When a guy is trying to make you jealous, most of the time that comes as a result of his insecurity and lack of confidence.
The signs are closely linked with the reasons he’s trying to make you jealous.
If he’s trying to make you jealous then he will get out of his way to get your attention.
He will do things that are mostly the opposite of his personality.
Key points of this article:
- Signs he is trying to make you jealous;
- Reasons he is trying to make you jealous;
- What to do if he is trying to make me jealous?
Without wasting any time, here are 9 signs that he’s trying to make you jealous:
1. He tries not to show much interest in you.
When you come across this sign, you might immediately think that well maybe he’s just shy and that’s why he isn’t eager to ask questions or show interest.
Well, even the guy who is shy will try to be distant so he can let you make the first move.
Despite this, you will notice other signs that he likes you but he cannot make the first move.
He tries to be cold only with you to trigger you and direct your attention to him.
2. He talks about other women romantically.
A month ago I got an email asking for advice and the second sentence that I read was:
“Is he trying to make me jealous by talking about another girl? Oh, and they were high school lovers before meeting me.”
At first, I thought, yes he is trying to make you jealous by talking about another girl constantly and whenever you hang out with guys.
Then I dug deeper and tried to find a proper book from my psychological pile to find the proper answer.
I knew that something was fishy but sometimes senses don’t make sense. I needed to be sure of what I was thinking.
- I advised her to stay calm until I communicated her next step.
- I came across a book called “Overcoming Jealousy and Possessiveness” by Paul A. Hauck.
- In the end, after skimming and scamming, I noticed that she needed to reflect on what was making him feel jealous and caused jealousy.
- He might not have feelings for her but it’s using her as a pretext to just test you and even get you hooked.
3. He tries to be unattentive.
I understand that if he’s trying to make you jealous while being unattentive will make you think that he’s uninterested.
Yet, sometimes a man tries to play this game and make you think that everything else is getting your attention but you.
- He might try to look at his phone constantly and smile.
- He might even ask a friend to call and then he calls them by the name of a woman just to make you jealous.
Hence, be careful because if he shows signs that he doesn’t like you and is constantly on the phone and doesn’t listen to you, he might be talking to someone else.
4. He constantly craves other women’s attention.
He constantly flirts with other girls just to be in the spotlight and give you the message that other women can chase him too.
I’m not talking here about men who have flirting as a part of their personality.
I am talking about a man who never flirted with others before especially infront of you but now he’s doing it.
- You will notice that he’s complimenting them a lot;
- He will be all playful and even get close to them;
- He will try this method even with women he knows for a couple of minutes.
5. He starts to “casually” mention his exes from the past.
One of the signs that he’s trying to make you jealous mentioning his exes casually and “unintentionally”.
Depending on his personality and on this aim, he will mention different parts or things regarding his exes.
- He might mention how much he liked eating at a particular restaurant with his ex and how fun it was.
- He might mention how his ex used to dye her hair red and how hot she looked.
If he never did this and never mentioned them or you never had a conversation about your exes, he might do it just to make you jealous.
6. He compliments other women more than you.
Sometimes when a guy thinks that he’s losing your interest or that he doesn’t have your full attention, he will do this.
Usually, a man who has problems with explaining himself and getting in touch with his feelings will find the easiest way to communicate his needs.
He will compliment other women and will even compare you to them.
To go through this situation is very painful and not fair. That’s why I recommend you to be understanding but set your boundaries too.
You don’t need to stay in a relationship where it becomes toxic.
7. He constantly posts hot pictures of himself.
If he constantly posts hot pictures of himself, he might do this to get your attention.
Yet, be careful because if you’re not dating exclusively then he might do it to get the attention of other women too.
When he posts these pictures, he makes sure you see it and maybe he will mention that to you.
He might even discuss how many women liked his post or how many of them commented on it.
8. He ignores your calls or texts.
If you’re just started dating and he ignores your text messages or calls to some extent, he might be trying to make you jealous.
In this case, he might be trying to make you jealous to test you and check how interested you are in him.
At some point, he might play hard to get.
This game is completely exhausting and might even give you mixed signals.
I recommend you talk to him and his aim if this constantly happens to you.
9. He acts way too mysterious.
One of the signs that he’s trying to make you jealous is when he acts way too mysterious and doesn’t inform you about anything.
If he’s out with his friends or with anyone, he will make sure to give you fewer details.
He might not tell you where he is or who he is.
Yet, I will also ask you to be careful in this case because he might not do it to make you just jealous, he might also be cheating.
If he’s cheating then he will also be distant with you to some extent and will be protective of his phone.
Do guys try to make you jealous if they like you? 3 main reasons why he is trying to make you jealous
Yes, even if guys like you they try to make you jealous.
He might do this because he doesn’t feel good about himself and thinks that you might not know his value and maybe you will eventually dump him.
1. If he doesn’t like you then he might be trying to devaluate you by trying to make you jealous.
A guy will try to make you jealous even if he doesn’t like you because he wants to make you miserable and show how powerful he is.
A man who has low self-confidence and is a womanizer will try to make you jealous without having true feelings because he wants to have you under his control.
If he doesn’t want you, he is trying to make you jealous because he is a guy who has low self-esteem and to fulfill himself, he tries emotional abuse.
Only by doing it, he will feel fulfilled. Having your attention, he will feel more confident and that he has some type of power.
He will keep you around until he finds his next “victim”. Unless, he works on himself and on his ego and confidence, he will continue to do so.
3. He wants to be in the spotlight.
An immature man might want to be in the spotlight just because causing a scene looks fun to him.
He won’t do it to hurt you or do anything wrong. He does it because of his adrenaline to try something fun in the relationship and keep things exciting.
I’m not implying that this is the proper way to make the relationship exciting and fun but an immature guy would choose the easiest way for him.
I think he’s trying to make me jealous. How do I handle it?
If he’s trying to make you jealous, you need to stay calm and not mirror his behavior or overreact.
I understand that it might feel hard to do it because it might drive you crazy but until you make sure of the signs, it’s better to take it step by step.
~ Try to understand why he’s trying to make you jealous.
You need to check if there’s any type of miscommunication and maybe you’re misunderstanding him.
~Don’t try to accuse him immediately and try to help him understand the root of this issue.
Especially, if you’re in a committed relationship. You should help him work on his past trauma that induced this type of behavior.
~In the meantime, set your boundaries and tell him how his actions are impacting you.
Try to gather evidence first and then find a proper moment to have a conversation with them.
Staying in a relationship or dating a person that’s constantly trying to make you jealous might be exhausting and very stressful.
~Avoid making him jealous too.
This is something wrong to do even though you might get the urge to do it so you can pay it back.
If you do it, you might make the situation worse because you are triggering his trauma and he might end up hurting you even more.
One last thought!
When he’s trying to make you jealous, he will do everything odd or out of his way to get your attention.
Many signs might coincide with signs of him losing interest yet what differs them is that when he starts to lose interest he doesn’t make any type of effort.
He will ignore you and even unfollow you or block your number.
On the other hand, when he tries to make you jealous, he will make sure to be up on your face but indirectly.
Yet, try to analyze your situation and communicate the topic of jealousy and communication with him.
You got this.