You can make a man want you. That’s an easy thing to do. The question is how?
One of the obvious ways to make him want you is by not ‘making’ him. You don’t want to force him into something, right?
Some of us have learned the lesson the hard way, and we know that adapting and adjusting to his preferences will only last so long until it wears out.
We need some realistic ways to make a man want you. The ‘realistic’ softens a bit of that ‘make’.
Instead of ‘making’ him want you, we’re simply showing off ourselves in the best way possible and letting him know what’s in front of him.
Removing the tricks from our pockets!
Here are 11 realistic and solid ways to make a man want you:
1. Understand and own your power
Understanding your stance within your connection, understanding the power of your presence will make him want you more.
It may sound confusing as a concept but bear with me…
You can’t expect him to understand your value and power if you don’t understand and own it yourself.
When you lack understanding of the power of your presence, of your self-worth, and self-value you’re more likely to put up with disrespectful behavior.
Now, you’ve got to think highly of yourself if you want him to think highly of you.
Own your space and place within your connection or wherever you are with or without him around.
Confidence is one of the most attractive traits a person could ever have.
The source of your confidence is also important.
Increasing your self-esteem through external sources such as him or other people can give you short-lasting confidence.
It’ll be temporary and you’ll end up craving more affirmations from others for you to feel worthy again.
So, begin from within. Find confidence within yourself.
Confidence makes your light shine through and he won’t help but see it whether he wants to or not.
You make a man want you bad by being confident within yourself and with everything you represent as a person.
Keep your head up and posture straight, woman!
2. Have genuine conversations with him
If he’s genuine as well, he’ll love a nice genuine conversation, and it surely will help make him want you more.
On the other hand, if he’s an embodiment of a player, then even better, it’ll filter him out.
A genuine conversation is a conversation filled with interesting, funny, and honest pieces put together.
Genuine conversations are the way to make a man crave you emotionally.
If you want him to want you for the long run then you better keep the conversations genuine by putting mind games aside.
It’s easy to keep it real, do so.
Keep your conversations clear from games and tricks to make him want you more.
Instead of using tricks, use your honesty, sense of humor, genuine, and intelligence to keep a conversation going with him.
Good conversations will keep him wanting more of you, and more of the time he spends with you.
3. Leave some room for curiosity
You stay true to yourself and keep yourself from oversharing because you want to impress him.
By not oversharing you manage to get his attention. It’s one of the ways to pull away to make him want you.
Now, of course, you don’t want to disappear for days and let him in a space of doubt whether keeping in touch with you is a good idea or not.
You simply want to hold a few things in.
What I’m talking about are those things that come due to the urge to impress him. No, keep them to yourself for a while longer!
You don’t want to give him empty answers.
He asks you how you are, and you respond with fine because you’re leaving room for curiosity is an example of how it could go wrong.
You can give him the wrong clues by doing things that don’t represent who you are.
All it takes to keep mysteriously and give birth to his curiosity is holding yourself back when the urge to talk more for the sake of impressing him kicks in.
That’s it, that’s all it takes to keep him wanting to know more.
Don’t overshare for the sake of breaking the silence, and don’t overshare for the sake of impressing him.
You want to keep a conversation going interesting and funny, but you also want to learn more about him.
Asking him questions about his life and interests is a good way to give him those little clues that you’re interested in him.
Men fall easily when they know a woman is interested in them. It’s not rocket science.
If you want him to want you as a person, then he’s got to be emotionally attracted to you.
The way to emotional attraction is through knowing more about one another, exploring each other, and enjoying each other’s presence.
If you’re curious about something, ask him.
If you want to make the conversation more interesting you can make a list of questions in your head (read: IN YOUR HEAD) and ask him when you meet up.
It’s an amazing way to keep the conversation going, but also an amazing way to get to know more about him as a person.
The key is to listen to him answering you, not just asking the questions one after the other, and get things done as soon as you can.
Relax, take it easy… Once the conversation gets stuck, pull out one of your questions and listen to him.
5. Don’t force the conversation/connection with him
Laugh if it’s funny, and don’t try harder than you can once the silence kicks in.
Forcing the conversation or even the connection with him won’t make him want you more.
It can give off the impression that you’re desperate in his presence, which you’re not.
This is not just about the ‘desperate’ look, it’s more about letting the chemistry build slowly without having to force anything to develop.
Let the conversation flow, let the connection with him flow as well.
Of course, you can fill in the conversation to avoid awkward silences now and then, but sometimes it’s good to simply embrace that awkwardness.
Let the chemistry and topics flow naturally, let this be organic.
Once you’re not trying too hard about it, and once the chemistry starts building up without forcing it, he’ll notice something special about your presence.
The special thing? It’s the comfort of the presence: you’re not in a rush, you’re not forcing anything, you’re completely comfortable with silence.
It’s an effective way of making him want more. He’ll want you.
Forcing things gives off unnatural vibes and makes things even more uncomfortable and awkward than they are (if they already are).
6. Don’t let your life revolve around him
One of the most common mistakes a lot of women make is once they meet a man their lives seem to revolve around him.
That’s when things sort of go out of the track, and the train of the connection gets kind of lost…
Not revolving everything around him means not stopping what you’re doing with your life at the moment just because you met him.
You’re independent, you’ve got things you enjoy doing, hobbies, and activities. Why become passive just because you met him?
Having a life is attractive. Having a life and not letting things be half done just because you met him will make him want you.
This doesn’t only benefit you in your connection with him, this benefits you in life and social connections as well.
It’ll even make him chase you. If you’re into that mindset then you’ve got to stop revolving your life around him.
This doesn’t mean not giving him attention and not compromising in the relationship with him.
It means you’re not leaving yourself behind for the sake of pleasing him.
That’s very important for your sense of self-worth, but also for his way of perceiving you as a woman.
Besides in person, there are ways to make him want you over text. In that case, you might need an upgrade of your texting game!
Making him want you moreover texts includes having confidence, having genuine conversations, asking him questions through text, etc.
To make him want more of you, or to just make him want YOU over the text you gotta keep things fresh and interesting.
Don’t go out of your way, just use the tools we’ve got at your disposal. Let’s take a look:
- Ask him interesting questions.
- Keep your texting habits healthy.
- Send him memes/gifs/songs.
- Initiate texting sometimes.
- Reciprocate in the text conversations.
- Flirt with him through text.
Those are tools that, if used properly, will change your texting game and its results forever.
Sending him flirty texts can go two ways only: right or wrong.
Make sure that you know how to use the tool before you make it part of your texting habits.
8. Be a safe place for his vulnerability
A lot of men like to look tough and all well put together.
They can’t resist a partner that resembles a safe place in which they can relax and feel comfortable showing their ‘not so well put together part.
This is one of the fundamental ways to make him want you bad.
Be there for him, don’t judge him.
Teasing is another thing. You can crack a joke about his shoes, but not insult him or his background through something inappropriate.
By not judging him for his actions, beliefs, thoughts, and expressions you slowly build an image of a trustworthy person to him.
Men want a woman they can trust. Men want a safe place in which they can be vulnerable without being judged.
He’s tired of keeping up with the unrealistic standards of what masculinity looks like, and he’ll need a person with whom he can be what he wants to be without the pressure of meeting expectations.
You’re inviting him to be comfortable, safe, and not judged around you. You’re resembling a safe space for his vulnerability.
He wants to feel safe too; emotionally safe and physically safe. Once you resemble that place for him, he’ll want and need you in his life.
9. Listen to him
Another thing that a lot of men struggle with is getting someone to hear them and truly listen to what they have to say.
At the end of the day, we’re all suckers for a good listener.
If you listen to him, you make him feel heard and cared for. Or at the very least, he’ll feel he’s able to entice curiosity.
He’ll relate that feeling of importance to you, and now you’ve just locked a nice spot on his mind for yourself.
It’s one of the ways to make him think of you all the time.
He needs someone to listen to him, you also need someone to listen to you.
One of you has to start ‘the listening’ for the chemistry to kick in. The next thing you know, you’re both into each other.
It’s important to feel heard in a connection. That feeling stays, and it’s a good feeling to experience.
10. Look and smell your best
Part of what makes him want you are also looking visually appealing.
Now, this doesn’t mean to find out what he’s into or what he prefers and do exactly that. No.
It means to look and smell YOUR best. What you feel comfortable with and what represents you as a person.
A clean lovely look followed by a signature smell will complete the picture and will add the points to get him to like you.
As long as you feel comfortable and confident in your skin, you’ll be doing amazing.
If he’s the genuine type, and the one to be your type, he’ll want you for sure.
On the other hand, if ‘real’ isn’t what he’s looking for then you’ll filter him out by staying true to yourself.
You don’t want to embrace the ‘please him’ mindset. Don’t put him on a pedestal. Simply see him as someone whose personality might or might not fit with yours.
If you fit and there’s chemistry, then it’ll be one of the best things to experience.
If you don’t fit in with each other, don’t try to go out of your way to just suddenly ‘be his type’ and look like someone he likes instead of looking like yourself.
If you’re flirty then embrace every bit of it.
All of those qualities topped off with some playful attitude will make him crave you.
This is one of the ways that you make him think about you all the time. You get into his head with a little laughter, a little giggling, and a little touching.
Keep your flirting game through text as well.
If flirting is a natural trait that you’ve had for the longest time, then embrace it, sister!
You’ve shown him you’re confident, genuine, honest, and unapologetically you. It’s time to place the cherry on top.
Get your playful behavior started and make the time you spend together fun and leave him wanting more and more.
If flirting isn’t much of your thing, then simply don’t do it.
Remember, the point is to embrace your qualities and shine with them, not adjust and adapt to please what he needs and wants.
If you’re flirty, be flirty. He’ll be going crazy!
How to make him want you from afar?
Making him want you from afar has the same philosophy as making him want you in person.
You make him want you and miss you by being unapologetically yourself, being able to have genuine conversations, not trying to fit his type and looking desperate, and being a safe place for his vulnerability.
The only difference between in-person and distance is that you’ll have to use your texting skills a little bit more.
Don’t play games and tricks. If you feel like texting him, do it; don’t hesitate to text him first.
Engage in your text conversations. The short replies can make him curious for a while, but once it happens too often, you’ll be giving him the impression that you’re not interested in him.
Make the text conversations with him fun. Don’t be afraid to add memes, emojis, funny texts, songs, or even flirty texts into the text conversation.
The key to making him want you from a distance is to show yourself and not fake anything and keep the conversations fun and interesting.
Are you going to make him want you?
Yes, you are going to make him want you as long as you want you.
Embrace everything about yourself, and avoid adjusting or dimming your light just because he prefers it so.
Once you understand this concept, everything else will be a piece of cake while you’re around him.