There’s nothing quite as exciting (and stressful) as not knowing whether your crush reciprocates your feelings!
Men are usually the ones who are encouraged to make the first move, but who says it has to remain that way?
If you have been talking to a guy for a while now and wondering where you two stand, I say “Go for it!”
And if you’re thinking of doing just that but don’t know where to start, I got you covered!
Non-awkward and subtle texts to send him to get him to admit that he likes you!
If you’re thinking of asking your guy how he feels about you or if he’s down to meet up again, you can send him a text message.
How the text message is crafted, on the other hand, is really important—we need to think long and hard before hitting “send”.
The text needs to perfectly capture your feelings and intentions all while not coming off as needy or desperate.
If you’re unsure about what to say, here are 63 cute examples to consider:
1. “I always enjoy spending time with you! I hope you feel the same way too.😄”
2. “Being in your presence feels different. You know what I mean?”
3. “I had so much fun hanging out with you the other day! I like it, we should do it more often.❤️”
4. “Hey, [his name]! Do you like me like me, or just enjoy passing time around with me?”
5. Whenever he flirts, you can say something playful like “Wow! If I didn’t know any better, I would think you’re into me!👀”
6. If he acts differently whenever you bring up another man, you can tease him and say something like: “Does me talking about other men bother you?” or “Why, are you jealous, or something?”
7. “Serious question: have you ever thought of me romantically?”
8. “Aren’t I just the best? I’m surprised not everyone I meet instantly falls for me. Or do they… Haha, jk.🤣”
9. “By the way, I’ve been meaning to ask you something but I’m a bit shy, haha! Do you like me more than a friend?”
10. “Is it just me or do we have, like, crazy good chemistry?😼”
11. “I’ve known you for a while now, and I like you. I think you’re a fun and good guy! I have a feeling you like me too, mister!”
12. “Is there anyone you’re interested in? Just curious!”
13. “Can I ask you something? How do you feel about me?”
14. “Is there anyone you like at the moment? Tell me all about it!😸”
15. “Is it me, or was last night just so fun? It’s been a while since I had that much fun! I’m glad we got to hang out.😊”
16. “Do you ever just stop and think about how much chemistry we have? I was thinking about that today!”
17. “Haha, you’re so fun! I was going to ask if you think I’m fun too, but I already know I am…🥳”
18. “So what’s new with you? Have any ladies caught your eye lately👀?
19. “I like spending time with you, and I’m usually really hard to please! I hope you feel the same way.”
20. “I’m surprised just how quickly time goes by when I’m with you. I guess time flies when you’re having fun, huh?”
21. “I love spending time with you! Would you be down to hang out again?”
22. “I hope you like spending time with me as much as I do with you.”
23. “I like being in your presence. We should do stuff together more often! What do you think? 🙈”
24. “Whenever we talk, my day instantly brightens up. Is it the same for you, or am I going crazy?🤪”
25. “I don’t know how else to put it, but I like being with you! And I hope you feel the same way.❤️”
26. “So, tell me more about you! How’s your love life looking like? Is there anyone you’ve been into lately?”
27. “I’ve been interested in someone lately, what do you think? Should I tell him, or?”
28. “Tell me something! What makes a woman instantly attractive to you?”
29. “I need to tell you something, [his name]. I like you and was wondering if you’d wanna grab a coffee.”
30. “I’m curious about your opinion of me. Tell me what’s on your mind! Don’t be shy!🙊”
31. “I feel something between us whenever we hang out. Do you feel it too?”
32. “I’m just dying to know what you think of me! Come on, no need to be shy! Because I think you’re really sweet.”
33. “I would love to hang out again! I think you’re a joy to be around.🥰”
34. “What’s one thing you like about me? I’m pretty curious about your feelings.”
35. “If you had the chance to be with anyone right now, who would you pick? Guess who I’d pick.😙”
36. “I’ve liked every single date we’ve gone to. You’re impressive, I got to say! I’m down to spend more time together with you.😋”
37. “I’m so down to meet up again! I like you.”
38. “Would it be weird if I told you that hanging out with you instantly makes me feel better? You’re great!🤩”
39. “Look at you, blushing and all! Looks like somebody has a little crush! 😚”
40. “I sometimes feel like you get a little nervous around me. I’m kind of glad I’m not the only one.”
41. “It’s kind of weird, but how do I put it… I like being with you! You’re a joy to be around and I hope I have the same effect.”
42. “Have you ever thought of kissing me?”
43. Whenever and if you two playfight, you can sneak in a cute, playful text like: “Oh, hush! You know you want to kiss me.🤥” or “Just admit it! You like me!🙄”
44. “Ugh, you’re so mean. Like a kid bullying his crush.😛”
45. “I’m free this weekend if you’re up for some fun! I had a lot of fun last time.”
46. “You’re genuine. I like that about you.”
47. “I don’t think I’ve ever had anything but fun and a good time hanging out with you. I like how interesting you are.”
48. “The last time we hung out made me realize how much I enjoy your presence.💕”
49. “You’re a fun and exciting person. I like your character. I’m rarely this impressed, good job.😼👏”
50. “Do you get shy whenever we’re together? I don’t know, but I feel like I’ve been sensing some shyness. Don’t get me wrong, though, it’s really sweet.”
51. “OMG! Yesterday was so much fun, haha! I like your vibe.”
52. “I like how there’s never a boring moment with you. And it’s funny to think about it because I’m always so hard to please.😆❤️”
53. “There’s something about you that makes me feel very safe. I can’t quite put my finger on it, but I like your vibes!”
54. “I’ve been thinking today, with the way we act and all. I think you like me!”
56. While being playful, you can sneakily say something cute like: “Do you have a crush on me or something?😋😼”
57. If you want to come off as more serious, you can say: “[his name], can I ask you something? Do you have feelings for me?”
58. “Is it just my imagination, or do we have a lot of fun together? I like that.”
59. “Is it just me or do you have a crush on me?! 👀”
60. “Oh, stop it! You know you have the most fun when you’re with me.🙄”
61. “I sometimes have this feeling that our connection is special. Not complaining, though.”
62. “Do you ever feel like you want to say something bad, but you can’t?”
63. “What goes through your head whenever we’re together?”
8 useful tips on asking a man if he likes you!
If you’re thinking of just going for it, first of all, that’s great!
There’s nothing wrong with making the first move—or simply trying to get a better understanding of where you two stand.
But when popping the question, there are a couple of things to keep in mind!
1. When asking him, be confident!
Confidence is key—always.
Men are attracted to confident women who are secure and know what they want.
When asking him whether he has feelings for you, do so with confidence and no hesitation.
- Avoid phrases like: “It’s okay if you don’t.” or “I know the answer is probably no, but…” or any other self-deprecating phrases.
Not only will that push him away, but it will also make us seem insecure and desperate.
- Know that you’re absolutely worth it in every aspect, and there’s no need to think otherwise.
When you think about it, which of these two people is most likely to sway you more?
Person A: “Hey, [your name], I wanted to ask you something silly, and the answer is probably going to be no because you’re just too good for me—but, do you, perhaps, have feelings for me? It’s okay if not!”
Person B: “Hey, [your name]! This might be out of the blue, but I enjoy being in your presence. I like you a lot and was hoping the feeling would be mutual.”
Person B, most likely.
Men unconsciously run away as soon as they sense they’re put on a pedestal; they like the chase.
So, radiate confidence (not arrogance) and show him that you’re not afraid to speak your mind.
2. You can subtly ask him—implying, of sorts.
Not everyone is okay with boldly asking: “Hey, do you have feelings for me?” and that’s fine.
You can go for a more subtle question while telling him what you truly want.
For example, you can say something like: “We have such great chemistry. I like your presence.”
You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to!
I know that topics having to do with romantic confessions are difficult to deal with and can feel embarrassing.
Especially if you’re talking about them in person.
You can choose a more subtle, low-key approach and I’m sure you’ll still get your point across.
Unless your guy is THAT clueless.
3. Have a bold and straightforward approach.
The opposite of what I was just talking about if being subtle isn’t your style, definitely go with a bolder approach!
Again, men love bold women who aren’t afraid to speak their minds; this gets them going.
If this is how you do stuff, then by all means!
Go ahead and straight-up ask him whether he likes you; give your thoughts and feelings about him as well—if any.
You don’t have to wait for him to make the first move!
You can ask something like: “Hey! Can I ask you something? Lately, it feels as if your feelings for me aren’t those of a friend. Have you developed feelings for me, or is it just my imagination?”
There’s nothing wrong with wanting to clear the air and making sure that both of you are on the same page.
4. You can choose a more playful approach!
Another trick for getting a guy to admit his feelings is being playful about it!
If you have the type of relationship in which the two of you can freely tease each other, then this might be the best way.
What we’re doing here is putting the topic of feelings on the table and hoping that the other person will just go for it.
Tease him, crack jokes, flirt with him, etc!
Examples I’ve provided above, like: “Oh, hush! I know you want to kiss me.🤥” and “Just admit it! You like me!🙄” are examples of how you can playfully get him to admit his feelings.
However, there has got to be a specific time you can use this method; you can only use it when you two are having your little banter.
Innocently sneak in something like that and see how he reacts!
Chances are he’ll see it as an opening to confess his feelings and think “Screw it! I’ll just go for it!”
5. Drop hints that you like him too.
If you’re thinking of asking your crush about his feelings towards you, drop some hints that give him the green light.
Make it known that you like him too, basically!
You see, a lot of people’s #1 reason that prevents them from confessing their feelings, is that they’re afraid the feelings aren’t mutual.
And if you want your guy to admit his feelings, it doesn’t hurt to sweeten the pot a little bit by making it obvious that you’re into him.
You can compliment him, flirt with him, or even drop hints that you like him; anything that makes him more comfortable and secure.
“You’re just so fun. I love being with you.” or even straight-up admitting that you like him.
Something like that should do the trick!
6. Learn more about his life—pick the right time.
I cannot stress this enough.
If you’re thinking of making any moves, I highly suggest learning more about your guy.
Is he in a place in his life right now that prevents him from getting romantically involved with someone?
Would getting confessed pose a big obstacle to him, or make him feel uncomfortable?
These are all things to consider (out of respect) before making a move.
Say, maybe he just got out of a relationship, or maybe he’s going through something that requires his full attention.
These are two examples of bad times that come to mind; if you know he’s unable to reciprocate at this time, maybe it’s best to wait.
If you just met him not too long ago too, it’s best to wait until a more solid foundation of your friendship is formed.
Give this a long thought and don’t make the mistake of rushing things!
7. Pick the right way to ask the question.
Based on his personality, there are a couple of ways you can ask him if he likes you.
You can do it by
- text;
- giving him a call;
- talking about it with him in person.
The safest bet would be confessing in person, if possible, but that doesn’t mean that every other way is off-limits.
It all depends on your guy’s personality.
For example, if he’s more on the shy side, I’m certain he wouldn’t mind a text message.
If he’s more upright and bold, I’m sure he’d appreciate a face-to-face conversation.
You can even pry this information out of him by asking some innocent questions like:
“What’s the lamest way someone has told you something important?”
Or:
“My friend texted me that they’re moving out. Don’t you hate it when people give you important news through text?”
8. Use context clues to see if he does, in fact, like you.
If you’re looking for a way to know if he likes you without actually having to ask him, pay close attention to his behavior.
When a person has feelings for you, they’ll act a certain way; they’ll want to have you all for themselves and get upset when feeling threatened.
- They get jealous when you bring up other people;
- They always text and/or call you;
- They express a desire to hang out together;
- They text you good morning and goodnight;
- They always help you out;
- They flirt, and more, which are all positive signs that a person does in fact like you more than a friend.
As we know, one of the reasons why people are reluctant to express their feelings is because they’re not sure the other person likes them back.
And, honestly, that’s just how we are; we don’t want to put ourselves in a potentially painful situation.
So, if you want to know whether they like you or not before you make a move, I don’t blame you.
Just keep an eye out for potential signs that help achieve your goal!
Remember: his answer is simply his opinion.
Now, when asking a question like this, you have to be prepared for all answers—including negative ones.
And in case the answer he gives you wasn’t the one you were hoping to get, remember that that’s just his opinion and not reality.
This is a part of life, and as we know, life has many doors waiting to be opened.
Never forget: other people’s opinions aren’t a reflection of your worth.
Sincerely,
Callisto.
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