The art of getting a man’s attention is what’s going to allow your relationship to grow into something bigger.
Getting guys’ attention is sort of like a secret recipe! We all know that there’s one way to drive men crazy…but what is it?
Well, let me tell you it’s not about one secret ingredient as much as it is about a set of physical and verbal behaviors.
If you’re interested in this guy and want his attention at all costs, there are a couple of things you need to know.
Just what exactly attracts men’s attention?
Despite popular belief, not all men are the same!
Everyone has their own type that gets them going, but there are a few specific things that apply to every person.
In general, a kind, caring, fun, and confident woman is every guy’s weak spot: someone thrilling who makes them feel good.
Of course, we also have physical attraction, which again varies from guy to guy, but personality is truly where it’s at.
Today I will be giving you tips on how to get his (that guy who pooped in your head’s) attention and have him hooked.
1. Eye contact is attractive, so don’t skimp out on it!
Multiple studies, like this one, prove that the more eye contact there is between two people, the higher levels of arousal will be.
So, make sure to hold eye contact whenever you two are conversing as opposed to looking around; soften your gaze while you do so and take occasional, small breaks so as not to make him feel uncomfortable.
Share meaningful glances at one another from across the room and finish it off with a warm smile.
2. Show your beautiful smile.
We can all agree that smiles are too alluring to be ignored.
I’m not saying you should be smiling 24/7, but letting him see your amazing smile often gives the impression that you are someone he absolutely wants to be close to.
Remember, you’re not just smiling at him—you’re showing that you’re a warm, positive, and welcoming person.
3. Be kind with people around you.
Be the person who wants to see others do good by always offering to help the people around you, including him if he needs it.
Always have something nice to say about EVERYBODY and don’t let him hear you trash-talking another soul! Men hate drama.
Kindness is magnetic, and what draws the most people in.
4. Give and appreciate compliments.
The people who said “Flattery won’t take you anywhere” ages ago clearly overlooked the fact that it absolutely does.
You don’t have to compliment this guy every waking minute, but showing appreciation sometimes will make him feel good, and who doesn’t like feeling good?
Throw cheeky, yet sweet remarks about his style, character, achievements, etc., and don’t forget to say “Thank you!” whenever he compliments you back.
5. Show confidence through your body language.
Confidence can be conveyed with the help of body language, and I’m constantly shocked by our lack of self-awareness regarding it.
Do not fidget, look away when someone talking, or make yourself look smaller (by hunching over, looking down, etc.) or he might think you’re uncomfortable around him.
Instead, stand up straight, hold eye contact, and pay heed to your facial expressions so that you do not accidentally make him believe you’re mad!
6. Now be confident through your words!
Showing confidence verbally is just as important as physically, but how does one even talk in a confident way?
Well, for starters you can try inserting yourself in conversations amongst your peers by giving your opinion on the matter; making your voice heard, in other words.
And avoid talking down on yourself by attacking your looks or personality when chatting with him…it will drain him.
7. Give him space to talk about himself.
Simple as that: ask him questions whenever you’re talking together or happen to be at the same social event so that he knows you’re listening to him.
Follow up on something he said, like “And what happened next?” or just get to know him better one-on-one—this way, you’re getting attention by giving it.
While he’s talking, don’t forget to periodically nod as a sign of approval and encouragement.
8. Put effort into your outfits and overall look.
Let’s not forget that getting someone’s attention usually entails physical attraction.
Men, similar to women, have their attention stolen by people who look like they take good care of themselves and put effort into their outfits.
Do the same thing: dress up nicely (maybe even in his favorite color), pick a cute hairstyle, and wear a sweet, captivating scent.
9. Get his attention by being a “damsel in distress” every now and then.
Men love feeling useful to the woman they’re attracted to—this triggers something called “the hero instinct” which makes them want to protect her.
Do you need help fixing something? Are you stuck in a dilemma? You can ask him for help as long as it’s nothing too big.
Make sure you do not use this method too often, though, as you might appear needy or incompetent. Only use it when you *really* need help.
10. Don’t be a “know-it-all”.
I don’t see this tip being mentioned as often as it should be, and it’s pretty sad because it’s essential in keeping a person interested.
Imagine being pumped up about something and talking about it with someone, only for that person to try and one-up you in terms of knowledge.
Don’t have an answer for everything. Let him “enlighten” you with facts and things he’s passionate about without having to worry about it.
I’m not telling you to act as if you were born yesterday, simply slow things down when you can tell he’s really excited about a topic.
11. Pay attention to your voice and mannerism.
There’s this very specific type that grabs men’s attention, and that is the sensual and soft one.
Speaking in a higher-pitched, softer voice is pleasing to the senses and leaves them wanting to hear you more.
As for behavior, acts that are seen as more “feminine” are more sought-after, e.g. twirling your hair, subtly biting your lower lip, friendly, physical touching (casually touching his shoulders/arms), and so on.
But I don’t recommend doing anything that makes you uncomfortable! If this type of behavior isn’t your thing, then you’re better off being with a man who appreciates you for you.
12. Subtly hint at the things you two have in common.
Want to steal his attention and keep it all for yourself? Let him know you two are compatible by showing him you like the same things.
Do this by wearing your favorite artist’s merch, talking about your interests, or just straight-up striking up a conversation with this guy.
At the end of the day, people try to look for fellow members of the same, social community.
13. Know when to banter.
Agreeing with one another is alright and all, but there’s something about people who appreciate some lighthearted banter.
Reciprocate his flirting, make him laugh by telling jokes, and go back and forth with each other; men love people with a good sense of humor.
Don’t be afraid to respectfully disagree if your opinions clash—after all, you don’t want him to think you’re a pushover.
14. Show him you’re a passionate person.
Passions are what make life interesting…life and people alike.
Don’t be shy to talk about your goals, hobbies, or favorite things as this will make him open up to you in return, resulting in a productive conversation.
Be your bubby, passionate self, and let him know he’s missing out on someone interesting!
15. Be consistent with communication.
Being consistent with each other in terms of communication (texting, calling, going out, etc.) is always a good idea.
No need for you to triple-text him or anything like that, but definitely don’t intentionally ignore him as a way to get him to chase you.
Don’t go running to him if you’re busy, but also don’t feel bad for giving him your time when you really want to spend some time together.
16. Don’t make it seem as if he’s bothering you.
Ignoring him, being rude, or having a generally cold demeanor will make him think you’re just not into him. The outcome? He will pull away.
Make sure to chuck your guy a soft smile whenever he approaches you and keep the conversation going with him.
And most importantly, avoid staying on your phone the entire time.
17. Get his attention by being a bit mysterious.
You don’t want to overshare when it comes to getting people interested because you’re basically taking the “interested” part of it out.
Don’t tell him every single, minuscule detail about your life and personality unless he asks; this is typically not how two people who aren’t dating behave.
Let me give you an example:
If he asks you what your favorite color is, a short answer like “I would say blue because it reminds me of the sky.” would suffice.
– Grabbing his attention from a distance: How do you leave an impression through text?
Physical closeness plays an important role in getting people’s attention because it closes the distance between two people.
If you want to snatch the attention of a man you text with, don’t sweat it! You can do it, but it’s significantly trickier.
But the silver lining in distance being present is that it makes your time together much more amazing. That’s enough talking from me! Here are some tips on how to get his attention through text:
1. Talk to each other frequently.
Don’t mind me—just going to repeat my point about how important consistent communication is in strengthening people’s bonds.
Don’t be afraid to reach out to him first every once in a while.
2. Regularly post on your social media profiles.
Regularly post photos on your social media accounts when you go out so that he knows how exciting your life is.
3. Make him laugh through text.
If making someone laugh from a distance wasn’t possible, all long-distance couples would be doomed. Lucky for us, it is possible.
Show your fun side with a funny joke or meme whenever the time calls for it—this will make you his new favorite person to talk to.
4. Get him to talk about himself by asking questions.
Ask him questions about his day-to-day regime, and personality, or follow up on something he was telling you earlier to have him fully immersed.
In a world where everybody wants to talk about themselves, he’s sure to appreciate you taking an interest in him.
5. Make him feel appreciated.
Make him feel appreciated by:
- Asking for his opinion;
- Complimenting him (in moderation), and;
- Showing gratefulness.
6. Check up on him.
Check up on him throughout the day so as to let him know he’s special to you…a simple “How are you today?” makes all the difference.
7. Flirt with him, but only if you’re close enough!
If you and him are close enough to flirt, and if he does it often, why not return the energy? This ought to have him smiling at your texts.
You can playfully tease him or throw special compliments his way to achieve this result.
8. Prioritize and love yourself.
The most alluring thing about a person is their self-respect, and telling him you’re a confident, secure person will drive him crazy.
This means no begging him for a reply, no letting him play with your precious time, and no de-prioritizing yourself.
Be your amazing self…
Not to sound cheesy, but being yourself when seeking a new partner actually benefits you.
You’d be finding someone who truly appreciates your greatness and wouldn’t change anything; on the other hand, you’d be chasing incompatible people away.
Your comfort and happiness are worth more than any person’s attention—never forget this.