If you’ve been talking every day but he suddenly disappears and doesn’t contact you, that is and isn’t related to you. It’s all situational.
But before making an assumption and judging his actions, you should check a few other elements that will impact his actions.
- Your relationship dynamics;
- Your and his communication style and attachment style;
- Evaluate your and his emotional dynamics;
To define it more, here are 11 different scenarios if he goes a day without talking to you:
1. He needs some space to work on his feelings
If the relationship has been moving way too fast for him maybe he needs at least one day to be distant a bit from all of this situation.
This doesn’t mean that he doesn’t like you anymore or that he doesn’t want a relationship with you.
It means that he’s overwhelmed. He needs a day off to figure it out (to get out of that bubble).
When dating even you might feel like you need a day to just be an individual and that’s not wrong.
It all depends on how you take it and on his intentions.
2. He might be out of town
Sometimes when you’re not dating exclusively yet, he might not let you know that he might travel soon.
Yet, this depends all on your relationship dynamics and how he already feels about you.
If you’ve been not talking constantly lately then he doesn’t think that he should let you know that he isn’t going to talk to you for a day.
Thus, in this situation, it’s better to not panic and take it step by step.
- Focus on what you’re doing right now.
- Try to focus on positive things and not only on negative aspects;
- Try to understand that just like you, he might have feelings and have a bad day too.
To understand better what I’m trying to point out, check this video of the Youtuber Rivah TV where she explains it in detail.
3. He just has a busy or hard day
It’s important to understand that the dating process and a relationship aren’t linear.
Some days, you might feel like you’re telling bits and pieces of yourself to him and some other days you just want some alone time.
- It’s okay to feel like you cannot explain yourself after being extremely exhausted at work and you just want to go to sleep.
- I can imagine right now that you think well it’s all about consistency and if he wanted to we would.
- Hence, you should know that isn’t always the case. 24h can go by really fast when you’re overwhelmed and burnout.
Instead, try to help him, check up on him with a text message like “Is everything good?”.
But, if he does this constantly then you should worry about it. Talk to him.
4. You’re not on his priority list
Even if you’re dating or in a relationship when he goes days without talking to you then you’re not on his priority list.
Well, let me tell you. Even if he can go a day without talking to you multiple times then he is letting other things come before you.
It’s not about making him see you as a priority but it’s about the effort that he puts into this relationship.
So, if he does this multiple times and doesn’t bother to talk about it then he might do it on purpose.
5. This is how he expresses love and he might be a bad texter
He might be the type of guy that doesn’t like to text or communicate daily.
This type of behavior might not be related to his love or interest in you.
To pin it down, make sure to check other factors that might give you the bigger picture.
- Check if he initiates dates or conversation calls.
- Check if he likes to hang out with you.
- Check the time when he calls or wants to hang out with you. Is it only overnight or always during the day?
I can understand that this situation it’s quite confusing but a relationship coach might help you to decode his behavior.
6. His feelings might have started to change
If he can go a day without talking to you multiple times for a short time then this might be a red flag.
Check if he is also so busy to hang out with you and now doesn’t initiate calls and creates some type of distance from you.
To be more specific if you have always initiated conversation and now you notice that he flirts less with you, he might have changed his mind.
- If you haven’t been official yet then he might have kept his dating options open.
- Or along the way, he might have met someone that he thinks meets his needs more.
Yet, don’t panic. Take it slowly because when you’re not dating officially, you can’t ask him to justify himself.
7. He might be a career-driven man
Sometimes an ambitious man can make a lot of mistakes when it comes to dating.
If he is more career-driven than dating-driven then he might put you second.
Even if he likes you a lot and wants to continue dating, his ambition and job might get in the way.
He might not know how to balance work and personal life. That’s why you should get to know him better and make clear your and his intentions.
8. He might be giving you the silent treatment
He might want to punish you because you might have been fighting or arguing a lot lately.
This is typically narcissistic behavior.
He can go a day without talking to you and without explaining how he feels or explaining that you might have made a mistake.
Shortly, he either cannot express his feelings or want to control you and take all the power over this relationship.
9. He might be testing you and your relationship boundaries
I’ve been tested by my ex once when he suddenly just went MIA for a day.
During this time, I just lost myself trying to be the perfect woman for him.
Thus, he could go a day without talking to me and then say something like, you didn’t care to call me once.
He repeatedly made this type of thing and I couldn’t get the right message until we broke up.
He was testing my love and how much I cared about him, an unhealthy way to deal with this thing and that left me in ruins.
10. He might have started to get comfortable with you
I got comfortable with my husband (then boyfriend) and after a year of dating, I started to not text daily.
Then I never thought that this could hurt him (which was very wrong to think of).
We were very close with one another but never talked about this. After doing this for two months, he pointed it out.
Same it might go with you too. It might seem like a drastic change at the beginning but he might have gotten comfortable with you after some time.
And in the relationship things don’t stay the same all the time.
11. He cannot forgive easily
If he can go a day without talking to you it might mean that he is dealing with past trauma. Yup, that’s possible.
He might have experienced silent treatment as a child and now finds it hard to communicate his anger or whatever he’s feeling.
That’s why he might not communicate with you for a day and ignore your texts.
Yet, to make sure that this is the proper reason why you’re being ignored for a day, you need to reflect on what happened before this.
The dating coach Matt Boggs explains that when being ignored you should check for his good and bad qualities.
Balance them and ask yourself if he is the one and if he’s worth it.
Is it normal in the talking stage for a guy to go a day or two without talking to a girl?
Yes, it’s normal in the talking stage to go a day or two without talking.
Especially when you’re not dating exclusively and when he lets you know that he’s having a busy week or month.
But, if he always initiates conversations with you and suddenly one day doesn’t text or call you that might mean something.
- The conversation might have gotten boring and he might have started losing interest.
- He might not want to seem clingy or cross your personal boundaries.
On the other hand, it might not be normal during the talking stage to do this constantly because then you might not be his priority.
Thus, it’s better to set healthy boundaries. Let him know about your communication style and just focus on upgrading yourself.
What to do when he can go a day without talking to you? How to decode his behavior?
If he goes a day without talking to you then don’t take it immediately personally.
Try to take it one step at a time and reflect on the relationship dynamics.
Check how have you been talking to one another before he decided to go MIA for a day.
If this is unusual then you may reflect on your and his actions and what happened before this day.
1. Relax. Don’t panic. It’s not the end of the world.
I know that you’re dying to talk to this guy or that you really love him and you want him back.
Reflect on external factors that might have made him go silent for a day.
When you detect these other elements it’s easier for you to not judge and decide what you’re going to do next.
2. Try to understand him.
After you have detected external factors, it will help you to understand him better.
Now, try to dig a little deeper. If this happened only once then maybe it’s time to understand him and give him a little space.
Later, try to initiate a talk with him and ask how it’s going and how he is feeling.
3. You may state how you feel about this.
If you don’t want to get played and form a healthy relationship, you need to set healthy boundaries with him.
Share your concern and initiate a conversation, communicate first with him if you think that this is weird and it never happened before.
Listen to what he has to say or share with you.
4. Explore what would be changed or solved
Try to read between the lines and check what could be fixed.
The problems that appear while dating cannot all be fixed until he and you are willing to do so.
Thus, try to reflect and get the help of a professional therapist who might help you understand more about male and female psychology while dating.
5. Try to look forward and not be stuck.
Sometimes when you don’t get the needed attention or things start to change, you might easily start to obsess over it.
You will find yourself in a pit from which you cannot get out easily if you continue to beat around the bush.
That’s why I advise you to take a step back and reflect on the situation.
Try to use calming apps and work on your mindset because it will help you a lot to understand what you need and what is happening.
Unpopular opinion!
If he can go a day without talking to you it doesn’t mean that it should have a connotative meaning.
To decode the meaning, you need to know more about him, his attachment style, and what he feels about you.
You might be in a long-term relationship with him but he might not like texting or calling a lot.
On the other hand, he might be taking a day off from everything and fast life.
So, every relationship and individual is different. Don’t panic and set boundaries.
All love,
Callisto
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