My thoughts exactly! If it was him asking the question I'd probably tell him "crazy eyes alert! GTFO!"

Correction... You're a fucking squid.

Kid's a fucking squid.

I always hate to see "hooking up" as part of the relationship status, because it complicates everything and makes insight difficult. It sounds like this guy is genuinely concerned about you being distraught. How he asked a question, and when you didn't respond, he made a second effort to check on you (apparently 30 minutes later). That is a good sign. I would say, depending on what is going on inside YOUR mind, that if you want to convert this from "hooking up" to "a relationship" then decrease or eliminate the sexual component. Judging from this conversation (which isn't much to go on, honestly), he will be willing to make an effort to work on the relationship. Sex is not just physical, it's a powerfully emotional activity.

Hooking up with 6 months with no commitment = he never wants a commitment, he's just want to make sure that his "sure thing" isn't going anywhere

Ok, since your comments are the ones in blue, I'm not really sure what you are asking about... you told him "we should talk" - of course he wants to know if everything is ok...

Oh come on, "We need to talk" is internationally recognized as "I want to break things off"! I don't care what a guy's doing, where he is, what his work schedule is like, any of that. If he likes a girl, he'll make time for her, if he says "we need to talk" it's time to check his flat in case you left anything behind!

I don't mean you shouldn't communicate, what I mean is that it needs to be positive and not ultimatum like. You should definatly voice your wants, especially after 6 months.

Well I don't know all about that. I'm in favor of open and honest communication, and if she wants to define her relationship or wants to move it from hooking up to a relationship, then talk about it.

Look, if you're campaigning, campaign season is rough and a lot of people have hook ups for campaign season just to release stress. That's normal, and maybe he just thinks it's that. That's what I would think, especially if you're going back and forth between DC and CT a lot.

I'm not really sure why you want to talk, you don't say. If it is to talk about the terms of your relationship, good luck. Be honest and open, and try not to take it personally if he doesn't feel the same. Remember, you're changing the terms, and he might not be okay with that, but there are a ton of other guys out there, and one of them will be okay with your updated terms.

Agreed! I know it's hard but girls shouldn't initiate the "lets be in a relationship" talk!
If its been 6 months and he hasn't even hinted, spoken about it etc then he's not going to all of a sudden decide he wants too.
As it has been 6 months I would keep the conversation very minimal and positive. If you want a relationship say something simple like - I just wanted to let you know I do want a relationship and leave his decision up to him.
Give him time and he will either decide its not for him, or decide it is.
I would also ask yourself if you have given him a reason to want more eg: is there a benefit for him being in a relationship? If he's getting everything he needs now, then he's not going to see it necessary to make a commitment.

You're the one asking for a talk. He's probably wondering what this crazy bitch wants to talk about.