He Texted Me This...

"Hey - could we meet up and talk? I'd like to get clear on something and it's just kinda bothering me."

...So Now I'm Wondering?

we went on one date (not even a real date) and i saw him around town. his personality is intense. i'm only into him as a friend. wtf does this mean?
  • He's into you515
  • He's not into you68
  • Verdict is still out127

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ihaveapussy's picture

one date does not allow him to have "the talk" with you! he either wants you to get serious or he got tested and is legally required to inform you about something :s

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Madeline Bassett's picture

Yes, I agree with the "bothering you??" suggestion. See if you can get him to explain what he means via text. Maybe you can settle whatever it is without having to meet up.

My guess is he wants to clarify whether you're interested in him as more than a friend. Since you're not, it doesn't seem worthwhile to meet up in person - you don't want to get into a long drawn-out conversation about why you're not interested, why he thought you were, etc. (This wouldn't be good for him either!)

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YummyProsciutto's picture

I'll take a wild stab:

He would like to meet up and talk with you.

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OscarTaco's picture

Definitely bring some sort of protection i.e. a sawed-off shotgun or chainsaw. After seeing those rattling blades, he'll know not to send any wishy-washy texts in the future.

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StarmixGirl's picture

Sounds a bit heavy considering you only had one (sort of) date. He's a potential stalker. Make it VERY clear you are not looking for a relationship and, if he doesnt get the message, be brutal.

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Liquidator47's picture

Precisely. Just woman up and do it. It'll be a guilt off of your shoulders, and then he gets to go on reddit and moan about how he's in the friend zone for massive status gains. Win-Win.

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RdyYetUnprprd's picture

Means you gotta tell him you're only into him as a friend. That's a load off your shoulders and it's in his best interest too, then he can be free to pursue something that will actually work out.

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lucia's picture

nope - not scared away. sheesh, chillax. i only like him as a friend and wanted to know what people thought his text meant.

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letsbereal's picture

You've been giving him mixed messages and he wants to clear it up. You need to tell him that you tested the waters romantically, but you don't see anything developing there.

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Junovian's picture

He scares you because he wants to clarify something ? My god to go through life in your shoes, constantly afraid.

I pity you.

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lovestruck's picture

He's really into you...maybe a little too much. He wants to meet so you can DTR (determine the relationship) and is hoping you will confirm that it was in fact a date and that you all are now together. Honestly, if it were me in this situation, I would freeze him out - pretend I'm busy and can't meet up for the next several weeks and hope he eventually gives up.

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ONEWEIRDWORD's picture

stay away. he's making up a reason to suck you into his intense psycho drama

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triv8's picture

What have you told him that could concern him?

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kiddgkidd's picture

yeah, he's gonna lock you in his basement, so if you dig that, then meet up. otherwise, maybe keep avoiding him

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donna flo's picture

He needs to tell you that for him you are just a good friend.

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Linsb07's picture

He kinda scares me. And sounds like he scares you, too. I hate it when guys read into things really heavily. They'll be future Class-5 Clingers. Cut the cord, unless you're looking for someone who'll obsess over you...

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brant.emery's picture

"'bothering me" is not a positive statement... very strange thing to say... text reply and ask pointedly "bothering you?? - que?" or sommit...

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ilybbr010707's picture

Wants to see if you are both on the same page with feelings for each other.

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bamboccio's picture

He is looking for a definition of your relationship

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matthewbeasley.net's picture

He most likely wants to see if you have the same feelings as him.

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Abby's picture

Maybe he is in the same boat as you are, and he just wants to be friends?
You should call him or meet up, i wouldn't ignore him if i were you.

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purpledooz's picture

Ring him and get it over and done with in a phone call. Its an easier way to escape - just in case.

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AestheticBrah's picture

He's sounds weird and like a loser. Don't meet him again.

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lucia's picture

this text came after i told him i couldn't go to a concert with him also... because i didn't want to send the wrong message having him think i liked him like a bf

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letsbereal's picture

His intense ass wants some sort of closure or defining of your relationship/feelings.

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