Everybody wants the person they like to be obsessed with them…in a healthy way, of course.
The truth is that obsession is linked to greater affection, and besides, who wouldn’t want their partners to have eyes only for them?
A common misunderstanding is that you must be close to the person to get them hooked, but you can do it even from a distance!
Here are 18 fairly easy, but effective psychological tricks to make a man obsessed with you.
1. Eye contact is very important.
A study conducted on the effects mutual gaze has on affection proved that eye contact is indeed linked to feelings of passion.
What does this mean? That, instead of looking around, you should hold eye contact with him whenever you’re conversing.
Slyly gazing at him from across the room every now will get him eager as well.
2. Make him feel good about himself by laughing at his jokes.
Nothing more awkward comes to mind than not having one of my jokes laughed at by someone I’m into.
Minimize this awkwardness by laughing at his jokes regardless of how funny they are—do not overdo it though, as he might think you’re faking it.
The feeling of having someone appreciate his humor will eventually have him hooked!
3. Give compliments when appropriate.
Think to yourself—do you enjoy getting compliments? Do people who never fail to see the best in you bring a smile to your face?
Compliments having to do with his dashing looks, amazing sense of humor (as I mentioned above), his kind nature, and his impressive talents all do the trick.
“In all seriousness, you’re one of the kindest people I know. I appreciate you.”
4. Put yourself first and don’t be overly available.
Do not be overly available to him if it means de-prioritizing yourself because he needs to know you’re a busy person with a fun, productive life.
Not responding to his texts right away once in a while is okay if you’re occupied; this will allow you two to create a healthy amount of independence from one another.
Don’t go running to him whenever he calls and you’ll have him chasing in no time!
5. Don’t deliberately push him away.
But that doesn’t mean you should intentionally push him away just for the heck of it as he might think you’re not that into him.
Turning a man down once or twice helps keep them obsessed with what they can’t have, but doing it often will make them lose interest.
So, don’t be hesitant to agree to go out with him when you have the time and feel like it.
6. Post on your social media account for him to see.
One of the first things that get you interested in someone is their social media because you’re basically taking a glimpse into their life.
Did you and your friends have a wild night? Or did you just win a prize? Posting about it on social media will keep him entertained.
He’ll be going through your Instagram stories and smiling while thinking, “Dang! I wish I was there!”.
7. Be a dependable and kind person!
If Dr. Gary Chapman’s theory of the 5 Love Languages tells us anything, it is that people also express/receive love through acts of service.
Kindness is one of the most attractive traits, so I’m recommending you lend a helping hand to him whenever possible.
Is he having problems in a certain subject you are very good at? Your help (and skills) will leave a good impression on him.
8. Make him feel helpful.
Men love feeling like heroes in front of the person they like, so let’s make it happen!
If you need help with something, ask if he could help you (but make sure it’s something he can do). After he’s done, show your gratitude to him.
He’ll feel like a hero and fall in love with the idea of making your life easier—this “idea” will leave him wanting you.
9. Be affectionate—physically and verbally.
Let’s get straight to the point! Physical and emotional affection are enough to make just about anybody obsessed.
To be emotionally affectionate means to always be there for him, compliment him, encourage him, and all the good stuff.
With physical closeness, you might want to be a bit more careful because it’s not something you typically want to do with someone you’re not dating.
If you want to keep your partner obsessed with you, however, a bit of physicality and PDA does wonders!
- Hugs and kisses, holding hands in public, cuddles, and playfighting.
10. Use what you have in common to your advantage.
If you both enjoy a specific genre of movie, make sure your next date consists of watching a movie under that genre.
In case your relationship is relatively new, you can always take an interest in what he likes and plan fun dates accordingly—he’ll appreciate the company of a like-minded person.
Pro tip: since two people with identical personalities don’t exist, you’re going to have to endure things you normally don’t, such as specific songs or food.
11. Break free from schedule and routine.
Be spontaneous every once in a while! This will show him you’re a thrilling person and prevent your relationship from being boring.
Plan your dates elsewhere (a different restaurant or park), talk about different topics, and incorporate new moves into your sex life!
Because many couples end up losing their flame due to monotony, keeping things fresh and exciting will keep your partner wanting more and more.
12. Keep the element of mystery present.
Disclosing every little detail about ourselves to someone we just started dating might make them lose interest without ever getting the chance to develop stronger feelings.
The best remedy? Keep some elements a surprise.
For example, you don’t need to give him a detailed description of what you’re doing every 10 minutes without him asking—let him miss you a bit.
13. Offer to cheer him up when he feels down.
Lift his spirits whenever he has a bad day.
- Say something kind;
- Visit him;
- Plan fun dates in one of the locations he likes;
- Get him a small gift, etc.
Being the person he goes to whenever he’s feeling down has its benefits, those benefits being appreciation and attraction.
14. Let him know that not everyone receives the same treatment.
It sometimes can be discouraging knowing that the person you like is giving attention to somebody else; erase such thoughts from his head.
Avoid being overly friendly with other men, or even worse, flirt with them as you run the risk of making your boyfriend uncomfortable.
Respect his boundaries regarding other people so that he knows you mean business when it comes to him.
15. Let your fun personality shine through.
Make him laugh, send him photos throughout the day, or playfully tease him—there are many ways to show him you’re a fun person.
Being funny makes a person 10x more charismatic in people’s eyes because of their wit and entertaining personality; this will make you guy want to spend every second of his day with you.
16. Show confidence while you two speak.
Don’t ever put him on a pedestal by talking your looks or personality down because confidence is what drives people crazy.
Stand by what you say and don’t let his opinions waver over yours; in case you two ever fight, be respectful, yet don’t let him disrespect you.
Being loved by someone who constantly self-deprecates can be a bit draining because it causes us to walk on eggshells—this will drive him away.
17. Flirtiness and playfulness get the job done.
Flirtinnes and playfulness are many people’s soft spots…who can resist an adorable, flirtatious partner? Not me!
Flirt with him (during appropriate times, of course) by saying something like this after arguments:
“I’d be mad if you weren’t so handsome. Consider yourself lucky.🙄”
But really, any compliment goes.
- Tease him about things he’s not insecure about and make it seem as if you can’t get mad at him for more than one second due to how perfect he is!
18. Be honest…no need to hide your feelings and opinions.
Do not conceal your opinions just because they go against his, and more importantly, do not keep quiet if your boundaries are overstepped.
Communication is the glue that holds two people together; issues between two romantic partners need to be sorted out or they may wreck the relationship.
Honesty in this day and age is quite rare, and your guy will appreciate knowing (and fixing) his mistakes instead of you repeatedly saying “I’m fine.” !
– Drive him crazy without even talking to him by doing these 7 things:
Being emotionally close to a man isn’t a requirement for making him absolutely obsessed with you; although, it’s an advantage.
If you haven’t established a close connection with him and can’t talk daily (which is usually the case with crushes), then there’s still hope.
In this segment I’m going to show you how to make a man obsessed without saying a word to him—it all comes down to how you present yourself.
1. Again, eye contact is magic.
Look at him from across the room and smile warmly—let your eyes meet his, but don’t intensely stare at him.
Do it periodically so that he knows you’re into him.
The few times you do have a conversation, make sure you softly gaze into his eyes and nod occasionally to indicate approval.
2. Smile, smile, smile!
Nothing says “Welcome!” more than a person who smiles often and has fun.
Let him see you smile while you’re together or with your friends; frowning will only make you look more difficult to approach.
- Smile softly and genuinely, but there’s no need to do it 24/7—we’re human after all, and able to feel other emotions.
A smile can be magnetic, plus it gives the impression you’re a friendly person.
3. Post regularly on your social media.
Are you following this guy on social media? If you are, you have a pretty big advantage: social media postings.
Keep in mind that he’s forming an opinion about you based on how you handle your accounts…so, show him how fun you are.
- Regularly post content on your platform that highlights your character and life (your humor, achievements, etc.).
4. Have confident body language.
I keep coming back to confidence, but can you blame me? It’s proven time and time again to be one of the most attractive traits.
But since you can’t verbally express your level of confidence, you have to do it through your body language.
- Don’t keep your eyes fixated on the ground! Look straight ahead, stand straight, and don’t cross your arms. Maintain eye contact (it’s the polite thing to do), keep your shoulders back, and smile!
Your confidence will attract him from miles away.
5. Get closer to him in group settings.
If you and he belong to the same friend group, you’ll have plenty of chances to get to know him better, but you must initiate.
Direct your attention to him whenever he’s talking and ask additional questions about the stories he tells, e.g. “What happened next?”.
Close the physical distance down as well by scooching over closer to him and continuing a more intimate conversation.
6. Doll up whenever you know he’s going to be there.
Put on your best outfits for the occasion so that you have his attention—a person who takes care of themselves will never cease to amaze others.
Pick your best hairstyle, fresh make-up, and of course, wear an alluring scent!
Outer appearance is the very first thing a person notices about another person, so making sure you look good is the first step to catching your guy’s attention.
7. Highlight your good traits from a distance.
Give him no choice but to want to get to know you better by being involved in your community:
- Be funny;
- Give your opinions on the matter;
- Offer to help other people;
- Show off your talents.
For example, if one of your friends (or even the guy in question) is in dire need of help, offer to assist them.
Kindness is an ageless beauty standard, and the better the impression you give him, the more his obsession will grow.
What’s truly important, though, is that he’s aware of how good of a person you are.
Final Thoughts: What makes men obsessed?
Men’s obsession starts with emotional and physical connection: those two lay the groundwork for something deeper to flourish.
You would first need to somehow get close to the guy in question by, say, being the one to cheer him up and establishing some sort of relationship.
After that, it all comes down to how loved you make him feel! Being an interesting, kind, and supportive person should suffice.
Love,
Callisto.
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