences.
- If he isn’t enjoying the conversation then you might notice that the rhythm of the conversation was off.
- You were the one that initiated most of the conversation and he might have not asked a lot of questions.
Hence, this might be an indicator that he’s shy or overwhelmed during the first date.
But, to prove my point, if he was shy during the first date, he’ll try to recover from it by texting you that night.
2. You didn’t need to pretend like you’re someone else
It’s quite understandable that the first date is overwhelming, especially if you didn’t meet before.
Yet, a guy that likes you and is looking forward to meeting you once again, tries to be more authentic.
- You can tell that the date went well when he respects your needs and preferences.
- You didn’t feel the urge to use metaphors and puff out your chest to feel important around him.
- He doesn’t get immediately all sexual and touchy, and you don’t feel awkward in his presence.
- He tries to be open and honest enough to give you an idea of who he is and what he does or likes.
3. He looks for ways to extend the conversation
A guy that is interested in you during and after the first date will always try to extend the conversation or date.
Even if it’s for more than five minutes, he will do anything to just keep you around him.
I remember when it was my first date with my partner (he’s an introvert), yet he managed to ask some little questions about my yoga classes.
He didn’t make it awkward at all because that was the last thing that we talked about while getting up from the date.
He said: “You know what, I forgot to tell you that there is a shop around the corner that sells Yoga Mats.”
- He remembered an important detail that I told him. I needed to replace my Yoga Mat and he walked me over there to get a new one.
4. His body language is positive
Positive body language during the first date can impact you in many aspects.
If he’s maintaining eye contact and leaning towards you or smiling that means that he’s interested in you. Shortly, is a form of respect and attraction.
~If he is enjoying the first date with you, his posture will be relaxed and he’ll suddenly and unconsciously mirror your gestures.
On the other hand, if he’s avoiding eye contact, never smiling, or fidgeting that means that he’s either distracted or uninterested.
Hence, this also depends on his personality, if he’s shy or quiet then it’ll be difficult for him to constantly look you in the eyes.
To know more about body language and how to decode it, you can read the book “The Dictionary of Body Language” by Joe Navarro.
5. He wasn’t distracted constantly
A guy getting distracted through the first date doesn’t always mean that he isn’t interested in you.
But the timing of getting distracted is the element that makes the difference.
- If you were telling him something important about your life and he was constantly checking his phone or around, then he isn’t interested.
- When he is looking around because he isn’t interested, he will make the conversation all about him or just nod.
- You can feel it in your gut when he’s a bit shy or overwhelmed and tries to do other things to feel comfortable.
- You will notice that he’s struggling to listen to you because he will engage in the conversation and ask thoughtful questions.
6. You were making a lot of eye contact and it didn’t feel awkward
If the first date went well, then it will feel like your souls met before, even if this is the first time that you met.
To create great chemistry you need two people. So, if there was good chemistry, it means that both of you were enjoying it.
You felt the sudden spark, you flirted and laughed a lot, and you just couldn’t let go of one another.
It’s an important piece, knowing that you were looking into each other’s eyes without feeling awkward or uncomfortable.
Hence, to be subjective and know exactly what his behavior meant, you should collaborate with a relationship coach, to decode it.
7. He ends the date with “I am looking forward to meeting you again.”
This is one of the obvious signs that the first date went well.
Hence, it’s important to know that every guy expresses his feelings or thoughts differently.
Sometimes the date might go quite well but he doesn’t feel comfortable uttering his thoughts.
But a guy that is looking forward to getting to know you, will say this or how much he enjoyed the date.
Yet, communicating clearly, even in the early stages of dating can help you to avoid many misunderstandings and not waste time.
Thus, if you think that he found it difficult to express his feelings or thoughts then try to create a path for him and text him. Thank him for the date.
8. You talk to him before you go to sleep
If he continues to contact you right after the first date, it means that you left a good impression on him.
Now, if he sends a good night text or just to check up on you, he enjoyed the date.
To be more specific, if he wants to impress you, he might even call and tell you that just wanted to listen to your voice.
Once again, this depends on how a guy can approach you and on his attachment style.
9. He doesn’t ignore your jokes and tries to get involved
Well, you might say that this sign can also be a sign of politeness or kindness.
Yes, it might be but what makes the difference between this and that he enjoyed the date is how he interacts when he wants your attention.
A guy that is polite and isn’t enjoying the date won’t fight to get your attention.
But when he needs to interact more with you, he tries to tell jokes and ask questions and share his experiences.
He does this to engage in the conversation and make you feel comfortable.
10. There was a physical touch enough to create some type of connection
If the date goes well and he’s attracted to you, then he’ll try to subtly brush your shoulder or touch your hair.
To be more clear if he appreciates you and is enjoying the date, he’ll be flirty and still respect your boundaries.
He’ll try to touch your hand accidentally on purpose but without making you feel nervous about it.
So, if he’s constantly touchy and not interested in getting to know you then this is a pure red flag.
11. Both of you enjoyed doing any type of first-date activity together
The relationship coach Vincent Soo claimed that healthy relationships come from creating an authentic relationship with oneself.
An authentic person will give honest opinions regarding any type of activity you’re doing: walking, bowling, stargazing, and so on.
If you’re interested in having a second date then try to give some cues to him.
On the other hand, if you feel that you click but don’t think that this would work be honest with him.
If you don’t want to hurt his feelings or you cannot deliver this to him in person, then you can text him.
“I really had a great time with you tonight and you’re one of a kind. But, I don’t think that this will work because both of us have different perspectives about life.”
12. You exchanged numbers and other social media
If you met on any dating app such as Tinder and Bumble but didn’t exchange other social media or numbers yet, then that’s not a problem.
Many other sources might claim that not exchanging numbers or social media until now, it’s a red flag.
Well, it’s not because not all guys want to just sleep with you or are seeking to form an instant relationship.
Some guys want to take it one step at a time and want to get to know you better in person and not just interact indirectly.
If he now decides to exchange numbers and other social media, it means that he wants to stay in contact with you and took a step forward.
13. You felt respected and valued
The first date can be a nerve-wracking experience but when he’s enjoying your presence, he’ll make you feel comfortable.
The first thing that he’ll do is not try to belittle you.
He’ll be interested in your background. He’ll ask questions about your childhood and how it shaped you.
He asks about your opinion on any type of conversation that you’re doing or if he needs any type of advice from you.
Moreover, what I recommend you to know exactly if the first date went well or if he was just being nice, is to check the “First Date Stories” podcast.
This will help you to reflect on your date from another point of view while you reflect and listen to other people’s first dates.
14. Both of you shared your perspectives about future
If both of you are openly talking about your plans and what you think to do in the future, this is a sign of a deep connection.
At this point, you’re not just oversharing or blabbering.
Mark Manson states, when you’re responsible for your actions and you know what type of a partner you want to be, you form genuine connections.
Both of you are enjoying the conversation and each other’s company enough to open up.
Especially, if you didn’t talk much before about plans over text or social media then this was a good opportunity to get to know one another.
Should you feel a spark after the first date?
Yes, to be more specific you should feel some type of connection during the first date.
If there’s no spark or attraction then forcing it or romanticizing this person won’t help you to form a healthy relationship.
If the first date went well then you should feel some type of relief and positivity.
You should feel the excitement and have some butterflies in your stomach when you think of how the date went.
Yet, if you don’t feel at ease and are constantly nervous about the date then you might feel anxious.
In this case, it’s important to reflect on it because you might feel unsure about him and the situation.
So, you should know that an instant spark doesn’t mean that the relationship will be healthy and you’ll last forever.
What makes the difference, is how he impacted you during this date, not if there was only attraction.
Because attraction without understanding can only form chemistry but not a solid relationship.
The difference between enjoying his company and having a good date!
How to know if the date was GOOD ENOUGH to make it to the next date?
Enjoying his company and vice versa is a broader feeling. Whereas having a good date involves more than that.
It involves planned activities, your and his feelings, how you impact one another, and how much effort you put into it.
Thus, a lot of people can confuse one term with another and claim or assume that they had a good date.
In reality, you might enjoy his company but it doesn’t mean that the date went well if both of you didn’t have an enjoyable experience.
Already you came to the end: Definitive signs a first date went well!
A definitive sign that the first date went well is when both of you leave the date with a positive attitude.
It might feel like you’re hanging out with someone that you’ve spent a life with.
A lot of respect, attention, and attraction are included too.
If there are possible misunderstandings or short silences, they are recovered quickly by a sudden joke or important question.
Hence, don’t strain yourself too much trying to read through the signs.
Be patient, and focus on yourself. If you like him try to reconnect and check how he feels about it.
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