Getting the guy to like you back is difficult. It isn’t impossible but also you shouldn’t pressure him into liking you
You are already an amazing and strong woman. So the only thing you can do is show him who you truly really are.
But keep in mind that every relationship is different and people are different as well. What might apply to you might not apply to others.
So you can get a guy to like you by staying true to yourself. In addition to being confident, supporting, and making him feel safe.
So dear reader, to get a guy to like you isn’t about manipulating him, but displaying your qualities
So here are 15 things you can do to get a guy to like you:
1. Be confident
Confidence is one of the main charms that attract a guy’s attention. It gives him the impression that you are comfortable with yourself.
Truthfulness is difficult to fake. So stay true to yourself as that will be a step closer to getting him to like you.
Rather, to get a guy to like you, you should be confident in yourself, although your views might differ.
Therefore, to increase your level of confidence you should walk straight, acknowledge your differences and reason yours.
Keep in mind that you shouldn’t change yourself to fit his preferences. You should avoid letting his preferences affect your well-being and self-esteem.
However, be careful to create a balance between confidence and humility. Being modest about yourself plays a big role in getting him to like you too.
2. Maintain your independence
Keep in mind that just because you want to get him to like you, it doesn’t mean that you should put your life aside.
On the contrary, to get a guy to like you, show him that you have a life and separate goals in mind that don’t revolve around him.
Avoid being clingy or too available for him as each let him know that you are reliant on him and aren’t respecting his boundaries.
You can maintain your independence by
- Prioritizing self-love and care
- Hanging out with friends
- Setting boundaries
- Trying new things on your own.
However, be careful not to let your independence be misunderstood as disinterest in him. Let him know you like him but also show him that you are your person.
Additionally, by maintaining your independence, you’re also preventing the possibility of having a codependent relationship.
3. Get a guy to like you by respecting his boundaries
Boundaries and personal space are important to keeping a healthy relationship and creating trust. And not violating his masculinity.
Also, it shows that you value him and respect him as an individual and then as a partner. Thus, you shouldn’t invade his personal space without permission.
Furthermore, respecting his boundaries also include
- Not being clingy and controlling
- Avoid being pushy and demanding
- Practicing your listening skills
- Continually pressuring him into a commitment
- Being overbearing and intrusive.
Warning: Respect his boundaries and ask for consent before proceeding to take any action that involves him. Be sure your actions are respectful and not harmful.
4. Communication is essential to getting him to like you
Communication plays a big role in the quality and longevity of your relationship. It helps to properly address conflicts and feelings.
In instances when you feel insecure by his actions, be clear, honest,t and open about it with him. So that you can address the problem together.
By communicating your feelings and thoughts, you’re creating a stronger and healthier bond between the two of you.
Keep in mind that communication means sharing your feelings and thoughts and seeking support and advice from him too. Not being overly critical.
To communicate effectively you should
- Set some time aside to talk
- Listen and be attentive
- Tell him what you need
- Start with ‘I’ statements
- Be clear about what you want to say
5. Show some interest in him
To show him that you’re interested in him you can ask questions about his life, interests, and goals.
Furthermore, the genuine and sincere interest you show in him will get him to like you even more. That’s why it is important to listen to what he’s saying.
However, refrain from asking too many personal questions or numerous questions at once.
This might make him suspicious of your actions, and turn you into the pursuer.
6. Support him through his journey
To get a guy to like you, showing support for his dreams and ambitions will show how committed and invested you are in him.
Thus, expressing interest in his life and goals. Genuinely encouraging him to achieve his dreams will help you get him to like you.
Nevertheless, those feelings need to be genuine and show readiness when he asks or you notice he needs it.
According to Kirtly Parker Jones, supportive, loving, and healthy relationships not only enjoy better health. But also experience more positive emotions.
However, be careful not to be too involved in his life as that might seem like you are meddling in his life.
You should offer him help, support, and understanding, but never tell him what to do or try to make him do it your way.
7. Pay attention to your body language
Body language leaves nonverbal clues to him about your feelings and they are the quickest to catch on.
It creates a fun, welcoming, and positive atmosphere between the two of you. Including teasing, physical touch, and flirting.
Nonetheless, it isn’t as much about looking good for him as it’s about you being confident in your skin.
When you look good, you feel good. Thus, you should have good hygiene, dress up, smell good, be well groomed, and such.
Also, to get a guy to like you by using body language means
- Maintaining eye contact
- Genuinely smiling
- Using facial expressions to show your feelings
- Controlling the tone of your voice
- Flirting and teasing him.
Physical appearance, Dr. Suzzane Degges- White, Ph.D. says is one of the earliest capabilities a man or woman looks for in a partner.
However, the usage of body language can be misinterpreted in undesirable ways. Thus, be careful with your body expressions.
8. Make him feel safe
Showing a guy that you genuinely care and are concerned about him, will make you feel valued and appreciated.
In turn, he might even start to like you. However, you shouldn’t use it as a strategy as it will make the relationship toxic.
To make him feel safe, be vulnerable and honest about your feelings. Compliment him on his looks and achievements, and make him feel needed.
Also, to show him that you care, try to be understanding and try to calm him down when he’s stressed, and don’t judge him.
What you can do to show him that you genuinely care is
- Cook for him
- Send him sweet and thoughtful texts
- Send him a letter
- Tell him how much you appreciate him
- Give him warm hugs
Nonetheless, if he is an introvert he might find it more difficult to create a connection with you, thus, give him time.
9. Don’t play too hard to get
You know, if you get too hard to get, he might just give up pursuing you. Therefore, you need to know the limits.
You don’t have to be always available and accommodate his needs, you shouldn’t go out of your way to keep him in your life.
However, you can’t always reject proposals to hang out or to try new activities. You need to learn to compromise and communicate.
Also, by playing hard to get he might lose interest in you and feel disrespected by your behavior. Thus, keep in mind the character of your love interest as well.
10. Show him that you are willing to forgive
Taking responsibility and turning it into a lesson will show him that you also take care of yourself and don’t let guilt consume you.
Nevertheless, practicing self-forgiveness and forgiving others is an envious trait. Being rational about others and your mistakes displays great self-control.
Thus, when you’d rather sit down and have a rational conversation about your mistakes will get him to like you.
But keep in mind that also being too empathetic and forgiving might negatively impact your relationship. As he will think that despite his actions you’ll still forgive him.
11. Stay positive and visualize success
Thinking positively about your relationships and manifesting success will help keep your mood and motivation up.
Furthermore, such a positive mindset will help you deal better with disappointment and keep you moving forward.
But you shouldn’t let yourself get delusional. You shouldn’t expect something that is out of the realm of the realistic outcome.
Thus, your results should be achievable and possible to be fulfilled. Avoid having unrealistic expectations from the relationship.
12. Put your trust in him and be patient
Trust is one of the key components of a relationship. Thus, avoiding being controlling and pushy will make him like you.
According to Theresa Harring, trust is the glue that keeps together the whole relationship- emotional intimacy and connection won’t work.
Trust and trustworthiness are one of the main traits one looks for in a partner. Therefore, displaying your trust in him and proving to be trustworthy will make him like you too.
Nonetheless, you should be patient and let your relationship progress naturally. People have different experiences with their past relationships.
Some find it harder to trust others when they have been lied to, cheated on, or manipulated in their prior relationships. Thus, you shouldn’t pressure him to trust you.
Nevertheless, what you can do to build trust in your relationship is:
- Give him personal space
- Listen to what he is saying
- Be responsive and consistent
- Set boundaries
- Show generosity
- Avoid being jealous
13. Show him that you can hold a conversation
Personality plays a big role in attracting and making a guy like you too. Having meaningful conversations will help build a stronger connection with him.
However, you shouldn’t flood him with text as that will be quite a turn-off and portray you as needy and clingy.
Rather, keep your conversations brief and show your intelligence. Participate and end it on a high note.
But be careful as playing the devil’s advocate a little too much will make him feel annoyed and push him away.
14. Increase quality time together
To make him like you, you should also spend some quality time together by doing activities that both of you enjoy.
Finding common interests will help you build a stronger connection and get to know each other better.
Some activities to do together are:
- Going to museum
- Having a cultural exchanging
- Sharing hobbies and passions
- Do some sports
Also, when you spend time together, incorporate some flirting and teasing as well as joking and making him laugh.
Some ways to incorporate fun in your time together are by sharing memes, sharing funny stories, cracking jokes, and just being childish.
However, keep in mind that you should consider his personality. If he is an introvert, stay away from activities that might make him uncomfortable.
15. Get to know his friends and family
Leaving a good first impression will help you with establishing a good relationship. Nonetheless, it doesn’t mean that you can’t be yourself.
It’s just that first impressions last and also define what he thinks of you until he gets to know you better.
However, don’t forget that leaving a good impression on his friends/family is vital too since they also care about him too.
Thus, to get a guy to like you, be the respectful and genuine woman you are to everyone, including his friends and family.
RED FLAGS! Is he really worth pursuing?
When we start liking a guy we tend to be swamped by infatuation and expecting a love story.
Moreover, such feelings might make us blind to the red flags he might be displaying. So keep an eye out if he’s worth pursuing.
- Unwillingness to compromise on your differences
- Not putting in the effort in the relationship
- Never texting first
- He takes but never gives anything
- Crossing your boundaries countless times
- He tries to control your movements
- Talking over you
- He is emotionally unavailable
- Ghosting and taking a lot of time to text you back
- Always being late on your dates
So it’s important to not only focus on getting him to like you but also see if he’s the right person for you or not.
First things first, focus on yourself
Before considering pursuing him, you should step forward and start taking care of yourself.
If you want to make a guy like you, you have to love and care for yourself first. You’re well-being and mental health matter too.
– Prioritize your needs and well-being, as to have a healthy relationship, you should have a healthy mindset.
– Work out, go to the gym or for runs, anything to keep your body active. As you’ve heard “Healthy body, healthy mind.”
– Express self-gratitude and don’t forget to be a bit lenient on yourself. Count your blessings and be thankful for what you have.
– Eat nourishing food that helps you feel energized and make you feel happy. When you feel confident in yourself, you’re unstoppable.
– Stop comparing yourself with others and practice self-acceptance. Every day write about things you love about yourself to remind you of your awesomeness.
– Set boundaries that will guide you to become who you want to be and protect you from undesired outcomes.
Look into yourself and find this attractive and amazing woman that he is attracted to. Don’t be scared to set yourself free.
These tips such as being confident, spending time with him, joking, and laughing will help you get him to like you.
But never forget, that it is the genuineness, truthfulness, and authenticity that make a guy like you, nothing else.