Cheating is never okay, no matter in what form it is done.
Cyber-cheating seems to have become every cheater’s favorite way, and I do not mean this as a compliment!
In case you think your girlfriend is cheating over text, know that no matter how low-key she is, you can tell.
– In case you’re wondering if texting is considered cheating…
Yes. Inappropriately texting a person who isn’t your partner is considered cheating.
It has to do with somebody disrespecting their SO’s boundaries and acting sexually or romantically with other people.
It’s cheating no matter how we look at it, and if your partner tries to convince you otherwise, don’t fall for it!
Some people try to make it look like non-physical cheating isn’t a big deal—your girlfriend might be downplaying her actions, saying that texting another person doesn’t mean she’s unfaithful.
Before you let her convince you, keep in mind that if she’s deliberately hurting you this way, then yes, she is cheating.
To tell if your partner is being unfaithful and texting other men, these sure signs will come in handy:
1. She is oddly secretive with her phone, almost as if she’s hiding something!
We all know that something is up when a partner tries their hardest to keep their phone away from us.
In this case, if your girlfriend is way too secretive with her phone, that could indicate she’s hiding something!
Not too shocking—a cheater will never let their significant other touch, use, or even look at their phone.
She’s preventing you from prying any further; if a notification from her guy pops up, it’ll make her act crumble.
2. She rarely uses her phone when she’s with you.
Simply because it would be too risky.
She’s not taking any chances in case she happens to receive a racy text from her side partners, after all, it only takes one glance for you to find out.
Whenever someone messages her, she excuses herself and replies far away from you—all of this is a bit too suspicious!
She keeps her phone face-down and might even completely power it off; all of this is an attempt to keep you from accidentally finding out she’s been texting another guy.
3. She is always active on social media!
She’s online no matter what—most of the time, actually.
Even late at night when she has to go to work or school the next day; she’s, for some reason, always making time to get on social media.
Know that social media platforms are a very popular way for people to meet up, so the reason why she stays on them this much could be another person.
But be careful! Just because she’s online often doesn’t mean she has to be talking to another man!
4. It still takes a lot for her to reply back to you.
Despite her constantly being on her phone, she still takes a long time to text you back.
You know for a fact she’s not that busy since she’s online on her socials, so what could it be?
It could be that she truly is too busy to reply, but when it happens too often, it makes you wonder, “Is she talking to somebody else?”
I don’t want to alarm you, but that is possible.
When a partner starts talking to someone else, they may give that person more attention.
5. She doesn’t tell you the truth about who she’s texting.
She says she’s texting a sibling, friend, or relative, and when she realizes it’s a guy’s name, she panics and says it’s just an acquaintance or cousin.
She’s clearly lying; you know that guy is in no way related to her, nor is it a friend she’s ever talked about.
It seems like she was trying to hide this man desperately—you found out though, and now she’s trying to convince you he’s no one special.
This begs the question:
Who is this guy? And why did she feel the need to lie about him?
Chances are you’re not going to like the answer.
6. Keep prying and she absolutely flips out.
If you’ve ever persisted about her telling you who’s the man she’s always texting, and if she’s reacted harshly each time, I’m afraid that’s a giveaway.
Her unwillingness to answer a simple, innocent question means that she doesn’t want you to know about that guy.
She feels overwhelmed because she thinks you’ll find out she’s been cheating, and that’s why she’s all over the place.
- She shouts;
- She tells you it’s none of your business who she’s texting;
- She evades the question completely;
- She changes the topic ASAP;
- She starts talking about how you don’t trust her and how unfair it is—guilt-tripping, basically!
7. Her phone is usually on silent mode.
I’m sorry, let me rephrase that: She keeps her phone on silent mode when she’s with you.
There is a difference!
Whenever you two are out on a date or lounging around, she sets her phone to silent or powers it off intentionally.
She doesn’t want you to be alarmed about all the texts she receives from other people—once again, she’s being cautious!
She wouldn’t want you to accidentally read any raunchy text messages.
8. She locks her phone the moment you get close to her.
One second she’s typing, and the other one her phone is locked—but only because you got too close to her.
This is a sneaky thing cheaters do to not let their partner catch them texting another person, so keep an eye out!
Your girlfriend quickly locks her phone screen because there’s a chance you might take a look at it and possibly find out what she’s been doing.
After a while, it becomes an instinct.
9. She replies to you, but only to get it over with—her replies are dry.
We were talking about how cheaters may take longer to text back their partners (because they were too busy talking to other people).
To add insult to injury, when they do finally text back, their replies are short, dry, and uninteresting.
For example, your girlfriend might’ve texted you, “What’s up?” for the third time in a row, or replied very unenthusiastically about something important you said.
You can tell she’s not feeling the conversation or even trying to keep it going (even though you two have barely talked).
10. Her phone gets no notifications—completely deserted.
Don’t you think it’s a bit odd that your partner gets no notifications at all? Considering she’s on her phone all the time.
Her notifications being always off is definitely a bit weird as it signals the desire to conceal something.
If your girlfriend is texting another guy, then that guy texts her back at inconvenient times (such as when she’s with you).
She doesn’t want you to see those potential notifications, and decided it’s for the best to disable her notifications altogether!
Or she just doesn’t like being bothered—it’s one or the other!
11. She doesn’t stay in the chat whenever you two are having a conversation!
You know how in some social media platforms (like Snapchat and Instagram) you can actually see if the person you’re talking to is present in the chat?
People usually take that as a sign that the other person is interested in the conversation!
If it’s been happening often lately for your girlfriend to quickly shoot a text back at you and then leave the chat, then it’s possible that, at the same time, she’s also talking to someone else.
This could mean that she’s simply busy, but it’s best to know all the possibilities!
12. She has changed her phone’s passcode and won’t let you see what it is.
It’s not too typical for a person to change their phone’s passcode and be really against their partner knowing their new one!
Knowing each other’s passwords is sort of a declaration of love in the era of technology so if your girlfriend did this she must have a strong reason!
If she’s talking to other men, having you know her phone password would not be the smartest move.
13. Your girlfriend never keeps her messages.
She always deletes them!
If she’s cheating through text then that explains this behavior, but there are other reasons!
There are people who prefer deleting them for no apparent reason.
Otherwise, if they’re in a relationship but cheating, they’ll delete the inappropriate conversations they have with others.
14. She insists you two don’t need to be friends on social media!
Does it even get more obvious than this?
You know it’s not good if your partner is insisting she doesn’t want you on her social media, let me explain why:
For one, she doesn’t want you to see all of the strangers liking and commenting on her posts—if you were to, you’d easily figure everything out.
She also doesn’t want other people to know that you and her are in a relationship as it would ruin the chances of her meeting up with someone new or continuing current affairs!
This is most likely why she’s been telling you she thinks social media is a waste of time and having each other friended is useless as you see each other every day.
15. She has other socials that you don’t know about!
Cheaters may get the idea to open second social media accounts separate from their first ones—where they feel free to do whatever they want:
- Flirt with others;
- Interact with people’s posts;
- Friend whomever they please;
- Never be found out.
You’ve seen account suggestions in your social media accounts that look really similar to your girlfriend.
You probably asked her if that was her, but she denied it—and meanwhile it could be true, she could be lying about it.
Assess whether those truly are her accounts and if they are, decide how you feel about it and what those secret accounts mean!
16. She gets extremely happy whenever she receives a text.
One simple text from that guy is all it takes to make her day.
Whenever she’s texting with him, she is always smiling and the happiest woman in the world—her mood instantly gets better.
But if you don’t have the same effect on her, something’s up: she could be developing feelings for the person she’s talking to.
This person is clearly important to her, and possibly not in a platonic way.
17. Nowhere in her social media profiles does it state that she’s in a relationship.
It seems like she might be hiding the fact she isn’t single—never a good sign.
If she’s interested in somebody else, she wouldn’t want that “somebody” to find out she’s in a relationship.
And if she is looking to find somebody else, the fact that she’s not single will greatly affect her chances!
If she’s recently removed this information from her profiles, then that’s even more suspicious.
18. She lies about being busy all the time.
She lies about being busy, most likely using it as an excuse as to why she can’t talk to you or spend time together.
Even though you see her online, she still insists she’s busy and can’t reply—this is her go-to response.
When cheaters start forming deep connections with the third person, they’re not going to want to spend as much time with their actual partner.
Because they need to somehow excuse this behavior, they say they’re too busy to do anything!
19. This one guy keeps commenting on her pictures, and they seem a bit too close.
You don’t know this guy, so it’s definitely not someone your girlfriend has ever mentioned before!
He keeps liking her pictures and commenting stuff that leads you to believe they’re a bit too close—and she keeps replying to them with equally flirty responses.
20. Every sign having to do with her treating you badly is indicative!
We need to take a break from her phone habits and focus on her attitude towards you—any negative changes are useful signs.
If your partner has been less affectionate with you lately, feelings for another person may be present, possibly meaning she’s lost feelings for you.
And those feelings came from somewhere—texting and talking to another person, for instance.
If this is how your girlfriend’s behavior looks like nowadays, then it’s very possible she’s talking to another man:
- She’s very cold towards you;
- She’s getting more and more distant;
- She’s not as affectionate either;
- The intimacy isn’t there anymore;
- You two are spending less time together;
- Rudeness and constant arguments aren’t all that uncommon.
When a relationship becomes too toxic, it’s usually because a cheater has made it so.
But, what to do if your significant other is texting another person?
If all the evidence points to your girlfriend texting another person, then consider talking to her about it.
Tell her you know about her not being completely faithful to you and come to a final decision.
Do you think this is forgivable, or not? Think about the future of your relationship!
And keep in mind: cheating over text is equally as bad, no matter how much your partner tries to manipulate you.