Making a man regret ever losing you takes effort and mental fortitude, but isn’t it just so satisfying?
You’re exceeding every single one of his expectations by showing him your worth is defined by you and you only.
But for that, you’re going to need to prove to him you are a self-respecting person who’s the opposite of desperate!
A high-value woman is the type of woman men always regret losing.
The truth about this situation is that the less you react, the more your ex will start missing and regretting losing you.
It doesn’t sound too promising until you realize that the other alternative is begging him to come back…which we all know does not work.
Men always regret losing a woman who knows her self-worth and doesn’t chase anybody—she is graceful, mature, and neutral throughout the breakup.
This is because, for a man who’s already chosen to cut ties with a woman, the last thing he wants is to feel pressured.
His decision needs to be respected; he needs to find out on his own what he really wants by suffering the consequences of his own actions.
In other words, a woman who does not give a @#$% in this context never fails to drive a guy crazy!
Make him regret ever saying goodbye! These are my 16 tips for showing a man you’re strong and confident:
1. Forgive but don’t forget.
You’re always giving people at least a little bit of power by holding grudges and allowing them to ruin your mood: let go.
I am not telling you to reach out to him or welcome this guy with open arms, just that you need to forgive him for your sake.
Don’t let what he did replay back in your head and ruin your mood for the rest of the day—don’t try to get your revenge either.
Take what happened as a sign you need to prioritize and love yourself; let go of the anger by writing it off as a valuable experience that served to help you grow as a person.
After all, there are 8 billion people in the world and you can’t let yourself get fazed by every single immature person that enters your life!
2. Do not beg in any way, shape, or form!
One mistake I see people always making in these situations is begging their ex-partners to stay in one way or another.
I see some guilt-tripping them, and some trying to reach a middle ground by practically telling their exes they can walk all over them as long as they come back.
Avoid doing this if you want to make him regret losing you.
If he wants to go, let him go. Trying to stop a man from doing what he wants is useless because not only will that annoy him, but he’ll also find a way.
3. Refrain from being the one to initiate contact.
Don’t be the one to break no-contact as he might take it as a sign of desperation.
This means that throughout this whole ordeal, you shouldn’t text, call, or say hello to him no matter how strong the urge is.
He’s made the choice to lose you, and as I said, he needs to suffer the consequences—unless you make him miss you, how is he going to understand the mistake he’s made?
Deprive him of you completely so that he gets the idea of how much you meant to him. If he realizes it, he’ll come back, and he can stay away if he doesn’t.
4. Don’t welcome him with open arms if he reaches out first.
When a man comes back, it’s not like he regrets what he did and is trying to make things right, and you must stop feeding his narcissistic tendencies.
So you mustn’t get the wrong idea and pour your heart out upon his arrival by telling him how much you love and miss him.
Take things slow and put yourself first: don’t reply to his text immediately, stay up late just so that you can talk to him, or accept his booty calls.
And if—God forbid—you get the idea to start dating him again, please make a Pros & Cons list so that you remember all the bad things he’s done.
5. Be the best version of yourself.
Physically speaking, try your hardest not to let your breakup cause you to let yourself go or you’d be handing him the victory on a silver platter.
Is there any New Year’s resolution regarding your physical appearance you have yet to fulfill? Now’s the time!
Maybe getting a gym membership, cutting out junk food, or jogging regularly?
Looking good makes people feel good and act confidently as a result. All of this will give you a brand-new, fresh, radiant glow he is bound to be jealous of.
6. Be on top of your game.
Men are more likely to regret letting go of a woman who knows what she wants and is ready to never give up regardless of what life throws at her.
In this case, knowing his absence didn’t affect you whatsoever will leave a good impression—again, it shows a quality of confidence and mental grit.
Carry on as usual! Go to school or work and get on top of your game as a statement to him that you can’t be put down.
7. Don’t badmouth him.
You want him to regret losing you and not make him feel glad, so don’t badmouth him to anyone!
Maturity on your part will make him think, “Oh, wait. I actually lost someone whom I shouldn’t have.” because of how rare it is to find nowadays.
Your understanding will make him feel seen and heard—even if that’s not the case, not acting angrily should tell him you’re unbothered.
8. Any venting you need to do, do it to your friends in private.
Don’t announce your anger to the world or you risk giving this guy the wrong impression—it being you can’t stand rejection.
I really advise you not to make a social media post bashing him about what he’s done if you want to avoid being viewed as desperate.
But if you need to express your pain, feel free to open up to your good friends. Venting to them will help you in more ways than one.
First (and most importantly) they will comfort you; they’ll stop you if you ever get tempted to go back running to him.
9. Don’t stalk him.
One of the most common errors we make after breaking up is stalking our exes:
- Checking their social media profiles periodically;
- Re-reading our conversations;
- Going to the same places in the hopes of bumping into them, and so on.
Not only are you hindering your healing process, but you’re also preventing him from missing you.
Remember that not being with you is a choice he made, and as such, you need to give him his space if you want him to self-reflect.
10. Spend some time reflecting on why you two broke up.
Take a step back to do a bit of self-reflection. Why did you two break up, and whose fault was it?
If the breakup was something he initiated, it’s best you leave him alone for a little while until he cools down and reaches a conclusion.
Alternatively, if you were the one to break up with him, then you must have your reasons as well—did he do something to make you give up?
If revenge is what you want, you’re better off not wasting your time on him as you’ll be giving him power no matter the outcome.
That type of energy should be focused only on yourself: working on yourself will help you move on and look at your relationship from a different angle.
11. Enjoy your single life.
Let me tell you exactly why the best way to get over someone is NOT by getting under someone else.
To start things off, you’d be doing something you’re not ready for in an attempt to make your ex jealous.
It might seem like a good idea at the moment, but later on, you’ll end up regretting it and self-loathing.
Next, making someone jealous by getting with someone else is the oldest trick in the book, so your ex will know this is what you’re trying to do.
If he doesn’t realize, however, he’ll end up thinking you were never serious about your relationship—this might make him lose respect.
12. Find your happiness elsewhere, not in him.
Whatever happened has happened, and what remains is dealing with the aftermath.
Don’t isolate yourself from the world inside your room! The key to making a man regret losing you is proving to him he does not affect your life.
Go out with your friends to have fun as usual or do whatever it is you used to do before the breakup (that doesn’t include him, of course).
Realizing your happiness doesn’t depend on him ought to do you good in this aspect, which in itself will keep you from begging him.
Do you find joy in surrounding yourself with the people you love, or watching your favorite TV show alone? This is a judgment-free zone!
13. Don’t send your friends after him.
I get it, both you and your friends are mad at this guy for breaking your heart…but what are you going to do? Go after him?
Insulting him will only make him confident in his decision to cut you out of his life, so tell your friends to hold their horses.
Some men like attention—doesn’t matter if it’s the good type or the bad one, they thrive off of it.
14. Take a break from your mutual social group.
If you and he have mutual friends, I recommend you take a little break from them to create space for him to miss you.
Otherwise, you’re making him get used to you while also sending the wrong message across: that what he did was no big deal.
By keeping away from him, you’re also making him miss you—which puts into perspective how much you mean to this man.
You don’t want your ex to think you’re doing the most just so that you can get close to him: to some extent, you’re staying true to your decision to break up by staying away from one another.
15. Have one last serious talk with him.
Getting your closure will help you keep your urges in check, and him realize how much he messed up.
Some men break up in the hopes of getting chased—they know their ex-partners will come crawling back.
So, when you reach out to him for one last talk, he’ll go into panic mode.
What you’re going to do is tell him that you need to discuss something very important and that it’s going to be the last time you talk.
You’re going to tell him, in a very mature way, everything that’s on your mind.
- E.g. “Good evening, [his name], I hope this is a good time. I just wanted to have one last conversation with you regarding our relationship because I need to get some things off my chest…”
16. Don’t put effort into changing his mind.
It’s a bit paradoxical because if you want him to regret losing you, you need not put effort into changing his mind.
The theory behind this is that by doing things for your ex’s sake, you’re giving him control over your life, no matter how little.
Don’t get with another man to make him jealous, post hot photos on your social media profiles, have any contact with him, etc.; do what you want.
Live your life the way you see fit and learn to love yourself—everything else comes second in this context.
He’ll be confused as to how untroubled and confident you are, and that alone will make him regret ever breaking up.
But even if he won’t, what’s the big deal? You two broke up for a reason, and his opinion does not define your worth!
Yes. Guys do regret losing a woman, but only in certain cases.
If you’re asking yourself whether a man regrets leaving or hurting you, the answer is it varies.
How much remorse he feels depends on his character, the nature of your relationship, and how you two broke things off.
– A player, for instance, who gets with multiple women and breaks up with them as he pleases is less likely to feel guilty when compared to a good guy.
If your ex is not a player, he most surely broke up for a good reason—depending on that reason, he may or may not regret losing you.
– If your relationship slowly turned toxic over time and that pushed him to break things off, he may feel relieved; the chances of your ex regretting anything are slim.
However, there’s still hope if he unexpectedly ended the relationship without an explanation as people tend to come back after self-reflecting.
– Lastly, if you broke things off in the heat of the moment, he’ll most likely regret doing so and will return to make things right; if you were both calm at the moment, he most likely had been thinking about breaking up for a while now.
It may take months, it may take years…there’s no telling how long it will take.
Have patience because there’s no telling how long it will take for him to start regretting what he has done.
On average, it may take anywhere from a few weeks up to 6 months, but it truthfully depends on his personality and the connection you shared.
But you don’t have to sit and wait for him—spend this time focusing on your life and moving on.
It’s not fair for you to wait for something that may or may not happen while your ex is climbing the ladder to success!
Good luck,
Callisto.
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