He Texted Me This...

Had a great time!

...So Now I'm Wondering?

I went on a date with a guy and I thought it went really well, he even followed it up with this text, but it's been a week and I haven't heard back. Why would someone follow up after a date, and not pursue something after that?
  • He's into you62
  • He's not into you781
  • Verdict is still out289

Comments

zilyrome's picture

Did you respond after he said "had a great time"? If you didn't, he thinks you didn't and are blowing him off.

nevermind1534's picture

Either he was being polite, or he's waiting for YOU to follow up.

haidee's picture

Because he was only being polite and not actually interested in anything more.

Madeline Bassett's picture

I agree that the crucial question is whether you replied to his "Had a great time!" If you didn't, I think the ball is still in your court and you should text him.

YummyProsciutto's picture

Why don't you contact him and find out? One contact from you does not spell desperation.

SayItLikeItIs's picture

It's his way of letting you down nicely

jboothyy's picture

It sounds like he was trying to be nice and not hurt your feelings. He's probably hoping that you'll get the hint since he hasn't tried to talk to you, because he doesn't have the guts to tell you he isn't interested. If he wanted to see you again, he would have followed up that "Had a great time!" with something like "let's hang out again soon."

ONEWEIRDWORD's picture

Did you respond? If you didn't you should.

betme11's picture

Maybe had a better offer elsewhere

lovestruck's picture

He either met someone else, or one of the other girls he was chasing turned into something more.

kiddgkidd's picture

So you went on a date, then he texted you afterward, and you ignore it. Then you wonder why he doesn't follow you around? text the guy, get another date, hold off on the drama until after you meet his parents and his mom hates you.

stilgar666's picture

And you never texted him back!?!?!

Harvey's picture

He is insecure. He is waiting to see if you are into him. Touch base with him.

purpledooz's picture

Maybe you should've replied sooner. He probably thought because you didnt reply he didnt want to chase.

Gunner43's picture

Ball is in your court, babe. Your choice what happens next. Girls can initiate dates, too.

B.Lestrange's picture

If he said that but didn't follow up by asking for another date he was probably just being nice.

Kacky's picture

If you didn't reply to that first text, then he has moved on.

Fenner1's picture

Why is it the guy that always has to be the one that send the reply? He is probably wondering why you haven't replied yet...

CALLS87's picture

A day to a girl is like eternity, a day to a guy is no big deal. The work week can get busy and fly by so 1 week isn't an issue 2 weeks and I would move on.

DIGITALid's picture

Because they are being cordial. He had a great time. You can believe that. Whether or not it was great enough for a repeat is still not evident.

If you must, you can hit him up with a few status update morsels. Perhaps letting him know if you'll be in the same place again. Don't invite him, let him ask.

briancauley's picture

eff, he texts you and you want more?? should he show up at your door with some huge, heartfelt confession too? he's putting the ball in your court, waiting to gauge your interest based on your response to "had a great time!". it's a classic move. HE EVEN USED AN EXCLAMATION POINT!!!

peaceasy's picture

it's possible, he really did have a great time... but possibly a bit shy, and thinking of ways to follow up. give it another week, or a simple hello text. if nothing...then he's not into you.

AdviceGirl's picture

If you haven't already, text him back and ask him how his week has been going. He might have just had a super hectic schedule that week. If he texts you back and seems cooled off, he's probably not interested in you. But if he seems like he wants to hang out again, go for it!

therealchrismunoz's picture

Um, wait, did you text him back after that though?
Pretty sure if he was interested and after a week YOU havent replied, then
hes not interested anymore.

jonathonpm's picture

Did you text him back after that? If not he's waiting for your reply and if you have replied he's not interested.

Retired Playa With 2 Daughters...'s picture

He's waiting for YOUR text back...

RPC's picture

Yeah, as everyone below is asking, did you respond back to his text? Bc if not maybe he thinks you didn't have as great a time as he did. Y'know what I'm saying? I def think sending him another text, even something random is totally fine and should help push him to ask you out again.

Shinsccr8's picture

Agreed. You respond? If not, you have to repsond and then it's his ball to bounce. If you didn't, he thinks you're not interested in him.

leila's picture

1 week is not all that long, and also quite frankly it depends on whether it is 1 week in NYC time (where it's super easy to be so busy that you mean to make plans and then don't get around to it yet)... I say, resist the urge to text him and just wait a little bit longer.