You can make a man want you. That’s an easy thing to do. The question is how?
One of the obvious ways to make him want you is by not ‘making’ him.
Some of us have learned the lesson the hard way, and we know that adapting and adjusting to his preferences will only last so long until it wears out.
We need some realistic ways to make a man want you.
Instead of ‘making’ him want you, we’re going to let our light shine through and do this effortlessly!
Removing the tricks from our pockets! Let’s explore the 12 realistic and solid ways to make a man want you:
1. Own the power of your presence.
Research shows that confidence is one of the most attractive traits a person can have.
Understanding your stance within your connection and the power of your presence will make him want you more.
When you lack understanding of the power of your presence, self-worth, and self-value you’re more likely to put up with disrespectful behavior.
The source of your confidence is also important.
Increasing your self-esteem through external sources such as him or other people can give you short-lasting confidence.
So, begin from within. Find confidence within yourself. Confidence makes your light shine through and he won’t help but see it whether he wants to or not.
You make a man want you badly by being confident within yourself when
- you’re content with everything you represent as a person;
- keeping your head up and posture straight;
- you’re not fixated on comparing yourself to other people;
- you don’t have insecurities and are not preoccupied with how you’re being perceived by others;
- staying yourself and not pretending;
- owning your space and place within your connection or wherever you are with or without him around.
2. Don’t let your life revolve around men or other people.
Studies have shown that being open to experience makes you an attractive person in the eyes of other people.
This means being occupied with activities and experiences in your routine makes you more desirable as a person.
Your image of yourself or way of living doesn’t depend on the people around you or the man you’re dating. And this, according to research, is hot hot hot!!
One of the most common mistakes a lot of women make is once they meet a man their lives seem to revolve around him.
Not revolving everything around him means
- not stopping what you’re doing with your life at the moment;
- not canceling plans, or sacrificing hobbies or social connections for him;
- having your own world and not letting it depend on the perception that other people have of it or you;
- being independent and carefree of his thoughts of you;
This doesn’t mean not giving him attention and not compromising the relationship with him.
It means you’re not leaving yourself behind for the sake of pleasing him.
And that will make him want you because it radiates confident energy!
3. Maintain a positive and fun attitude.
The same research shows that a positive approach to life and people is yet another one of the most attractive traits found in people.
A woman enjoying her time and being fun to hang with is always an attractive woman.
When you make your time fun, and you enjoy yourself, you make the time you spend with him fun as well.
That in turn, makes him want you more because the time he spends with you is dynamic, fun, and not boring.
Laughter and smiling are considered highly positive and attractive traits in a person. You can reflect this when you’re around him by
- making a joke now and then;
- having an optimistic approach to life;
- avoiding pessimistic or cynical approaches;
- avoiding bad-mouthing or negative talk about things and people.
4. Leave some room for curiosity.
By not oversharing you manage to get his attention. It’s one of the ways to grab hold of his attention and make him want to know more about you.
Now, of course, you don’t want to disappear for days and let him in the space of doubt whether keeping in touch with you is a good idea or not.
You simply want to hold a few things in.
What I’m talking about are those things that come due to the urge to impress him. No, keep them to yourself for a while longer!
All it takes to keep the mystery and give birth to his curiosity is holding yourself back when the urge to talk more for the sake of impressing him kicks in.
That’s it, that’s all it takes to keep him wanting to know more.
Don’t overshare for the sake of breaking the silence, and don’t overshare for the sake of impressing him.
5. Look and smell your best.
Part of what makes him want you is also looking visually appealing.
Now, this doesn’t mean to find out what he’s into or what he prefers and do exactly that. No.
It means to look and smell YOUR best—what you feel comfortable with and what represents you as a person.
A clean lovely look followed by a signature smell will complete the picture and will add the points to get him to like you.
You’ll be doing amazing as long as you feel comfortable and confident in your own skin.
You don’t want to embrace the ‘please him’ mindset. Don’t put him on a pedestal. Simply see him as someone whose personality might or might not fit with yours.
If you fit and there’s chemistry, then it’ll be one of the best things to experience.
If you don’t fit in with each other, don’t try to go out of your way to just suddenly ‘be his type’ and look like someone he likes instead of looking like yourself.
6. Improve your conversational skills.
Good conversational skills make time more fun, and engaging, and leave you wanting for more.
You want to ask him the right questions, talk about interesting topics, know how to keep a conversation going, and have a genuine conversation.
Men fall easily when they know a woman is interested in them. It’s not rocket science.
If you want him to want you as a person, then he’s got to be emotionally attracted to you.
The way to emotional attraction is through knowing more about one another, exploring each other, and enjoying each other’s presence.
Good conversational skills open the path to emotional connection and bonding. You can develop or improve such skills by
- letting the conversations flow unforced and naturally;
- having genuine rather than superficial conversations with him;
- listen to his answers when you ask particular questions;
- don’t try harder than you can once the silence kicks in;
7. Get flirty!
You get into his head with a little laughter, a little giggling, and a little touching.
Flirting is a way of playfulness that allows you to connect in a fun way and build positive tension going. Hence, keep your flirting game through text as well!
You’ve shown him you’re confident, genuine, honest, and unapologetically you. It’s time to place the cherry on top!
Get your playful behavior started and make the time you spend together fun and leave him wanting for more and more. So, don’t forget to
- make eye contact as if your life depends on it;
- touch your hair in a playful manner;
- tease him in a friendly, yet sexy, way;
- smile and giggle while making eye contact with him;
- lightly touch his hand, shoulder, or hair now and then;
If flirting isn’t much of your thing, then simply don’t do it.
Remember, the point is to embrace your qualities and shine with them, not adjust and adapt to please what he needs and wants.
If you’re flirty, be flirty. He’ll be going crazy!
8. Keep him interested through text as well.
To keep the attraction consistent, you want to put in a bit of effort when you two are physically apart from one another.
Besides, in person, there are ways to make him want you over text.
Making him want you more over texts includes having confidence, having genuine conversations, asking him questions through text, etc.
To make him want more of you, or to just make him want YOU over text you gotta keep things fresh and interesting.
Don’t go out of your way, just use the tools you’ve got at your disposal. Let’s take a look:
- Ask him interesting questions;
- Keep your texting habits healthy’
- Make the text conversation fun by sending him memes, gifs, or songs;
- Initiate texting too;
- Reciprocate in the text conversations (avoid using ‘k’ or ‘fine’ as responses);
- Send him flirty texts;
9. Be a safe place for his vulnerability.
A lot of men like to look tough and all well put together.
They can’t resist a partner that resembles a safe place where they can relax and feel comfortable showing their ‘not so well put together’ part.
This is one of the fundamental ways to make him want you badly.
Be there for him, without judgment.
By not judging him for his actions, beliefs, thoughts, and expressions you slowly build an image of a trustworthy person to him.
Men want a woman they can trust. Men want a safe place where they can be vulnerable without being ridiculed for showing emotion.
He’s tired of keeping up with the unrealistic standards of what masculinity looks like.
He’ll need a person with whom he can be what he wants to be without the pressure of meeting expectations.
You’re inviting him to be comfortable, safe, and not judged around you. You’re resembling a safe space for his vulnerability.
10. Be a genuinely good listener.
Another thing that a lot of men struggle with is getting someone to hear them and truly listen to what they have to say.
At the end of the day, we’re all suckers for a good listener.
If you listen to him, you make him feel heard and cared for—or at the very least— he’ll feel he’s able to entice curiosity.
He’ll relate that feeling of importance to you, and now you’ve just locked a nice spot on his mind for yourself.
Being a good listener is a great way to make him think of you all the time. Which then eventually leads to him wanting you.
One of you has to start ‘the listening’ for the chemistry to kick in. The next thing you know, you’re both into each other.
11. Don’t be desperate for him to want you.
A big turn-off known in the dating scene is desperation for a potential partner’s attention.
The listed above, sure, can make a huge difference. But it would be pointless if you did all that, just so that he wants you.
It would paint you in a negative or even desperate light if you ‘had a life’ or ‘maintained a positive approach to life’ just for the sake of his attention.
Stick to yourself no matter what. Authenticity is what will make him not only want you but crave you in his life.
If you do everything I mentioned above for him specifically, then you’re letting your life revolve around him, in turn making yourself desperate for his attention.
This is not just about the ‘desperate’ look, it’s more about letting the chemistry build slowly without having to force anything to develop.
Stick to yourself and your authentic ways of doing things!
12. Build an emotional connection with him.
If he’s genuine as well, he’ll love a nice genuine connection, and it surely will help make him want you more.
On the other hand, if he’s an embodiment of a player, then just the thought of an emotional connection will be repelling him. Even better, it’ll filter him out!
If you want him to want you for the long run then you better keep the conversations genuine by avoiding mind games.
Keep your connection clear from games and tricks to make him want you more.
Instead of using tricks, use your honesty, sense of humor, genuinity, and intelligence to keep a conversation, connection, and chemistry going.
You make him want you and miss you by being unapologetically yourself, being able to have genuine conversations, and not trying to fit his type.
Whether in person or through text, you can build an emotional connection with him and make him want you so badly.
The only difference between in-person and distance is that you’ll have to use your texting skills a little bit more.
- Don’t play games and tricks. If you feel like texting him, do it; don’t hesitate to text him first.
- Engage in your text conversations. The short replies can make him curious for a while, but once it happens too often, you’ll be giving him the impression that you’re not interested in him.
- Make the text conversations with him fun. Don’t be afraid to add memes, emojis, funny texts, songs, or even flirty texts into the text conversation.
The key to making him want you from a distance is to show yourself and not fake anything and keep the conversations fun and interesting.
Not sure about this? Ask the experts!
Are you going to make him want you?
Yes, you are going to make him want you as long as you want you.
Embrace everything about yourself, and avoid adjusting or dimming your light just because he prefers it so.
Once you understand this concept, everything else will be a piece of cake while you’re around him.