Keeping the flame alive in a relationship is one of the most important things for couples, yet many don’t know how.
And when you think about it, we can’t blame them; it’s normal for two people to drift away and shift their focus in other directions gradually.
With that being said, it’s not like there’s nothing you can do to keep your man interested!
Let me share with you 20 tips & tricks on how to keep a man interested and keep the relationship strong, healthy, and going!
1. Let him miss you once in a while.
If you are busy doing something, do not run to him whenever he calls or texts; while you might want to spend as much time with him as possible, letting him miss you once in a while will make him appreciate you more.
The more available someone is, the less valuable their time might seem to their partner who will then begin prioritizing the relationship less and less.
E.g. “Can we postpone our date? I made plans with my friends. You and I hang out every day and you’re usually free.”
2. Show him you’re a busy bee.
Whether you’re official or not, don’t let him think he’s the only eventful aspect of your life.
Go out with your friends, indulge in your hobbies, advance in your studies, for instance; showing him you’re a busy bee will make you seem alluring.
You two will have something interesting to talk about at the end of each day.
3. Make sure you two regularly meet up.
Invite him for a romantic dinner, a casual trip to the mall, or a cozy night-in together—it doesn’t matter what as long as you’re together.
Being physically close will bring the two of you closer and keep reminding your partner just how amazing you are.
And of course, let’s not forget about physical contact: kissing, hugging, and all the good stuff!
4. Get emotionally close to one another.
A couple can only go so far if they have a surface-level relationship in which they don’t explore their emotional states at all.
To keep him interested on a deeper level, I recommend you open up about your past and feelings and encourage your man to do the same.
Understanding each other ensures you two feel emotionally fulfilled and comfortable enough to talk about (and solve) relationship issues.
5. Let him know you care about him.
Don’t just tell him, show him you care:
- Randomly text him asking him how he’s doing;
- Be his shoulder to cry on;
- Offer to help him with something he needs;
- Aim to cheer him up by making him laugh, reassuring him, etc.
Nothing is more attractive than a kind, caring partner who goes out of their way to worry about you and ensure you’re okay.
6. Be romantic.
Everybody enjoys being spoiled by their significant other regardless of social stigma—who’s to say your man doesn’t?
- Plan a romantic date he’ll enjoy;
- Don’t skimp on telling him you love him;
- Get him gifts;
- Go on picnics;
- Hold his hand and do other forms of PDA, just to name a few.
Knowing that you’re interested in him will keep his interest alive and nourished.
7. Make him feel good about himself.
You can do this by complimenting his admirable traits or by making him feel like a hero, let me lay out the scene for you:
You purposely ask for his help about something you know he’s good at. After all’s done, you thank him and praise his abilities.
This will make him feel good, attracted, and most importantly, keep him interested in the long run.
8. Talk about your passions.
There’s something so attractive about hearing the person you’re with passionately talk about something they enjoy (video gaming, drawing, etc.).
When you talk about something with such passion, he’ll be thinking about how adorable you are; aside from the cute factor, you’re also welcoming him into your world.
Just make sure to give him the mic as well and not overdo it!
9. Reveal your flirty nature.
There’s one thing most couples get wrong, and that is that the cute, playful moments must stop once they become a couple…WRONG.
Flirt with your boyfriend, playfully tease him about his clumsiness, call him cute names, and go to town with the flirting.
This makes your relationship fun and lighthearted when it needs to be; remember that you’re not two robots dating!
10. Add some spice to your relationship.
Two words: spontaneity and sensuality.
Occasionally change things so that you or your partner don’t get bored with each other: visit untried places, try new moves in bed, and welcome the element of surprise in your relationship.
It doesn’t hurt going outside of your bubble as a couple—if anything, it helps keep things fresh and exciting.
11. Laugh at his jokes…regardless if they’re funny or not.
Dr. Madelijn Strick from Utrecht University explains that women seek funny men, and men seek women who laugh at their jokes.
But I’m sure you already knew just how sensitive guys can get about their sense of humor, so give him a bit of an ego boost by laughing at every single one of his jokes (he is making them for your sake).
And feel free to send your boo some memes! Who doesn’t enjoy a good laugh?
12. Don’t be shy to tell him that his efforts are appreciated.
Don’t be stingy with the “thank yous” whenever he does a favor for you or anybody else; letting your partner know his good deeds don’t go unnoticed will make him feel appreciated.
Tell him he’s doing good in life and that his presence makes your, his family’s and friends’, and everyone’s lives better.
Sometimes people need to remember the impact they have on the world.
13. Try to get into the things he likes.
Does he enjoy a very, very specific genre of music that you’ve never tried getting into? Well, it’s time to change that.
Having someone he relates to whom he can have exciting conversations with will never fail to keep him interested, and the same goes for most people.
Offer to tag along the next time he goes out to do something only he enjoys.
14. Don’t put pressure on him.
Pressure would make just about anybody lose interest in someone, so avoid pressuring your man into something he really doesn’t want to do.
This pressure ranges from casual things, such as making him try food he hates, to more serious ones, such as forcing him to introduce you to his parents.
Make sure your requests are reasonable, and most importantly, you respect his boundaries.
15. Do not be a controlling girlfriend.
Both you and your partner are equal in your relationship; that being said, monitoring his every step will cause him to lose interest.
I’m not telling you to forgive his talking to other women (don’t, of course), but you need to respect his individualism.
Do not isolate him from his friends, keep tabs on him every time he leaves the house, control his wardrobe, or set any other restrictions.
He is not a prisoner.
16. Don’t constantly reject him.
Yes, I understand that playing hard to get works in keeping men interested to some degree because men love the thrill of chasing.
However, turning him down one too many times will annoy him and make him think you’re not serious, so go a bit easy on him.
Don’t deliberately avoid him.
17. You’re an amazing person and partner, so have some confidence!
Both an excessive and a lack of confidence are not ideal, which is why there needs to be a balance.
Don’t downplay your achievements, and definitely don’t say things like “Why would you ever date someone like me?”, as you’ll only be turning your partner away.
Constantly reassuring someone who does not care about your opinion gets tiring after a while; having too much confidence has the same effect.
Have a healthy amount of confidence when speaking to him so that he knows you know your worth.
18. Ensure he knows you put effort into your appearance for him.
Effort is always attractive, and by this, I mean that your dolling up for him will put a smile on his face.
Wear your best outfits on your dates, try out a new hairstyle, and make him aware of the fact you do this just for him and no one else.
19. He’s only human…he deserves forgiveness and empathy.
Unless he’s done the unthinkable, which is overstepping your boundaries, keep in mind that forgiveness is required in every relationship.
Every person who’s made a mistake and regretted it dearly understands just how painful it is to not be forgiven.
Make forgiveness and empathy an important part of your relationship so that he doesn’t feel like he should be walking on eggshells around you.
20. Never cease making an effort no matter how long you’ve been together.
The best advice anyone could give you in this situation is to never give up; things will get tough, but that’s no reason for two people who love each other to give up.
Communicate your feelings to each other after every fight and don’t hold grudges over the most trivial of matters.
All relationships require sacrificing, whether it comes in the form of losing sleep for each other due to timezones, or overlooking “annoying” habits.
And most importantly, be honest.
Keeping a man interested through text 101: What can you do from a distance?
Sometimes you just have to make do with what you have, and if physicality isn’t on the list, keeping him interested will be a bit harder.
Texting and calling are usually a long-distance couple’s only choices, but they have to make the most out of it.
This is my advice to you regarding keeping a man all hooked through text:
1. Maintain regular contact.
Consistently texting and calling each other is what’s going to help the relationship from falling apart.
The more involvement you have in each other’s life, the more your relationship will advance.
So, don’t be afraid to randomly text and call him whenever you two are free!
2. Gift him something thoughtful.
Do you know what’s available even from a distance? Gift-giving (thankfully).
It doesn’t have to be anything lavish, your boyfriend would appreciate a D.I.Y gift from the heart as it’ll remind him of you.
3. Don’t give up on the sexual aspect.
A lot of people might think that keeping their sex life going from a distance is impossible, however, they could not be more wrong.
Sexting, video-calling, and raunchy pictures are perfect examples of how you can spice things up over text.
But do make sure the time is right and your partner feels comfortable.
4. Send random selfies and images throughout the day.
When you’re out and about, snap a quick photo of the scenery for your boyfriend to keep him updated.
Ideally, send him selfies as well so that he never forgets what he’s missing out on.
5. Have meaningful conversations.
Another thing that’s doable over text is meaningful conversations in which both of you open up and strengthen your emotional connection.
Initiate similar conversations now and then while texting or calling.
6. One word: memes.
Remember the bit about how attractive humor is in a partner? That applies to an LDR partner as well, so get to making him laugh!
Send him the funny memes you come across and don’t be embarrassed to tell him funny things that have happened to you in the past.
7. Respect your dates’ schedule.
If you’re a relatively short-distance couple who can meet up during breaks and holidays, don’t get lazy.
Seeing each other once in a while will do you good as it helps not miss each other as much.
Interest is the very foundation of relationships.
I find interest to be essential in keeping up with relationships, whether they are romantic or platonic.
Interest is what motivates two people to continue talking to each other and possibly form a romantic connection.
This is exactly why knowing how to keep a significant other (or a love interest) hooked should be prioritized!
Love,
Callisto.
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