Are you here because you have a crush on a guy or he’s pursuing you and you want to know if he’s turned on by you?
Well, in this article, you’ll find the answer you need.
Starting from how to analyze his body language and to how to spot if there is real sexual tension.
So, some of the signs might be hidden and other might be more visible.
But, to get a bigger picture of this matter, here are 11 signs a guy is turned on by you:
1. He touches his nose or rubs his hands
When a guy is attracted to you sexually and is turned on by you, he might start to feel nervous in your presence.
Because he doesn’t know how to express differently these feelings and starts to find a thing to cling to or act differently.
This depends on the guy and his personality. Some other guy might puff his chest or play with his hair.
✒️So, before jumping to a conclusion make sure to know his personality and how he expresses his feelings.
Get to build emotional attraction before claiming that he’s turned on by you. Spend more time with him and talk more about deep topics.
2. He might have brain fog and blurry speech
Dissociation sometimes is a sign of him being turned on by you.
He is distracted because he’s feeling the rush that heats his body and his mind is only thinking about how can he seize you.
So, his words won’t match his actions and most of the time you’ll notice that he might talk nonsense.
You might notice that he’s just lurking in his fantasy.
While he’s zoning out, you’ll notice that he might be smiling like crazy, licking his lips, or deeply staring at you.
✒️But, to make the difference whether he’s ignoring you or just stunned and turned on by you, you should dig a little deeper.
My advice is to work privately with a relationship coach that will help you to define his attachment style and personality and not be biased.
3. He tries to touch softly your shoulder and pull you closer to him
I want to tell you about my experience with my first boyfriend and when I didn’t understand how a man thinks and acts when he’s attracted to you.
I didn’t allow myself to admit that he was attracted to me and he wasn’t being a creep.
It’s true that sometimes a man touching you without your consent might look like an assault.
But, he accompanied his “accidentally on purpose” touching with reasons and was trying to constantly get to know me better.
✒️Yet, do not make a final decision and incorporate if you don’t feel like doing it.
Set your boundaries. Just because he’s really turned on by you doesn’t mean that you need always to participate without setting your boundaries.
4. He feels a bit out of place when is near you
You’ll notice that he’s just like a bouncy ball.
He does things that he doesn’t have to or didn’t plan of doing.
You’ll notice that something is going on because he might leave the room abruptly.
He might feel a bit overwhelmed and uncomfortable because he might be having a visual or brain orgasm.
✒️To make sure that he’s really turned on by you and is not avoiding interaction with you for another reason, try to be more around him.
Also, analyze how he reacts to others and whether he’s shy or not.
5. He makes sexual jokes and tries to hint you
When a guy is attracted to you, he will make a lot of sexual jokes and will give you A LOT OF sexual hints.
Not all guys act the same when they are turned on.
But, if he likes using humor to flirt and win a woman over then humor is his safe way to show you that he’s turned on.
For example, he might say something like: “My body heats up as soon as I see you.”
✒️But, you should know that is important to dissociate sex from love.
So, when he uses suggestive language, it’s a bit hard to know his true intention. He might just want sex or he’s really turned on by you but has pure intentions.
Thus, to find it out, try to connect with him differently. Don’t offer him only the pleasure of just seeing you and sexualizing you.
6. He grabs your waist
A guy whose love language is touch and the one who isn’t afraid to express that he’s really turned on by you will try to stay close to you.
Grabbing your waist or whispering in your ear are two signs that he’s really turned on by you.
It’s a romantic gesture that he uses to express his intention.
✒️But, if he’s a total stranger and grabs you suddenly by the waist then this is an inappropriate gesture.
If you feel uncomfortable then you should communicate it to him, immediately!
7. He talks excessively
One hidden sign that a guy is really turned on by you is when he suddenly tries to talk a lot and grab your attention.
Usually, this is a sign that he’s really turned on by you if he talks less and is more laid back.
Other than this, he might just say random things to keep the conversation going with you.
✒️ Yet, to make sure that he’s turned on by you, get to know him personally.
Spend more time with him and ask him questions that will give you a hint of who he is and what type of intentions he has.
8. He’s interested in your dating and sexual life
He asks questions about your private life and what you find attractive in a man.
You notice that whatever answer you give, he tries to adjust his personality to those answers.
Some questions that he might ask might be: “Well, I enjoy that (implying a French kiss) don’t you?”
✒️If you feel comfortable participating in this situation then it’s totally fine.
But, don’t give out too much information, if you don’t know him and you’re just casually hanging out with him.
Be natural and as the dating coach Xu Yue claims that romance can’t be taught but can be felt and mastered with time.
9. He uses funny or suggestive comments
One of the main signs of a guy that is really turned on by you is when he uses reverse psychology.
He uses suggestive language and can also make sarcastic comments.
He makes jokes about how he finds you hella attractive but would never sleep with you.
Or how a guy might be a fool to sleep with you even though you look fire.
He always will state the opposite of what he says.
✒️Sometimes dealing with sarcasm can be difficult and very nerve-wracking.
And if you don’t feel comfortable with his comments then try to set your boundaries and distance yourself from him.
10. He tries to show more of his skin and be sensual
Well, here we go. This sign right here is an obvious sign that he’s turned on by you.
If he never opened up his shirt before and now whenever he’s around you he tries to do it and be all sensual, that’s what’s up.
This is not something that only women do. A guy that finds you highly attractive will lower his voice and try to flirt with you.
✒️If you feel attracted to him too then you might flirt with him but without crossing his or your boundaries.
If his behavior makes you uncomfortable then try to draw a line there.
11. He’s out of breath and tries to cover it up
It will feel like he is running and he is out of breath but he’s trying to
This sign might be obvious but not that obvious because he might be out of breath for other various reasons.
Sometimes a guy can’t or doesn’t want to admit that he’s turned on by you and tries to act awkwardly in your presence.
You’ll notice that he’s out of breath because he’s turned on by you when he deeply stares at you or tries to distract himself.
✒️Yet, if you want to find out more that he’s really turned on by you then try to track his behavior.
If he’s constantly acting like this when he encounters you or it happened just once.
What to do if he is really turned on by you?
If he’s really turned on by you then you should reflect on how you feel about it and if this situation is impacting you positively.
If you already share the same interest and feelings as him then you might start step by step to deliver the needed message.
Yet, if you aren’t interested in him then you should be clear and communicate with him.
1. Let him know that you’re on the same page by flirting back.
Yet, if you don’t feel comfortable being immediately intimate with him then you should take it easy.
And also let him know that you like him by using compliments and letting him know how he makes you feel.
2. If you’re not on the same page then don’t lead him on.
If you don’t feel sure about this situation then it’s better to not participate at all.
Because, in this case, when a guy is turned on, his actions might be impulsive especially if you give neat signals to him too.
3. Don’t be afraid to let him know that you like to take things slowly.
You don’t need to be ashamed that you don’t want to turn the relationship sexual just after you met.
Yet, if you know one another then it’s easier to communicate with him because you might know him better.
You might already know what he thinks.
4. If he is constantly bothering you because of his arousal, it’s better to reach out for help.
You might seek help from a trusted person, a friend, a family member, or a therapist.
They might help you to draw your boundaries and know how to act according to your situation.
What makes a man turned on by you?
A guy is turned on by different things. Not one guy is attracted, let’s just say, only by your physical appearance.
Sometimes a guy might be attracted by your brain, by your intelligence. Yes, intelligence is also sexy.
It all depends on his personality and life interests.
- He might be attracted by your interests or life interests;
- On the other hand, he might be attracted to your values and priorities;
- But your big, blue, or green eyes might make his heart beat fast or his blood rush all over his body;
Depending on how he thinks and what he values the most, he’ll try to tell you that you really turn him on according to it.
Summing it up!
Some of the most fundamental signs that a guy is really turned on by you are either constantly using sarcasm or getting close to you.
Not all guys will have the same cues when it comes to showing that they are turned on by you.
But, one thing is for sure.
When a guy is turned on by you, he wants to get your attention and is constantly trying to find ways to be distracted and ease his urge.
Yet, don’t jump to a conclusion without knowing him priorly.