Modernity has helped us shape the forms of communication. Now, everything is about texting, you talk for hours with someone, and the next thing you aren’t anymore. 

But do guys notice when you go “CASPER” on them, or are just as oblivious as ever? 

Do they think why this girl has suddenly perished from the earth? Do they care that you are not texting them? 

 This is yet to be found out and you can only do that by scrolling down these pages! 

1. Low Engagement Detected 

Working with guys who come to me for bits of advice on why the woman he has been texting stopped being so engaging, often involves helping them understand that communication dynamics can change for various reasons, especially if feelings have started to stir up. 

They leave my office with the feeling that texting women is like the pull and push detector; Is green when it’s high and red when it’s low.  

They know when women show low engagement interest when they: 

• Give Short Answers: They notice when you answer in a “boring/uninterested” way like; OK, YES, EHEM, NO, YEAH, LOL 
• Carrier Pigeons Style: You take forever to reply, almost like a pigeon. Leaving big time intervals between replies is a sure thing he will notice how uninterested you are. 
• Lack of Zeal: Not having the enthusiasm to talk, that fire energy as you used to, they will notice. A man will think; She isn’t as excited to talk to me as before, and I gotta do something about it! 

2. He Might Start Asking You Questions

From Hey,  are you sad about something? To Why are you not replying to my messages? To transition from that to this takes a certain level of milestone.

In the beginning, he might ask you vicariously hinting at any mood changes you might have, to the most direct question implying the most obvious question ever. 

You have the right to either answer him with something like: “NO I’m fine, it’s just I have been so busy and tired these couple of weeks” or you might be honest with him and text him: “I think this is not going anywhere, I appreciate the time and effort but I think it’s better we call it off” 

According to the relationship coach Sabrina Romanoff, it’s always better to be honest from the beginning. When you are not manipulative with your words but instead you are genuine, it helps the relationship to define most healthily.

3. I Guess I’m on The “SEEN ZONE” Now 

Ladies when you leave them on seen is obvious to them. They will see this as a downgrade. You either don’t have the energy to reply or you are doing it on purpose.

 Whatever may be the case, sure thing they notice and will be forever confused you left them on read. That “seen zone” is a hard-to-swallow pill for everyone not only for men.  

Sometimes this may not be the case, you might have some anxiety revolving around texting because you don’t know what to say to him thus, leaving him on read is just the easy way. 

But if you don’t want to lose your FELLA, communicate this to him! 

4. Taste Your Own Medicine

One day, while talking with a friend about her situationship, she mentioned how her dating mate started ignoring her after she didn’t text him much. She was expecting him to continue pursuing her, but instead, he just vanished.

I told her that what was happening might be him trying to make her “taste her own medicine.” She wondered why he wasn’t still interested in pursuing her. I explained that some men interpret things differently. They might think:

• “She’s not interested, so now I feel offended.”
• “If she’s ghosting me, I’ll do the same.”
• “My ego and pride are at stake; I won’t let her play me like that.”

No matter how much of a hunter they may be, men can pull back for different reasons, one of which is interpreting hints of you ghosting them.

5. Ice Cold: Dating in the Frozen Frontier

Women are ice cold when they stop texting us, men would say. They act very coldly like dating in a frozen frontier in the Narnia world. Winning the “White Witch’s” cold heart is a tough task to do, especially if he likes you so much. 

Women often use this tactic to see if men will notice their behavior. In these cases, women typically avoid deeper conversations and look for ways out. They might say,- “I have to go, talk to you soon.” But they’ll remain online for the next few hours.

This will make men suspicious of where this relationship is leading to! 

6. Asking Friends About You 

When you stop talking to him, he might start asking your mutual friends (if you have any) if they’ve seen you or know what you’ve been up to. This is his way of coping with your absence because, most likely, you’ve been on his mind.

Additionally, he knows that those friends will relay the message to you, showing that he’s still interested in hopes that you’ll make the move again! 

7. The “I’m Leaving, Bye” After an Argument 

Not texting them as a result of a heated argument is the first thing that comes to mind to do. This leaves so much gap between the two of you, burned with deep feelings and resentments. 

In this case, shutting down seems like the best way possible because it reminds you of toxic emotional patterns says relationship psychologist Maria Reynolds. 

Thus, you better leave than confront them with solutions.

 Men in the first stages of relationships are oblivious to underneath issues and read this as avoiding them over text. Ending with both of you feeling dry and heartbroken!

8. He Thinks You Are Just “PLAYING” 

If they think you’ve stopped texting to play games, they might hold off on reaching out, possibly for a couple of days or not at all. 

Nonetheless, if they think you’re upset with them or that they’ve done something bad, they may be more likely to text you again to address the issue. 

Being played is not part of males’ preference because they like to be the ones doing it. On the other hand, for women, this is completely different; women engage in these behaviors to test them and see how much they can endure in a relationship.

In the end is either THIS or THAT!

Does Ignoring His Texts Work?

Looking at the perspective of texting it usually does. Yes, ignoring him over text works as he gets the message where you want to go with it. 

Even though men pick up semiotic signs rather late, they also tend to think that this is another way of you playing with him. 

But in the end, they understand that you are not interested and eventually cease to write you. 

Note: Your “Text Ghosting” Shouldn’t be Your Way-Out Ticket. 

Text Ghosting can be effective but don’t use it too often. Being a ghost-er shouldn’t be your way out ticket to the relationship or situationship.

It’s not always the best way to meet the other person. It’s always better to let them know what you are feeling and thinking. 

In this way, you can break your avoidance styles and develop healthy ways of dealing with situations, particularly those that imply romantic ones. 

Why is not ok to ghost: 

• You never know what your ghosting can do to the other person 
• It will cause more drama in your life because the other person will require accountability from you 
• Will leave other people feeling anxious or stressed about future dating 

If you are trying to draw him away from you, you should always choose the honest way to tell them. 

Don’t be afraid, and don’t think you will come off as rude. Simply make your points and let him know where you stand. 

The truth may hurt, but it sets you free!