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Initially, he was really giving the full-court press - Texting or...

By ahw7332 | May 21 2014

I'm sort of recently divorced, and I recently reconnected with a guy I've known for about 15 years. We meet when I was a freshman in college. Several times over the years, we've gone on one date and stopped because it just wasn't right. It was always him who pursued. Well, we ran into each other about a month ago, and he immediately asked me out. We've been on four dates since then.

Now I'm Wondering

Initially, he was really giving the full-court press - Texting or calling every day and frequently. Last week, it became a little more sporadic. In fact, we had plans for Saturday evening and I had to initiate contact on Friday to find out the specifics. (I like things to be organized more than your average person, so there's that.) On our date on Saturday he kind of clumsily told me he loved me to which I did not respond. I left the next morning with things being great between us, but now we've only texted and his texting is so sporadic. He'll initiate, I'll respond quickly, but then he doesn't reply for nearly 24 hours. It is bugging the hell out of me. I really like him a lot, but not to the point of love. I would like things to keep going. I felt like maybe I should initiate more communication so he knew I was interested, but now I'm doing that and he's being so slow at getting back to me. It is really hard to concentrate at work. Every time I think I'll just move on if I don't hear from him soon, he texts. It is like he knows. How should I handle this?

5 Comments

ashycoe

21 May

I think the best way to deal with the situation is to be totally honest. To me, it sounds like he likes you, but fears the worst. He is afraid he made a fool of himself by telling you that. Ask him to meet up to talk and just lay the cards on the table. :)

gitreel

Top Commenter

22 May

So u and ishy both r swayed bc the guy texts u? Thats not right. Do u realize how lil of an investment is to text? Dont let a guy sway ur decision due to a measley text! U can be nice and answer if u want, but once they make it clear they arent interested, stand ur ground! Dont allow them to string u along ladies! U deserve better.

provenzee

22 May

I think he is just nervous because he loves you and he probably knows you dont feel the same way yet. Hes probably afraid of being annoying and doesnt want to bother you, just see how things play out

ian

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22 May

Ignore the peanut gallery. He's reaching out to you when he's bored, and then not responding when he has something else going on. I'd walk away before you get too invested.

gitreel

Top Commenter

23 May

Annastasia, u can delete comments like u do in fb. Just to the right of ur name, start tapping where u think it might be and itll pop up. Its usually right above the end of ur first sentence. Ive made the same mistake before. :)

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