You enjoy his company, and you find yourself dreaming of a future together. But there’s uncertainty.
How do you know if this guy is serious about you?
A guy is serious about you when he always makes sure to prioritize you, put effort into you, and plan a future together.
He isn’t scared to show his love, and also show you off and sacrifice for you.
That is only the tip of the iceberg, below you will find 15 signs to pay attention to if you want to know if he is serious about you.
1. He doesn’t hide his feelings: it’s already clear how he feels about you.
When a guy is serious about you, he doesn’t hide his feelings about you. He shows that he has feelings for you, every chance he gets.
He doesn’t fear telling you how much he loves you and cares for you and lets you know any chance he gets.
He will randomly show up with gifts, cards, or simple gestures that allow him to show his love for you.
He is transparent with you about his feelings for you. Only a man who is serious about you shows these traits.
2. You will tell by the way he acts around you.
When you are around each other, you can tell by the way he acts: he is more peaceful, and joyful around you.
Comfort is one of the most important factors in a relationship.
He might also show signs of obsession at the beginning but that all happens due to the brain releasing dopamine (hormone of pleasure/motivation), based on studies.
If he is peaceful around you, gets excited to see you, wants to be in physical contact with you, and is always present, then he is serious about you.
3. He puts you first and puts the effort into you.
When a relationship begins, priorities change. Previously, a person had their priorities divided into different levels.
Now you (his partner) are on the first level of priorities.
He puts you first, asks for your opinion, and tries to accommodate your every need. One of the most important things for him is your happiness.
He puts effort into you, and he prioritizes your well-being and happiness. This shows how serious he is about you.
4. He cannot go a day without you.
When a man is in love, he can’t seem to stay away from you. He needs your energy to feel better.
In a lot of couples that I helped (different ages), men had a harder time when they weren’t around their girlfriends/wives.
They were uncomfortable, worried, and even angry.
This only shows how a man who is serious about you and loves you, will constantly want to be in the presence of you.
If you are not around, he will call you, just to make sure you are okay.
5. He often talks about the future together.
Whenever you are having a conversation, it often takes a turn about the future.
You hear him talking about the future and plans he makes long-term. And he, without fail, always mentions you in those plans.
He talks about a beautiful life that you will build together, and that’s how you understand that he is serious about you.
6. You feel the connection you are creating together.
A relationship is built by the connection you create together. That connection is the first step to a healthy long-term relationship.
When you spend time together the best way to feel your connection is when you:
- Communicate openly,
- Listen to each other,
- Are empathic and feel for each other,
- Maintain trust and loyalty,
- Share similar experiences,
- Connect deeply and intimately.
When you are actively having this type of connection with your man, then this only indicates how serious he is about you.
7. Decisions are made together.
In a couple, it is important to be able to make important decisions together.
You can pay attention and see how he always asks for your opinion on different matters and always listens to your feedback.
He considers your words and respects your opinion. These are the qualities of a committed man who wants to be serious with you.
8. You are his plus-one to every event.
Wherever he has to be, he insists on going together. Whether it is a work event, a family gathering or simply going out with friends.
He does this for two reasons, he wants to show you and the people he is surrounded with, how serious he is about you.
He also wants to be around you, all the time, and that includes spending time with people from his circle as well.
He wants you to connect with him and his close people because he is serious about the relationship with you.
9. He talks about commitment and putting labels.
When he knows he is ready to get serious with you, topics like exclusivity, marriage, and labels (girlfriend/boyfriend) don’t bother him.
He makes it obvious to you in every conversation that he loves you, is ready for commitment, and wants to commit to you.
He openly calls you his girlfriend and isn’t scared of talking about a long-term relationship or even marriage.
10. He is proud of you and your success, and always shows you off.
He is focused on helping you with your plans and achievements. He wants you to always be improving yourself and your life.
He always cheers you on for your success and always tells you how proud he is of you.
He always shows you off, and brags about what a great partner he has. He also posts you on social media wanting the world to see how lucky he is.
When a man is serious about you, he always cheers you on and shows you off with pride.
11. He is always there by your side.
The best thing a man can do is show support to his girlfriend. He shows that he is present, and cares for her.
Every person needs someone they can rely on, and he does that perfectly for you. He is there for you, in good and in bad.
He tries to help you out in every situation. And when you are sad, he shows up with chocolate and a shoulder to cry on.
When a man is serious about you, he shows you how loving and reliable he can be.
12. There is a lot of attraction and sexual chemistry.
After some time of messing around together, the attraction and lust are still the same, which shows how you two are quite close to being serious.
Psychotherapist Haley Neidich explained that lust is simply a natural human phenomenon. It is simply a sense of sexual interest, and not everyone acts on it.
When you have lust, incredible chemistry, and sexual intimacy is great, he simply can’t seem to have enough of you.
It only shows that he enjoys every side of your company, and soon you will be in a serious relationship.
13. He respects you, your wishes, and your boundaries.
Research shows that respecting each other’s differences, responsibilities, and personalities are important factors in a healthy relationship.
You always notice how he always respects your wishes and never pushes you outside your comfort zone.
He also wanted to voice his and your boundaries since the beginning of dating.
These are the signs of a mature man who is serious about his relationship with you.
14. He turns to you when things don’t go right.
Another way to know that he is serious about you is how he reacts in bad and hard times.
If he always finds his way to you and tells you about his stress and his problems, that means he blindly trusts you.
Just like he has become your shoulder to cry on, for him you have become his rock.. He feels free to vent to you and also finds his strength in you.
He knows he won’t be judged by you, and knows that you are there for him. This shows that he is ready to be serious with you.
15. There are no secrets and no threats for the relationship to end.
When a relationship is in the plan, there are green and red flags that are intertwined into it.
There might be fears that a person has or secrets that can ruin the relationship. There might also be:
- Commitment issues,
- Abandonment issues,
- Unresolved traumas.
When he is completely open about his life, honest about his problems, and willing to change and fix them.
He also eliminates any threats that might end the relationship and constantly reassures you.
This shows his readiness to be serious with you and how much effort he is willing to put into this relationship.
Pay close attention to all his efforts, and if he exhibits the signs mentioned above, you already know he wants to be serious with you.
Love,
Callisto.
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