Whoever said you can’t leave a mark on someone through text has to be lying…there are many ways.
The key to making a man miss you through text is to know how to act, and when—when to pull away.
Since you’re at a disadvantage (seeing how physicality is not a factor), it’s important to know the exact solution to this very complex equation.
Is a relationship upheld by messaging only considered “serious”?
I see some debate going around on whether texting someone is considered “serious”, and let me put an end to it.
- Texting someone is serious, despite the lack of physicality, if you and your partner are serious about one another.
If you and him are loyal to each other and consider yourselves to be in a relationship, then who’s to say you’re not?
The tricky part is not convincing other people, however…it’s maintaining a relationship through words.
Worry not! These 14 tips will make sure he misses you like crazy through text, all while deepening your relationship.
1. Be authentic.
Before you roll your eyes, listen as to why being authentic will benefit you in keeping a man interested.
For one, you’ll be finding someone you *really* click with, as opposed to wasting each other’s time.
Also, don’t you think he’s tired of every person treating him the same way? People can tell almost immediately someone is faking their personality.
Silly stereotypes or toxic advice isn’t going to keep him hooked. Seeing you do the things you love will be a breath of fresh air.
See it as doing both yourself and this man a favor!
2. Let him know you have self-respect.
You might be wondering how self-respect relates to making a man miss you, but it all has to do with getting him addicted.
Men are “addicted” to women who know their self-worth and wouldn’t let anyone take that away from them.
With that being said, you can show a man you respect yourself by not tolerating any form of disrespect.
For instance, not replying to his text messages immediately after noticing a pattern where he purposely delays his texts.
3. Be there for him when he needs support.
Do you know just how rare kindness is in this world? When you find someone who genuinely cares for you, it’s like finding a diamond.
Showing your altruistic side when he needs it the most will make him miss and appreciate you when you’re not there.
So whenever you notice he’s down, why not cheer him up? Let him know you’re there for him whenever he needs some moral support.
Be understanding when times are rough instead of being snippy—nothing more attractive than a considerate person who notices stuff.
4. Don’t leave yourself behind.
You don’t want to pay so much attention to him that you de-prioritize yourself; seeing you out there doing your own thing will give him a sense of pride.
In other words, don’t ignore all of your responsibilities (work-related, school-related, etc.) just so that you can talk to him longer.
This will create a healthy sense of space between you two which will allow him to actually miss your presence instead of getting bored.
5. Don’t be shy to show your wild side.
The most common mistake people make when wanting to keep someone hooked is they try to act picture-perfect.
They agree with and are a sweetheart to the person they like 24/7, which ends up making them uninterested.
You need to show him you’re fun!
- Banter with him (when appropriate, of course);
- Make jokes according to his humor;
- Defend your arguments, and so on.
Don’t be a pushover he can exercise his authority on as he pleases; don’t bore him out of his mind by keeping the spicy parts of your personality hidden.
6. Don’t play *too* hard to get.
It’s generally annoying (and no fun) chasing someone who’s playing TOO hard to get.
That’s because we need something to keep coming back to to know we’re not wasting our time.
From what I’ve seen, men respond best to women who know just how “hard-to-get” they need to play.
E.g. reciprocating his flirting once in a while and not shutting down his date ideas EVERY. SINGLE. TIME.
Knowing you’re playing impossible to get will make him think you’re like every other girl, something that will prevent him from wanting you.
7. Take a hint — End the conversation when needed.
Whenever his replies start getting sparse, dry, or short, take that as a sign it’s time to end the conversation.
I don’t see nearly enough people talking about this, but the more you overstay your welcome, the less prone a man is to miss you.
But since most would prevent telling us that, it’s up to us to take a hint!
Taking a step back in this context means a simple “goodbye” will suffice to preserve your connection and eliminate the possibility of tediousness.
8. Form little habits in your relationships.
Having secret, fun gimmicks between only the two of you is a sure way to build a special connection with one another.
This special connection is what keeps people coming back and wanting more—or rather, the way it makes them feel.
Let’s take date nights as an example:
Although your means of communication is online-based, it doesn’t mean you and your boyfriend cannot enjoy a nice date night together!
Taking this theory into account, you and him can have your own little weekly routine where you video chat together the whole day.
What your gimmick will be depends on your and his preferences, as long as it’s something fun and special for the two of you.
9. Take and give compliments gracefully.
We all know that compliments can brighten someone’s day, and not even just appearance-related.
- “You’re so funny. I know I can count on you to brighten my day whenever I’m down.”
But what about receiving compliments? You’d be surprised there are actually different ways of receiving compliments, and the key is to be humble.
Grown-ups weren’t joking when they said “thank you” is a magic word! If there’s anyone he’ll miss, it’s the girl who appreciates the little things in life.
10. Are you officially dating? It wouldn’t hurt to show your love.
Saying “I love you” to someone you’re not officially dating is a bit tricky, but there’s no stigma if you two are a couple.
Everyone’s Love Language varies, so take yours and use it to make your boyfriend happy.
Whether it be through kind words, quality time, or giving him a helping hand with something he desperately needs.
What’s important is he knows your actions come from a place of love.
11. Try not to judge him as much.
Imagine talking to someone you like about something and they continuously judge your feelings and opinions—it would suck, right?
Men open up to people they feel most comfortable with, which helps build a strong relationship; being that person for him means he’ll miss you.
It’s fairly easy! Just keep remembering that everything is subjective and that people’s thoughts are a product of their life experiences.
When he tells you he dislikes dogs, keep in mind one might have bitten him when he was little!
12. Leave negativity out of your relationship.
Why bring negativity into a relationship you’re a part of out of free will? Being purposely toxic to your partner is a phenomenon that continues to baffle me.
Be his peace: instead of looking for ways to make him jealous, show him your love and appreciation.
- Compliment him, tell him you love him, and make it known he has you to rely on regardless of what life throws his way.
I’m not telling you to keep your feelings hidden, however, quite the contrary.
If he did something to hurt you, instead of letting your anger bottle up, choose to effectively communicate with him and solve problems together.
13. Make sure your conversations are two-way.
Conversations are obviously supposed to be two-way, but sometimes it’s hard to let someone else speak.
You must give him the chance to speak whenever you’re talking about an interesting topic as opposed to interrupting him mid-sentence.
Feeling heard has never failed to impress people due to how infrequent it is, so he’s sure to appreciate you too.
- You can encourage him to speak by asking for his opinion on stuff or asking questions having to do with him.
14. Respect his schedule.
And finally, it all comes down to being respectful and understanding.
I get it: we all want to talk to our partners 24/7, but that is oftentimes not an option between two busy people.
Let him do his own thing; he also needs some space to hang out with his friends, get his thing done, or simply enjoy a quick video game session.
Creating independence in your relationship is useful because let’s face it, he’s not going to miss you if you’re together every minute of the day.
– Visual and auditory stimuli.
Photos/videos and voice messages—breaking free of words will strengthen your bond while making him miss your face and voice, rather than just texts.
What I find useful with long-distance couples (or couples whose main communication tool is texting) is variety.
Visual variety:
- Sending candid photos or videos of yourself;
- Random images of random stuff (e.g. a cool-looking plant you saw while outside);
- And video-chatting.
Auditory variety:
- Voice messages;
- And voice-calling.
Give him the whole picture rather than bits & pieces to miss!
Which persona to take on through text? Examples he’ll respond positively to…
Love is like a game of chess: you have to know which pieces to send forward.
By pieces I mean different parts of your personality, namely:
The busy bee!
Giving you and your boyfriend space so that you two get your respective responsibilities done
- “I am sorry for the delay! I’ve been studying the whole day because of my test. 😭”
- “Missing you rn. I had to work overtime because my co-worker messed some papers up. Sorry for not replying sooner. 🥲”
- “What have you been up to the whole day? I’ve been swarmed with assignments. Last time I procrastinate (not really). Love youuu.❤️”
The confident one!
Don’t let him think you don’t have any ounce of self-respect by using deprecating speech—it’ll make him feel low-key pressured.
- “So, guess what…after hours and hours of trying to put together an outfit I finally did it. I gotta say…I look cute!
- “Our group’s project is due tomorrow and I’ll make sure it’s delivered in time. I’m pretty quick at putting stuff together.”
The playful one!
A lighthearted, fun mood every once in a while will keep him missing your playful nature as he reminisces about your time together.
- “Well, well, well…if it isn’t Mr. I Cheated And Won That Last Match. Wasn’t expecting to see you here! 😤”
- “Thank your lucky stars you’re handsome, or else I would have never forgiven you for eating my fries!”
- “The date was super fun! Only complaint is that you were too much of a chicken to watch that one scary movie. 🤕”
The understanding, supportive one!
Being understanding and supportive will ensure you a ticket into his heart, making him miss your presence whenever you’re not there.
- “You’re one of the most logical, flexible-minded people I know. I have no doubt in my mind you’ll ace that test!”
- “I appreciate your being patient and understanding with me even when I’m acting selfish as heck. You’re the best. ❤️”
- “Don’t worry about not responding immediately. I understand and wouldn’t want to overstep your boundaries.”
The romantic, flirty one!
You can’t take the romance out of a romantic relationship…then you’ll just have a relationship.
Make your partner blush by flirting with him and dumping a truckload of affection!
- “I love you so so so much, you don’t even know. I wish you were here with me instead of on the other side of the screen. UGH!🥺”
- “You won’t be able to breathe from all the kissing we’re gonna do the next time we go out. 🥰”
- “I’m surprised at how someone as perfect as you exists. Forever glad I got to meet you. ❤️”
You can make a guy miss you through text!
It’s going to take a while to reach that status and a whole lot of effort and consistency, but it’ll be worthwhile.
If you’re not feeling confident at all, keep in mind that texting someone is a form of communication and we all know that communication is essential in keeping a relationship up and going.
You just have to know how to utilize the distance between you two to make this man miss you like crazy.
Lots of love,
Callisto.
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