He Texted Me This...
Hi ***
I took you on the word and I just bought a flight and hotel for us on the *** after our conversation today.
I had a really great weekend and I look forward to seeing you again,
Kisses ***
...So Now I'm Wondering?
I have been on three dates with this guy - two times at restaurants and yesterday he was at my place for dinner and sleepover.
Yet we have only kissed just a little and we have mostly just been holding hands. Now he got us a vacation on a 5 star hotel in a few weeks - I believe he wants a relationship, but all this - whats up with that?
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Red flag alert! Please don't go. It doesn't seem like he wants a relationship with you from these actions. He's either 1) crazy, 2) dangerous, or 3) has too much money to spare and just wants you for sex. Safety first. If he honestly wants to start something legit with you, he would do it in an old-fashioned way. Take things slow, get to know each other better first in an environment that both of you should feel comfortable with.
Yikes! Sounds creepy. Please DO NOT leave the country with this man.
um you know stalker
run.
He's probably gonna Stacy/Lacy Peterson you.
I'd be really creeped out.......don't leave the country with someone you barely know!!! You could end up dead in a ditch or something ugh BE CAREFUL
No idea why he's moving so fast, but he's obviously into you. Might want to ask him to slow down.
I'm of the mind to say "go for it" I went for it in a similar situation and we are together to this day--twenty five years.
Too fast! I'd be like no way. He's pushy; pushy is trouble.
Hi everyone and thanks for the answers!
We talked about it beforehand, where he talked about that he needed a small vacation soon, but he didn't know if it should be London, Paris or something else. The first time he mentioned it (second date) I just said, that I completely understood him and that he should just go, if he wanted to. This weekend he began talking about it again over breakfast after the sleepover, and I said "just bring me with you then!" and then we laughed and talked no more of it.
I think he is really romantic and he is also kind of shy and says he wants to take things slow (like sleeping together, as we have not done it yet), which is fine with me. It is to another country and I called him after getting the email and he just laughed and said, that the thinks it is a good way to get to know each other, if you travel together. He's got the money and maybe he is just trying to make a good impression, but as you all say, it is pretty intense. I got to know him through an online dating site. I just can't match the shyness with a "surprise" 5 star hotel trip. Either way, I have agreed to go and we are seeing each other on Wednesday again.
umm watch out. Don't leave you area/country with someone you barely know.
What does he mean by 'I took you on the word'? Did you guys talk about this vacation beforehand and you just agreed non-chalantly thinking he was kidding around?
It's a bit creepy but, he obviously digs you and is into big romantic gestures. And I think the problem might be that you're not as into him.
That, or he's crazy: RUN.
Three dates and he's booked a holiday? Scary stalker dude in the making, right there!
Seriously, after three dates you might have decided to sleep with him, you might not. If he'd asked you how you felt about spending one night with him at a nearby hotel, that'd mean he wanted to make sure your first time was special. Paying for a week in a 5 star hotel with flights? That's moving waaaaaay too fast and suggests he's already got your entire future mapped out in his head. If you like him enough to even be considering going, that's your choice, but don't be surprised if he either tries to pop the question or kidnaps you to a cult compound somewhere in Alabama.
Whoa, where is this vacation? Is it in another country? Look, I'm paranoid and I am not romantic at all, but all I can think of is of him taking you to another country and killing you and getting away with it because you and your family/friends don't really know him, so he can't be caught (like that Maryland woman who was killed/missing in Aruba last year).
Sounds intense, impulsive, and like a spendthrift. Depends how you know the guy. If you know him through friends who can vouch for him, and think he would at least be an okay fling, I would go because, hey, free vacation. Otherwise...I don't know. I would require fingerprints and background check with social security number (seriously).
That's kind of sudden!