Dating sites are used worldwide. Finding someone on dating sites is the new norm nowadays.
However, another very unpleasant norm is on the rise, married people using dating sites behind their partner’s backs.
This can make room for concern, especially if your partner displays suspicious behavior.
Is there a way to find out if your spouse is using dating sites?
Yes, in fact, there are 10 effective and easy ways to find out if your spouse is on dating sites!
1. Take a look at the notifications on their phone.
You can find out if your spouse is on dating sites for free by taking a look at the notifications on their phone.
Let’s say your spouse has their phone around you or uses their phone around you, take a look at the notifications they’re getting.
If there are dating app icons on the notification bars, then they’re using dating sites.
Be cautious, as this could be a very simple and very effective way of helping you find out if your spouse is on dating apps.
| Pros | Cons |
|---|---|
| You could easily find out if your spouse is on dating sites without trying too much. | Your spouse can turn off their notifications, and despite using them, they could go unnoticed if you only stick to this method. |
2. Ask your spouse to go through their phone together.
Another way to see if your partner is on a dating site is by going through their phone together.
All it takes is a polite and calm request to go through your spouse’s phone and letting them know this would be tremendously helpful in reassuring you.
If they hesitate to give their phone to you right away, they might be hiding something from you.
| Pros | Cons |
|---|---|
| This can lead to a bonding experience where you both share your concerns, and doubts and reconcile or reassure one another. | Your spouse may not agree (which can signal that they’re using dating sites) to go through their phone, which can be potential for a fight. |
3. Use the Dating Profile Finder to find your spouse on dating sites.
The Dating Profile Finder is an app specifically designed to find people on dating sites. This is one of the highly effective ways to find your spouse on a dating site
If you’ve got doubts about your spouse’s behavior and online activity, then you can use this online tool to find out the truth.
It’s fast, it’s accurate, and you don’t risk using sneaky methods to find the truth.
| Pros | Cons |
|---|---|
| The app is designed for this very purpose, hence the chances of finding them on dating are higher! | Your spouse may not be using their personal information, hence the results could be accurate but not show the truth. |
4. Talk and ask them if they’re using dating sites.
If you’re wondering whether your spouse is on a dating site, then you have to talk to them.
At the end of the day, this is your spouse, your partner. Open communication in a marriage is crucial.
All it takes is a simple line similar to
- “I need you to reassure me on something because I’m finding myself having doubts about your fidelity. Would you mind if we talk about this?”
This conversation can remove your doubts, and it can clear up a lot of things in your marriage. All it takes is a calm approach and a willingness to listen.
| Pros | Cons |
|---|---|
| If your spouse is using dating sites and they’re sincere with you, this is the easiest way to find the truth. | Your spouse might deceive you. |
5. Use Google to search your spouse’s name and username on dating sites.
Get your phone or your computer, open your browser, and start searching!
Find out if your spouse is on dating sites by cleverly using Google. Here’s how you do it:
- Search site:tinder.com name on Google. For example, site:tinder.com tim
Just add your spouse’s name next to site:tinder.com, and if they’re using Tinder, the results are very likely to show it.
Once you get the results, you can scroll down and click the links to check each profile. You can also check the Google Images results.
- Write tinder.com/@username on the URL search bar. For example, tinder.com/@tim
Give your best guess at what their username could be.
This is a username search, so after searching their name only, you want to give your best guess at what username they could be using.
| Pros | Cons |
|---|---|
| Despite it being Google and underrated, this can be very very accurate. And, most importantly, it’s free and easy to do! | You can’t search all dating sites. So far it’s known to only work for Tinder. |
6. Check the sites that have been visited with your WiFi.
You can find out your spouse (husband or wife) is online dating by checking out the sites and apps that have been visited with your WiFi.
If you’ve got the technical skills this can be a lot easier to do. However, if you haven’t that’s also okay.
You can ask for help from a person who’s got skills in the IT area, or you can contact your WiFi provider and ask them to help you with this.
| Pros | Cons |
|---|---|
| It can be very easy to find out the truth. | If other people use your WiFi connection then it can be more difficult to discern whether it was your spouse using the dating apps or the other people. |
7. Search your spouse’s email on search sites.
You can find someone on dating sites by email for free by using the tools you have online that provide such services.
It’s very difficult to find a decent site that provides what it claims to provide, I’ve got two of the best options for you!
- Epieos. It’s free, and all you have to do is search your spouse’s email on the search bar and you’ll get results from the sites they’re registered on.
You can even see their location, Google account, etc. If you want to have full access, however, you might have to pay for the extra services. - Socialcatfish. This one isn’t free, however, it’s known to be very accurate, fast, and to have a variety of searching methods.
You can search by email, phone number, or simply name and age. The good news? It searches all dating sites!
| Pros | Cons |
|---|---|
| You can get accurate results without making a big deal out of it. | Your spouse could be using false information to have access to dating sites, making it difficult for you to find them through his original information. |
8. Create a fake dating profile and swipe to find your spouse’s dating profile.
This one isn’t recommended as the best choice, however, if you’re feeling hopeless, and you gave a shot to every other option, then you might as well try this one.
Create a false dating profile on the dating site(s) you suspect your spouse is, and adjust your ‘partner preferences’ that match your partner.
Once you do that, start swiping carefully while taking a close look at the profiles in front of you.
| Pros | Cons |
|---|---|
| It’s free, and it has worked for a lot of people. | It can take too much of your time, especially if you live in a crowded area. If your spouse has a false dating profile then it can be extremely difficult to find them. |
9. Search your spouse’s image on Google.
It’s worth trying because it’s free, and you might just get results!
Find a picture of your spouse you think they’d use on dating sites then drag and drop that image into the Google Images search bar.
See the results that Google shows you, then if something pops up
- Right-click the image and select ‘Search image with Google’;
- Then on the top right corner click ‘find image source’;
That will redirect you to the link of the site your spouse’s image is on.
| Pros | Cons |
|---|---|
| It’s free and very easy to do, especially on a computer. | It’s not known to be a very effective method. |
10. Try signing up on dating sites with their information.
A lot of dating sites will notify you if a number or email is already used when you try to sign up with a used email or phone number.
Visit a bunch of dating sites or apps and try joining in with your spouse’s information.
If the information is already used—which signals your spouse is on dating sites—then you will be notified right there and then.
| Pros | Cons |
|---|---|
| It can be very effective and it’s free. If your spouse is open to you, they’ll let you know once they get a notification from the dating site. | It’s a bit problematic and complicated. It may also cause troubles within your relationship if your spouse finds out what you’ve been up to. |
Their behavior can also give you cues on whether they’re using dating sites or engaging in infidelity!
If you’re suspecting your spouse is using dating sites, yet, you don’t feel like undergoing extreme measures to find out the truth, you’ve got alternatives!
Take a look at their behavior, and if it resonates with this description, then they might be trying to hide something from you!
- They used to leave their phone around you, but now they seem dreadful to even just the idea of doing so;
- Your spouse carries their phone everywhere they go;
- You can sense anxiety, nervousness, and fear whenever you have their phone in your hands;
- They’ve gone through major changes recently;
- Their phone was never on silent mode, now all of a sudden it is;
- You’re sensing they’re hiding something.
If you no longer feel close to your spouse like you used to, talk to them. They’re your partner, and they are so for a reason.
On the other hand, if you have difficulties opening up to them, then talk to an expert and see what you can do about your marriage.
One last note!
Avoid violating your spouse’s privacy by installing tracking apps on their phone.
If you’ve got to take that extreme measures to find out the truth, then you must reconsider your marriage.
You chose one another for life, and you did so for a reason. Be each other’s someone to rely on. Start rebuilding trust, and talk to one another.
Love,
Callisto
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