The cheating statistics have shown just enough to build doubts in each of us: Online infidelity is higher than ever!
Mix that up with our bitter experiences from the past and your partner’s suspicious behavior, and we surely do have a cocktail of insecurities, doubts, and mistrust!
Is your partner cheating on Snapchat?
A partner from the past did this to me, and I know the feeling of devaluation that just couldn’t shake off me for a while after it happened.
You can spot the early signs and you can do something to find the truth!
6 signs he’s hiding something from you through Snapchat!
Online infidelity has resulted to be very common in the online dating world.
No matter the app, if your partner is secretly engaging romantically or sexually with other people online, they’re committing online infidelity.
If you’re vigilant, you can spot the signs your partner is cheating on you through Snapchat.
You want to look for signs of secrecy, defensiveness, and distance.
Here are 6 signs he’s hiding something from you on Snapchat:
1. He hides his phone when using Snapchat in front of you.
If he’s snap-chatting with someone and he knows that it’ll be troublesome for your relationship then he’ll do his best to hide it from you.
If you notice him tilting his phone so that you don’t see him when he opens Snapchat, then he’s likely to be hiding something.
This doesn’t necessarily mean he’s hiding a romantic or sexual exchange of messages with another person, however, it can indicate he’s hiding something.
Pay attention to his body language, and him in general if he does this around you.
If he gets nervous and fidgety, he’s likely to feel guilt or even fear of getting exposed.
2. He’s saying he doesn’t use the app, but his Snapchat score is continuously growing.
A person’s Snapchat score is a number that indicates how active they are on the app. That number is the total number of snaps exchanged by that person.
If he wants to hide something from you, he will lie about the amount of time he spends on Snapchat.
Of course, if he tells you he doesn’t use Snapchat that much as a way to dodge the topic, the numbers on his Snapchat score will point out what he’s hiding.
Your boyfriend could be snap chatting with someone else and doesn’t want you to know about it if he lies about the amount of time he spends on the app.
A great way to know that is to check his Snapchat Score. If it goes up continuously, then you might want to have a conversation with him.
3. He turned off his Snapchat location.
Has your boyfriend turned off the Snapchat location?
If yes, it could mean two things. He either values his privacy or is up to something suspicious.
If he’s relaxed when using Snapchat around you and if he’s transparent about his activity on the app, then he might have nothing to hide from you.
However, if he shows secretive behavior about his activity on Snapchat and his location on the app is off, this could indicate that he’s not up to something good.
To get clues about which is which, try looking at the way he approaches you and the way he acts when it comes to using Snapchat in front of you.
4. He has his Snapchat notifications off.
He could be talking to another girl or person with a sexual or romantic approach on Snapchat if he puts his Snapchat notifications off when he’s around you.
You want to take a look at his Snapchat score. If it’s high, yet he gets no notifications from the app, he might’ve just turned them off entirely.
Turning notifications off from an app is very easy. This is normal if he doesn’t want to get disturbed while spending time with you.
However, it makes room for suspicion if he seems to have a very high Snapchat Score, yet no notifications ever pop up on his phone when he’s around you.
5. He has his ‘Auto-Delete’ on.
Depending on how people see it, this can either be a deal breaker or a no big deal at all.
If he shows suspicious behavior AND has his auto-delete ‘on’ on his Snapchat, then this might point in a suspicious direction.
Auto-delete on Snapchat deletes all the conversations except those you save or screenshot.
If he’d want to hide something from you, this could be another way of doing so by removing ‘proof’ with auto-delete.
6. He acts defensive when you ask him about his suspicious behavior.
In toxic relationships, things are communicated passively or not communicated at all.
If he’s a toxic person, he’s likely to hide things from you, get involved in infidelity, lie, or even gaslight you.
He could be used to toxic ways of handling things, and if he feels guilty, he’s likely to act in a defensive manner.
Trying to solve the trust issues in a relationship through open communication is the right way to do it.
However, this attempt to solve your trust issues is likely to be crashed with a confession or defensive behavior if he feels guilty.
If he’d be clear, he would reassure you and prove to you—read: prove—that there’s no reason not to trust him in this aspect.
When he’s guilty, he’ll act defensively, dodge the topic, throw a tantrum, or put the blame on you.
Finding out who your boyfriend is snapchatting – 4 ways to find the truth you’re looking for!
You can see what your boyfriend is doing on Snapchat. A quick warning though, some of the methods involve risky and bold ones!
If you’ve built your relationship upon healthy foundations, you’re likely to find out who he’s snap chatting with quite easily.
However, if the truths are hardly shared, this will be a hard journey.
Here are 3 ways to find out who your boyfriend is Snapchatting:
– Practice open communication: Ask him who he’s snapchatting.
One of the easiest ways to know if he’s talking to another girl on Snapchat—if your relationship is healthy—is to ask him directly.
If he has nothing going on with another woman on Snapchat he will be relaxed and will try to prove to you that there’s nothing going on of that nature.
He’ll reassure you and will give you the best he can to make sure you trust him.
However, if he’s guilty, he might confess or act very defensive to the point where you’re left feeling guilty for asking him.
Here are a few examples of how to ask him about this and have a healthy conversation about this:
- “I’ve been needing reassurance recently. I feel like you’re texting another woman on Snapchat. Is that true?”
- “I’ve been having doubts regarding your behavior on Snapchat recently. Normally, I trust you and never doubt your faithfulness, but I need you to reassure me on this one.”
– Go through his Snapchat, with permission if possible.
Another way of knowing exactly who he’s talking to on Snapchat is going through his phone.
Doing that without his permission would be a violation of his privacy. So, a healthy option would be asking him for permission to go through his Snapchat.
If you feel like that would be a no-no, then you can choose the unhealthy way and check his phone without his permission.
Here’s what you want to look for:
- The chats (if he doesn’t have auto-delete on);
- The saved pictures. You might find pictures of the woman or women he’s been contacting with if he saved those pictures;
- Take a look at his ‘friends’ list and the emoji on their names ( ❤️, 🧡, 🔥, these are the emojis that indicate two people are highly engaging with one another on Snapchat);
- Take a look at the search history on his Snapchat. If he has ‘hidden friends’ the only way to access them is by looking their usernames up on Snapchat’s search bar.
The names that pop up on his Snapchat search bar could be the names of the ‘hidden friends’ he has on Snapchat, and he probably doesn’t want you to find out about it.
– You can turn to spy apps.
This is yet another very unhealthy option to go around this issue. However, it can work.
While making a decision whether this is the right option for you to try, you have to keep in mind that this is a severe violation of his privacy!
If you feel like this is the only way to know the truth about who your boyfriend is snapchatting then there are some spying apps that could do the work.
Here are 3 spying apps, among many others, that could get the work done:
* Disclaimer: This section isn’t sponsored by any of the aforementioned websites or apps!
If you can have access to his phone when he’s not around, installing a tracking or spying app on his phone can give you access to his activity on his phone.
This way you see each and every single move on his phone, including the activity on his Snapchat.
– Avoid attempting to recover his Snapchat Data.
This is among the ‘advice’ given to solve this issue, however, it’s not worth it.
It is way too risky along with the spying apps.
It’s illegal, as it is a violation of privacy. Especially if you ask for the permission on his phone and he doesn’t give you permission to ‘trespass’ his boundaries of privacy.
Searching for his name and his social media activity can be acceptable and harmful.
All it takes is one search of his name or additional information about him on Socialcatfish (it can even show if he’s on dating apps or sites too!), and what’s public on search engines will appear:
Conclusion – Is it worth trying to find out who he’s snapchatting with?
If you find yourself going to extremes just to find out a truth he could easily tell you himself, then you might want to reconsider your relationship’s path.
A healthy relationship is built upon trust and understanding.
Going through each other’s phones, installing spying apps, or going to other extremes doesn’t resemble trust in any relationship.
If in doubt and need advice on your next step, talk to a relationship expert!
Take care of yourself, maintain and respect your boundaries, and never stop striving for a healthy relationship!