Speculating that a guy likes you over text just because he gives you some special attention, isn’t the proper way to define his intentions.
But, if you keep an eye on his tone, style, and length of the text, you might get a few hints.
When a guy likes you, he texts you often to make you feel better about yourself, pays attention to things you say, and keeps the conversation enjoyable.
Without further ado, here are 10 subtle signs to define how a guy texts when he likes you:
1. He’ll let you know that he’s enthusiastic to talk to you
Every guy has his own way of expressing his feelings when it comes to love and affection.
It depends on how able he is to express these feelings and if he can put those into words.
For example, a shy guy might be enthusiastic to text you but doesn’t know which words to use. He might be afraid that he’s crossing your boundaries.
But when a guy isn’t shy to express that he likes you over text then he will use capital letters, a lot of emojis, and positive language.
“I am Looking Forward to listening to that song that you’re gonna send me.”
2. He pays attention to details in the conversation
Even if you’re that type of woman who doesn’t like to reveal too much about herself, he’ll text to get to know you better.
So, one of the ways that a guy hints that he likes you through text is when he takes a detail from your conversation to keep things moving.
Also, he doesn’t want to scare you with too many personal questions.
If you casually told him that you were listening to Eminem, now he’ll make you a Spotify playlist and send it to you.
3. He makes an effort to keep the conversation going
A guy who likes you will try to keep the ball rolling.
He might not text you always first but when you text, he’ll immediately change the topic when the conversation becomes dry.
Shortly, he won’t let the conversation die.
If you’re talking about each other’s interests but there’s nothing more to say, he might continue to say something like:
“That’s amazing but have you ever wanted to try an extreme sport?”
4. He gives you a glimpse of him and who he is
When a guy you just met texts you with details that’s a hint to say that he likes to talk to you.
He talks about himself but not in a selfish way. He responds to your questions with details even when you don’t require them.
He does this because he wants to make you feel comfortable and mirror his texting style.
This depends on how comfortable he’s with texting because not all guys can text the same way they feel in person.
Also, be careful, because oversharing might be a sign of trauma too.
To make sure how he feels, you might collaborate with a relationship coach to pin it down.
5. He sends you a lot of recommendations to make you feel better
When a guy likes you, he cares about your feelings.
I have been texting a guy before getting married and he was the first guy that I’ve dated that was emotionally mature.
When he noticed that my replies got shorter or that I just didn’t feel like texting, he would not go crazy and would try to have a conversation.
Then it was easier for me to open up to him and I never felt judged by him.
If I was dealing with work anxiety, he would text me passages from books to try and calm me.
And that’s how I knew that this was his way of telling me that he likes me.
6. He gives you hints that he wants to meet you in person
If you’re still wondering how a guy texts when he likes you then check if he gives you hints about plans.
If he jokingly asks you if a getaway trip to Thailand would make you feel better right now.
He’s trying to get to know your interests and hints that he would do that with you.
He is interested in your life and learning about your schedule and might say something like:
“Well, Sunday would be a perfect day for you and me to spend at Central Park.”
7. He uses playful and suggestive language
A guy texts flirty and complimentary things when he likes you.
Yet, how your guy texts you depends on his personality and how much space you gave him to connect with you.
If he is shy or doesn’t know how to text then he might use slight compliments to flirt with you.
On the other hand, if his love language is using sarcasm, he’ll use it to “compliment” and connect with you.
Or, he might use suggestive language such as: “I’m watching The Notebook right now. I know, not typical for a guy. But this couple is fire.”
8. He encourages and supports you over text
When a guy likes you, he will make sure to create a positive aura with his texts.
You’ll find him giving you words of encouragement when life gets tough and trying to give you courage.
Also, he doesn’t hesitate to give you advice when needed.
Nevertheless, if he doesn’t act like this doesn’t mean that he doesn’t like you.
But, if he is an empath then he might express more his positive and uplifting attitude.
9. He tries to have deep conversations with you
When a guy really likes you, he will use texting to create with you emotional attraction.
You’ll find yourself discussing with him meaningful topics such as life, your aspirations, and your future.
He wants to give a hint that he likes you and is very interested in you.
He’ll ask deep questions about your life without crossing any boundaries and will try to be vulnerable with you.
“I noticed that you might have a hard day. Me too. Wanna have a talk?”
10. He makes sure to always show his intent
This is one of the most brutally honest signs that a guy who likes you is trying to show it over text.
A guy that likes you will tell you that he is trying to get to know you and that you’re his priority.
If he doesn’t tell you this straightforwardly, he will make sure to get to know you, might give you compliments, and be flirty.
Also, dating coach Mathew Hussey claims that a guy who is always trying to impress you might try to get you under his control.
Otherwise, if he really likes you, he will give you space so he can be impressed by you.
Will a guy always text first if he likes you?
If a guy always texts you first it might mean that he is interested in you and likes you.
But, if he doesn’t text you first that doesn’t always mean that he doesn’t like you.
Because if he is going through some tough time or is busy, he might
He might not always text first because he doesn’t want to come as too strong or desperate.
A guy might always text you first because he likes the thrill of chasing and that doesn’t mean that he likes you.
If he doesn’t give any effort to get to know you and has deep conversations then it doesn’t mean that he likes you just because he texts you first.
How do guys text you when they don’t like you?
When a guy doesn’t like you, he will give you short and dull responses.
With a few words, he tries to stay neutral and indifferent.
You can sense that something is off when you’re the only one initiating the conversation and keeping it going.
1. He isn’t engaged in the conversation.
When he doesn’t like you, he won’t be interested to get to know you.
You’ll notice that within these texts you’re sharing more and he is never sharing or giving dull replies.
This doesn’t mean that he’s a bad texter.
Because a bad texter who likes you will search for other ways to connect with you such as phone calls or meeting you in person.
2. He’ll always claim that he is busy and will give you mixed signals.
Everyone is busy or has a hard time and can’t text constantly.
But if he’s always busy and you’re the one that always initiates conversations that he isn’t interested in you.
He’ll keep you stringing along for a short time and then he’ll either ghost you or leave you one read.
3. He won’t try at all to keep the conversation going or be playful.
He might keep responding to your texts with generic answers but will never try to ask you questions or talk about another topic.
Even if you try to be funny or flirty, he’ll answer with short and neutral answers “Ha, ha nice.”
‘I am good. Thanks.” He refuses to talk about his day or ask you about yours.
What should I do if a guy texts me because he likes me?
If you like the guy that is texting you and he likes you back, the first thing that you should do is take it slowly.
Do not jump to any conclusion and do not share a lot of personal information if you don’t feel like it.
~Try to get to know him before you let him know everything about you over text.
~ Be yourself. Don’t try to create your alter ego or a person that you might think he might like her.
Because communicating over text is easier to become someone you’re not, especially if you don’t know this guy.
~ Try to be enthusiastic to a certain degree to let him know that you like him too.
But, try to avoid double-texting or making him your priority at the beginning.
Try to keep communicating with him and continue with your life too.
Wrapping it up: When a guy likes you over text….
A guy who likes you is consistent with his texts and he’s very spontaneous with them.
He might not have a certain plan or might not have the same text habits as you
He might not be a good texter. But, when he isn’t a good texter what matters is if he is self-aware and if he states it.
If you like him back then you can respond positively and make him feel welcome to continue and express his feelings.